Due July 08 - Third trimester - we're on the coundtdown YIPPEE!!!!

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Couldn't fix the title so thought I'd start again - hope this is okay now!!!

Results are in!!!

It's a Girl

After waiting 2 hours to be scanned the Dr though it was a boy as so did i.. Look at the stones he said ad it really did look like them! But thankfully i asked him to check again and it showed a girl in a different angle. Looks like i will have 3 daughters. Feel a little down as i would love to have the boy but i know once i see this baby i will be head over heals. I have time to get used to the idea of a girl aswell and do a little bonding..
So if i went by the old wives tales i would be having a boy, thank god for scan machines..

CONGRATS MINNIE! girls are great!

i can understand how you feel but its still wonderful, big hugs xoxo

Well done MINNIE what a horrible wait though!
Now you can decide a pretty name

I cannot believe how ingnorant and selfish people are - I would walk up to someone and ask for their seat with no hesitation! I remember when I was 20(ish) I had a broken foot = stokkie on and had to satnd for an hour on the train as no-one would offered me their seat - not these days - I would make a scene

Been feeling hellish today - awoke at 3am. Feel huge and terrible, sore BH all day and feeling sick and exhausted - think I did too much housework yesterday so did hee haw today 9 weeks for me too but I just have afeeling this one is gonna be early. Went top tesco and bought some maternity pads and germicidal hand spray and started packing my bag as I am nervous now.

Am mostly terrified about going into the local hospital as I haven't heard one good thing about it and it looks pretty dirty! I would love a water birth (couldn't manage last time) but they have no pool and someone told me they try to put you off hiring a pool! I am going to have a long chat with the MW next week.

I watched that Teen Mum High too - imagine having sex at 12! One of my friends sister's had a baby at 14 and had him adopted - then when she got married years later she had to have IVF as she had been damaged by birthing so young. That girl did so well to have the homebirth and she was so quiet! OMG at having all those folk around though and double OMG at the nick of her 'Grannies'!! I screamed like a banshee when I was in labour - terrified everyone else on the labour suite apparently! I must admit I am a VERY vocal person

PIGLEY - your pics are lovely - can't see the youtube though as my PC won't let me.

GILLY - you are beautiful and so is your bump.

At some point I will take the time to check out all your bumps.

Take care allxxx

EEC - love the mother song!!
1cm per week gestation - so I am bigger than av then - 33cm today and midwife said it was under due to position of baby - just 31 weeks.
First time being measured - and was never measured in first pregnancy - so rather novel.
Have started on hospital bag, as was taken rather by surprise last time (10 days early). So will prob be late now..

WOw MINNIE Congrats - 3 girls hey! Fabulous, I know what you mean about missing out by not having a boy, as I'll have 2 boys and feel abit about not having a girl! But you get what you're given, and we;ll love them all the same!

Right. silly question for you all, and I'm sorry if it's TMI, but here goes.... I've had sooo much 'discharge' today, to the point where it feels damp 'down there' all the time.... I also coughed tonight, just a small cough and I felt alot come out..... It definatly wasn't wee..... Is this normal?

Hi Everyone!
Oh the competitive mummy thing is soooo funny. I am not a pushy parent and my dd unexpectedly took to walking at 10 months. No idea how, as both my dh and I are pretty lazy! Anyway a friend who was always quite competitive was visiting with her ds and was so shocked. A few minutes after she left my dh arrived home and said he had seen Friend leaving with ds and she had been making ds walk home by holding his arms up!!! You just have to laugh it off...

jocstar - I am not very maternal still despite having dd. I gave up reading too much - never really connected with anything...and found it all hard to relate to until my DD was born. Also your ideas about how you will respond/treat your baby do change once they are born...all very normal I think!I read gossip mags and novels, so much more fun!

Had another scan today my DS is on 95th percentile + for everything and breech!!! His weight is predicted at the moment to be 1.8 kilos! Thank goodness I am having a c-section.

I was on tube recently and asked someone if I could have their seat and he asked why... I thought it was obvious I was pregnant, but I suspect he just thought I was fat! Explained I was dizzy and pregnant and about 10 offers came! Mostly from men about DH age - suspect they have all heard their partners/wives complain.

I have had no boob leakage - and did not last time, but bf fine. Have had dampness 'down there' and asked Consultant about it. She suspect slight bladder weakness and also the joys of pregnancy. She also checked me for urinary infection which was ok. Worth checking out jodie...just to be sure!

I have not packed hospital bag...but have collected all my bits. More concerned with a boy name - DH and I can not agree!!!!

Minnie - I know exactly how you are feeling but the sadness at never having a little boy goes quickly and you start to plan for your little girl. You even become over protective of them already, at toddlers today someone asked it I knew what I was having so I said another girl and then they asked "oh did you want a boy?" Now how do you answer that 1) yes we really did we are really disappointed that we are having a girl, haven't got over the shock yet and don't know how I will bond with this baby 2) no all we wanted was a healthy baby you get that you are given and how could I ever be disappointed with a DD? You know which answer I chose? Someone on here posted an article about having 3 daughters and how special it is, that they are really close and will always be there for one another. I think for your other DDs and the DD yet to be born it's probably better to be another girl as a boy might feel left out IYSWIM a little boy wouldn't stand a chance up against our other two

Rumpel - I am with you I don't know how these quiet labouring women do it, few grunts at the end. I scream the place down it's my way!

butterfly - what colour P&T did you get? I still don't know what to get, the baby will be here and about 6 weeks and I still will be deliberating. My DP loves the bump but not in any kind of sexual way, he says he feels protective but doesn't find it erotic at all. When we erm do the deed he won't touch me there at all, in fact we joke theres not many places I can be touched as everything is too tender or hurts. I'm a walking disaster zone.

I was the most unmaternal person ever preDDs, I never wanted children, had never changed a nappy until DD came along etc I read everything I could whilst pregnant with her but you know what it did all just fall into place, like she was just meant to be here with us. I must admit I never found DD1 hard work I was really lucky she was an easy baby. Now fast forward to now and she's a stroppy little madam with a little sister to fight with.

sweets i am at my choice of p and t colour!

i really wanted sand and soon learned it was discontinued soooooooooooo

i have bought a blck pram and sand covers

covers were £100 more !

dp not pleased but i am obsessional that way and boys always have to be so 'dull' everything is muted so did not want a dull pram!

butterfly - you are talking to the woman who wanted to buy a bright pink P&T I think black is good though and you can always pimp it up with colourful cosytoes

i can't sleep!

and its the stupidest stuff on my mind . . .

like this annoying twat bloke at work who congratulated my dp on "the triplets" the other day . . .

i don't know why i am getting increasingly bothered by the "fatty", "are you having twins" "good year blimp" jokes from all the young guys in my creative office. i should be all calm and zen about it but i feel completely overly -hormonal and sensitive . . .and then i lie in bed and think "i should have said x and y to him!"

and this friend wants to organise a stag do for my dp which is fine except i can't have a proper hen now and feel gutted. and this marriage was supposed to be a secret thing for me and dp and then we weakened and now everyone is losing sight of the proper event next year, which i am looking forward to more because i won't be 36 weeks massively pregnant with patchy cheeks and a faux moustache from pigmentation!
sorry if that sounds vain but this is hardly my dream wedding (not that I had one anyway, but you know . . .)

and i am worried about my overdraft!
and it doesn't seem like i will ever do my masters thesis now!

and . . .
and . . .

phew. sorry to completely use this as a ranting place. but all this stuff seems like a big deal at 4 in the morning. when i look at it written down though - nothing is insurmountable . . .

Oh Tjuice poor you I know what that 4am thinking about everything is like.

The guys in your office are complete tossers, try to ignore them or say something like "my weight is a baby what's your excuse?" Just think though not long to go now then you will not be seeing them for a while.

No advice about the wedding men seem to go a bit mad when stag do's are mentioned. You rant away we all need to do it from time to time.

You are going to get married very soon and have a beautiful baby stressful but well worth it.

Morning all.

Got a seat on one tube journey today thanks to some nice woman who was sitting the opposite end of the carriage noticing. Probably has children of her own.
However really really tired as didn't get to bed until 11pm (the wild life I lead) and then slept badly for no reason. But no BH or leaky boobs and the SPD is very manageable. So still being very lucky.

ButterflyMcqueen - thanks for your lovely comment, I have strategically placed flowers but apart from my cleavage I wasn't showing at all My Dh wouldn't recommend chiropractor as he is a little bit cynical about anything complementary or alternative. However as I said I do know people who swear by it and I think once you are in a certain amount of pain anything is worth a shot!! Also I don't think there is anything wrong with seeing if someone else can look after your 2 year old for a little while. Having 4 children already you obv know how much work new borns are

isaidno - read an article the other day where some women claimed her baby was sleeping thru the night at 5 days, I don't care about the competitve bit I just want one of those!!

Minnie1 - congratulations on the scan. Girls are great, when I think of the amazing relationship I have with my mum I want a little girl and then when I think of the fun of watching a boy play sports I want a little boy. I'm worried my DH really wants a boy however, nothing he has said just something I keep obsessing about.

TJuice - I have just looked at your 33 weeks photos and you look amazing, honestly. Do you think they maybe making these comments because they feel uncomfortable that you are pregnant?
Why don't you organise a quiet hen night? OK I don't know your personality so maybe you want to be taken out to wear pink cowboy hats and have to oil down a stripper but there is really no reason you can't still get together with some friends and have a lovely meal or do a spa afternoon? I have to say for me having a shotgun wedding one of the positives was that I didn't have to have a hen night!
Also remember what you see in the mirror is NOT what other people see, you will look beautiful on your wedding day because you will be so happy.

I never classed myself as maternal but the further along the pregnancy I get the more maternal I have started to feel, I talk to the baby the whole time.

I hope you're feeling a bit better this morning Tjuice, thinking in th emiddle of te night can be horrible.

Your wedding sounds lovely, and feel free to rant away about it, weddings always seem to end up being stressful (until the day itself). Are you going to have a hen-type thing next year instead?

Congratulations on the girl Minnie! My DH's aunt has three little girls and they are so sweet together, it's adorable. I think that's what DH is secretly hoping for eventually!

rumple, sk - I am also a screamer during labour! I don't even notice myself doing it!

Tjuice - I totally sympathise. I also lie awake with all my worries. Very different to yours but equally as important to me at 4 in the morning: who will look after the children when I go into labour - have just moved here and we don't know anybody - all family at least 3 hours away. How will I ever get this house sorted in time - still a bulding site with boxes and mess everywhere. How will I get DC's to school when baby brand new, or indeed when I am in hospital? How will I be able to give baby and 10/12 year olds enough attention - am I a mother of a baby, or of nearly teens? How will I cope when DH has hip operation in August (we hope) and can't help me at all? blah blah blah...You sound as if you are dealing with all your 'issues' pretty well though, and know what the important things are to focus on. I too know that all will be OK, but feeling a bit panicy. I know what you mean about being pregnant in a young hip organisation. I worked at MTV when pregnant with DS - was the first pregnant woman ever there - and I felt like such a boring lump! What fun I had at the MTV awards in a tent of a dress, exhausted and unable to drink! I agree with Libra - you do look amazing and your DH will think you are beautiful!

Libra - I think if my LO slept through at 5 days I would have to wake it up as I would worry it wasn't feeding enough!

Morning all!!
Hope things seem a bit better this morning Tjuice.
Congrats on the girl Minnie - little girls are lovely xx I only got my girl after 3 boys and she is very precious xxx so are my boys though ..... children are just scrummy xxx OMG I'm going cuckoo!!

Feel soooooooo tired this morning...had a little party last night with some friends and although it was great to see everyone and have a laugh I wasn't in bed till 11.30pm (2hours later than ususal) and I was up with ds at 5am....having a VERY lazy day today YAWN xx

hi again actually feel not too bad today could it be the physio, I think I am getting BHs but with everything else have been to sore to notice them if that makes sense. you would think I would know about these things by now. Still feel a bit achy but think you always will being 32 weeks pregnant, as long as I can keep the pain half manageable.

tjuice - I was thinking about a spa day for you too (as long as I am invited of course ) maybe a nice meal afterwards?

minipink - I feel the same about DD2, she has been given a place in the toddler room at DD1's nursery. I know she is ready for nursery but she is my baby and it will be a wrench leaving her. I have a meeting at 11 to discuss her hours etc

minnie - don't you know all the best people have 3 girls I'm so looking forward to my girl gang now.

Right my house is an utter bombsite must go do something, I have an urge to spring clean my bedroom today, since we moved in here we have done every room apart from our bedroom and I keep looking at it thinking I really want new bed linen etc especially as the MWs could see it. I am thinking of doing it red and cream, don't know what DP would say he would like it dark blue or something but it's lilac just now and he says it's too girly! Or I could go green, sexy red or fresh clean green???

EEC - with mine and DH sizes and apetites we keepjoking that any child of ours is going to be fully weaned by 2 months

SK - Fresh clean green. Lovely.

SK - green is a very calming colour; I'd go green.
tjuice - ignore the men in your office - they sound like pricks! You look gorgeous in all your photos.

DH did the school run today (with a ltd level of success.) He had to go back to bed at 9:45am

thanks ladies - i felt a bit silly when i woke up again this morning. such little things to worry about but you know how it is . . .

feel much better and positive (just knackered!) and glad that i am not the only 4:00am worrier

EEC - sounds like you have lots on your mind early morning too. i hate the process of moving but love the "fresh start" feeling but i guess its more difficult being preggers with kids already. i admire your capable attitude - with that things will fall into place.

SK and libra - spa day might be nice actually. maybe we should have a virtual one!
i am not really a "hen" type person - they seem waaaaaay too cheesy. i could do a little spa thing and then have some girls over though - that would be nice . . .

minipink hope you are having a relaxing lazy day at least.

TJuice - just had a look at your photos - you look fantastic!!!Be proud of that bump honey - you are a scrummy mummy

I have had a relaxing day and I am now about to take my little girl to her first gymnastic class. I know it's silly but I'm so excited for her. I've got ds who is international swimmer and ds who plays regional level rugby and ds who plays ice hockey for Scotland but I've never had the chance to take a little girl to anything before and it is different and special xx Hope she likes it xxx

TJuice I didn't bother with the cheesy hen thing, a few of us went to The Sanctuary for a pamper day although it turned out to be a month after the wedding due to various child care issues! You can always go out for a wild(ish) night after the baby comes and leave DH on duty, think we'll all need a night out sooner or later! I hope you're not getting too stressed with everything, it all seems so much worse at 4am. Your pics are lovely, you'll be a beautiful bride.

TJuice - for my hen night we went to a farmhouse spa on Exmoor for the weekend where we stayed in a cottage onsite, had a couple of treatments included and a few meals in the local pub. It was very relaxed and we mostly just lay around in the sun chatting. You look gorgeous in all your photos btw!

Sweetkitty - fresh clean green sounds lovely! We've just redecorated ours in teal and white - sounds a bit odd but it feels so fresh and it's really relaxing.

Hi everyone

TODAY IS MY FIRST DAY OF MATERNITY LEAVE WOOHOO!!!

There, feel better now I've said that DS and I been to friends lo's bday picnic which was lovely, saw lots of mum friends I haven't had a chance to catch up with in the last few months and ds had a good run around. Weather is fantastic- so much so I am sitting in the cool of the house for a while whilst ds has a snooze on the sofa as our lilywhite translucent turn-red-at-the-blink-of-an-eye skin would not stand more outside time in the full glare of the sun! (DH calls us the tippex kids)

Minipink if this one is a girl I am really looking forward to the gymnastics/dance classes etc that seem to come with girl territory- hope your dd enjoys gym.

Tjuice the reason people have hen night is because they are cheesy! I had such a fun time on mine, it was full-on camembert (weekend in Torquay with 25 girlfriends) we all got the train down there, checked into our hotel, went to a leisure centre with big water slides and lounged around in the pool/sauna/jacuzzi all afternoon, went looking for shells on the beach, went out for dinner, few bars/clubs etc etc it was brilliant fun. But I think the point of them is that they are supposed to be a bit tongue in cheek, "cool" hen nights are just not the done thing, a bit of an oxymoron really . So maybe don't call it a hen night and it will be the laid back chilled out sort of thing that sounds like would suit what you're after.

Would be a shame though not to get together with some of the women who have seen you through your non-married life up until this point, or to mark the rite of passage that is marriage without some form of gathering of women (ok so a bit of my goddess worship tendencies coming out there)

SK I read your post about you and your dh getting jiggy and thought "right if sk can do it so can I" and yes dear friends last night dh and I actually had relations

So endeth poor dh's 3 week drought (not a drought in my opinion but he was getting so jittery I felt sorry for him!) And it was rather nice. A bit like going to the gym- a right pain to think about doing and you really can't be arsed but once you're there you enjoy yourself and wonder why you didn't make the effort sooner.

But paying for it today- my god my hips/groin/fanny bone (don't know the real term) really really ache and I'm considering putting on the big old elastic support belt I've still got from the minor spd I experienced with ds. Walking like an old lady needing a double hip replacement. Driving to the bday picnic earlier really really hurt, and turning over in bed last night was agony. So no sex for a while (and if so certainly not with me on top, doggy only . So didn't sleep much, what with cramp too (bananas don't seem to be working for me.)

Right will go and water tomatoes and courgettes as they are looking a bit thirsty, plus this post is so long I'll be amazed if any of you have got this far! Teaches me for not logging on for a few days
xxx

Plus re: hen nights I think it depends how old you are when you get married- I was 24 and still in the pubbing/clubbing phase of life but if I was getting married now I would be doing what Heffa did, sounds glorious. (and prob about as much as I could cope with )

Minkus