Due August 2021 - Welcome to the World!

[PurplePansy05]

Welcome to the chattiest birth club on MN! Newcomers always welcome 💐

14 gorgeous new babies have joined us already, welcome to the world 💖💙🥳

@Smurf123 - Welcome to the world, baby Sophia 💖
@wimbler - Welcome to the world, baby boy 💙
@Jessicapebbles - Welcome to the world, baby Ebony💖
@Inmypjsagain - Welcome to the world, baby boy💙
@PurplePansy05 - Welcome to the world, baby Leo Alexander 💙
@WinterBabyof89 - Welcome to the world, baby Rosie 💖
@Winecoffeeteamum - Welcome to the world, baby Emily 💖
@Ready2020 - Welcome to the world, baby Rowan 💖
@Magik01 - Welcome to the world, baby Isaac 💙
@Hoares3 - Welcome to the world, baby Ellis 💙
@Daffodil21 - Welcome to the world, baby Elliot James 💙
@sarah13xx - Welcome to the world, baby Freddie 💙
@Biscuitcat - Welcome to the world, baby Rowan 💙
@Whatshouldbemyusername - Welcome to the world, baby Arya-Nyah 💖

Counting down until we welcome 20+ new arrivals:

@MrsB2019x - Induction w/c 9 August, Girl 💖
@Dia12 - EDD 8 August, Girl 💖
@Aaaaa1519 - EDD 13 August, Girl 💖
@Angelesque - C-section 16 August, surprise 💛
@lucyrp - EDD 16 August, surprise 💛
@livingwithbees - EDD 16 August, surprise 💛
@BertieBotts - EDD 16 August, Boy 💙
@WolfMother - EDD 17 August, Boy 💙
@Caz1226 - EDD 17 August, Boy 💙
@Millymay13 - C-section 17 August, surprise 💛
@RandomCatGenerator - C-section 19 August, surprise 💛
@Smallbean27 - EDD 19 August, surprise 💛
@Sheisfee - EDD 19 August, Girl 💖
@Alittlexmasmagic - EDD 22 August, surprise 💛
@LottSE20 - EDD 22 August, surprise 💛 @notinthestarsigns - EDD 23 August (but likely to be brought forward induction/C-section), surprise 💛
@Fran919 - EDD 25 August, surprise💛
@Ava50x - EDD 25 August, Boy 💙
@ame88 - EDD 28 August, Girl 💖
@HopefulB - EDD 29 August, surprise 💛

It's officially THE month! Watch this space! xx

@PurplePansy05, my understanding is the sweats are very much like menopause! Caused by falling oestrogen levels. I think they’re meant to peak about week 2 postpartum, but can continue whilst EBF as that suppresses oestrogen. At least we’re heading into Autumn!

What a cutie, @BertieBotts I hope you are enjoying the cuddles!! Gosh I am feeling so jealous...

@RandomCatGenerator congratulations! And loving the name:)

@lucyrp oh gosh I can totally relate! Had painful BH's for hours last night- was convinced something was moving, but then it all just stopped and I'm so disappointed I need a good long cry!

You will become an expert at making coffee I've handed, don't worry! Just make sure to keep the cup nice and far back on the worktop. I knocked one off when DS1 was tiny resulting in a mad panic run to A&E as it splashed on his foot and my tummy. We were both fine but I felt awful!

@lucyrp I feel your frustration so much I’m booked in for a second sweep this afternoon and praying something happens- I haven’t even had any tightenings or anything, I’ve haven’t had any show of the mucus plug or anything
I’ve convinced myself he’s not going to come on his own and I’ll end up being induced next week or something which I really don’t want
Come on babies you have officially been evicted! Haha x

@Caz1226 I've got my first sweep booked in for Monday, and then my induction will be on the Saturday if nothings happened between that time. Although I really would prefer not to just because of my anxiety and being seperated from OH etc. I've lost my plug for the last 2 weeks on 4 different occasions and I've had w change in discharge and then whatever it was I had last night but nothings happened. X

@Ava50x I probably shouldn't have gone to sleep but I know they say you should try and rest while you can so thought it was the best idea ! X

@lucyrp it sounds promising! Hopefully the sweep will be the final push the little ones needs to make an appearance if not before! Must just be too comfy, although I really am praying it’s this weekend! X

@Ready2020 I've no real time frame set for breastfeeding. Just as long as it's going well. I bf to a year for ds though I was back at work from he was 5 months so I fed him before I went and he fed as soon as I got home after and at night. I stopped when he started waking 10 times a night to comfort feed back to sleep as I couldn't function with the tiredness of also working full time.
He stayed in our room to about 10 months we just put a travel cot with mattress at the end of our bed.
Dd will definitely be in our room to at least 6 months preferably longer

@lucyrp you definitely should rest while you can! With real labour nothing will stop it and you wouldn't be able to lie down for long... So just hoping things start moving soon- for both of us!

I also had a real early night to get some rest before things hopefully start but then it backfired when I got up at 4 to use the loo and couldn't fall asleep again...

@Ava50x, apparently I was up at 11, 12:30, 2:15, 3:30 and 4:30….. I actually think I may be at the point I’d sleep better with baby out!

@HopefulB I was up at the same times as you😥

@Ava50x hopefully ! 😫

@HopefulB oh no, how are you surviving that??

This is my first pregnancy where I'm not getting up multiple times in the night to use the loo- perhaps because I am so bloody knackered by the time I get to bed that the signal's don't register?!

But I do remember in previous pregnancies getting up several times in the night to pee. I feel for you. Its really rough!!

@PurplePansy05 I can’t get enough of biscuits 😂 I’m not even fussy, any type of biscuits will do!

Ladies I have a question.. Ella has decided that sleeping at night is for squares. Last night she was up from midnight til about 4am, had 2 feeds in that time and still wouldn’t settle. Had bouts of crying episodes but she was also flailing her arms and legs non stop. Could it be colic? I’ve read that it tends to be worse in the evening rather than overnight but we literally tried everything and nothing would settle her ☹️

@PurplePansy05 goats cheese for me.. going to our favourite restaurant this afternoon for it. Had brie the other day too.. it was amazing! have missed all the cheeses 🙈

@MrsB2019x I hope your friends and family are bringing you biscuits, we have 8 boxes atm 😄 And today my friend brought us Hotel Chocolat chocolates, omg 😍 delicious.

Did you try burping her/holding upright/reclining her cot (if allowed in the instructions)? It could be wind but tbh she maj just be going through the cluster feeding stage. I know you said she had 2 feeds, but it's perfectly possible she wanted more which is ridiculous, I know. But have you tried her on the other breast? xx

Well that was embarrassing. Just had our last visit from the midwife (I've had the same one all the way through) and I cried when she left 😂😳

@PurplePansy05 I'm planning on treating myself to a mini bottle of wine and pate with crackers soon 🙊

I’m sure this has already been mentioned but what are people doing about visitors? So far we’ve only had my parents, the in-laws and our siblings. We’ve let them in the house and they’ve been able to hold the baby. I was very cautious when pregnant about the whole covid situation and I’m not getting my first vaccine until next week. The weather has to be nice here so I was hoping I could just have friends round to visit in the garden and hope they don’t ask for a hold 🙈 I’ve had quite a few messages though saying ‘can’t wait for a hold’ 🤦🏼‍♀️ And it’s from people who have jobs where they’re in contact with an awful lot of people. Feel like I need to set one blanket rule rather than let some people hold him. I just wouldn’t be comfortable allowing every single friend to come round and pass him about right now. I might feel slightly better after he’s had his vaccinations. Are most people allowing friends to hold their little one or not? It’s really stressing me out that people are presuming they can 🙈

Also said to my husband the one rule was absolutely no kissing the baby (only us). It’s such a well known thing that I didn’t think we had to say to our family but his in-laws were here yesterday and kissed him 😳 They also spent the whole visit playing pass the parcel with him and I was starting to just want my baby back. They arrived 2 days post section when I was completely out of it still and in a fair bit of pain but I thought ‘they’re just excited’ so let them come, presuming it would be a quick visit. My parents had popped in to meet him and literally stayed half an hour or less. Almost 3 hours the in-laws stayed for and I was visibly yawning but they didn’t take the hint and go. I also really emphasized how much discomfort I was in and how much I wanted my own bed after being in hospital. Then a few days later we had them again for another 3 hours, just passing him up and down them. When they left he had a really unsettled night and I’m pretty sure it was due to all the rocking etc as he was passed about. How do you subtly say any chance of putting him back down? My friend was quite brutal and just said absolutely no one was holding the baby if she was sleeping so they didn’t get a hold unless she was awake when they visited. Sounds extreme but at least she had that rule in place and didn’t have to sit for hours feeling uncomfortable about it

@Ava50x, fortunately I don’t have anything much to do/focus on until baby arrives and OH is being very understanding, so it’s not been too horrific!

@sarah13xx, this May sound harsh, but any visitors will be expected to be doubled vaxxed, mask wearing if they want to hold baby/be inside house. I plan to keep that up until I am 2weeks post 2nd vaccination, then will ease up. Their choice, wear a mask and you get a cuddle, don’t and that’s fine but no cuddles.

I’m hoping that by breastfeeding post vaccination I can pass some immunity onto little one, but will see how I feel/what community levels are like when we get 2 weeks post vax.

@sarah13xx Oooh I'm having brie with my cheeseboard, mmm 😊 xx

Thank you very much for the congratulations. That’s so nice :) and for kind words about his name too. Quite a few responses have suggested it’s a bit much so I had a bit of a wobble (he has a very strong middle name too…) But he’s now registered so that’s that!

@BertieBotts I see I missed your good news - many congratulations to you!

Sorry not to reply to lots of people. Very tired and my boobs are so sore.

I just received a gift I got for OH. Its a leather keyring with a photo of Rowan and an engraved bit on the back with her name and date and time of birth. Thing is her name is spelled Rowen! It was totally my fault. That's what happens when you order at 4am! I'll just have to buy another. Stupid me.

We've had visitors round and everyone has been very respectful tbh. No one stayed longer than 1.5 hours, everyone washed their hands, no kissing baby or touching his face. Same as pre-pandemic really? DH and I are double jabbed, I had both doses when pregnant and DS also gets antibodies through bf so I'm not majorly worried. Some of our friends decided to wear masks when holding him eg if they have young kids nursery/school age, as a precaution. Some even took lateral flow tests before coming in!

Tbh I think people do what we allow them to do and if we're not comfortable with something then we need to set clear boundaries. If the baby's tired or needs a feed I'd just take him off the guests and do what's needed, I wouldn't particularly care if someone thinks they should have a longer cuddle or be passed on to someone else 🤷🏼‍♀️ it's about what the baby needs, not the guests. We didn't allow any visitors in the first week and in hindsight I think this was a great move. Re covid precautions, I found our relaxed approach made people very cautious actually and they took pretty strict precautions regardless which was reassuring xx

@sarah13xx we've had my mum, two friends and my in laws are currently on their way up to stay. I've allowed all to hold, but in the case of my mum and in laws they're staying so not having a hold isn't going to give any extra protection. I let both friends have a hold, but cases are low again here and I had the vaccination while pregnant so he should hopefully have some immunity from me, although I know I can't rely on this. If cases go up here I'll be reconsidering though. You've got to do what you're happy with. Maybe send them a message before they arrive letting them know what the boundaries are. Then you don't have to find a way of saying it when they're there x

@sarah13xx to be honest I’m fairly relaxed about people holding the baby but I have a toddler in nursery and everyone I know that I’ve seen is double jabbed as well. I know what you mean about wanting your baby back when you have visitors. I had an instance where I only had him for feeds a couple of days after he was born and the rest of the time he was being passed around. I think it’s mother instinct to want them back.

It’s totally your prerogative when it comes to this sort of thing. I think the best course of action is to be straight with people. If they have a problem with it be firm but stand your ground. People should only need to be told once and then respect that. We have a rule that when he is sleeping he is left alone to sleep in his basket. He doesn’t need to be held when asleep so we don’t. With a toddler and dogs around though it’s not practical to hold him all the time anyway!

@PurplePansy05 I've been craving chocolate - it's getting me through all my emotional wobbles and long feeding sessions! But some pate with crunchy bread will be amazing too

@sarah13xx we've been quite relaxed so far with visitors, and I think will carry on that way. I was jabbed during pregnancy so he should have antibodies that way and from my milk, and I think everyone we're socialising with is double jabbed. I'm not looking forward to having lots of people round tomorrow in case he gets passed around too much - will brief DH on trying to prevent that!

Is anyone putting their new born in a sleep bag? Or still using blanket or just dressing warmly at night? I was thinking of getting a bag.

Re visitors, we've only had a few dvd been fairly relaxed. Rowan has been asleep through the visits so not had a chance to be passed around as when she wakes I whisk her away for a feed.