April 2020 IVF baby

[Hopingforbabyd]

Hello 😊 I thought I'd make a thread for anyone who is needing support through their pregnancy after IVF or support in general. I've met so many lovely ladies on these boards after struggling for a number of years with infertility and felt it sensitive to make a new board as some are still on their journey and I know how painful baby talk can be when you're still waiting. Any advice would be great, I'm currently 17 weeks and a first time momma 🥰

@AliceAbsolum xx

Yaaaay!! I'm not due in April but I'm jumping on this bandwagon.

I'm due 23rd april after having icsi 😊

Anyone heard the BFN podcast episode on pregnancy after infertility?

www.bigfatnegative.com/#/bonus-the-pregnancy-after-infertility-episode/

Its worth a listen, if other peoples anxiety doesn't make you anxious. It made me anxious!
....Logically IVF pregnancies are no more likely to end in miscarriage, but for me its been 30k, 4 years and so much suffering to get to this point, if i lose it its not like I can fall again easily.

How do you guys manage the uncertainty?

@AliceAbsolum yay!! Hello my lovely so glad to have you over here. Let's do this like the last one and hopefully it will run and run 🥰
I think everything is so very uncertain and it's so hard to fully let go especially after so long trying and so much spent. It's very easy to say, but the beginning for me was so nerve wracking and it's only now that I'm feeling baby move that I'm really starting to enjoy the unknown and slowly let go of the past...infertility and the journey will always be close to my heart and I'll never forget the pain but at the same time I feel I have to believe in the possible because it really is happening to us!
You're due your first scan soon am I right? Xx

@Laurapb88 Hello 😊 so nice for you to join! We definitely are bump buddies! I too had ICSI and am due on 22nd April a week after my 30th, couldn't ask for a better present. Is this your first baba? Xx

Yeah first one 😊 even tho I can feel and see him I still dont believe I'm pregnant its very surreal, awe what an amazing present I will be 31 in 3 weeks will certainly be different not drinking haha xx

Hi all,
Some of you know my stats but 9 weeks 3 days, currently. Have had a big bleed early on and some spotting more lately but baby still hanging in in there! I am finding it pretty hard to stay relaxed and the days seem to go sooooo slow! Harmony scan and test n3xt wed, hoping I’m calm after that but will need to wait for the blood results!

@Hopingforbabyd I can’t believe you are 17 weeks and great you are feeling it move already! How is your bump? When did it start?

I’m eating so badly and feel bit guilty, only recently became nauseous and it makes me want carbs and sugar. How have you found the eating everyone?

@Laurapb88 congrats n your pregnancy. Hope you are feeling well,

@AliceAbsolum such exciting times, hope you are managing ok with the anxiety.

I had a really big bleed at 8 weeks when I say big it came through my jeans but we had a gender scan Friday and baby boy was bouncing round and even stuck his tongue out anxiety that comes with it is awful hope you are feeling better xx

@Laurapb88 so lovely to hear you have a little boy on the way! Big congrats. The anxiety certainly doesn't leave, I was just having a chat with my mum about it all tonight and it hits home that it's still there. I have severe endometriosis and had to have my tubes removed before ivf, that was a year ago this Sunday gone and I was shopping for baby things that day it was such a bittersweet moment. Never in my life did I think this could happen and it all feels so....surreal xx

@mouse1234567 hello!!! So happy to see you on here! I know how tough you have had it and any type of bleeding is so worrying. It's so hard to stay calm but you are doing right by yourself by eating what your body is craving and having some you time!
My first 10 weeks I could not stop eating, I went to a friends little boys birthday party and went up 6 times to the buffet 😂 I was like a bottomless pit! If your body wants sweets and carbs you go for it gal!
Have you got the pregnancy+ app? It's really good and tells you week by week things that come mentally and physically I've found it so helpful and reassuring, your partner can also download it and it tells them each week how you might be feeling.
It's so mad being 17 weeks, I promise after your 12 weeks it does get a little easier especially because you can see the changes in your body. I feel the calmest I have in a long time even though it's still so surreal and the anxiety is there, I'm learning to love my new body and realise it is doing what it was made to do even when I thought it couldn't (I still feel like it's gonna give up on me but I need to trust it knows what it's doing - baby's in control now)
I started to get a bump fairly early however a lot of it was bloating because last week I felt my bump had gone down 😕 now I seem to of trimmed back up on my butt and top of my tummy and have a much neater bump. Appetite has been up and down and at the minute it's disappeared a little but maybe that's to do with baby growing and taking up some room 🤔 all the feels you're feeling are so normal and I hope I can help in any way, I loved our last board x

Awe I'm sorry about that, I couldn't imagine going through that we had our positive 3 years to the day we had been trying xx

@Laurapb88 3 years is a long time. Sorry you had to go through that. Can't believe he was sticking his tongue out! beyond cute.

@mouse1234567 SOO glad to hear you're hanging in there, I think we all thought it was all over for a moment there. Strange isn't it how there can be significant bleeding...but there is no problem :/ Hope the scan and tests go great.

I'm eating little and often, I feel hungry and a bit sick, then I eat and feel sicker! Can't win. BUT I'm not booking flights back to Cyprus and dealing with huge amounts of anger and grief, so I can't complain. For me, even if the worst does happen, this shows that with good quality embryos and an intense drug regime I can get past 5 weeks, so thats good.

@Hopingforbabyd I never knew you had your tubes removed. Goodness. That must have been so hard - no chance of a surprise BFP. Can't believe you're 17 weeks! So exciting! So pleased things are feeling a bit more relaxed. The Pregnancy+ app is the only 1 I've downloaded, I love the fact it has sweets! Although they don't always match up.. a smartie is not the same size as a lady bird. Will you find out the sex at your 20 week scan, or do you want it to be a surprise?

Yup I've got my first scan next Friday. Been reading that you might see a, Nothing or b, a baby and a heartbeat, or c, something in between, so I'm a bit anx about it. I want 1 baby, in the right place....I'm just not that lucky :/ :(

@AliceAbsolum keeping my fingers crossed for you lovely. How far will you be? I was 6+1 and measured 5+6 and the heartbeat and sack were there so hopefully that reassured you that you may see something.
Yea the endometriosis caused me to also have hydrosalpinx (blocked) tubes and they leak a toxic substance to embryos into the uterus so my gynae recommended removing them. For me personally, dealing mentally with infertility and having stuff removed was the hardest part of this journey. I found ivf very straightforward but I think that's because it was like someone was giving us a chance and I was clinging onto it.
17weeks has just flown but it's flown even more now we're getting to Christmas. We can find out at 20 weeks but we've actually booked a spontaneous private one for tomorrow at 430 🥺😍 part of me is not wanting to go as I want a surprise but the other half is longing to know who may be entering our lives very soon! X

@Hopingforbabyd Ahhh! Not long! Oo how exciting. Let us know!
Glad time is flying, can you send some time fly dust over my way please .
The mental side of all of this is so hard. I mean right now I don't have to do anything. The miracle of creation and my body are doing it all. All I should be doing is getting out of my own way.

Stupid question. I'll be 6+1 too! How come the baby measured 5+6? Was that because ultrasounds are not always accurate?

@AliceAbsolum haha *sending flying time dust your way 😄
Oh thank you lovely, I did find the first 10 weeks full of lots of emotions. But just remember it is your hormones and you CAN and ARE doing this! The body is amazing and whilst it's failed us so many times, it's now time for the body to make it up to us and prove it is good after all.
I'm not too sure, I think it's because it was such early days. 12weeks I was measuring 2 days ahead so baby nice and strong. They're more concerned from 20+ weeks as you get a green booklet which is your bible 😄 and there will be a growth line development in there for your midwife to keep a track on baby.
I can't wait to let you know what they are tomorrow.
What's your bets? I'm thinking a little boy xx

How did you get on xx

A boy. I'm going to agree with your mumma instinct!

Hi ladies sorry for the delay we have been out celebrating our little BOY 😍💙 momma instincts were right! Xx

Hello! Can I join? Lovely to recognise some names here. Congratulations all. I’m currently 20 weeks today from first round ICSI FET. Due 4th April. Hope you’re all ok

Ahhh so good to hear this! I had the worry for a moment there.

Huge Congratulations on your son 😁😁😁😁😁❤️❤️

@Whatelsecouldibecalled welcome welcome!

@Whatelsecouldibecalled hello again lovely!! Yes most certainly, come and join us! How are you getting on? Xx

@AliceAbsolum thank you so much! That out a huge smile on my face...a son...absolute madness 🙈😍💙 xx

@Hopingforbabyd yep doing ok I think! We’ve got our 20 week scan tomorrow so bit nervous about that but hopefully all will be fine.

How is everyone else getting on?? X