September 2019 babies - thread #4

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Starting a new thread before the old one gets filled up!

Anyway i feel like saying i am glad others are still feeling rough but that sounds mean.....

No not mean. Solidarity and knowing it’s the same for others so nothings wrong. If it helps yesterday I felt bloody awful lol

Thanks Karigan

My little ds is not a happy bunny today numerous tantrums and now just wants cuddles

I have a big piece of uni work due tomorrow but he has such a sad face

IVEgot that’s what I’m trying to explain to DH. Both of our DCs have been born early (38 and 36 weeks). From what I hear, elective sections are usually schedule for the 39th week. What if I go into labour before then? And what if it’s fast? There’s no way for this baby to make a safe exit via the normal route without killing us both if the placenta is still in the way!
I’m stressing about a possibility right now I know, but I have honestly never been so scared of anything in my life - and I’ve done some pretty scary stuff in my time!
I don’t have previous form for making very big babies either (both were around the 6 and a half pound mark), which concerns me. Surely the bigger the baby, the more my uterus will have to stretch and the more likely the placenta is to move right?
I’d happily push out a 12lb monster baby if it means my belly grows enough to pull the placenta completely out of the way!

Oh decaf I'd forgotten you have uni work too!!! You don't do things by halves!!
eggy the odds are still definitely in your favour for that placenta moving!!! For a placenta previa they wouldn't wait for 39 weeks though- with your history you might find yourself an inpatient from 35-36 weeks, and the section at 36-37. But that most likely won't be needed!!!!!!!!! Can you change hospital to help with the trust issue?? It sounds so so tough! Maybe you can start a campaign for woman centred home c sections, tee hee...

I wonder if you might be admitted to hospital in that case eggy

I have seen some ladies online saying how they have been admitted for weeks due to unstable lie with the risk being the cord being compressed if labour starts naturally

Oh god
The word “inpatient” makes my imaginary balls itch
I will just cross everything I’ve got that it moves, and I can just crack on at home like I did last time.

😂🤣😅

One part of me would like to be admitted for a rest. But my house would probably fall down!

Maybe if you have to be admitted eggy you just need to make it clear you take no shit.
I am sure somewhere on my medical notes it says "warning potential massive pain in the arse"

IVEgot part of my reasoning for not wanting to have to stay in for any length of time is DS. He has complex nutritional needs, along with life threatening food allergies. The only other person who’s ever been responsible for feeding him is DH - and in all likelihood he would be with me for the csection.
The thought of leaving DS with anyone else makes me feel sick

Oh i see perhaps if at next scan the placenta is still being an arse you may need to look at training someone up? A relative / friend or maybe someone professional?

IVEgot I’d most likely be able to trust my mum not to kill him for a couple of days I’ll just be a nervous wreck the whole time! It’s one of those things where if I’ve fed him, it’s my responsibility if he gets poorly because of it. It’s easy to be mad at myself but I’d hate to put my mum in that position.

eggy could he eat food for a couple of days that you had already prepared? That had been stored in the fridge or freezer? You could label it all up in advance, 3 meals a day and snacks etc

IVEgot that’s the only way it would really work I guess!

That sounds like hard work eggy. It's definitely harder when you've got older ones to think about. I stayed in for 3 nights after my first section, 2 nights with my second (I was up showered and dressed by 8am ready to harass them to discharge me) and this time ideally I'd want home after one night if I'm lucky enough to be first in theatre again. I was lucky with my recovery in that I was up walking round bed as soon as spinal had worn off, I was asking for a syringe to take my own catheter out with the second one!

Feeling like a useless lump today mind , just cleaned / dusted / hoovered and I've had to sit myself down with a snack because just doing that has left me knackered and dizzy. Hoovering seems to annoy the pelvis too. I shouldn't be this useless already!

I've got eldest dc home with me this week with chicken pox, luckily he's just spotty and not really ill with them though so is no bother at all. Loving the fact he's got more time in bed and with electronics than usual!

Dc4 has refused lunch and is now back on the sofa. Part of me wants to join him for a nap but i need to do some work

Easter I discharged myself after my first was born.
Midwives were most put out that I was taking my own cannulas etc out. They’d told me I’d be leaving my mid morning, and by 4pm I’d had enough. So off I went.
The stay was horrific. Literally dumped me in a bed, didn’t tell me where a toilet or anything was, i didn’t get dinner the first night because I had arrived to late to order it , none of the paracetamol I asked for during drug rounds ever materialised either. And the way the HCAs were talking to me and the other patients was disgusting.

I was really dreading the stay post birth as the stay pre birth (due to PPROM) was horrid. But actually I was treated so lovely, there's some brilliant women who volunteer at the hospital and they were so caring. The MWs taught me a lot about BFing and some even sat up with me during the nights. I had to stay for a week due to sepsis and all the MWs and staff really got to know me and DS. I was a little disappointed that they set up DS' UV light wrong though when he was jaundice - he kept declining on the scale and they didn't know why until a passing MW realised it was set up wrong!

Oh i was going to ask if you can discharge yourself. I've read stories about how midwives are forceful about feeding formula if you struggle with breastfeeding and I really want to try breastfeeding. I dont want to just give up if on the first or 2nd day it doesn't work so well. If they are being pushy can I just leave with myself and the baby?

Ahh eggy that all just sounds awful. I had a pretty shitty experience last time too and my DH was even saying maybe I should think about a ELCS this time. As soon as we came out the scan knowing it was twins that was me sold. No way am I trying natural labour with the possibility that it could go wrong twice and end up with a EMCS anyway. I'd much rather just know what's coming, have it all planned and chilled. I wouldn't be able to look after my DS plus newborn twins if the same thing happened as last time!
I told my mum yesterday and she tried to talk me out of it, saying I should just keep my options open. No thanks mum!

See i am a nightmare. I would have kicked up a right stink.

They tried to keep me in over night with dc2 and i was having absolutely none of it. Apparently there was no doctor who could check baby over and he needed checking before we left. Funny how a doctor appeared when i said i was going regardless

Whisky Yes you can discharge yourself and your baby - they can’t keep you there. It’s not a prison.
I’ve heard of people being threatened with social services involvement if they discharged their baby against medical advice, but I’m assuming those babies needed monitoring for whatever reason?

There was nothing physically wrong with me or DD, so I took myself home. One more day in there and while there wasn’t anything physically wrong, there would have been plenty of emotional damage done

Ok thanks mybreadiseggy i just wanted to be aware of what I am entitled to do if i feel uncomfortable. I dont expect to be in that situation but you never know!

IVEgot I think because I’ve experienced the polar opposite of how birth can be, I’m extremely reluctant to do t any other way.
When the midwife arrived at my house when I was in labour with DC2, I made it clear from the outset “do not touch me, do not touch my baby unless there is an emergency. Do not ask to do any vaginal examinations because the answer is no” - and she respected that entirely. She left me and DH to it, and was really only there to observe and step in if there was a problem.

Hopefully you have another positive experience eggy!

Has everyone got dates for 20w scan? Mine is 18/4 so 5 week tomorrow!