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Any ladies over here in the pregnancy boards from the ttc yammer board want to join Me?

I'm 4 weeks and just got my bfp yesterday and have my fx for a sticky bean x

You're not huge LimpLettice you looked glowing and beautiful in the last picture I saw of you. Fucking 18 year olds and their self obsessed shallowness. In years to come she'll remember that comment at three in the morning and cringe at herself.

She's the fairly new girlfriend of my husband's best friend rather than an actual friend, so I've been biting my tongue. It will not be carrying on any longer. My husband told her to stfu last time and next time I'm going to do it myself.

Good for your DH, Si1ver! People really should mind their own business, for fucks sake. You're not drinking and that's the choice you've made.

Not quite the same, but a friend of DH is pregnant with another child and I saw her for the first time since I got preggers recently. She asked how I was, I said I was having trouble sleeping and she was saying "well, just wait until it's born" blah blah. It really annoyed me - just because you've had kids before and you're younger than me and now you're having another one, don't you dare act all sanctimonious. She's not the only one. It's like those who have kids can't wait to tell you how bad it's going to be... But especially if they know how long we've been trying and about the miscarriage, don't they understand this pregnancy is the biggest joy in our lives right now and we know it's going to have hard moments but we've waited so long and suffered such heartache that we just need people to be happy for us and shut the fuck up after that?!?!

Sorry, guess it upset me more than I thought too! Funny how it's not til you start writing that everything comes out!

I'm uncomfortable at work too, Limp. I've been on my feet so much over the last 3 days, I'm exhausted. I'm wishing I had an office job so could sit down and relax a little in a chair instead of bending over tables and being on my feet so maybe we could swap?

Ha @SoozC, people like to say things like that to me too. I enjoy blankly responding with "well the baby will be sleeping through the night from two weeks, so it'll be ok really" then when they try and disabuse me of that belief I like to ramp it up with things like "and from six weeks I'll be able to leave it with the dog, who'll look after it fine while I go to the pub. But I reckon by the time it's six months I'll have trained it to make a decent martini and I'll be able to stay home more"

People are quick to tell you all the bad things aren't they? Like we'd not considered these on the two plus years we've been trying to have babies.

Yes good on MrS1lver!

Ach I was a twat at 18 as well. I take her more easily than my lovely mum who really should know better.

Sooz I hear that all the time and I do already have one! Dickheads. Yes, thanks, I remember the sleep deprivation but if it was that awful no one would ever have more so do shut up! I'm so happy to be having this boy, but people do wind me up. Everyone has a comment / opinion / big gob.

You can so have my job. Under boob / top of bump just seems compressed and hideous by the end of the day and no amount of stretching is as good as not fucking being there now 🙄 and I'm wandering aimlessly by mid afternoon to try and kid myself my torso isn't exploding.

Ladies I don’t know where to put this, only just happened and alone at home. DD in bed, AF a couple of days late. Didn’t hold my pee and have never had a false line on an IC. It came up super quickly. I’m in shock and already worried after mc last year. It’s there isn’t it.

It's very there June, it took me about 5 days to get such a good line on one of those. You are up the duff and this is the perfect place to put it!

Thanks @limplettice AF was due Friday. Can’t believe it, we only had sex once this month because DH was working away. Still can’t believe and probably won’t until we have a scan if I make it that far this time.

Haven't seen you about in ages, this is a good way to pop back up! I know, I really do, there's a couple of us in here who have had to pinch ourselves daily. But, today you are preggers. One day at a time. And a tentative tay, you!

I’ve been trying to stay away from conception/pregnancy boards because it’s been a shit year for TTC so far! Definitely just taking this one day at a time! And my absence from the thread in conception is why I didn’t want to just pop up and post a bfp even though there are a few people on there that were on before.

Off to read back through the thread and catch up on everyone’s news 😊

That's a lovely pic @MynameisJune, so lovely to see. I've got my 20 week scan on Friday and still pinching myself. My (always larger in the evening) bump struck me as most absurd this evening, after such a long time trying to imagine it, I can't quite believe it's here

Thanks wonky I was like you in my first pregnancy with DD. Good luck with your scan!

Just taking it one day at a time, had a blazing line on a FR this morning. Just going to take Limps advice and keeping repeating Today I am pregnant and try to leave worrying about tomorrow for another day.

@MynameisJune I am so, so, so (very quietly) excited for you. How lovely.

Today you are pregnant.

Ooh June congratulations xx

Thanks @si1ver and @doas not feeling hugely hopeful this morning. RHR has been higher than normal since before af was due and this morning has dropped back to normal levels so just kind of waiting for the bleeding to start now really as heart rate has always dropped before FP arrives.

Don't panic June I remember reading around this a couple of times as mine was a bit odd and it is quite normal for your body to get used to pumping the extra blood so it drops again. I have taken my fitbit off coz its gibberish while pregnant.

Thank you Limp, am trying not to panic if I can make if through this week until Sunday then I’ll have passed the point I miscarried last year. I hate the way MC robs you of all excitement. If I can find my normal watch I’m tempted to swap back for a while.

@MynameisJune it's shit - I find I can tell people who've had miscarriages now because of the way they talk about their pregnancies.

Agreed S1lver. I have said it before, it makes for such a bittersweet early pregnancy and is so hard to explain to those who haven't been there. Keeping things quietly crossed everything breezes through the next few weeks for you June and defo recommend getting shot of the fitbit for now.

I took my fitbit off once preggers as I didn't want the stress! Started wearing it again at work, but only because it's my watch! I'm tracking steps but nothing else. Definitely leave it off, June.

MCs are the worst and definitely cause one more worry in a pregnancy. Still, June, repeat Limp's mantra of "today I am pregnant" and remember that just because you mc'd before, doesn't mean it'll happen again.

Not saying you'll ever let go, I still check the toilet paper every time I go to the loo!

Got fingers crossed for you for everything to be good!

Started wearing it again at the beginning of term, I meant, so 23 weeks in!

I remember when my rhr dropped on my Fitbit a few months ago and I was convinced I was mc’ing, but I wasn’t so no idea why it did that. Thinking of you though June and keeping my fingers crossed x

Thank you @milknosugar1 and everyone else. Based on last period I’m around 4+3 but based on my short cycles I’m 4+5. Either way super early days yet and a long way to go before I’m going to feel less panicky.

How are you? How long do you have left?

20 week scan today and my anxiety has peaked again. It's like when I'm not seeing anyone (midwife, sonographer etc) I can put it out of my mind, but the second I have an official appointment in convinced they're going to tell me something is wrong.