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October 2017 #5!

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GimbleInTheWabe · 19/07/2017 16:28

Hope no one minds me setting up a new thread- we were getting full up on the other one!

Here is the link to the deets sheet, feel free to add or edit your details as you please:
docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1pa8LZMKMLvREYH4kFiNqn1dD7aTb053cT_KHvghwvSM/edit?usp=sharing

Bring on the third trimester aches, midwife appointments and birth plan chat!

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mummabubs · 02/09/2017 07:04

@GimbleInTheWabe Happy weekend to you too! I've travelled 150 miles solo to go to my friend's hen do today, it's her wedding in 2 weeks in the same place so I'm asking Bubbabean to hold off arriving until we're back from that! 🙈

@TheLegendOfBeans my sense of smell has always been funky since the first trimester... I think I can smell pants although in all honesty the smell I can't cope with is leftover ketchup on plates- literally makes me retch?!

@Bobbiepin personally I wouldn't pay for a scan at this stage- I had a growth scan at 28 weeks and baby was so big then that we couldn't really see much on the screen apart from their kidneys and the sonographer couldn't get us a picture as bean was too big on the screen! (But they measure at 50th centile so totally average size). We've got a presentation scan in 1.5 weeks to check for breech when I'll be 36+4 and husband isn't coming along due to work but he's already said there probably won't be anything too recognisable on the screen anyway and I agree!

boxesoffrogs · 02/09/2017 08:50

Aww bobbie that is rubbish, but hopefully you will feel better prepared for Monday... I have not been in once, which is unusual, and got booted out of my room to make space for my replacement (huh), new classroom is rubbish, and will need to spend at least one day sorting it out and clearing all my stuff from my old room. Apparently the ceiling has collapsed in the classroom under me 😱 due to a leak, so is it too much to hope that perhaps the floor falls in (obviously when it is empty!), and that I don't have to go back?? 😂

mummabubs have a great time! Are you anywhere exciting? Also had a bit of a giggle at idea of the 'presentation' scan, no idea why but I have an image of the baby clutching a scroll and wearing a mortar board, in the manner of a graduation ceremony... yes I think lack of sleep has addled my brain somewhat.

Up about three times in the night, hip pain as usual, then needed to pee, so got up and literally fell out of bed and limped to the loo. Not a pretty sight. And the crash woke the dog up so had to go and sit with her for a bit. Dp obviously completely oblivious to all this, snoozing away. My other friend who is due the day before me was having similar night time dramas, so we had a little what's app chat at about 4.30am which was quite comforting in a way.

greentrees, its good that you are being monitored and checked for everything... I had a early second trimester panic, convinced myself that I had pre-eclampsia, killer headaches, seeing stars and blurred vision, breathlessness etc (think I posted about them), and was told not to be so silly as it was impossible to get it before 20 weeks. Typical drama queen. Midwife did tell me to keep an eye out for it, and confirmed that the symptoms would be quite serious, so fingers crossed that you will be absolutely fine! Is there anyway you can get away with not doing so much on your feet at work?obviously if you are an Olympic athlete or something, that may not be possible, but worth speaking to manager or someone to see what can be done?

bumbles if you end up having a small baby girl, I have loads of those newborn vests, etc and so on that I am sure I won't use due to the ridiculous mass panic buying!

And on that note, despite apparently cancelling two of the three accidentally ordered changing mats, all three turned up yesterday... called company and they just said keep them! So if anyone is in the market for a dark pink chevron patterned changing mat then do let me know. Otherwise, I may just stick them up on the wall to cover up whatever botched job we do on the wall papering today. Stupid work have called DP in from 12, so that sort of scuppers our plans. Will have to wait until later for the decorating hell fun to commence.

Hope everyone else has a lovely Saturday!

Bobbiepin · 02/09/2017 09:55

Totally reasonable thought process @boxes! Well done for staying out of work too, that's quite impressive. You're lucky to have a replacement already too. I'll be teaching (admittedly reduced timetable) and I was told that SLT assume I was working until half term and wont look at hiring until then. Pretty pissed off considering I go on the 6th!

If you're local-ish I'd definitely buy one of those changing mats from you. Got one ordered for the changer upstairs but I was thinking about having a mat and some changing stuff downstairs so I don't have to keep going upstairs to change her.

Is anyone else getting really impatient? I've got 8 weeks left and I just don't know how to get through it. Just want to meet her already!

TheLegendOfBeans · 02/09/2017 10:06

Is anyone else getting really impatient? I've got 8 weeks left and I just don't know how to get through it. Just want to meet her already!

This SO much @bobbiepin. I'm getting a CS this time and I've only got 6 weeks maximum to go as I'm 33w.

I'm all of the following;

  • impatient
  • fretful
  • grumpy
  • heartburny
  • permatired
  • sad about being a rubbish mum to DD right now
  • did I mention tired
  • anxious
  • impatient

As I'm back in the UK now I've got a booking in appt with the midwife Tuesday and then it's a race to get to the consultant on time for him/her to get me a booking in my local hospital else this baby is born out of county.

Not a terrible thing in itself but a PITA for DH re childcare and commute when I'll be in the actual hospital.

/massive post

ShiveryTimbers · 02/09/2017 10:33

Hi! I'm 36 and a bit weeks and due somewhere between the end of September (my dates) or early October (official dates from scan).

Is there a Facebook group by any chance? I'd rather share stuff privately rather than in public if possible, but no worries if not.

I am still in touch with my Mumsnet birth group on Facebook from last time (summer 2013 babies) and have really loved it, but haven't really had enough time to get involved yet so far.

Hoping for a home birth. DD1 was born in hospital with a little extra help from ventouse after transferring in right at the end with meconium, but apart from that I was really happy I got to labour at home in a birth pool for most of the time.

ShiveryTimbers · 02/09/2017 10:34

I'm glad it's not just me with the heartburn! I'm also exhausted and starting to find walking a bit waddly/painful/slow...

mrsbumblebees · 02/09/2017 11:10

Hi ShiveryTimbers - there is indeed a Facebook group, I like to use both to fulfil my need for baby related chat! I'm not 100% sure how you add people but I can try and send you a link if you PM me your email address!

mrsbumblebees · 02/09/2017 11:14

Oh and bobbiepin yes to being impatient! I'm not feeling at all prepared, but I'm definitely ready to meet baby, and getting to the end of pregnancy will be very welcome indeed!!!

doomkittycleo · 02/09/2017 23:42

I want to share some news with you guys cus DP and I have agreed to only tell immediate family so far and I need to tell someone 😀.

We got engaged today!!!

It was a very surreal experience tbh, cus I don't think it was planned, just kinda happened.

We were at a friend of DP's wedding and the bride was sort of teasing him for having not proposed despite being together 6 years and being 34 weeks pregnant. The bride made a bit of a scene of handing me the bouquet because to hint to DP that he should (was only a small intimate wedding and was after the meal and speeches etc). Everyone was wooing and stuff when she did it.

She then took him off to "have words" and he came back grinning like an idiot before discretely saying "do you wanna then?" and I just said yeah quietly so no one else could hear (not wanting to steal her limelight, it being her big day).

DP then quietly told the bride what had happened and she announced it to all of the guests.

As it was a bit unplanned, I have no ring yet, and we have agreed to not go Facebook public yet, it feels a bit weird.

I was actually a bit overwhelmed and had to sit outside for a bit as I went bright red and hot and sweaty. I've wanted to get married for so long, but when it happened I felt so odd, I guess because he's put it off for so long and because he told me he won't do it if other people pressure him, I never expected it to happen this way.

We agreed I could tell immediately family, but haven't spoken any more about when we will tell other people.

It's weird tho, as soon as you I'd said yes I felt like I had to become all grown up (as if somehow having a baby didn't have the same effect).

mrsbumblebees · 03/09/2017 07:54

Huge congratulations doomkittycleo!!! What fab news! Will you choose a ring together? How very exciting Smile

Bobbiepin · 03/09/2017 08:43

Aww @doomkittycleo that's so exciting! Congratulations!

boxesoffrogs · 03/09/2017 08:51

bobbie I think you said you were in S London? You are more than welcome to take one off my hands!

Alas wallpapering did not happen yesterday, DP got called into work. Perhaps today will be the day...I seem to be fixated on this bloody one job. Never mind that we have not even started packing up our flat/furniture etc.
2 weeks before we have to be out of here and into the new place, back to work tomorrow, arghhhhh.

Awww doomkitty, congratulations! That's great news, very exciting!!!!! Grin

doomkittycleo · 03/09/2017 08:53

I would rather he pick the ring tbh. I know nothing about rings or jewellery in general tbh and the thought of planning a wedding is a bit overwhelming now.

He had good taste and everything he's bought me before has been beautiful.

Wonder how long it'll take for him to get one?

boxesoffrogs · 03/09/2017 09:21

doom just concentrate on getting the baby here and out safely, then once mat leave starts, you will obviously have plenty of time to do wedding planning... ha bloody ha! But that's my plan anyway! We were going to try and squeeze it in before baby was born (got engaged in April), but I got a bit overwhelmed, decided I would rather wait and actually plan something a least a little bit 'proper'. But congrats again!

Ring wise, have a look online and see what sort of style you like. DP asked me a few times what sort of thing I wanted and we even went to try some on (when passing relevant shops - which meant he had my ring size as well) and my ring was ordered online. Great company - you basically start off with the design or style you like, and customise it. You get different choices of the metal, width of band, size of stones and even the colour/type of stones you want. Absolutely love mine... I will see if I can find you a link for you to forward to your fiancé (oooh eeer Grin) if you like?

doomkittycleo · 03/09/2017 09:36

@boxes, I don't even want to look at rings myself. The thought of having to even choose a style is terrifying. How the heck should I know what 'style" I like.

Fortunately size wise, I have a pandora ring that I got for Christmas off my grandad so he can borrow that to check the size.

I'm sure we'll be waiting a while before starting wedding planning to get used to having a baby, but even the thought of looking at rings online makes me feel weird.

Just as when we were having trouble getting pregnant and I banned myself from looking at baby stuff until it happened, as he had avoided the subject of marriage so much, I feel like I'm not allowed to look at this kind of thing in case I wake up and it isn't real.

Am I weird for feeling like that?

Bobbiepin · 03/09/2017 09:48

Aw love its all very new, give yourself some time to let it settle in. Have a look on pinterest for some rings, you'll be able to rule out ones you hate and that'll make it a bit easier. I really like the idea of getting DP to pick it for you, so romantic. My DH did that, I had no idea!

@boxes I'll pm you

boxesoffrogs · 03/09/2017 09:58

Nope! Not at all. I felt the same, almost like a fraud for looking at stuff... (especially in mothercare and baby shops... felt do some mad reason that I would be ejected by security for not being pregnant enough or adult enough, am 33, to look at baby stuff) but guess what? You are now officially allowed to start looking!!!

boxesoffrogs · 03/09/2017 10:05

Ps what bobbie said!!!

mrsbumblebees · 03/09/2017 10:38

doomkittycleo - not weird at all! No rush for you to do anything until you feel ready, but do allow yourself to enjoy it, especially as you haven't been telling people yet, I think its lovely that you can have some time for it to sink in with just the two of you (and a few close others) knowing Smile

I think everyone feels differently about rings! DH picked mine before he proposed (total surprise) and I was so glad about that, as I had no idea what I wanted and knew I would love whatever he picked, just because he chose it (super romantic!). But I have friends who specifically wanted to choose their ring together with their partner and I think that can be special too. Ahhh I just love an engagement!

For some reason I found it super weird telling my parents that we'd got engaged, even though they love him and they already knew as he'd asked them and shown them the ring before he did it!! Just felt like an oddly grown up thing to do! And as for telling them when I got pregnant - weirdest thing I've ever done!!

Boxes it took me months to feel brave enough to go into mothercare! Definitely felt like a fraud!!

thepotatoesofdefiance · 03/09/2017 15:55

DH picked up the birth pool today and reality has suddenly hit me! I'm 36 weeks tomorrow and feeling lots of niggles so thinking I might go early again. Is anyone else hoping to be home with a pool for the birth? I'm trying to think what I need to get / have handy and struggling to come up with a good list. You wouldn't think I have actually done this before only 2 years ago but was totally unprepared as ds2 was early (I went in to labour at work) and have moved and thrown out a lot of things since!

GimbleInTheWabe · 03/09/2017 17:50

Wooo! Congrats @doomkittycleo!! How exciting! And lovely that it was a surprise too. I have no useful advice to supply as I think pigs would fly before my DP got down on bended knee haha but I agree with giving yourself time to let it all sink in. My best friend got engaged recently and almost sent herself potty with all the things she felt like she had to do straight away, she chilled out when she realised that there's no rush!

@thepotatoesofdefiance I'm also 36w tomorrow - snap! I'm actually a bit jealous of your home birth, I'm also hoping for a waterbirth but in the birthing centre at the hospital, so as close as I can get to it feeling homely. I think if I have another LO I'll feel more confident to do it at home. When do you have to put up the pool? Is it inflatable?!

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AgentCooper · 03/09/2017 18:08

Hi everyone, mind if I join you? I'm due 17 October, expecting my first, who we know is a wee boy Smile

I've got to the point now where I am pretty much shitting myself (not literally - yet). I can't believe he is coming so soon and am worried about being a rubbish mum, about my mental health sliding, about how I'm going to cope without the structure and distraction of work. But at the same time I can't wait to meet him and hold him.

All of this not helped by tiredness and reading far too many of the countless articles about how motherhood is bloody awful. Aaargh.

Sending love and late pregnancy solidarity to all Flowers

Bobbiepin · 03/09/2017 18:16

@potatoes that's so exciting. You're braver than me having a home birth. There are some good threads on here about hospital bags, even if you're planning on staying at home.

@agentcooper hi! Don't be too hard on yourself, its so tiring towards the end. I'm about 9 days behind you and I'm so tired. Have you got a good support system around you for when little one is born? Everyone keeps telling me to ask for help and things, but it is still utterly terrifying. I think we all feel the same. Look after yourself love.

thepotatoesofdefiance · 03/09/2017 18:50

I quite like the idea of a midwife centre birth Gimble, it's mainly childcare issues that push me towards home as I have a 5 year old and 2 year old and no nearby family (although a few people will come to visit for dates around due date). That and I don't like the thought of having to get in a car and drive somewhere while in labour or shortly after birth! My other 2 were born at home so we're fairly practised at it now. It's an inflatable pool, we have an electric pump so it goes up pretty quick but filling it takes longer (can take over an hour but hopefully not quite that). DS2 was born within 3 hours of me getting home from work so I think I'll be putting it up pretty quick once I'm sure things are starting.

Hi AgentCooper and welcome! I try to avoid reading negative stories about birth and parenting as I find it does just create anxiety - stick to the positive stuff for now, yes it is hard but all parents find their own way of being / coping and I'm sure you will too!

AgentCooper · 03/09/2017 19:24

Thank you bobbie, I am lucky in that my parents are really close by and DH has 2 weeks paternity leave. Reassuring to know that it's not just me freaking out but I have so much sympathy for everyone else in the same boat.

And thank you potatoes too. Your home birth with the pool sounds wonderful! I want a water birth but it can't be guaranteed as it's first come first served for the birthing pools at my hospital but apparently they aren't in high demand. A colleague advised me to rock up with a paddling pool with Minions on it from Home Bargains and just set myself up Wink

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