Due August 2007 - Part 3

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Here's to a succuessful new thread!

Link to the old thread just incase!

We haven't heard from Washersaurus for ages. Hope she is lurking.

Ah - Labours, yup, short(ish) and fairly sweet (apart from the blue lights to hosp thing.!)

I think the more chilled you are the shorter the labour - but I can never figure out the whole baby thing - why do some pop out so easily, and others make it so flaming hard (the babies this is)? It certainly doesn't seem to rely on mothers size or babies size as I know tall, wide hipped mums who spend hours in labour, and others who didn't...

Any clues?

I'd quite like a short labour too please! Most of my friends have had long traumatic ones (one had 40 hours...) so it's nice to hear that's not normal.

I've resisted buying any clothes yet but DP bought a Baby Totor back from his travels a few weeks ago, very sweet.

I'm hoping for the same labour as before. Had a silent labour - Started bleeding when water's broke went to hospital was already 8cm dilated had about 10 contraction, including the 2 or 3 it took to push her out.

I was told by my midwife that bigger babies are easier to deliver because once they are down the birthing canel or u-bend as she called they don't go back as smaller babies can.

is that true?

Does that mean I should stop worrying that my DH was ten and a half pounds and that this one is already looking big??

My MIL said he 'popped out'- she never has a bad word to say about him! Mind you, her first child was breech and came out naturally as well- ouch

DD was 9lb 4oz only had Gas and air, no tears.

I was given a petherdine injection but that just put me to sleep and had worn off by the time i gave birth.

Those words are so reassuring lizziemun - I had visions of having to stand up the whole time to get gravity on side. My DP was nine and a half pounds when born.

Names dilemma....my man has taken Alexander off our list because it is "too boring". I won Oscar as a replacement but am worried that our list is starting to look like a top five 2007 list.

I notice that Finlay is creeping up the charts. And that was a compromise over Finn.

Am I just being silly?

Haven't even thought about labour yet. I think i'll prentend that doesn't happen and carry on shopping for while

Have read that intense, quick births can be more painful - do you think that's possibly true ?

I think it's natural to want to find a name that's a bit unusual kiteflying, but if you really want a popular name then just go for it. You could take it as a sign that it's a nice name, if so many people choose it! Love Oscar btw (and Finn).

My ds was 9lb 4 oz too -SNAP!! I didn't get to the gas and air - one look at it sent me into screaming eebie jeebies - m/w said if I'd have pethidine AFTER birth I might have avoided hosp

I have to say quick intense was good in some ways - didn't get too much chance to think about what was happening - but also a bit scary.

I think my m/w said something about bigger babies being easier to deliver...hahahahaha!!

Kiteflying - you go for what u like - I jsut suggested Evelyn to my sister, who said "uh, its a bit old fashioned isn't it?" - but me and dh have already decided - in fact he's even told his sister that the bean is called Evie!!

Thanks katybird. I went to school with a lot of girls who suffered from the late sixties craze for Debbie and Tracey so am a little wary of inflicting the same on our little one.

So saying, my best friend's first little boy is called Jack. She then named her second Pym (Dutch).

Think the best thing is perhaps try not to look at the charts and what others are thinking. If you really like something, both agree on it and it suits your surname then go with it. Having said that, I can understand wanting something that wouldn't leave your child as one of three with the same name in a classroom !
(still love Finn/finlay !!)

and growing bagpuss

Hey Bagpuss that's what my name for a girl was going to be. All decided !!

clearly great minds think alike!!

Ahh TT the surname is another big one. I was brave and questioned DP's assumption that all names should match his last name last night and although not quite a heated debate it caused some hurt feelings on his part (we are planning on getting married eventually by the way). Like most men, when it comes down to it, pregnancy makes him feel excluded from the real bonding with bubs, all mine apparently (as well as the pain and months of nausea I pointed out!) no matter how much you (I) try, and the name thing becomes more important by default.

Good for you growingbagpuss. It must be nice to be able to talk to the baby by name.

You're very right about the exclusion DH/P's feel I think. When DH felt Peanut move last week for the first time it seemed to really help. It's hard for them almost being useless throughout everything that goes on pretty much. I think a scan will really, really help your DP. The name question for parents who aren't married can definitely be a bit of an issue sometimes. Often in the same way when women suggest they'll keep their own name after they get married. It's taken as a complete affront that you'd even consider it normally.

TT, I think we are there on my keeping my name - I have used it for nearly forty years now so it doesn't even feel like my father's name as much as it is mine.

But that makes the qu of LO's name harder because I don't like the idea of having a different name to my LO.

I think it is just something I will have to get my head around. We would be giving the baby a five syllable surname if we double-barrelled. My friend added her family name as both her sons' second names, but she is lucky that it is a name that works as a Christian name as well. Mine really doesn't.

Ooh, I really want to go for Evie if ours is a girl too!

I know what you mean kiteflying, I was one of four Katy/Katherines at school (we were all spelled differently so it was ok!). And a lot of my male friends are called Dave. But it's not too much of a problem, everyone has nicknames.

I guess it's one of the few things DPs can really get involved in - maybe he'll feel better when you go to antenatal classes (if you're going to antenatal classes together)?

My DP definitely feels more of a connection now that he got kicked in the face by baby. He was lying with his cheek gently touching the belly when he felt it. He was over the moon.

We have decided that baby will have DPs surname. We will get married eventually, (as was the case too before baby news)so just seems less complicated to have DPs surname now than mess about changing it later.

i'm with you mrsshuvel - have been buying baby magazines for a few months now, just now and again, but i've always skipped over the labour part thinking -i'll get to that nearer the time.

guess nearer the time is getting closer though.

lovely and sunny outside so am heading home now to enjoy the garden - see you all tomorrow