May 2017 #4

[WishIWasSleeping]

Oh, obviously I do know how!

We are not finding out the sex. I want it to be a surprise!

We've booked NCT classes. They are pricey, but fingers crossed for making some local baby friends.

Women only Rasperry? I'm curious :)

Savage it's a single 3 hour session for ladies only. I think it's designed to allow you to try and talk about how you may feel both physically, mentally and emotionally after the birth without feeling conscious in front of your partner which some women would I guess.

Had 16 week check. Heard heartbeat. Got all the info for glucose blood test to be done end of Feb plus booked in for anti D as Rhesus negative. Told to see gp team around 25 weeks. Get whooping cough after 20 weeks. Information overload !!!

Good for you raspberry.

Bet it was nice to hear the heartbeat adventure. Forgot about the extra jabs for anti d. Being pregnant is like being a pin cushion.

Adventure do they do the antiD regardless of whether baby's father is negative or positive? Can baby be positive even if both parents are negative? (Mildly curious - OH was positive and his mother negative, so he had to have some treatment after birth, don't think they routinely tested back then). I'm positive so doesn't affect me.

Agree with the pincushion EsmesBees! I donated milk to the milk bank last time and they ALSO needed a set of bloods. I asked if they'd take the ones during pregnancy and they said no :(

Surprise for us too!
I signed up for the hospital classes and gor a call a few weeks ago saying the weekend and evening ones were full and that they had booked me into a daytime class in late March.
I found the woman really pushy,i explained that we can't do daytime ones in late March due to DH's job (he is an accountant so is always very busy around then because its the end of the tax year!) And she said she would book me in anyways incase I change my mind as she doesn't want me to miss out

I have booked the evening NCT ones anyways, I just need to pay for them.
It is the essentials course.

Been having some real flutters today! Almost as if someone's rolling over in there! Such a wonderful yet odd feeling!

MissMooMoo that's annoying. Worth going anyway without him? How long are they? Our NHS ones were pretty short.

I also want to ask about OH visiting hours - I've been reading the thread on here about it and realised I have no idea what our policy is. I was hoping for a home birth last time and ended up in hospital, baby was born early morning and then OH was with me on the ward for a little (4am? 5am?) before he went home to sleep (no sleep for almost 24 hours by then), but strictly that could be against some hospital's rules (by what I'm reading on that thread anyway!). And perhaps about a private room if I do end up going in again.

My twenty week scan is in the 12th Dec- can't wait! I'm not finding out, I didn't with my two DDs and do enjoy the surprise. DH is convinced it's another girl just to outnumber him a bit more though! Will tell DDs after the scan which will be fun.

I did NHS antenatal classes and hospital tour first time (no NCT classes anywhere near me) and they were pretty useful, but not bothering this time. I found the hospital tour quite reassuring, but didn't end up making it to the MLU due to EMCS.

savage all hospitals seem to he different. Ours is 9-9 for partners everyone else is restricted to afternoon/evening visiting hours. Last time I had a section about 8.30pm and they let DH stay till about 11pm once I got up to postnatal hen booted him out. I'm hoping as I'm ELCS this time they'll give me a morning slot so he can stay longer (and help!).
Probably best to ring them and check. Our hospital lets you have a private room if there's one free and you can pay.

Savage I'm not sure to be honest - if you're both positive then I don't thing baby can be negative ? If we knew DH was neg then I think we'd be ok but he doesn't know his blood group....yet !
I have booked on to evening NCT essentials too. Think I'll sign up to the free NHS ones too - can't have too many bump buddies I reckon !

savage they are 2 days of intensive classes,6 hours each and I had signed up for the ones where partners come along too so I think I will just cancel my place on them and go for the NCT ones instead.
The hospital does a tour every sunday so we will go to that closer to the time.
No idea about our policy on partners staying, I know we can pay £70 for a private room which I probably will do.

Savage if both parents are Rh positive then baby will be Rh +ve, if one parent is Rh +ve and the other Rh -ve then baby will be +ve only a problem if it's mum that's Rh -ve because her body would create antibiodies against the baby which is what the anti-D injections are designed to prevent. If both parents are Rh -ve then baby will be Rh -be too. I'm Rh +ve an my mum is Rh -ve, they did understand all that time ago but I think it was less simple than a couple of Anti-D injections

Just been for my whooping cough vaccine... just one more needle!

Courtesy of Amazon, my weekend reading... I'll let you know how it goes

I have got my 17 weeks midwife appt today and listened to the baby's heartbeat. We have heard some kicks too, which is reassuring. The midwife made me nervous by saying I need to go to A&E if my stabbing pains come back

nervous that sounds bizarre! Dining room without babies! WTF? We had meals at our bed. I had a c-section strength epidural (didn't have a c-section though but it was looking like a possibility) so couldn't walk for quite some time, delivery was in theatre so no chance of staying there (even if I'd wanted to :D). I don't think I'd have stayed in delivery on MLU even had I delivered there as they're too busy.

There were only 4 beds in our post natal ward, which was nice, and they didn't' seem to care if your curtains were drawn either (mine were as baby was getting loads of skin to skin). One poor woman on the ward didn't even have a baby yet, she was being kept in for observation while still pregnant!

Were your babies tagged last time? Mine had an electronic tag around his ankle, I only twigged when it wasn't sitting right and panic stations at the nurses station as they are on stolen baby alert (!).

1004Rise I don't know why they don't just ask the father to come in for a blood test then? Perhaps blood tests cost more than anti-Ds (or to catch those where father unknown!)

At my hospital partners are allowed in labour ward and postnatal wars between 9am and 10pm. I'm glad dads cannot stay overnight, I'd be discharging myself if that was the case.

Savage I think only about 15/20 % of the population are Rh -ve so the chances of both parents being Rh -ve are fairly small... so like you say a couple of anti-D injections are probably cheaper than testing all the Dads

Has anyone considered a home birth (personally sounds terrible to me, I'm miffed enough to find out my local hospital can't do epidurals) just being nosey really...