July '15 - starting our 2nd trimester

[StoneBaby]

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I slipped down the stairs when DS was two weeks old, I was carrying him and guess who was at the fooking door? The Health Visitor!!

Good job I clung on to him for dear life!

He was unscathed, my backside was sore for weeks!

Posted on fb group but I know alot of ladies aren't on there so...

Just finished with mw and on the bus home. Two negatives in that my BP is low 100/50 which may explain my constant dizziness, and she's recommended I see a dr about going on a low dose of antidepressants for Pre-ND to help cope with the anxiety and lack of motivation/lethargy (i have a history of depression and was already HR for PND) so she said best to get something done now rather than wait till it gets worse. Two positives are that my bloods were all normal and she let me hear baby's heartbeat and wriggling around :-)

I thought it wasn't recommended to carry the moses basket while the baby was in it?

I've been quite lucky that I haven't ever slipped while holding DD, but she did nearly fall off my lap once (not really sure how it happened!) but I managed to hold on to her legs so she ended up swinging upside down by her ankles . She did however fall off the sofa, even though she was wedged in with a pillow, I was sat next to her and had literally put her down for a second after feeding and she didn't know how to roll at that point. I really have no idea how she managed that!

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StoneBaby I think I had been crying and was panicking to get to the door! It was not a good look!

Naturegirl82 Tell me about it. My Mum severely bollocked her and so did the hospital (yep she took DN to hospital!)

My OH said I am not holding the baby, I am far too clumsy.

I don't think he often realises that DS (nearly 12) and DD (7) are relatively unscathed haha.

To be fair, I am far more clumsy to myself than other people.

My mum dropped me when I was about six months old - she was walking down the stairs at the time so I went rolling down and hit the safety glass bit of the door at the bottom. Broke my femur but otherwise fine. Mum, however, has never forgiven herself. SS had to check all was ok and my aunt apparently was vile to mum about it so it was a pretty harrowing time for her

I rolled from my changing table when I was 6 months old. Still got a dent (sp) on my head from where I landed but no other issues

naturegirl I think it's because the American Association of Pediatrics recommends against any sort of sleep positioners. And, looking at the pictures of it, baby appears to be in a chin to chest position so it may restrict airways.... I heard also that it is very similar to a product called 'nap nanny' that was withdrawn after a number of babies died in them.

Like I said, I haven't used one - hadn't even heard of them until this pregnancy. Personally I co sleep (have done with all of mine without issue), and there are many recommendations for and against that. It's a confusing thing trying to sort through all the do's and dont's and guidelines and coming up with a solution that works for baby, mum and family. You have to just take on board the info and make the best choice for your situation

Speaking of dropping babies, when my DS was barely hours old, my dh (who had no prior baby experience) was holding him whilst I rested in the hospital bed and our family had popped in for a visit. He had him up over his shoulder but failed to properly support him.... DS did that startle reflex thing and almost fell backwards to the floor - dh barely caught him. I gave him daggers and growled 'GIVE ME BACK MY BABY' poor dh barely dared hold him for weeks after that lol!

Threeplus1 Ha!! Ahh bless him. Lesson learned I bet!

My babies may have plopped out of bed a couple of times when about 7 or 8 months old!

Jen we have bought a bugaboo cameleon and were told that the baby can sleep in the carry cot over night as it had a liner that makes it ok. Not sure the technical details though but yeah it's ok to do. We will Prob get a Moses basket as well though.

Ah your poor Dh threeplus

Dh was holding his godson at the weekend who is 3 months old and I think he had forgotten how much support they need as he nearly let him flop backwards!

Threeplus the nap nanny came up in the search I did but the cocoonababy is very different and made from very different materials which I think negates the airway issue. Apparently in the nap nanny the baby couldn't move their head (or that was the impression I got from what was written) whereas in the cocoonababy they can. It is interesting to find something banned in the US though that we can buy over here as usually the safety standards are higher in the EU or so I thought. I'm pretty confident in the cocoonababy, having researched where and how it was developed. I probably wouldn't use one if I co-slept but I was worried about co-sleeping with DD when she was tiny so I never slept well when we did. Been fine doing it with her since she has been a bit older and more robust on the odd nights she has needed it though.

Co-sleeping is a funny one, as actually over here it is considered beneficial if you are breastfeeding, as long as you follow the safety guidance. Although most MW and HV will strongly recommend you don't do it!

Yeah I was told by my midwives each time (had all 3 previous dc in UK) that they had a duty of care to warn me against the dangers of co sleeping.... Neither me nor dh smoke or take medication and I don't put the baby under our blanket, he/she gets a light one of their own. It most definitely helps breastfeeding and stopped me spending the night up and down checking on them! I actually got pretty decent sleep as baby learns pretty quickly how to latch themselves so I never needed to fully wake

After I had DS the midwife encouraged me to co-sleep (not sure whether this was because I had been very unwell or because of my c-section?)
She showed me how to sleep safely and what to do / not to do.

I guess it is all down to person choice, in my Maternity notes it has the link for a website which shows you how to do it safely.

I left hospital saying i wasnt going to co-sleep but no choice really as couldnt put baby down- even asleep. Case of lowering DD down and sometimes still having arm under her neck.
No dropping, she did bang head on tv stand. So i worry thats why has a flat side of head (though very unlikely)
She has 'jumped' out of swing.
Eaten lots of things - wild mushroom, stones, soap.

I think its because she will be good for ages and then suddenly try to eat it, same for crayons and playdough. Its much better now shes past that stage.

Am I the only one still needing to wee All. The. Time? It's not unusual for me to go 3 times in the space of 10 mins

I think that is the key thing with co-sleeping is to do it safely. I think the stats on babies suffocating from co-sleeping are misleading as they don't differentiate between those that intentionally co-sleep and take all the safety precautions and those that unintentionally co-sleep. Unintentional co-sleeping is dangerous I think.

Three I didn't manage to master the art of feeding lying down until DD was 4 months old I think. Just couldn't get her latched on right. I found night feeds the worst for latching problems though as we were both tired and not paying attention to what we were doing! Then I had to stop as DD got so many teeth and had a habit of grazing her teeth along as she unlatched! That was painful!

naty I'm pretty sure DD has eaten cat food at the in-laws and she has most definitely had mud and dog treats in her mouth! I just think of it as boosting her immune system!

I'm just slowing down now three but I was the same until last week. I found somewhere a tip about leaning forward when you're weeing and it'll help to empty your bladder more, so less loo trips.

three I go every 20mn during daytime but manage to slow down at night.

For all you do you know camelcamelcamel? It's a website which enable you to track prices on Amazon. You set the price you'd like to pay and it sends you an enail if/when it reaches it. Also has charts showing you the pricing history. My account is full of baby items at the moment

Three I thought I had an infection as I go so often but the midwife says not! Day and night it's pretty much constant. I went 7 times between 10pm and 7am last night .

I would have liked to co-sleep but DD just wouldn't sleep in the bed with us. She still won't. Now she just climbs on me and sticks her fingers in my mouth/eyes and climbs down to play with whatever is in the room!

Yeah spend most of my days in the toilet these days!

Jen - from my buggy shopping on Monday, I saw that each carrycot was labelled as 'suitable for overnight sleeping' or not suitable, so should be easy enough to check, and very sensible to use for overnight if poss! That is one reason Im looking at the Silver Cross Pioneer as then baby can sleep in the carrycot when I go away anywhere.

I dont have any other children to have dropped, but I did nearly drop a toddler I was assessing in A&E once. She was on my lap so I could look in her ears and she did that banana shape thing where she nearly flung herself out of my arms. Managed to catch her, but goodness knows what her parents thought of me. Awful.

Current dilemma is whether to take the offer of my sisters Maxicosi Pebble carseat. I really want to take my own nice new seat to the hospital to take baby home, but we would likely get the pebble anyway so it seems an unnecessary expense to do that. (I know it hasnt been in any accidents). I need to worry less about the appearance of having second hand things - someone talk some sense into me! I will splash out on at least one new outfit for them to go home in though!

wildfire I really wouldn't worry about second hand. I think some of the stuff we have is 4th hand! Things get used for such a little time they are almost brand new anyway. And if you can save on the car seat think of what else you can buy with that money instead (especially if you'll end up buying the same seat anyway). Just check it's still within date and as long as no accidents it will be fine. Just wash the cover and it will be as good as new