December- The Final Countdown!!!!

[Calmriver]

HI Guys, I am still confused, so please join me on this one.

Hello people who are online now! I am working from home for the first time today and am a bit lost - I have already cleaned the kitchen and put the washing on, but not much actual work to do so what do I do next? I am resisting the TV - that would be a slippery slope to blithering idiotness for me within days!

But if I carry on cleaning as my head is telling me to do, my body will hate me! Grrr I have to unwind but I don't know how to, I have been working full time for too many years

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I am also supposed to be 'low risk', but have had 5 appointments since July. Perhaps it varies by health authority?
My MW sees me for long enough to take bp, check wee sample and listen to Beastie's heartbeat, then usually laughs at my big pants. So, all in all, about 5 minutes.
You could always make an appointment if there's something you want to talk about though. Someone telling you everything's ok & normal counts for a lot, especially if you've been having aches & pains & gripes & stuff. I went to see her because I was in a huge amount of ligament pain and was panicking that it couldn't possibly be normal not to be able to get out of bed, but she just shrugged and suggested I buy (aforementioned) big pants for support!

devon
I am just like this! You need to take up knitting/embroidery or something that keeps you busy but inactive. You are right- you should resist being too active or you'll make yourself feel unwell....

DG, when you say working from home do you mean the paid work - or the wife mother work we're all just expected to do .

How about some list writing - that's always ood. Just write down stuff that needs doing before bump arrives. Then give it to DH/DP when he gets home teling him you have evaluted the cyurrent state of the house etc and here's what you needs hom to do or help with!

I can't give DH any more to do - I already feel guilty that he is totally decorating our house and sorting out our garden on his own, whilst working full time.

I run a business with a friend, who is also pregnant, so we have given up our office and are working from home for the next month or so, until we stop to have the babes. My heart isn't in it at all really but I know it's good to keep things ticking over - we're really only doing stuff for our good clients but I'd feel guilty turning work away so for now we just keep going.

I am going to have some toast and then vacuum around a bit, nothing too strenuous though, I have my orders!

Might write a list of things to do on each day around the house eg today = kitchen, tomorrow = bathroom etc. Plus must go out for a walk for some fresh air and exercise, and to see real people before I go doolally!

You are growing another person!! Besides that what DH's are for

Well at leat you can show him your lists so he doesnt gve you the 'what do you do all day' line.

I have some ironing if you wanted to do that for me

Ooh, DG, I think you should get a cleaner and put your feet up!

Yeah DG, my MIL is still available . Might even be nice or better still silent if you're not related to her

I agree with the lists thing- made my DH stressed, but now he feels good that there are only 3 things to do left on it- admittedly one is painting an entire room.... I know what you mean though about putting too much pressure on DH- mine works v hard too and I feel mean asking him to do so many things on the w/e, but the reality is they need doing and he got me into this fine mess!

Yes Jude, must remember that one (fine mess) when I ask DH why he didn't put all the things in the loft at the weekend like he was meant to!

In fact, he told me he's e-mailing me a list of all the things he wants me to do!!! Oh well, my bp needs a good boost

Oh help! DD and I have been getting on so well lately. The about half an hour agao I sat down trying to do some work and she began asking me questions every 2 seconds. Then she called me and said she had spilt her hot choc, only for me to go and find the whole (small) cup down her front. She knows better when drinkning. I completely lost it. Tapped her hard on the shoulder, stripped her off and called her a silly little girl, said no more hot chocolate etc etc. Stomped off upstairs for clean clothes, came back down stairs and dressed her while she sobbed 'sorry mummy' again and again . I am offically a witch!!

Had a big cuddle and mummy said she was sorry and we're speaking again, in fact she seems to have forgotten the whole thing, but I cannot believe my behaviour I am so ashamed.

judemum - I am low risk and was last seen 6 weeks ago. Next appointment is tomorrow but taking out the 2 scans i have been seen 3 times by my midwife.

Hi. I'm low-risk too, have only had one scan and 4 midwife appointments (including scan) - All with different midwives!

Gloria/Bat- that sounds like me then. Its pretty crap actually, as whilst I feel fine etc, I can't help every now and then feeling like someone should be checking on me! I just feel like its all a little fly by the seat of your pants-ish. Are you both ok with it then?
Also, when I went to the hosp the other week they told me to see someone before 10/11, but my midwife is now on hols and no one is covering her AT ALL, which menas I have to wait until 10/11 anyway. I find it outrageous and short of kicking up a massive fuss and going back to hospital (which would be completely over the top) I am just stuck with it. Bloody governmental cutbacks!

Bloody, blooming, bloody Spanish Doctors! just back from a n interesting visit to the hospital. I have benn being seen regularly as I have high blood pressure. First it was monthly, then fornightly and today I was told it needed to be weekly. Today they monitored baby took a urine sample and blood pressure. So when they told me it had to be weekly i asked if it could be done at my local clinic, as it takes 40 minutes to get to the hospital, I don't drive and dh has to take the day off work. I was told no!

Anyway on my way out I bumped into an Irish midwife and asked her why. It turns out that i have protien in my urine which has been rising!!!!! Umm nobody told me and now because i am starting to swell and my bp is rising, there is a strong possibility that when i have my next appointment, next week that I will be admitted and induced!!!!!!!!!!!! The doctor makes the decision and it is deemed unimportant whether i know. Can you imagine the shock, if I had turned up next week completely unaware of the fact. I am really going to have to get my arse into gear, just incase. [shocked]

OMG that is outrageous. How dare they not tell you?!
I suppose at least you do know now and can mentally prepare... hope you're feeling ok about it though.

Ugh, Lucy. You must be shocked as well as angry, I know I would be - imagine not having been told! It does sound so like what my friend experienced in Madrid, with doctors...very patriarchal, very crap communication. I'm sorry you found out that way, and glad you found out at all - what happens next? Are you going to prepare just in case?

DG, I have overdone things at the weekend (having had one very good night's sleep, got cocky since then two crap ones again, have learnt my lesson?!) and trust me, it doesn't pay! Its hard to adjust from full on work to full on feet-up mode...I think pacing yourself with one or two chores per day is allowed, as long as you do them reeeeaaalllly slowly, with cups of tea every five minutes (if you can stand the peeing) and music on. Love the list idea, though

Castles, thanks so much for all the info - will make a note. Is it your field, or are you just inredibly well informed?!

Aaah, should probably go and take some of the anti-angry stuff now: have just seen my ex-BIL for first time in two years - needed doing (if only for my neice's sake) but, well, grrrr. Long story, not relevent in slightest, just had to say GRRRRR.

Thats better

JM, whether i'm happy with it or not depends on my mood / how sore my hips are / how much sleep i've had etc etc
It was comforting to hear them say "low-risk" at the beginning, but would be nice to hear heartbeat more often!

Poor babypowder and cat. That is a lot to cope with all at once. I did find in the end that giving the insulin injections wasn't hard at all and just needed fitting into our routine. Once I knew what I was doing, it was just a matter of catch cat, whip it in, tick it off on chart, twice a day; and measuring out cat food instead of just chucking it down, so that she could lose some weight. Luckily she responded really well and came off insulin after about a year and is healthy now. How old is your kittykins? I didn't have a baby to look after, though, so obviously you're going to have a lot more on.

Baby Bewilderbeast! How exciting. Lots of congratulations.

Am feeling bad that I don't have the energy to do anything about sorting the new house out and just keep nagging DP. Please tell me this is normal at this stage.

Gloria- totally with you on that. sigh...roll on 10/11!

Loulou, you're totally utterly normal.

judemum. I guess as this is my 2nd i'm kind of relieved not to be traipsing off to the midwife every 2 weeks.

I did go to hospital last week anyway though as suspected waters had gone. luckily they hadnt but dont be afraid to call the hospital delivery suite if you have any concerns.

spanish health service sounds as scary as ours

Lucy, sympathy and a hug for you - it's amazing that a doctor might think that is acceptable to keep you in the dark like that.

Thanks to everyone for their ideas today but in the end I have had a really busy day - clients haven't got the idea that I have started working from home with the intention of winding down, so I have been mega busy. Oh well, at least it's money coming in for a bit longer and it isn't too taxing, just sitting at a monitor, but still! It was a good job I had done my chores for the day by lunchtime! Am quite tired now though and it's getting dark now, at 4.30!!!