zanashar I hope all is ok.
Glad the group went ok Kitkat, and I had those awful stitches last night on my walk. Definitely slow down.
And you'll find hidden reserves when it comes to it lilone, though it might not seem it right now.
Missingcaffeine personally I'd recommend doing group visits in the early days and then restricting all visits until you and your DP have gotten your heads round it all. We had DH's family visit when DD was 2 days old and my family when she was 3, DH's dad didn't come until she was about 2 weeks as he wanted to give us space (bless him). The good thing about them coming when DD was so young was that she was still quite sleepy and spent most of the visits asleep getting passed around - just what the visitors want, plus they always seem to want to see the baby as young as possible. It was the continual visits after this that I found really stressful, so once people have seen the baby once I'd say that's enough for now until you're ready for them to come again.
I've wondered the same thing Katharine, though it's one thing I've paused before googling - even if my thoughts are hindering the onset I don't see how confirmation of that knowledge will help me at all. And yes those calls are annoying, there just doesn't seem to be a diplomatic way to tell them to shut up.
Could you find their number and phone them Cindy? I know my area's HVs have a contact number through the surgery. I don't know if it's the same for every area but the initial follow up calls after birth were conducted by the MWs - I think either 2 or 3 visits - and then the HVs took over. And maybe give your DH a prob about mentioning to his mum? I get what you mean, even for things I've not been involved with whatsoever I still get the blame from MIL for.
Waves to Ella, still pregnant over here, no labour as of yet (curses).