Dec 2014 Thread #5 - Battered and bruised we limp through the second trimester

[SassehMonsta]

Here we go again, the thrills & spills of leaky boobs, and feeling baby move for the first time - Lets go!

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I was looking forward to me and DH hosting our first xmas, definitely not going to happen.

Parents will have to take charge again. And I reckon I'll be able to demand some xmas decs this year (as soon as I passed 16 they never bothered with decorations) since they'll want to impress their first grandchild :)

We usually go out for Christmas dinner. I think we might stay at home this time - given our EDD is 26/12! Having seen another thread earlier this evening talking about how to do Christmas with a newborn I'm tempted to buy a load of yumminess from M&S and get DMIL to cook it in our oven. My DM is spending Christmas with my younger sister and her family but think DMIL has volunteered to come to us. That'll be fine - but if I have the baby I'll not want her at home when I get out of hospital. That sounds really selfish and mean, doesn't it? :( But last time I felt terrible and I was flopping about (carefully) with my stitches and my chapped nipples waving in the air to aid healing and that's not something I really want to share with anyone. She would be brilliant for looking after DS but she will overdo it and as she has angina and spends a lot of time resting after we have been to visit for a day, having to look after DS who might be having a grump because the new baby is spending too much time with HIS mummy might be a bit too much for her. I sound awful don't I?

Will have to see how things go. Argh. Whose idea was this??? ;)

Feeling reassured by all your comments re weight. Will speak to midwife about it this week too. Baby must be using up all my calories. :)

I get pins and needles in my hand too, particularly left hand. Sometimes wake up with it, sometimes can just be when I'm holding my tablet and I got it a lot when reading on holiday too.

Re Xmas, my DSIL and DB have offered which is great. They stay 15 mins away and are 10 minutes from the hospital (EDD 23 Dec) although clearly hoping baby will be here early! My parents live a couple of hours away so will either stay with us or them depending in what's happening! My SIL entertains well so will be nice and easy for me. A few years ago we had Xmas at theirs and their friend had just had a baby boy 3 days before and they came round for dinner with him to save cooking and it was lovely, hope it's the same for me!

You don't sound awful at all Fireball! I told DH that I didn't want anyone in our house when I came home from hospital with DS and that we weren't having any overnight guests for quite some time. It was the best thing I did.

I also putting a ban on visitors. As for Christmas.... Chinese seems the way to go!!

I don't know what to do about Christmas really. For the past 7 years the Dsses have xmas eve at their Mums and then come to us mid-morning and we have them then until New Year or just beore. I'm hoping we can do it the other way round this year as it's utter chaos in my tiny house. I usually love it but this year I am dreading it. I dont want to shortchange the boys out of a Christmas with us, but at the same time they haven't spent it with their mum in seven years, and I'd have just had a baby so it aint going to be a lot of fun.

We celebrate solstice & christmas with different parts of the family. But we dont host - head over to the MILs boat for solstice lunch & dinner with presents inbetween and then christmas we go to my parents abput 12 and stay till 7-8/when dr who has finished and.before eastenders! Wuth EDD of 13th, hoping we can just do short visits for food and gifts with baby in tow or if baby is running late and is still a matter of days old they can come here.and cook in ny kitchen ;-) as long as I dont have to cook!!!

I hate Mondays. Ttoday is going to be a crappy day at work, I have a nasty headcold, and I've woken up retching on an empty stomach. Arrrgh. Fuck you Mondays.

We did Xmas last year and the plan has always been to go to PiLs this year so that's nice and easy for us as I'm due 26/12, but obviously hoping to be at least a week early, maybe even a bit late. They only live 10 mins away so nice and easy if it happens when we're round there.

I don't really want any overnight visitors straight after either, but my mum lives 2-3 hours away and its off work from Xmas eve till the 6th Jan or something like that, so don't think we're going to be able to avoid it really. But my mum's not too bad, she'll just keep my housework under control

My scar is still really sore today, if it doesn't feel any better by Wednesday, I'm going to have to call MW.

Had another dream where my scar split open again, it felt so real, I had to check it hadn't when I woke up

I'm meeting a friend for lunch today but I just can't be arsed. What's everyone else up to?

Not sure what's happening with Christmas this year. Ordinarily we'd be going to PILs but with baby due at the end of November i don't much fancy the 2-3 hour drive. And SIL is due her baby about a week before Christmas so i doubt she'll be travelling. I think we'll stay at home or go to my parents' who are local. But having never cooked a Christmas dinner i certainly am not planning on doing it for the first time this year!

Appetite. i'm certainly eating a lot. Am trying my hardest to make sure it's healthy but sometimes i just can't resist a pack of biscuits! I've not weighed myself. I didn't with dd either. I just don't want to know. it'll go eventually.

Mango baby has been carrying on with it's wiggles. I'm now starting to feel it on my hand too.

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Oh dear Lotsa, how long ago did you have your CS? Sounds very uncomfortable.

I weighed myself this morning and I've lost 2lbs since last month. Okie doke!

Was correct about today being awful. Been sick at work, now sat in the canteen trying to eat some dry toast with a smidgen of ketchup.

On the plus side, my boss just realised he was.wearing one slipper and one shoe. Lol!

Omg Sasseh!! Lolling away to myself about the one slipper one shoe
Sorry you're feeling crap; I was randomly sick before I left the house just now so over this shit.

Urugh, its awful isn't it Peace - thought we were mostly past the vomiting! Got frustrating clients today (as usual) but at least none of them are coming in to visit!

He went home and changed it, party pooper!

I had to work Saturday and after what felt like the longest day and feet and hands resembling the elephant woman I got home and went straight to bed (4pm) absolutely knackered. 9-5 office worker normally, its a whole different ball game working open days and talking to hundreds of prospective students, so in advance booked today off so I could have my weekend. That and I have a holiday days to take before the year ends annual leave in end of Sept then I'm on Maternity anyway so thought might as well, still have 4 more days to take....

Sorted some paper work out and rearranged some draws to make room for baby stuff that we keep collecting... meeting my friend for lunch in half hour so I get to rant and vent about how I've been feeling without being judged!

Something ever so smug making when you don't work a Monday of all days. They're not so bad if you don't have to work them haha.

Counting down the days until I find out the baby flavours. 1 week to go! Thank God! My finger has been hovering over the private gender scan booking I've been dying to do!

Hope everyones enjoying their days where they can. Feeling bad for you girls being sick :( I get the odd bout of nausea but no sick.
sasseh Highlight about one slipper one shoe situation! hehe

Im still sick most days too.

Polythene was last September, so just over 10 months ago

I don't work Mondays either, but I'm not smug at all because I work every other Saturday blah!

Terrible news at my scan today. My babies have developed Twin To Twin Transfusion Syndrome. The stats are absolutely horrific with 90-95% chance of miscarriage.

I will be scanned again on Wednesday and possibly sent immediately to Birmingham for surgery. 40% chance the surgery will kill one of them. 20% chance it will kill both of them. 5% chance of long term damage to any survivors.

Obviously I'm now not going to be working in Japan for the next three weeks. Or probably ever again. I have no idea how to break it to them with one day's notice.

My little miracles look gorgeous but it's so sad to see the littlest one with a tiny sac and think of the pressure on the bigger one's heart and kidneys. I can't bear the thought of losing one or both.

I'm devastated.

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So sorry to hear your awful news Miraculous :( not sure what else I can say, hope things work out the best they can :(

Miraculous that's so sad to hear. Don't worry about work and just focus on you and your babies' health. That means 60% both will be ok and 80% one will be which might not help but try to stay positive. Hope you're getting lots of support.

Miraculous you are in my hugs and prayers xxx. Don't give up faith even a tiny percent still has hope xx

Oh Miraculous I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you. Crossing my fingers that you are one of the 60 percent thats both ok.

Oh miraculous I'm so sorry to hear your news. Your post has stopped me in my tracks of the minor whinging I was about to do.

do not give up hope. The numbers look scary but there is still a chance. ))hugs((

miraculous I have everything crossed for you. Hoping you and your husband have lots of RL support. I know it can be hard at times feeling like you let work people down but in this case you absolutely shouldn't be worrying about that, concentrate on yourself and your little ones. Big hugs xx