Dec 2014 Thread #5 - Battered and bruised we limp through the second trimester

[SassehMonsta]

Here we go again, the thrills & spills of leaky boobs, and feeling baby move for the first time - Lets go!

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Checking in.

I also probably only go for a poo about once a week, even then I can't do it in peace, S.A.
DS comes crawling in and climbs up the bloody toilet (he also does that while I'm being sick).

Hoping my scan is before 8th August, as that's when my next MW appointment is and she's banking on it having been done

how soon after your 16 week appointment will the 20 week scan appointment arrive?? I have midwife on monday to hear babies heartbeat. and no doubt get chinned for my weight... again.

I booked my 20 week scan at my 12 week scan appointment. It's on 8 August.

Had blood test this morning in advance of setting gp on Friday about feeling lightheaded etc. Struggling through work this afternoon.

Anyone had a consultant appointment before, in this pregnancy or previously? What should I expect? Will there be an examination?

i met mine Peace at my 12 week scan, she was lovely, but already was talking about section need due to previous section.... pointed out my last section was 18 years ago and is very likely to have healed... she then agreed to me trying labour but insisted i would be monitored and restricted... talked to hubby later and assured him i would not be restricted and if it meant i didnt go into hospital until i realllllllllly had to then i wouldnt be going in until i really had too...

dont get me wrong, she was lovely but i felt railroaded.

I see her again on 15th i think.... and i will be spelling it out in no uncertain terms that my womb has healed and i intend fully to give birth as naturally as possible. of course if i need monitored and need a section then fair enough but i want left alone for a fair bit.

I had no examination with her at that time.

She put me on baby aspirin for my migraines and hinted at my weight too... im 13 1/2 stone. and 5 foot 3..... nearly...

I have been referred to psych as i had PND and borderline psychosis too and spent 3 months in psych ward, I did point out that i had a very violent and abusive partner at the time but this is precautionary as Psychosis can reappear ..... haven't had depression or anything since i left my DDs dad 16 years ago.....

I am desperate to avoid a section as much as I can. I'm terrified the consultant will force me into one. Honestly and truly, do I have a choice? Can I say no to anything they suggest, unless it's an emergency situation?

my first section was because dd was brow presentation. so face first instead of head first.

this time should be entirely different. hopefully.... possibly.....

I've got my 20 week scan at 19 weeks so on the 21st. Delayed 16week midwife apt the week before!

I am huge. I just went into peacocks and tried on one of those lonf dresses witj the elastic at the top in the biggest sizes they had. Looked like a tent. I have nothing to wear.

spider. I found h&m to be good, asda online do mat wear... avoid the mat tights they suck!!! mothercare do big sizes.... loved a pair of their trousers. picked up a top and hated it

Just bumped into a sort of friend who I used to be close to but not anymore, the first thing he said to me after "I heard about your news, congratulations" was "so, I suppose I better ask if it was planned?"

Is it just hormones making me think that that is SUCH a disrespectful thing to say to someone that quite frankly you don't even really talk to anymore? And so many people have asked me, really gets my back up. Maybe it's because the baby wasn't planned, but that doesn't mean were any less excited about it and were both chuffed to bits and have been since finding out. Just think it's really inappropriate to ask someone that. Unless you're one of my close friends, who obviously asked and I had no problem with

Somerset I agree. When I told people they kept saying, "so how long were you trying?" None of your damn business! Not something I'm frankly comfortable discussing with my own father. And a lot of people said, "well done DH!" Fuck off.

Got my meeting with the MH midwife tomorrow. Nervous. She's meeting me at my house but I have zero motivation to clean or tidy.

had a moment at the post office collection depot earlier. Stood in queue and for no reason at all burst into tears. I just wanted to sit on the floor and cry, but I at least managed to get back to the car before full meltdown occurred.

I really am happy about being pregnant I just don't seem able to do "happy" at the moment. Feel like I'm stuck in an endless loop

ah well, sorry for whinging. Hope tomorrow provides some kind of solution.

On a cheerier note we tried the wedding ring swinging thing earlier. ..and it just didn't move at all!

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Catface I know it's hard but try not to worry about the housework. The MH midwife will have seen worse and he/she'll understand. I feel just the same as you, it's rotten. Just gotta keep on keeping on, haven't we? Hopefully you'll get some help and advice from them tomorrow. If they prescribe you Sertraline ADs don't worry, they are very very very safe to take in pregnancy. Best wishes :)

Re: maternity wear - quality only hurts once, recommend mothercare for bras and pants as that's a purchase I'd made at the weekend, long time coming! Although the rest of my clothes bar 1, top, dress and jeans are all borrowed gear. I also invested in bump bands/'support' bands for those ever so slightly shorter tops or trousers that I can't bear not to not wear!

Re: c section - with twins it seems inevitable, not necessarily set in stone but it seems to be a rule of thumb they don't let you go past 37weeks depending on your pregnancy I suppose (in theory no real reason for me not to go full term) but regardless it looks like inducing is an option. I originally wanted to avoid (still do) epidural and c section, they were my last resort options. But it seems that they recommend the epidural, then that way IF you have to have a c section you're pretty much prepped ready to go. Ideally I'd rather gas and air, maybe the odd injection pain relief, pethadine etc but no big needles and slicing and dicing!

Re: trying - we were not. Especially with getting married only a few months following. A lot of people knew my standing on having children and the matter of when was not until a bit further in the future by 4 or so years. It just ask happened that fate would have a bigger part in this and they do say you only get given what you can handle.
A few people have asked if we were mainly out of the shock and I haven't minded so much saying no, but like Somerset it's mainly been close friends, one or two not so close friends have quizzed me and I've felt awkward but then it's a case of its happened now, regardless of accident, we're excited, it's a new chapter in our lives and we will do our best to give these children the best possible start in life and welcomed in to a happy loving and caring home :) so f everyone else and their opinion.

REVOLUTION!!!!

Thanks peace

Keeping on keeping on is the best plan I have. Regularly want to just give up but know I can't. Are you on setraline?

Yeah I am, I switched to them a couple of years ago and when I asked my psychiatrist if I could keep taking them if I fell pregnant, she told me they're the best, safest ones to take while pregnant, and that they're the first choice of what to prescribe pregnant women! It's just a bonus really because they work so well for me anyway, I'm really pleased I didn't have to stop taking them. I'd be in a helluva lot more of a pickle now than I am without them! Take care m'dear

*than I am now if I were without them. Sentence construction fail.

Just woke up and my throat still feels infected. I'd normally use Difflam spray - does anybody know if that or any other antiseptic is safe? I want to knock this on the head before I go away.

miraculous have you tried gargle with salted water?

I haven't - I'm bad at gargling because I have a ridiculous gag reflex (I gag on the Difflam nozzle too)! I can definitely give it a try (just feels like I never quite hit the spot because I can't let the water go that far back). Thanks

I've had a sore throat since yesterday too, blah. I took a couple of paracetamol but promptly threw them up with my lunch so meh.

So glad Im not having poo problems! Dh has horrible cold and off work but instead of staying home with him Im off to work and taking the laptop - oops ;-)

New mw was lovely, so glad I changed! Now have consultant appointment on 22, scan on 24th, then mw again at 24 weeks, GTT at 26 weeks, and been told im rhesus negative so antiD injection at 28 weeks. Apointments stacking up now!!

Seem to have gentle cramping in my side this morning. Weird feelings all over, and I ache, but very strong feeling this is either due to a day of shopping yesterday or im coming down with dhs cold. Hmmm.

Maternity wear-wise, I've got some 2.50 tops from primark as they are stretchy and superlong on my 5ft body. Picked up a dress from H&M maternity wear (my local H&M stocks tiny amounts of mat wear) and Im wearing it as a top over my mat jeans (next or newlook? Or someqhere, bought them at 6 weeks!) as Im npt comfy having my legs out daily! Alsp picked up some cheap tops from peacocks maternity range while out with a friend last week.

Getting very bored of work tbh... Giess I should get up and make.an effort as Im not in tomorrow as we're too close to Silverstone circuit to bother even trying to get in tomorrow...!! If you know anyone gping by the way, theres an animal sanctury in Whittlebury that has 5 day parking within walking distance of the circuit, and with that 5 you can feed a dog for 3+ days! It might be where I got my pup from ;-)

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Good luck with the midwife today Catface

Morning all! I've been up since 4 but took advantage of the awakeness and we've driven to Cornwall for a few days r & r. Just about to head into Penzance where it'll be ok to have a Pasty for breakfast won't it? I've come to the conclusion that I am struggling because I'm trying yo manage the same as I did before, and I simply cant. Its not weak to slow down is it? I've been being a bit of a stubborn twat I think.

Its 8.20 and 19 degrees.... in the sea by 10.00!

Spider I'm so jealous - my dp's family live in Truro and I love going down there
I kept getting weird pains in my tummy last night, sort of half way up my "bump" and just felt tight. Any ideas?