September 2014 reaching the final stretch!

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Last thread was full.
Some of us are in the last trimester and some nearly there!! Eeek not long left!

How annoying topsy :( Hope you can claim some compensation. It was just on the news this morn that they can't refuse comp on grounds of mechanical failure anymore if that was your plane's problem. Where is it you are going?

Well DH put the cot up this evening. It's lovely, although looks huge in the room after the room being empty for weeks! Just the wardrobe and chest of drawers to go now, but saving that for another night. DH sweated enough getting the cot done haha.

Dinah I've got a swaddling blanket but overhead that swaddling (tightly anyway) can be harmful to babies. I think I'm just going to use it when cuddling baby, not when she's sleeping. Is a swaddlepod a blanket or something different?

• but have read .... not overhead!

:)

We were all swaddled as babies and both dc were too. Ds2 wouldn't sleep unless he was swaddled. It was recommended to me by a lady who was in the opposite bed when I had ds1 as he kept crying. She came over did it and ds settled straight away.

The snugness reminds them of thr security of the womb or something.

Oh no topsy hope you get a flight soon where are you going?

top it's a very thin swaddle & zips up for total ease, the zips encased & totally safe, I think the idea is to add more blankets if needed
ilove that's why I liked the idea of swaddling, for baby to make a smoother transition from being all cooped up inside me to being in the big wide world, it must be a bit scary!

Swaddling is totally safe, but they have some concerns over doing it to tight, it can restrict bone growth! I have been swaddling babies for years at nursery and agree it's a real life saver, but if your worried about it, either don't bother or go for the pre shaped ones. I sound like an advert!

We're off to Tuscany for what was a week. BA have managed to book us on a flight with another airline leaving tomorrow morning at 7.30am. Didn't get to the (v nice) hotel they have put us in until 10pm. Really not looking forward to the alarm going off at 4am! DP is already on the case with the compensation, software error with the landing gear so wouldn't have been overly happy staying on that plane anyway!

I'm going for swaddling too, it's on the list of things to buy. Saw the zip up ones last week but think I'm going to go for the old fashioned swaddle.

Hi all!
Haven't been on for a while, feeling a bit down and homesick at the moment First time I've done a whole pregnancy away from the UK, and even though I was in NZ by this point in my pregnancy with dc3 I'm just feeling like I'd really like to go back to the UK for a bit. Weirdly I think a lot of it is just down to the familiarity of UK, like being able to pop into Sainsbury's for a pack of sleepsuits (they are rubbish quality here and you can only buy them in singles) or being able to buy a moses basket that doesn't cost several hundred pounds. Missing my old house (we spent years doing it up and only rent here), and haven't seen my mum for a year and a half either which is making me feel a bit sad. My Dad walked out on my mum when I was pregnant with dc1 and hasn't been in contact with any of us since (my dsis managed to track him down but he wasn't very interested) and it's been playing on my mind a lot too.

It's the first time I've felt homesick like this in the 2 1/2 years we've been here, DH just says it's probably the hormones, and as much as I hate it when he says that, he's probably right! Was in tears last night, and DH was being a bit of an arse too, which didn't help. He refuses to discuss baby names and doesn't seem interested in all that at all. I wouldn't worry, but he's been like this with all three so far, and after a week of no name last time and zero suggestions from DH I let DD choose from a list of 3! He's a great dad to them, but pregnancy just doesn't seem to interest him at all. He did apologise that he's just useless at names, but then when questioned about the other stuff he said he doesn't get excited about the birth like me as it is really hard for him - I may have got a little bit annoyed then and pointed out that two traumatic births and a C-section were not exactly enjoyable for me, and it was the meeting of the baby that I liked, could really do without the rest... His answer was that I watch OBEM so I must enjoy it !!!!

On the plus side I have a horrible cold today and he has looked after the dc for me, but I still reserve the right to be pissed off

Sorry for the long moan, just needed to get it off my chest...

TOPSY Hope you get there soon, what a nightmare getting delayed overnight. That's the last thing you need! put your feet up when you get there

donteven huge hugs, you are really feeling the distance at the moment and I think that's understandable. As for your dh, my dh is a bit like that, not at all interested in the pg or names- he's not come up with one yet and not even interested in discussing. Like you previously, I have a list and only one name stands out which I love but dh is a bit 'meh' about it but given that he cant even come up with one name Im sticking with it! So when the time comes he will have to like it and lump it won't he! I hope your feeling better soon, its rotten both pg and a cold xxxx

my dh wanted to go in the baby shop yesterday to get the cotbed, travel system, car seat etc- that just so happened to be around the corner from the garage he wants to buy a new car from....that was handy!! Only he didn't realise how much it was going to cost- not sure why I showed him the pushchair online (fine) and he knew how much the cotbed was (fine)...but he had got it into his head that the travel system would cost about £250...for everything, car seat, base, pushchair so we left empty handed...to go look at cars. I did point out that even a McLaren pushchair was £250, then we would need car seat on top anyway...I think he just needs to let it sink in, he did say he could pop back on Monday and place the order.

I woke up about 4am this morning, cant sleep, so Ive worked myself up stressing about everything that needs doing in the next 12 weeks and Im all in a panic and yesterday didn't help as its still on the to get/to do list!

..and its fathers day. All Im going to say it today Im playing by dh rules....apparently ds (8) is old enough to sort himself out......mmmm this could well backfire! (as it did last mothersday!)

ps Ive heard the zip up swaddle are great, I might buy one and see how I go with it- anything is worth a try for a happy baby! I cant be faffed with the diy ones, all the tucking in etc.

Donteven the homesickness must be very hard. I was feeling it myself the other day and I only live 150 miles from my Mam! Hope you feel better soon.

White you will have to let us know how the fathers day thing goes. I suspect it will not go well. My brother is 30 and I still have to prompt him when these things are coming up so not sure how an 8 year old will manage

donteven sorry to hear you are feeling low, it sounds like you have a lot on your mind, do you have many friends where you live, perhaps you could arrange some girly time? It must be hard living so far away from home, but pregnancy can exaggerate emotions, I'm not going to call it hormones cause that annoys me too! But all the way through this pregnancy things that only slightly got to me before now feel like huge obstacles that are causing me huge upset.
My DH seems quite disinterested too, I'm hoping on e baby's here he'll pick up his game!
Chin up duckie xxx

donteven you poor thing. Definitely arrange some 'me' time and treat yourself a bit. x

None of mine have been swaddled because they hated it! but I know others who swear by it. I'm pretty sure the safety concern is down to hip development, and the problem only happens when parents swaddle babies with their legs straight, instead of in the 'froglegs' position they will naturally hold them in, so nothing to worry about. Midwives at the hospital are usually really good for showing you how to do things like that.

Donteven thats hard... I am far away friends and family so I understand it can be difficult at times like this... But you have too much on your mind... Hope you can take your mind off things and distract yourself and treat and pamper yourself with an understanding friend perhaps...

Ladies, question: Tens machine, I want one, but : to buy or not to buy? Renting them is not cheap, I am thinking buying and then selling on ebay would cost the same???

Whiteblossom, DH had a bit of a shock when I showed his prices of things. It helped to show him the resale vale of things and how much somethings can hold their value so the actual cost is actually lower than it can look.

for you donteven Hope you feel better v. soon. I think pregnancy does make us feel more vulnerable and in need of support from those closest to us. My mum is on holiday in Tenerife for a week at the moment and even this short time makes me feel a bit like i'm missing something, so I can only imagine how you are feeling at the moment. It will all be worth it though when you are cuddling your newest little bundle of joy :)

Nazly I have been wondering the same thing about a tens machine. I was thinking I might buy one as then I know it works and doesn't have anything missing etc...... my mum could probably get me one from the maternity ward but another MW said at an antenatal class that they are a bit short on them as people seem to think the wires/pads are disposable so they are low on them!

Re. Swaddling - yes I think it was the thing about wrapping babies hips up too tightly that I read about. So as long as baby is in a comfy, natural position i'm sure it's fine and i'm going to be doing it if baby likes it. I will have to look out for a zip up swaddlepod thing, I like the sound of them for bed time. Dinah where did you get yours from?

I'm finding it hard to concentrate on writing my school reports with all these baby things on my mind! I'll end up writing random things like swaddling or tens machine in the middle of a report if i'm not careful!

Hello everybody!!

dontevenblink Separation from your family sucks even more when you're pregnant. I'm alone in UK with my family also living abroad so I understand how you feel. We just need that family support during these times. Do you use Skype with your mum at least?? It helps a lot to me, it's almost like she's here. I know it won't compensate her real present, but .. you know .. something is still better then nothing.

About your dh. I think that's just men. My partner is almost the same. He cares about me and our baby, he's interested in baby's kicking and talking to him,massaging my bump with cocoa butter, generally supports me and so on. But when it comes to planning nursery, choosing furniture or paint colour, buying anything or picking up a name? No, he doesn't want to do that at all and avoiding it all the time. He even started to like name I suggested months ago and he hated it that time. Just so he doesn't have to suggest anything by himself .

Don't stress about it, we can't change their thinking or behaviour.

Hope the support you have here on mumsnet helps you a little.

Hey cookie how's it going?
top got my swaddle pod from mothercare £9.99 but seen it in TK Maxx too
How's everyone's Sunday been? I'm so uncomfortable in clothes now! I just wanna be naked! Not a pretty sight, but feels so much better! Lol

Thanks top and ella, I'll check out sure start and will ask around before I buy a tens, but just had a look and apparently you could get one for 50 or rent it for 20 ish, I am hoping I'll have another baby, and will then sell it on, it then make sense not to get into renting process... The only thing is I haven't allowed for it in my EVER GROWING baby budget :( We are now well into spending out savings and future earnings ....

Btw, Kiddicare sales is on and the clearance has some pretty good stuff, up to 80 % off, it is good specially if you have not selected big items like car seat or push chair...

But things that we selected and are set on are not on sale :( annoyingly.. I spent ages deciding about travel system, so am going to stick with it, but some of these stuff on clearance are so nicely priced and good quality... I just ordered some small things from my list today, but good stuff are going fast, I suggest having a look online if you are not already done shopping

If anybody knows of any other ongoing sales, clearance, would be grateful if you could share... I still have a very long shopping list...

Argos, H and M, IKEA, Gap, Mothercare have a fair number, I noticed Toysrus are advertising 50% off a lot of lines and have some decent deals.

I'm expecting a few more to appear this week.

donteven sorry to hear your feeling down, and homesick, just think though not long till you have another beautiful baby to love and cherish :) hope that your able to see your mum and other family too. Don't know how it must feel to be that far away from them, I got upset just moving 10mins away when I moved out whilst I was pregnant with DS! Deffo hormones aswell though on too of it all.

top what a hassle! hope you get to your holiday soon! Enjoy your time away too :)

Have had a nice weekend celebrating Father's Day with our families, and weather has been on this weekend!
Good to know there's so sales coming up as I'm so unorganized! Looks like we're gonna be moving from our flat to a house within the next month too which is very exciting as finally will have a garden for DS to play in! But going to be stressful especially being over 6 months pregnant! We're very lucky we've got lots of family around to help us thankfully! I've tried updating my nickname on here so not too sure what it will come up with! If it has changed then I was kt-1991

Ok name change didn't work on first post but should of done now!