February 2015

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ive just got my bfp!!!!

from dates im due 1st feb

Another one with a mh condition here, I am diagnosed bipolar! My consultant psych nearly fell off her chair when she heard I am expecting twins. In my past experiences, I have had lovely support from my midwife and hv because of my diagnosis so I would definitely advise being open. I also think that although there is a higher risk of me becoming poorly post-natally, I can take a lot of strength from what I have come through. Feel like I can cope with anything now!! I have to take anti-psychotics throughout my pregnancies which obviously is an added worry but benefits outweigh risks for us. I'm happy to answer any questions too.

Last night I really fancied a curry so we ordered on in, I sat heavy breathing over it to try and get some down me, half a naan later I gave up then spent all night waking with hunger, so annoying to really want food but can't stomach it.
Its ds's birthday party next weekend 20 kids in. Hall, dreading it as I will need to do the food shopping for it and I cannot face it. Dh is beyond useless at food shopping amd probably spend £200 and actually being nothing home edible!

Thanks everyone - whilst i wouldn't wish anxiety and depression on anyone, its good to have others here who "get" it. Thankfully i was able to see my GP the day after i got my BFP, and although she clearly wasn't thrilled that i'm pregnant, she spent a good 35 mins looking up all my meds so we could discuss what to stay on and what to come off, and between that and a chat with the rheumatology clinic the next day i've managed to get down to just 4 meds, though may have to go back onto another one after i see my respiratory consultant next week.

I'm most worried about my antidepressant - sertraline. If possible i'd like to come off it/change it in the third trimester, to avoid jitteriness in baby once its here. (My DS had major feeding problems as an infant, not related to meds, and the feeding is one thing i'm stressed about, so want to do whatever i can to minimise issues). I'm "in" the mental health system finally now though, so will hopefully have more than just the GP to advise.

Struggling a bit with pain (i have rheumatoid arthritis) and have refused to take painkillers since i got my BFP - daft i know, as the GP has said that if needed i can use my co-codamol sparingly at this point. I think its partly SPD (or whatever they call it now - PGP?) starting though.

Sorry, this all sounds like a huge moan - its not really, i actually feel positive this morning, and have managed to get some housework done, unlike the past week. Shattered though - not sleeping much at all - up countless times a night!

Memphis - that is so me with food at the moment!

cactusnic - Please try not to worry about the sertraline. I've been on it for quite a long time because some years ago I was severely clinically depressed. Of course when I got my BFP I asked my GP if I should stop them, but she said it's more dangerous coming off them at a time when my hormones are likely to cause mood changes and would put me at greater risk of antenatal depression.

If you're really worried talk to your doctor about lowering your dose, but don't stop taking it suddenly; the withdrawal effects are awful!

Is anyone taking anything for mood swings in general? Apparently I've just ruined a good day out because of my strop (dp was meant to be treating me to lunch but when we got to the city wanted me to choose) I can't decide if I want to eat at all let alone what I want for lunch. Turned in to a huge thing. Him ending saying I can't blame my moods on being pg all the time. I'm now home in bed feeling like crap and he's gone to shop to buy fags (even though he's given up) just to piss me off even more!

donkir - my moodswings are horrendous - PMT x a gazillion. My DP is looking kind of scared at times!

frenetic - trying not to worry too much. I know i need it right now (before i knew i was preg, i was very worried as i was so depressed - now i know it was progesterone contributing, as i know i'm very progesterone-sensitive). I won't come off it suddenly - been on many different antidepressants, and i will never forget the time a newly-qualified GP weaned me off venlafaxine over a week - shudder. My aim is to at least lower the dose, perhaps mid-late second trimester, perhaps with a view to coming off or changing in the third trimester. Whichever though, i know i'll be straight back on them after the birth, as i know i'm v v high risk for PND. When i was preg with my DS, my mental health was probably the best its ever been, and i'm hoping it'll be the same once i'm out the first trimester.

(And i'm actually hoping my psych will refer me to a perinatal mental health specialist when i see her next month, or will at least liase with them. Luckily i'm in a city with a mum and baby unit - which i hopefully wouldn't need, but should mean there's a good team available if needed).

donkir eating out would be hell for me. tonight I am attempting fish fingers and...... bread. you can blame it on pg hormones!

catcusnic did you get pnd last time? I had councelling group with Surestart

I had two slices of bread buttered for my lunch. This afternoon I've been fine tho, grr! I miss properly enjoying food :-( xx

food and tea used to be my favourite things to fill my day along with cooking and baking

Holed up in bed with sickness. It always kicks in in the afternoons!

I'm thinking about whether to have anomaly testing at 12 week scan, as I wouldn't abort. Can anyone identify?

fluffy I didn't think things they need to check show up on scan until 20 werks?

Memphis I'm talking about the nuchal scanning and blood tests done at 12 weeks, primarily to look for Down's/Edward's/Patau's.

We're having screening but just so we can prepare not because we'd have a termination. We'd just like all the available information so we could do our best with raising the child.

ah ok it wouldn't make any difference to me either. the tests aren't a definate yes or no., yet I cannot remember if I agreed to tests last time.
I have one friend whos daughter had 1:3 chance of downs and she is fine then another who had 1:1500 (or something like that) and she has downs

I'm just thinking that if I wouldn't abort, then knowing that the baby has a high probability during the pregnancy would cause unnecessary worry. The uncertainty would probably be the worst part. I'm still not sure though.

I think we'll go for the tests, even though i know they're only screening, not definitive, though i very much doubt we'd terminate. TBH, we know there's a fairly high chance of disability, that can't be tested for - family history of ASD. I do better if i'm prepared though, so knowing there's a higher chance would let me research etc to cope better. I don't know what i'd do if offered amnio or CVS though, due to the risks.

Memphis - i did have PND with DS, and went back on antidepressants when he was around 3 months old - i'd been off them since before conceiving him. I don't think it was entirely new baby/hormonal though, as i was in an abusive relationship at the time, along with DS having very severe feeding difficulties. I was lucky enough to have some long-term counselling through a local PND project though too, that also offered a baby massage course - which reminds me i'll hunt out my resources on that!

Is anyone else already looking into baby groups, classes etc? blush I'm in a completely different area to when i had DS, and that was years ago anyway, so i'm looking, as my friends are all past the baby stage.

Hi ladies,
Hope you're all well. I had my booking appointment yesterday and the hospital runs antenatal classes so I think we'll go to those. Told my boss as well last week (have to take some time off to recorder from horrific MS). It's all starting to feel v real!

proudly sorry to hear you're feeling vile. My GP has switched me from metoclopranode to cyclizine, which fingers crossed seems to be working better. Are you takings any meds?

Have a great weekend xxx mimosa

Sorry so many of you are feeling worried!

I have booked my early scan for next Saturday am excited/nervous! Treated myself to a new comfy bra and a wonder down the baby isle in asda today made me feel so happy!

Catusnic I was the same had PND but it was a lot to do with circumstances, while in early labout my beloved dog died then 3 weeks later when dh was working away 3 masked men got into our property trying to steal our bikes a bit of digging and we found our movements were being watched by bike thieves. On top of that mil issues and hated living where we were and then I got diagnosed with PTSD due to the birth. So I am confident I will be ok this time and if not Sure Start and my hv have already stsrted contact with me to make sure I feel ok.
I am really low tonight I feel so hungry and fed up cannot wait until I start 'blooming' like everyone keeps promising me, I plan on eating the contents of the bakery as soon as I can eat

Not surprised ended up with PND either then Memphis - here's to a far smoother time for both of us this time, with more support should we need it! I'm a bit fed up feeling grim, but then i get all paranoid when i don't, lol - can't win!

LittleMiss - i've had a few sneaky wee looks in baby aisles, but i'm totally paranoid i'm going to bump into someone i know!

littlemiss I need a comfy new bra too! My boobs are so sore now, and have already grown lots. I've started to wear a sleep bra for extra support.

Anyone else have sore boobs?

fluffy, yes! Can't bear touching the, they feel so tender. Sports bras all I can manage right now