Pregnant after MC due December 14

[Penguin13]

If you're pregnant after a previous MC and due in December 14 this is the thread for you.

If you're an obsessive knicker-checker or just want someone to chat to who knows where you're coming from you'll fit right in.

So sorry to hear that Annie we are all here if you need a chat, glad you have loving family around you. Take good care of yourself xxx

Congratulations Penguin and DrFunkes !! Been thinking about you both today. So pleased for you, brilliant news!!

Wonderful stuff penguin!

I've just managed to eat something healthy and nutritious for my dinner, the first time in weeks! My skin has been suffering from my carb overloading. No crisps were involved!

Trying to catch up on everybody's news today before collapsing to bed.

annie so sorry, be kind to yourself

drfunke & penguin so happy it went well, and great to know about lacey

I had a bit of brown spotting today, which I'm trying to ignore as we saw HB yesterday and I know it happens and hoping that dildocam is the culprit for moving things around.

Btw I hate cheese! Antipasti are harder to resist though.

So glad I have you ladies to chat to - you really have kept me semi sane over the past few weeks. The end of that first tricky trimester is almost in sight now girls. Let's march, skip, crawl and drag each other over that 12 week mark. I am rooting for all of you stuck in no-mans land right now. We want you with us, every single one of you.

Yay! so I went in for my scan today and I saw the heartbeat! going in again in a week and a half!

I'm so sorry Annie just keep trying it will happen for you

Hi All... That's where I am at the mo 'No Mans Land'.. Been here sometime n boy am I ready to check out!

I am a newbie a sleepless newbie and have just read all 15 pages of this thread in one go and my heart goes out to you experiencing sadness. It's such an emotional roller coaster

My story started a while ago so bear with me while I tap it out.. Back mid Feb I had my coil removed whilst on my period.. Had it in for 4 years n dr said fertility returns straight away. I have 1 DD who is 13 but not tried for another due to divorce etc but now happy and got married on 4th April just gone!!

What a month... Was due for period 21 March but never came and I knew almost instantly I was pregnant... A test followed by 4 more tests 6 days later confirmed it. All bold positives straight away... Happy happy altho only week n 2 days before wedding!!!

All good,exciting times and full of symptoms just as I had been with DD 13 year previous! Wedding came and had 2 Buck's Fizz whilst everyone else got happily plastered!! Then on honeymoon for a week I started spotting on the Wednesday.. Just brownish and not really there till wiping along with dull aching. Couldn't wait to get back to UK and spent most of the time crying or sleeping. On our return I phoned the EPU and had a scan that afternoon.

They said possible 3 things - ectopic, mc or early dates so had a blood test and was told a follow up scan in 2 weeks.

My dates put me at 6 - 7 week the scan and blood test put me at 4-5 week (possibly late 3). So too early to see anything and too early to tell... So wait for next scan.
For those interested in result of blood I was 5678 which could be normal for 3-5 weeks.

We had no choice but to wait for the scan and as hard as it was going to be felt positive and full of symptoms still. Then a week later the brown spotting turned to constant red so I called EPU and went back for another scan.

Good news sac had grown and moved so defo no ectopic but no sign of yolk or pole so again dates wrong or mc. They said I was measuring 5w 2d which means I was 11 days when I got my 5 BFP's... But because it had grown and was in the right place got it's size they will rescan me in 2 weeks.

That is coming up Tuesday (6th) and I should be 7w 3d so the deciding one really. I stopped bleeding Friday just gone but whilst sat at my desk yesterday felt a gush and am now loosing heavy (on and off) bright red with the occasional clot / stringy bit. No pain tho? Phoned EPU and they said doesn't mean anything and just relax and wait for scan on tues.... Gonna be the longest wait ever but don't want to be negative but symptoms have really dropped today. Altho keep getting tightening / hard across tummy about 2 inch under belly button.. Am also in maternity clobber already as I've ballooned as I did with DD.

Sorry for extra long post.. Feels good to get it out just wondered if anyone had similar experience.. Tia xx

Hi EmPem I'm sorry you're having such a tough time and that you've had some bleeding. I am flabbergasted that EPU have said you have to wait till Tues with you heavily bleeding and would consider going to A+E in your position. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

xKat that's brilliant news, you must be relieved. Not too too long to wait till your next scan either .

empem sorry that you're going through this. I hope you're taking it easy. We're here to listen. Fx.

xkat lovely news.

Tiredness has finally hit me (not helped by a very late night on Wed) and DS is super clingy. Using Disney as a babysitter. Have to pop to supermarket later but apart from that I'm not doing ANYTHING!

In my dangerzone atm. 5+5 today which is when I had my 1st mc, 2nd at 6+1. I just want to get though the next few days and then I'll feel safer iykwim.

Have also decided to stop training for my 10k as not fair on my running partner...she needs to train harder than I can right now, and I feel too exhausted.

Morning all!

Empen, so sorry you're having a tough time. I agree with penguin and maybe get over to a&e, waiting til Tuesday seems so unfair.

Penguin, xkat, lovely news! I'm trying to get a private scan booked as waiting til 12 weeks seems too long! I keep feeling anxious that my symptoms are disappearing,but they aren't, I'm perhaps just getting used to them! 9 weeks today though. Feels like a milestone achieved.

Definitely take it easy calling, it's what your body needs right now. I'm becoming the queen of naps. Mmm...nap zzzz

Cakes hi-five on making it to 9 weeks edd buddy . I think my symptoms have altered a bit too over the last couple of days which I think is normal as the placenta starts to take over. My insane hunger seems to have abated slightly which I am glad about.

We told both sets of parents last night. We were too excited to hold off any longer. Both were thrilled although with 6, soon to be 7 grandchildren on one side and 4 on the other we're not exactly the first to go there! Can't wait till 12 weeks and hopefully being able to tell everyone else. After yesterday I finally feel like it might actually happen although my enthusiasm is tempered by a nagging little voice telling me not to count my chickens yet.

Engels I think you've made the right decision to listen to your body. You can read so much advice about what you should do in pregnancy but I think you're uniquely qualified to know what you need. I am in awe that you managed to keep running for as long as you have!

Great news Penguin, xkat, DrFunke and Lacey.
I am so happy for all of you!! Fx, not so long left to reach the 12wks, so take good care of yourselves and try to relax.

Empem, so sorry you are going through such stressful situation. I am with the other girls, you should go to E&A. Outraged they make you wait until Tuesday with heavy bleeding.

News for me are mixed again. I went yesterday to the GP (I was supposed to go today, but was so stressed I couldn't wait until today, so got an appointment with duty doctor yesterday). GP made a pregnancy test... which came back NEGATIVE!! I was in complete shock because I saw the embryo with heartbeat last week. I couldn't believe hormones level can drop so quickly even if embryo was dead. The good news is I got a referral for the EPAU, but first appointment available is next Tuesday morning because of Bank holiday week-end. I bursted into tears on my way back home after the appointment, because after having a negative PG test, I had no hope left. I felt so so sad.
At home, I googled "false negative pregnancy test", and that gave me a little bit of hope again, because apparently, plenty of women get false negatives even at very advanced stage of PG.

This morning, I made a home pregnancy test and got a BFP. So I haven't completely lost hope, although I wouldn't be suprised at all to have bad news on Tuesday. So still in limbo land, and hating it!!

Oh my goodness melody - how horrible. I'm not surprised you burst into tears. It's the confusion and not knowing that's the worst.

When I had my 2nd mc I was winging between, okay it's over and , maybe not with conflicting symptoms - it was probably the worst week of my life, being in limbo, and I was so emotional and upset about it, it completely drained me.

Fx fx fx. The good news is that you saw a heartbeat last week and that gives you great odds. I know it's hard to do, but try to take your mind off it this weekend, whetehr that's by keeping busy or watching back to back tv that you love (my tactic today with ds, but unfortunately his viewing tastes are guiding the programming so Ice Age is on after Dumbo first thing this morning).

Just picked up my info pack from mw. Feel like I'm tempting fate.

penguin how exciting! We told parenst last weekend. My dm was very enthusiastic, my df did his usually stiff upper lip British mc thing of not saying anything, but he did smile and give me a kiss even if he ignored dh I've told dh not to take it personally. I wonder how you would feel as a dad if you were confronted with, "I'm having sex with your daughter!" I know he's really pleased even if he doesn't show it.

Hi all, I had my scan this morning. There was a heartbeat! The only worry is baby is very small for my dates and only measuring at 6 weeks. But doctor said its possible that I just conceived slightly later than I thought. I've been offered another scan in a week because they need volunteers to help doctors training, so that will hopefully be some extra reassurance for me. Good luck to everyone anxiously waiting for scans, I hope you all get good news x

Yay Basgetti heartbeat is great news. Hopefully your extra scan in a week's time will give you that reassurance and let you relax a bit. How sure are you of your dates?

I can't get over how much of a difference there is to my appetite today. I am free from the sensation of constant gnawing hunger! Now I only have my greed to blame for what I am eating . I'm not too worried as my boobs are still sore and I figured I should give myself a period of at least 24 hours post scan before freaking out again. ...

Empem how are you doing today?

I was fairly sure of my dates going from my last period and when I thought we'd conceived, but it is possible that happened on a later occasion! I've had the opposite with my appetite, haven't been feeling hungry, I came out of my scan and felt the need to head straight to McDonalds

Hi basgetti. Great news!! Hope you can relax a bit now .
Thanks Engels for your support. You're right, the worst bit is not knowing.

Hi All - thanks for your advice - had a funny sort of day albeit a busy one and haven't had any symptoms all day, no dizziness, no sickness, no having to eat every few hours until just sitting down 5 mins ago and suddenly feel v preg again!

The bleeding has slowed somewhat so decided against going to A&E - the nurse I spoke to yesterday wasn't overly concerned as I had no pain - she advised A&E if pain came on top of the bleeding.

It's just another day of being unsure and that's the hard part the not knowing - on a brighter note nearly a day closer to the scan tues :) Always wishing time away at mo!!

A chilled weekend is in order me thinks xx

Congrats to everyone who've had positive scans!

melody what a nightmare - you really are in limbo! I hope that you can enjoy the weekend and get through until Tuesday.

empem hope that you can keep yourself busy as well! It really is torture isn't it?

As for me, I had my scan this morning at the early pregnancy unit - my baby has grown in size since last week and there was a slight fluttering which they believed could be a heart beat but couldn't really tell. By my dates I'm 8w but the NHS scan was still showing 5w just like the private scan last week. The midwife explained that the dating can really be relied on at this stage anyway, the fact that it's grown is the main thing. So, I'm back next week to check that there's a strong heartbeat. It was much more than I expected but still in limbo...!

basgetti - it sounds like we are having similar experiences. I was 100% sure about my last period date but still measuring small.

sorry - dating can't* really be relied on at this stage

Still no symptoms apart from painful boobs IF I poke then, so I poke them all the time.

What a mine field not telling, I'm usually fairly active but had to turn down offer of a 4 hour walk from dad.

I went to see a very good friend today, I had prepare a work around treatment status. I was doing well avoiding subject and just as I was leaving, she asked be bluntly 'are you pg?' I couldn't lie, so now one person knows.