October 2014 thread 4 - scans, scans scans!!

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New thread ladies. I should really leave it to someone who can link the old one. Can someone add the edd list and whatnot? Or maybe we should start again now edds are changing after scan.

Bumpbangbump dc#2 EDD 2nd October

Afternoon all, I would be up for joining the fb group. I am technically under the care of the home birth team. Was also with dc1 and had a successful home birth.

I found the main benefits were all appointments done @ home which meant no rushing to the appointment to find your blood pressure up (I wonder why? ).

My shortest appointment was 30 mins and longest was over a hour excluding the booking in appointment.

You saw the same person which made in my opinion when the measure the bump more accurate.

I fully intended to go to the midwife led cent if I got to much but I totally felt I could cope.

In labour I was continually monitored/observed because the midwife was either in the same room as me or next door.

I would be interested to find out other people's thoughts experiences.

Will see how the pregnancy goes.

Well my scan is tomorrow and I'm having major anxiety. No idea why. No reason why everything wouldn't be ok. No issues, think I'm just a big worrier.

I'm consultant led due to blood issues, so am going to hire a doula I think. Boyf was anti this idea, taking offence that I assumed he wouldn't be able to cope, but he's since read statistics about doula involvement, and has come round to the idea. I would love to have done it at home, because I gate hospitals, but it's not just about my safety, so.

Just had my booking in appointment. Asked if I wanted a home birth. I like the idea of it but my previous 2 births weren't straight forward in the end so I would rather be where help is if I need it. Did both though just on gas and air.

To add I live literally round the corner from the hospital. I don't think I would have considered it had I not lived so close. Also if there was anything the midwife didn't like, a transfer would have been done . They also inform labour ward of your address so they are prepared should you visit them.

Had a great scan this morning - baby was wriggling away and very active (more so than with my two older DC at this stage). I've been feeling small movements for about a week, not surprised now seeing such an active baby! It was so lovely to hear that galloping heart beat

Also had blood drawn for the nuchal and for the equivalent of the harmony (different brand name but same process of testing foetal DNA). The scan looked good (nuchal was 1.9mm and nasal bone present) so not too worried.

I planned a home birth first time around (ended up induced and crash section) and the antenatal care was fabulous. At home, same lovely midwife, very relaxed and enjoyable. I'd recommend it for that alone - you can always plan to deliver at birth centre/hospital but get your appointments at home...I'd have planned one this time but home vbacs are illegal in New Jersey!

Home births arent for me personally. I sis has had a couple and I was there immediately after both (I was on babysitting duty for her older kids but both times baby popped out before I arrived!). Its all too sudden for me. After birth the midwife was cleaned up and gone within about half an hour and I felt like we were all left holding the baby...I get a sense of security from being in hospital. Like what is something when wrong after the midwife left? It was all too scary for me! I stayed one night in hospital with dd and that was enough for me to catch my breath and prepare to take her home. I wouldnt want to stay longer but I would definitely want to be there for the birth and a while after.

I wish I could have had a home or water birth but after my first ended in a emcs that was that I have to have a cs this time I've had two normal and two emcs and they won't entertain me trying a vbac again so planned cs it is :(

I agree mum2kiss there is something special about being away from home and spending a night just the two of you in hospital together. It's a real bonding thing. My friend had a home birth and like you said all done and dusted in an hour and all sundry turned up.

I didn't get my planned home birth last time due to DS being 'premature' (and house being a building site having moved 2 weeks before) but thankfully he was born at lunchtime so still got to go home the same day. Staying in the hospital is not my idea of a nice first night with a new baby and is probably my main reason for wanting a home birth. I want them to all go home so we can have family time and champagne!
How different we all are, guess that's why there're options!

Yay for your good scan Flip!
I like the idea of a home birth but given that my mum and sister both had to have emergency c-sections I don't think I'd want to risk it in case there were any problems. Plus if there were, I wouldn't want to go to the default hospital I'd be taken to! I'm equidistant-ish between 3 hospitals and my alleged nearest one would be last on my list!

I like all these different experiences. I tried homebirth last time but ended up in hospital with emcs due to baby 'being lost'. Anyway I don't think they'd let me go homebirth this time, but trying for vbac and hopefully water birth in hospital and as little monitoring as possible...but I will see how we get on nearer the time!

My two were both early evening and my dc2 needed observing for 24hours hence stay over

My sister had a home birth with her last, it put me off slightly as baby got her shoulders stuck and she almost had to be taken in. I can't imagine going through that stress is like!
Nice safe hospital for me I think.

gun if you really want to try for another vbac then no one can force you to have another Cs if that isn't what you want. Have you heard of supervisors of midwives (som) they is a team attached to every hospital and it is there role to support, advocate and guide you if you are wanting to do something that is considered 'out of the guidelines" your midwife can also do this bit som's carry a bit more weight! Your hospital will hae their contact details. I encourage women to contact them if they need further support etc

Hey ladies, here is the link to the Facebook group I've made, it's "secret" (only members see the group, who's in it and what members post)

www.facebook.com/groups/268062283369153/ (I called the group Octoberfest so it's sort of a discreet title too!)

I'm new to this group-creation mullarkey so hopefully it will be straightforward enough to add yourselves!

Can't seem to find it kirsti!

Oh no! Try just searching "Octoberfest" in the search bar and hopefully you'll find it??

One with 16 people and one with 27!

Great news flip

I'm not great at Facebook but I think if the group is secret, you have to be invited to join as no one can even see the group. A closed group could can request to join and only members can see posts but anyone can see the group and who is a member. Maybe we need to have closed rather than secret at least while people find it?

I would have thought that you could only get into a secret group by being invited, but I'm no expert

Oh crap!!! I wonder if because it's secret then it may be invite only? There is only me and bythesea, who kindly messaged me her name so I could add her as a friend in order to create the group! What happens when you copy and paste the link to your browser?

If it's secret then well have to be invited by the admin. You'll have to friend all the members I think... That's what happened with my Jan 2012 an group!

That might be why! I too am pretty useless, I thought I wasn't doing it right!