Easter is approaching, and the PESH are laying all over the place!

[maamalady]

Antenatal fred fun for BESH graduates

CRESH

Faith - pinky faithlet arrived 14th April 2013
Pinkr - suitably pinky one arrived 25th August 2013
Jethro - blue one arrived 23rd September 2013
Noks - pink one arrived 12th January 2014

PESH

Frankel - EDD 4th March ANY TIME NOW
Sinky - EDD 18th March
Merks - EDD 21st March
Driz - EDD 7th June
Draf - EDD 19th June
Kat - EDD 20th June
Winks - EDD 26th June
Dor - EDD 18th August
Ginger - 20th August
Euro - 28th August

PESH-in-hiding
Bugs - EDD approx 21st October

There's plenty of farting going on! I'm considering hiring her out as a chemical weapon

Try keeping her upright for 20 minutes after feeds. I went down the infacol route at 6 weeks and that seemed to help a bit. Baby massage was useful too.

I've started the Infacol, we used it when she was about 2 weeks old and it seemed to help. We're starting a baby massage class on Friday, plus we've got another cranial osteopath appointment on Monday. Hopefully one of those will help!

Frank sorry if I'm giving annoying / unwanted advice. I've found the only way E will get rid of trapped wind is the traditional sit them up and pat/rub the back for a minute followed by leaning her slowly forwards at the waist, then backwards, then left, then right and finally forwards again. Repeat from the top. Nothing else will get her to burp.
Oh and we are wearing gas masks and ear plugs for the farting too

I hope the TT snip goes well Frank. Is it a frontal tie or posterior? L's was posterior which is harder. He was also 11 weeks old so more aware and initially he wouldn't feed (which they want them to do straight away). But he did later and it was such an improvement.

The other thing you may want to consider is CMPI, it is a fag to cut out dairy & soy from your diet but it could make a difference. It might just be that the gut needs to mature a bit though. I found the tiger in the tree position helped a windy tummy and the slow rock back and forth as described above.

All advice is appreciated! Her burping doesn't seem to be an issue, it's all the other end!

We were told that if they're farting they're doing a good job of working the wind out themselves. But then again half of what we have been told is crap anyway

Well tongue tie has been snipped. E found it all a bit traumatic, along with her wind, so we've had a fair bit of crying this afternoon, but fingers crossed we see an improvement in her latch.

Would I be an idiot to start an online course that costs £270 at 24 weeks pregnant?

How long is the course? If it is something that lasts a while and will take a fair bit of time, I'd leave it. It all depends on what sort of baybee you get. Some people get the sort that allows them to write a doctoral thesis in the first 12 weeks, I got one that was a crap sleeper and I was too tired to focus on Anything more intellectual than Facebook for pretty much the first year.

It's one of those "as long as it takes" courses.

Do you think you can get most of it done before your baybee arrives? I found working on my college course hard going while on maternity leave before are arrived, there's no way I could be doing it now! I'm so glad I deferred till September!

bugs I suspect the 'contented baby' is Gina Ford. I confess, I actually very roughly follow her routines for Faithlet. Didn't start til 6 months though. With a refluxy, BF on demand baybee there seemed little point in trying a routine! She slept through from 6 weeks (off her own back) until the 4 month sleep regression hit.

Frank, not the nicest of days but I hope this is the answer to your feeding difficulties.

ginge it depends how motivated you are now. I wouldn't start it planning on finishing it while on mat leave personally!

Don't buy the book. It is a crock of shite written by a woman who never had a baby. It involves a strict routine which is all very well if you give birth to a baby who can tell the time. It is totally incompatible with establishing breastfeeding and will just make you miserable when your baby is awake after 20 minutes and the book says he was meant to have a two hour nap. The baby can't read the book.

If you get one that sleeps through at 12 weeks then you are indeed very lucky. It might have happened anyway without the book. However it isn't really developmentally appropriate to expect a baby that young to sleep right through. Most still need milk at night till 6 months minimum. Often longer. Minikit was 11 months when we stopped the last night feed. This didn't mean that he slept through, just that he didn't wake out of hunger.

I will say however that later on, routine became important. We had similar meal and nap times each day and it did help. But with a newborn you need to get to know your baby and their needs, not try to force them into a routine that someone else made up. Your own routine will emerge in time.

We've got The Baby Whisperer, which is routine based but not a strict timetable like GF. I've not had much of a chance to implement it yet, but much of what I've read says there's little point in trying to set a routine before 6 weeks.

Bugs a tongue tie is a little piece of skin on the underside of the tongue that restricts it's movement. In severe cases it can affect speech development as well as feeding. The snip basically involves taking a blunt pair of sterile scissors to the piece of skin. It's very quick and when they're still young not too traumatic. When they get older they have to do the procedure in hospital under an anaesthetic.

I used to alternate between the GF and Baby whisperer depending on how long Faithlet slept in the morning! It's helpful to have an idea of nap times and awake times. However I would say DO NOT READ THE BABY WHISPERER! She is mean, mean, mean and made me feel like a crap parent.

Baby whisperer also knows bog all about breastfeeding in my opinion.

I did think some of her breastfeeding stuff was a bit , but I like the rough idea of a routine of eat, activity, sleep.

My book recommendations are:

Baby calm
What mothers do
Life after birth
The wonder weeks
Mumsnet book about babies

If you are breastfeeding
The womanly art of breastfeeding
Baby led breastfeeding

Also no cry sleep solution had good pointers and baby led weaning also was a useful read.

I really liked The No Cry Sleep Solution. Really clear guidelines about what might work for you. Wonder weeks also have an app. Faithlet is currently in leap 8

Ewwww. I know we share a lot of personal info here but there is no need for that!

It's 6am here and I am tired. Bastard jet lag. Centime appears to have a messed up body clock too and mistook 5.30am for party time...