January 2014 Thread 17 - and the final babies will be here any day now!

[Frizz1986]

Thought i would start up the last thread before we move over to postnatal thread.

frizz Henry's shoulders click often when I lift him under his armpits! which freaks me out but he doesn't seem bothered! Don't worry about the NCT meetup. If they do end up trying to outdo each other ignore what they are saying. Every baby is completely different and you just can't compare their progression. Any concerns always talk to your hv, but my mum said to me if she had compared my progress with that of her friends babies she would have been really worried and I turned out fine (well, a tad loopy, but otherwise fine! )

humpty I had a bunch of four cuntpuffin bastard bum grapes after pushing! At 8 weeks they have finally shrunk right down, but I bleed with most bm now and feels like my ass is ripping in two each time too which is joyful! Think I have resigned myself to this being a permanent fixture in my life now! Awesome!

Ladies, I have done something a bit stupid. DS1 has been clamouring for one of those meerkat baby olegs for ages and I have gone on eBay and bought one of the furry fuckers.

In my defence it does look exactly like Cal who DS1 thinks should be called Oleg. Also MIL thought that he needed his own baby to look after and dredged up a terrifying tiny tears belonging to dps sister. It looks possessed and has crazy eyes. So I'm hoping that DS1 will feel a bit more love for Oleg and I can quietly dispose of chucky Timmy.

So the moral of this story is, until you're no longer sleep deprived go nowhere near eBay.

Glad I'm not the only bum grape harbourer!

Had a nice day today, I got up when I put her down after her 6.30am feed, so got breakfast in peace which was lovely, then went for weigh in, and she's 12lbs 4oz, still tracking 98th centile! She went miraculously back to sleep after weigh in and we went for a toddle around Blackheath and a coffee in the sunshine (me, not her).

Enormouse I have a relative who collects those fucking meerkat toys from the advert and constantly goes on about them on Facebook He's a grown man in his 50's and otherwise completely normal. I don't get it!

I'm also a grape harbourer weirdly they appeared a couple of weeks ago after having no problems for the first 7 weeks after birth. Slowly getting better though. At one point I swear the pain was worse than contractions.

DP has picked up the dreaded lurgy from somewhere and passed it on to me. I have an awful cough, sore throat, headache and temperature. Luckily Sylvie has been good as gold today. I know for a fact he will come in from work in a minute and mope around saying how ill he is and I'll end up sorting Sylvie out for the rest of the night, along with cooking tea and the rest of the housework. I'm winding myself up just thinking about it!

He's just come home and started cooking tea straight away

I feel guilty now

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Lol felix! Glad you were proved wrong - makes a change doesn't it!

humpty that sounds lush!

enormouse step away from eBay!!!

Well Henry isn't doing too badly after his vaccinations yesterday. He has however fed 8 times already today and been more vomity than usual. On outfit four already today! His poddle pod and travel cot arrived. I tried putting him in the pod in the travel cot. He tolerated it twice for 15 mins - he stayed awake despite the fact he had been asleep seconds before, but it's only day one. Really need him to nap somewhere other than me daytime as he is getting too heavy for me to carry him round with one arm now. Or at least reliably tolerate being popped down somewhere so I can cook actual food and have a bath without having to wait for DH to get home or it turning into a military operation!!! He does so well still overnight so I find it surprising he is such a Velcro baby still in the day.... Obviously don't want to cock up his night time sleeping by getting greedy and wanting him to sleep independently daytime too, but I can't live off chocolate much longer and would like to bath when I get up rather than waiting til the evening....!

That's really interesting maybe, I don't think I could do it with DD though as the only way to get her to sleep is to feed her.

During the night she only sleeps for 30 minutes or so, then wakes up screaming and only calms down if fed, during the day she'll only sleep on me, which means I don't ever get a break. Although there is no one to help me anyway, DH works long hours at a physically challenging job so I hate waking him, meaning I'm doing everything on my own from 11pm to 5pm the next day. Nearest family is 150 miles away and despite living here for a year now I'm so shy I only have a few friends and none closer enough to ask for help. I'm not really coping at all and spend most nights from 3am til 8am crying.

mrsg does your dh know your struggling? I know you don't want to wake him but I'm sure if he knew how tough it was he'd happily help out? If not why not visit family so they can help? It's tough but just remember it will get easier

He's taken her for 2 hours this evening so I could nap, she screamed the whole time! (he can usually settle her but she's been worse than usual since Sunday) He wouldn't mind me waking him but his workplace is dangerous and I worry about him injuring himself if he's overtired. She's ebf and won't take a bottle or dummy so there's not much he can do!

Oh mrsG she does sound quite difficult. You poor thing.
Can he take a few says off to help out?
Any friends or family that could come stay?
Where are you in the country?

Have u tried the usual swaddling, white noise, co-sleeping? How big is she as I can send you a swaddle blanket if she's still below 11lb or so as Lara has got too big.

You shouldn't be crying every day. X

Friends and family all work full time and can't get any time of until after April. We're going down for a long weekend this weekend so hopefully will get a chance to catch up a bit.

I swaddled her last night and she slept for 2 hours (then stayed awake from 3am to 7am) so we bought a groswaddle today but she won't settle for more than 10 minutes. We had a bath, baby massage and feed at 8, since then I've been in a darkened room with her, listening to white noise. Whenever she drifts off I hold her until I think she's in a deep sleep then put her down, 5-10 minutes later she's screaming.

Sometimes she'll sleep on my chest but she won't really sleep beside me and I'm so tired I'm not sure it's a good idea!

mrsgsr it sounds like she might have silent reflux to me. About 30mins-1hr after feeds is when the acid would be rising and causing her pain. Hence why she wants feeding again to soothe the pain and why she prefers to be upright rather than flat.

Does she sleep in a car seat? If so, that can also be a sign of the reflux as she would be more upright in there.
If you're using a Moses basket can you raise one end with books or pillows so she's more upright?
Trip to doctors tomorrow?

Hope you're getting some rest.

mrsg sorry things are so difficult for you at the moment. Do you have someone you can talk to about it all? It's hard when you are so far away from your family.

Think we are going through our first wonder week here. Definitely more unsettled than usual. Going into work today to see everyone which should be nice.

Question about getting petrol. I'm hoping to use the pay at pump but what do you do with the baby if you have to go into the shop? Do you take the baby which seems a faff or leave in the car which just seems wrong?

I leave in car unless there is a long queue. Especially now with a toddler to wrangle too.

I wouldn't leave her in the car on her own. I always go to pay at the pump ones if she's with me. But I usually try to be organised enough so I can get diesel when DH or one of the teens are with me.

I hadn't thought of silent reflux (although she had started throwing up more recently, is there such a thing as quiet reflux?) Her moses basket had been raised for a few weeks as it's the only way she'll go into it!

She slept for 2 lots of one hour last night which was quite nice, then another hour with her on my chest . I coped a lot better, possibly because of the messages on here, so thank you.

I haven't been able to get a GPs appointment, should I try the out of hours?

By out of hours I mean the walk in centre.

I plan on leaving him in the car if I need to and locking it

I don't know anything about reflux I'm afraid mrsg but if its anything like what I had in pregnancy I can understand the tears

MrsG go yo the walk in centre or tell the surgery you want a call back from your GP and they should speak to you over the phone. Sylvie has been diagnosed with reflux and would cry and cry and I had no idea what was wrong with her. She's now on infant gaviscon which is working wonders. Be aware if they prescribe gaviscon that it makes babies very constipated so push for a prescription of lactulose along side it, as this will keep them regular. Otherwise they are just replacing one problem with another! You can get lactulose over the counter too but you're better off fibbing and saying it's for you otherwise they won't sell you it sorry you're finding it so hard

MrsG re: getting a GP appointment - our midwives told us if we were having problems getting a GP appointment to phone the midwife and she would call them and get it sorted - if they can push for it on your behalf that might help?

I think Sylvie has caught our bug She's really unsettled and crying, but sleepy and she's a bit warm. Also around her eyes and nose is red. We have some infant calpol suitable from 2 months onwards, but she spits it straight out with the stupid syringe.

Does anyone have any other ideas how to get her to take it? It's a bit thick to put in a bottle.

Mrsg did you go to the walk in centre?

You might have to do it drop by drop, felix.