October 2014 - am I the first one here...?

[makesamesswhenstressed]

Just got 2 very very (very very very) faint lines. The magical due date doo-dah says 3rd Oct is the magic number. Who knows? It could all go tits up still, but if you, like me, suspect you might be in the early stages it would be nice to chat.

I'll start the list shall I?

MakesAMessWhenStressed DC2, EDD 3rd Oct

Congratulations office. My dad and his partner had my sister at When they were both 42, also a surprise, and have loved it. You have built in actual babysitters! I was 25 though and lived in a different county so was of little help...

Feel free to vent to us. Must have been a bit of a shock if you weren't actively trying.

Oh I just noticed I have a due date buddie! Was 8 days earlier than my original dd with my first so hoping I won't have to wait until the 5th!

Yikes officelady! That's quite an age gap - how are you feeling about it all? How is your DH/P ?

And Munday, you're mad. I feel rather green this morning, but may have something to do with DS keeping us up most of the night with bad dreams about a BIG cat with BIG eyes and BIG horns and BIG eyebrows

Hello, tentative hello

EDD 6th October it will be my second

I have a 2yo DD and had 4 mcs (3 before DD and one last October)

Hi girls, I wonder if you could help me and give some advice, work related. I will be 5 weeks tomorrow. I'm a teacher and just before I found out about BFP I was offered a big promotion, starting in September (when I will be going on maternity leave) I didn't really want the promotion but was kind of not given a choice. Anyway now, I won't be doing the promotion and I won't even be going back to work after the summer holidays as my maternity leave will begin then. My boss it talking everyday about planning for my position next year (I would have been head of the new secondary section of our school) he wants me to get involved in decisions about new employees, etc, etc and I'm starting to panic a bit as I know I won't be there (unless god forbid something goes wrong) I don't even want to work here at all after having a baby so I will probably leave for good at end of this school year. The thing is, when do I tell him?! And how?! (He asked me every month since sept if/when I want kids and I said always 'a few years' as I didn't want to share personal info with him) I'd normally wait till end of March to tell him but by then it will be very very tight for him to advertise and find a solid replacement in time, as it will be only a week or two away from Easter when teachers have a deadline to give notice if they are leaving at end f year. Agh..hope that wasn't too complicated to understand..I just am feeling really stressed as literally everyday my boss is saying 'so for next year...next year when you are head of...' He's already said so often 'you're not leaving next year, I need you..' Etc. the pressure. Someone please tell me what to do! I'm totally stuck! X

So sorry such a long post!

it is illegal to ask about children, so you could have sued him there...

i would smile sweetly and make all the plans he wants and then announce the pregnancy later... they can't do anything to you

I agree with tiny. I think you have to protect your interests. You may change your mind as want to go back. And even if you don't, you have the right to share the information when you're ready!

Oh, and welcome tiny!

How do you think your boss will take the news Tiny? Not well I take it!? Obviously ou are under no obligation to tell him until you are ready, but for me it kind of depends on the working relationship you have. If I had a good relationship with my boss and that was the situation, I think I would want to tell him sooner rather than later.

Just got to get this off my chest re dh. So last night ds woke up being sick. He's not a sicky child at all, this is only the second time in nearly 2.5 years that he's vomited like this. We'd only just gone to bed so both got up to clean him up and then I bought him in to bed with me and dh went in to the spare room. Ds was sick on and off between about midnight and 4am. I got through 5 towels and numerous new tops for him. He wouldn't settle, just wanted me to read to him and cuddle him (in between sorting out the vomit) he cried every time he was sick. He eventually stopped about 4, and dozed off for a while. I slept fitfully as every time he stirred I woke up expecting him to be sick again. Dh slept through all of this, and despite already saying he would get up with ds he slept until 9, then just got up, and a nice long shower and only then came to find us, announcing he needed to leave for work in the next half an hour. So I had half an hour to sort out crap loads of washing and have a mega quick shower. He did give ds some breakfast but didn't even clean up afterwards.

I burst in to tears and he has promised to come home early but I'm so upset with him! I'm feeling rotten anyway as I have a nasty cold, plus already exhausted which happened to me when I was pg before. I know he didn't realise that I was up all night and that ds had been sick again, but he knows it's never a restful night when ds sleeps with us anyway. So I can't believe he had a massive lie in and just left me to it like that :-(

Sorry for the rant, that does feel better though. It also scared me as I know it's only going to get worse!!

Hi all, I have very little symptoms at the moment slight nausea, bigger boobs only a little tender, iam hoping to get a early scan soon just for reassurance everything is in the right place as before my dd I had mc and a ectopic so still very nervous at the moment, I will book a booking appointment once I have seen a heart beat, just dont want to rush into things just yet hope everyone is doing ok.

Hope this one is a sticky one, iam currently on maternity leave and am a little nervous about going back and telling them i will be going off again x

Hi everyone, please may I join, I've only just found this.

I'm due no.5 on the 1st Oct, I already have ds11, dd9 and dtd7 and dts7 so I've got a bit of a gap now and feel just as nervous as first time round, also this will be my 4th c-section so a bit concerned about that.

I have my booking in appointment on the 4th Feb which I was really surprised at, I thought I would've had a few more weeks as I'll only just be 6 weeks, still not complaining.

Congratulations to all of you and wishing all of us happy and healthy pregnancies

Thanks everyone for your advice. I think I just have to go along with it for now. Seeing the docs for 1st appointment next week (I'm in Germany so not sure what they do here yet!) think I will reassess job situation after that, I really don't want to let my boss down and leave him in a difficult situation but I'm not ready to tell yet. I may do it early march instead of end if all going well. Thanks for support, it's so difficult not being able to discuss with friends and family so I'm glad u guys are there x

Tory sorry you had such a rough night, I think lack of sleep is the worst for making you feel crap. Your DH probably just didn't think...have a good rest tonight and let him to the hard work!

LittleBear88 DC1 EDD 1st Oct
Tory79 DC2 EDD 1st Oct
OfficeLady DC3 EDD 1st Oct
Thefourcees DC5 EDD 1st Oct
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mrsb87 DC1 EDD 2nd Oct
Aisha18 DC1 EDD 2nd Oct
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MakesAMessWhenStressed DC2 EDD 3rd Oct
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Tweetinat DC2 EDD 3rd Oct
MrsHende DC2 EDD 4th Oct
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McRedHead DC3 EDD 5th October
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Flipfantasia DC3 EDD 8 Oct
Freyathecatt DC2 EDD 9 Oct

Just added myself.

Aisha - I think leaving it until early March is fine. I know 12 weeks is a sort of magic number, but by 10 weeks you'll be pretty established

I've just had a chat with my MW - mostly me doing work for her, but did get a chance to have a bit of a chat about things going forwards and it was nice and I feel really confident in her, but feel a bit wobbly now. Guess it's all getting more real and, well, hormones and previous PTSD is an interesting combination. I'm coping with it by doing silly cleaning (wiping down skirting boards and washing machine seals anyone?) and watching one of DS's fave films with him.

Hi everyone, I haven't got any symptoms at all except for being exhausted. I didn't have morning sickness during either of my previous pregnancies either. People think thats good but to be honest I could do with losing a bit of weight and the physical symptoms would be reassuring!

Last time I told my Dad and sister on the basis that if something went wrong I would need their help. Sadly my mum is dead. When it did go wrong I was glad I had told my family for an emotional and practical point of view. This time I told my sister straight off and she doesn't think I should tell my dad as he would worry. I'd like him to know so I'm not sure what to do.

I've got my booking in date through for 25 Feb and I've booked a private scan for 27th.

Aischa, if you're planning on leaving anyway, why not tell him you definitely do not want the promotion and leave it at that for now. That way he has time to find someone for the position before the Easter crunch time, but you have some flexibility regarding giving your notice for your current position?

Tory79, what a rough night, how's your son doing now? My husband does this too- sleeps the night away, then moans that he's tired. Diddums.

Thanks Freya and Makesamess, I think you are both right...I will probably get up my courage after my docs appointment next week and all being well I will turn down the promotion..not sure how I will explain it ('I have no desire whatsoever to work even 1% more or harder than I do now, whatever money or status you may be offering') then I might tell him I'm pregnant at 10 weeks ish as a sign of goodwill.

On the positive side...how amazing we are all pregnant! Our bodies are so amazing huh! I'm trying not to get tooo excited early on, but it's hard

Hello, i'm so pleased to be asking to join after lurking and posting on infertility for a while.

DC2 due date 7th Oct. Will be crossing fingers and watching knickers for quite a few weeks yet.

Oh, and I am ravenous all the time yet strangely unable to identify what I'd like to eat.

Hello everyone! Lots of new folk since I last looked .

I can't remember who said they were wishing they felt sick but I wholeheartedly agree!! Just desperate for any symptom really.

Aisha, I wonder if you could say that you don't wish to let the school down and that your family circumstances may change in the next year so it may be best to employ someone else in the post - vague! You might be meaning you or your partner, you might be hinting to relocation - lots of things! (and if your boss knows you well s/he may well realise that you are trying to do them a favour and will guess what you are talking about but won't press you any further) My boss knew about my mc and when we were discussing my role for this academic year (teacher here too!), I decided that I would tell him that we were hoping for another baby in the near future and that he might want to take that into account. But, I know him well, trust him and like him - all important, I knew he wouldn't take advantage of that information.

MrsCR - me too.

I also seem to have been struck by my old foe, insomnia.

God that was a tedious side effect of pregnancy last time. Don;t seem to remember it kicking in this early though. All my memories of first trimester were of going to bed at 8pm and not getting up until 8am.
Chance would be a fine thing now with a toddler - and now insomnia too?! Life can be so cruel!

I feel like I could sleep for England, and actually don't remember that from last time my toddler is having some kind of crazy annoying sleep regression or something. Going mental at bed time and waking in the night and refusing to go back to bed. My OH is in the spare room with him now, upside to this pregnancy is he is taking on more of the night duties because I just can't cope!

Welcome newcomers, we're starting to fill up. I'm never going to be able to keep up at this rate.

Morning all, symptoms are nausia mostly in the morning and last thing. Feel really icky now actually. Exhaustion and bigger tender boobs are also making an appearance.
Aisha can't you tell them you arent ready for this particular promotion? If I were your bissvi would appreciate the honesty and it will give him plenty of time to rearrange. I know its our right not to say anything abiut being pg until we're comfortable to do so but you can tell him any other reason just to help them out.
I told my manager at Christmas that we were hoping to have a baby this year and since then we have worked together at finding cover within our existing staff and training him up. I certainly easnt expecting to get pg in our first month of trying so im really glad I told her this was our plan. Its actually working out in my favour as training him up will mean I can have every other weekend off!

Bissvi? Haha I meant boss