October 2014 - am I the first one here...?

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Just got 2 very very (very very very) faint lines. The magical due date doo-dah says 3rd Oct is the magic number. Who knows? It could all go tits up still, but if you, like me, suspect you might be in the early stages it would be nice to chat.

I'll start the list shall I?

MakesAMessWhenStressed DC2, EDD 3rd Oct

Ah I had forgotten the acupuncture - I loved that (I had the same lovely acupuncturist in both pregnancies).

Trouble yes, I've heard UCH is much better for high risk pregnancies. Having said that, one of my best friends just had her twin boys at the Whit just over a month ago (5 weeks prem - first birth and a c-section) and had a good experience overall (well, as 'good' as these things go - they're just over a month so she's still in the sleep deprived and constant bfing stage!). They also treated her for ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome in her early weeks as it was an IVF conception.

Hope you sis and her DC are ok though. It's not like a lawsuit can fix anything but I hope it means others have a good experience (maybe it did impact on my friend's care?).

Ps mum2kiss great that no more smears!

Pebbles when I lived in the UK the early scans I had were private reassurance scans. My first NHS one was always my 12 week scan. With DD, I was told I could get a scan at the early pregnancy unit due to my previous mc. But I felt bad for using up that resource iykwim (when no cramping or bleeding or anything other than my anxiety) so just stuck with a private scan.

Ok it's 4.40am with me - been awake nearly 2 hours - need to get back to sleep or it's going to be a nightmarish day!

Flip and Trouble thanks so much for the info, it's always off putting if you know someone who's had a bad experience
It is slightly complicated by the fact that I actually work for the Whitt! Won't tell you what as (!), but on one hand by booking there im going to risk people finding out earlier than I would like, on the other hand I know that if they know im a member of staff they're going to try extra hard not to screw up!
Pebbles you can organise an early scan privately, we're going to organise one for the week after next by which time I'll be 6wks, I understand that if they detect a heartbeat at that point the percentage chance of miscarriage is reduced to less than 10%, think they're about £100 ish?

Morning everyone! this Ocotber bus is so busy I love it. I am also intrigued about these early scans.....i am guessing this is something you have to pay for and is it expensive?

Also interesting convo about hospitals, my local one in East London is great for my bowel condition but I've read terrible things about the maternity ward there and so a little worried about that. I agree with Flip though, that so many hospitals in London are hit and miss so wherever I go I don't expect to have a great experience which is really bad.

How do you book NCT classes? I am defo doing that, my sister still friends with her group and as someone who has no friends with babies or even trying I really want to meet other women going through the same thing.

Sorry I had not read loopy response about private scans before I replied. Yes heartbeat develops by six weeks so miscarriage risk is reduced to 5% then, £100 is not bad but I would be so worried if they didn't find a heartbeat and convince myself of the worst, so difficult to know what to do.

www.nct.org.uk/courses
I used to be a teacher, they really are worth it especially if you want to meet people.

Loopylu84- We're down in SW London. The GP was lovely, but it really was fairly pointless. "Are you taking folic acid & vitamin D? Do you know there are foods you should avoid? Great, an appointment will be made for about 10 - 11 weeks." A box ticking exercise really, but at least I'm referred! Was surprised I won't see a midwife at all until then. But I suppose if all goes well there should be no need?

We'll be paying £99 for a baby bond scan in Wimbledon I think. Will be going at 7 weeks when they should be able to find a heartbeat. I couldn't cope with the worry if it was too early!

How early for NCT classess Giraffeski. We want to do them too. When is it a good idea to book them?

Thegirlwhouk will you be having your baby at St George's? I was born there :-)

I just found the baby bond scans on ultrasound-direct.com there is one near us I'm seriously thinking about getting one done for 8 weeks? I am going to wait until my GP appointment on Friday though and see when she says my midwife appointment will be.

What are your reasons for wanting one done? This is my first pregnancy and I have no symptoms so I want to make sure everything is okay, I also want to start getting excited about it and tell my friends and family but don't feel I can with this constant worry.

Not St George's no. Kingston I think.

We're getting a scan as we really want to tell our families, but it just all seems too unreal at the moment! If we see the heartbeat, we'll tell our close families. Just reassurance!
I think £100 is quite reasonable if you can afford it. Some places offer Saturday appointments too so no need for time of work. I'm desperate not to take time off. The minute I do, my colleagues will guess!!!

Hello all, what a busy thread welcome to all the new BFPs and congratulations.

First thing I want to say is if you go for an early scan just be aware embryos do develop at slightly different rates in the very early stages, which is why the 12 week scan is set then as it tends to level out for most people. If you do want an early scan good reasons to do it are to check for multiple pregnancies or if you are just a total worrier BUT I wouldn't go before 8 weeks, although yes in theory a heartbeat is present from 6 wks I've been told they can be hard to detect and then that just causes you more stress. Plus there is very little to see in the early stages, so do think hard about what you think the benefits would be for you/what would you gain - if it's just knowing it is in the right place then great but be aware there is a limit to what they can actually tell you early on. All totally personal choice but there seem to be a few people getting into a bit of a frenzy - try try try to relax, easier for me as its second time around maybe, but don't let these early days worry you and stop poas-ing or you'll drive yourself bonkers

Hi cakebaker! Thank you for the advice and very welcome it is indeed :-) you are right but I was thinking no earlier then 8 weeks and only if I think I cannot wait until 12 week scan, I just think I will be a nervous wreak by the time 12 week scan date arrives lol

Thegirlwhouk I think £100 is okay as well I just assumed it would be like £500, I know what you mean about Sats as well but unfortunately for me DH works on Sats gggrrrrr so think I'd have to book day off work during week which is another reason I am not sure.

Will speak to DH later and see what he thinks, like I said I am going to wait until I get my date for 12 week scan first because the GP is dating me a week later then I am i might actually get one earlier anyway.

Hello!
I'm due on 3rd October, my first dc, so just joining this thread. Got the BFP about 10 days ago but feeling pretty nervous about the whole thing so have been just watching this thread and reading the forum til now. Decided to bite the bullet and join in!
Anyone else feeling a bit overwhelmed by the whole thing? Really want to talk to another mum, but we've decided not to tell our family til after my midwife apt next week.
Look forward to getting you know you all!

Hello can I join in?

Got a BFP yesterday EDD probably 18/19 October

This is #2 for me.

For those thinking of scans - it's very nice and reassuring to do, I got one at 8 weeks with DS. Feeling more relaxed this time so might give it a miss, but not sure I can hold out till 12 weeks!

Need to get onto the business of booking in with GP in the next few weeks!

Hi Sunny and congratulations! I am totally overwhelmed and keeping have little teary breakdowns of OMG I cant do this! Or I forget for a few mins when busy at work then have an overwhelming OMG I'm pregnant already feeling. After 7 days since BFP does seem to be getting less tho and a bit more normal now. We told quite a few people tho which has helped.

Early scans sound so exciting. Not sure where the nearest place would be to go private where I am in Scotland. Guess we just have to hold out for 12 weeks. Eek

Those October BFPs are coming thick and fast! Congrats everyone! :)

Loopy do you think it has anything to do with the miserable January weather with us all curled up at home, not wanting to go out...

I do think that might be it Binky! Shit weather combined with nil money equates to making your own amusement at home. . . . hahaha!

Talking of the weather, we're all going to be reasonably big during the summer !

Good point loopy I did think about that, I hate the heat as it is never mind when heavily pregnant plus the tube in summer is unbearable so not sure how I will cope with that one, eeekkkkk!

You won't need to worry Bump-the tube workers will probably still be on strike anyway!

The flip side to it is, that come spring/summer next year we'll all have (keeping everything crossed) lovely little jolly 6-8 month olds to enjoy the sunshine with!

Hello! Nervously joining!

I got my BFP yesterday, first pregnancy and due 21 October. I'm terrified but tentatively excited.

I'm in Kingston.

Hello all the newbies and congratulations!

office and loopylu I'm in northeast London (Clapton, hence the name) so watching the hospital chat with interest. From older MN threads it all seems very mixed - the only consistent recommendation is that it's worth paying for a private room as the wards get very crowded.

I used to live right by the Whit. I know one person who gave birth there and had a good experience. I mean the care was good, her baby was very unwell (but all better now).

Hello can I join.
Edd 18/10
Very excited as this has taken a while but nervous as I have had 2 chemical pregnancies. This feels different though so fingers crossed.