August 2014 - Baking summer babies in our ovens.

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Ha! That's really funny! My DH read me an article yesterday (albeit from the Sun!) that said mothers who have a few units of alcohol a week have happier babies! I did explain to him that it doesn't mean it's the alcohol that makes the babies happier, prob something to do with the personality characteristics of the mothers (a little more laid back maybe?) That said I couldn't even contemplate alcohol right now as most things make me feel sick. I wouldn't rule out a small glass of red wine later in my pregnancy but prob won't even bother as I'm not that fussed about it anyway. My friend had a small glass of wine every Sunday and it didn't do her dd any harm!

Dippy eggs I will not be ruling out later on either! But another thing that would make me sick right now. If it's lion stamped then they're vaccinated against Salmonella. I think they are just very cautious, I mean how many people do you know who have had Salmonella poisoning? Do what's right for you.

Second the well done for Jenbee! I managed a gym session on Tues but cancelled Fri as felt too sick. I'm hoping I can do one gym and one yoga class each week and that'll be an achievement right now!

I feel really low today. I've just screamed like an old fish wife at my dd and her cousins for nothing more than being normal children and being noisy. I've got a huge sense of doom that it's all gone wrong again and I can't shake it. I haven't felt sick yesterday or today. I don't think I can last till my next scan on Wednesday, and I just don't know what I'll do if it has happened again, I don't think I can go through it again.
I'm sorry to offload here but if I mention it in rl I get told I'm being paranoid. I so hope I am but I'm convinced I'm not. I just want to cry.

Sorry to hear that NameToBeDecided . It must be so hard when things have gone wrong in the past but try to stay hopeful. I stopped feeling sick yesterday (and I'm only 7 weeks ish) after being unable to get out of bed for a week I felt so rough. Also feel ok today. So I guess it's normal for things to change. I'm just using it as an opportunity to get some things done. Good luck at your scan on Wednesday, sending you lots of good wishes.

Name please offload here if you can't in rl, it can be kinda hard trying to speak to my DH about it as he's not feeling what I'm feeling, or as emotional or whatever, so he sorta looks at me with a blank stare of 'is this woman crazy?' at times!
Try to keep busy and keep your mind off it if you can.

Misery it's a relief that other people get the 'are you crazy' looks as well. I keep thinking it's hormones that are making me so irrational today, let's hope. I was about this stage last time but didn't find out till 12 week scan so I guess that's playing on my mind a lot.
I just went and locked myself in the loo and had a good sob and strangely I feel a bit better for it. [Smile]

And Thank you for your kind words.

Ah, Name, sorry you're feeling worried. Perfectly understandable. And feel free to vent on here. That's what this group is for.

I was a total bitch to DH yesterday when my symptoms dropped because I was scared. It's natural.

And the thing with liver / pate for me is that too much Vitamin A is a definite risk. Whereas salmonella / listeria from eggs and steak etc are so remote as to be almost unheard of, so I'm happy to take that 'risk'.

Oh, and I'll have the occasional glass of something alcoholic after about 13 weeks, like I did last time. Not as much as a few units a week though!

I don't think I could stop having runny eggs if I tried! Don't see the point in eggs otherwise!! But each to their own, it depends how comfortable you feel I think. Re: pâté, etc I am not against having it either as (from what I understand) it is the levels of Vitamin A that are the (potentially) risky part, and even at that, you'd have to consume a staggering amount of it to cause any damage to the baby. As someone who adores pâté though, that's not beyond the realms of possibility!!

When it comes to alcohol, with DD I had a glass of wine maybe once every month or two, mostly cause I sort of forgot about having it. This time, I had a glass and a half at my brother & sister-in-law's Christmas party last weekend & felt so horribly sick during the night that I think I'll steer clear now.

I haven't posted since I joined, but just wanted to say to name and anyone else worrying about symptoms, that I've been worrying just as much, maybe more! I've had practically no symptoms, and any symptoms I have had I've convinced myself are just in my head, like feeling a little bit queasy. I should count myself lucky, but have been feeling that I'm just the kind of person who would get sickness etc so it must be bad news.

Anyway, today (11 weeks) me and DH heard the baby's heart beat on a cheap fetal monitor we bought online, and it was the biggest relief Symptoms don't mean everything. They can come and go, be there all the time or not at all, and everyone's different. I know I'm not out of the woods yet, but for today I feel relieved.

Hey ladies! feeling properly grim today and sorry for myself too!! Just had to food shop @ Tesco and never again feeling this sick it was torture...bleurgghhhh!!!! Its certainly true about symptoms coming and going for me this time around.

Name - hope your ok, try not to worry. Glad having a little cry helped, sometimes just writing down how you feel makes you feel better. We are here to hold your hand

I didnt know about the lion stamp on eggs, but prob wont eat them anyway as they are not appealing to me atm!!! No alcohol either, Im such a lightweight it only takes me one glass of vino to feel tipsy!!! lol.

I need some prayers getting up in the morning too ladies its going to hurt!!!!!!

Actually when self employed you cannot earn any money. As soon as you go back to work you lose smp. I'm self employed and if I don't work I don't earn. I know of so many teachers who work out ttc around when baby would be due and time off. I get judged due to how little time I have of as mat leave. But I have no choice. Sorry if that upset anyone. It's just my personal observation of people I know.

On a brighter note. Had early scan this morning, saw heartbeat. Measuring 7+5 so 4 days behind. But that's fine as size and dates change throughout. So very happy.

Sorry to contradict, but it's intended to be helpful, I promise! If you are self-employed, (I am too) any money you earn in "a self employed capacity will not affect your SMP". wahmweb.co.uk/articles/getting-started/your-rights-on-maternity-leave/

Having finished maternity pay in the summer I double (and triple!) checked this with my accountant.

I've been doing that too. Moan cos I have no symptoms then if I do feel a bit queasy I think it's in my head. Why does it all have to be so stressful? I'd love to be able to relax and enjoy this pregnancy.
Glad everything's looking good missvaughan

missv

Judgey people will judge you whatever you do! I think going back early is hard on the mum but all the evidence is that good quality childcare by someone other than the mum has no ill effect on the baby.

I totally agree, Shak. My daughter started nursery in September, when she was 9 months old & she loves it! I think she would have liked it earlier too! She's only in 2 days a week, but I may up it to 3 days. The only downside is the sniffles & coughs she picks up but it's good for the immunity I guess!

Oh, and on the subject of childcare....this seems totally bonkers but we've been told we need to tour daycare centres and get the bubs name down for a place ASAP as the infant places in good places are in such high demand. We only need a place from January 2015 probably but apparently we have to start now - it all seems so far away and abstract right now!

Anyone else getting on waiting lists already????

MissV, that's great news re your scan. :-)

Jo, thanks for confirming that. I was getting concerned briefly, thinking my SE friends had made a mistake.

And yes, I'm the same re symptoms...whinge about feeling grim or whinge that I feel ok! Poor DH doesn't know what to say!

I'm getting lots of stretching pains today, and also had an agonising sneeze while walking downstairs. Ouchy!

Fab news missv glad all is ok

Can I just ask a really dumb q - if Im starting self employed in Jan...can I claim any smp when bubba arrives?? I have no clue and tbh dont know where to start with even registering!!!!

Hi All,

name my symptoms completely disappeared and I was so panicky that when they did come back DP got all excited... Was weird to be happy I was being sick!

My sick feelings seem to have ramped up the past two days, I was supposed to do a tesco shop yesterday but couldn't face all the food so did an online click and collect thing- it was a life saver to jut pick it up today an be home all in the space of 10 minutes! Now lying on the sofa feeling very sick wondering how I'm going to have the energy to take down the Christmas decorations.

Has anyone else got the Sunday blues- going back to work tomorrow after two weeks off is going to be hard! My job involves ALOT of walking and only sitting down at lunch so where will I fit in my lovely afternoon nap I've been getting used to... Ha.

Lucy, you will still be able to claim SMP. I think every woman on maternity leave is entitled to this. This money is paid by the government so even if you're employed, your employer pays you the money (about £135 a week) & then the government reimburses them, if that makes sense.

Regarding registering as self employed, I think the process is fairly simple. I'm afraid I can't help though, as I had to go down the route of registering as a limited company & doing the whole annoying process of VAT set up, etc!

I know Countdown I.m desperate to feel properly sick again although I guess I could count irrational tears and tantrums as hormonal and therefore a symptom??
I have been ridiculously thirsty this afternoon tho.

I'm in VC investment HungryHorace, and thanks everyone else for the comments, useful link WeeJo08. It's not so much the weekly money, it's having to take time off and stop work, abandoning an business which has taken hard work to build up. Listen, anyway, I'm NOT complaining, we all make our choices in life. The thread just suddenly really got me thinking about it and in a bit of a panic -I think I'm still slightly in denial about what is going to happen! Sure it will all work out. They way I feel with worry about the baby at the moment (with no real grounds to worry!) - I'll just be so pleased if it arrives healthy.

On a completely different note, I bought some travel sickness wrist bands yesterday - not sure they are making a bit of difference!

DH and I went to John Lewis yesterday, suddenly I saw baby clothes and thought they were the cutest thing in the world. I have NEVER had thoughts like that before. Good old hormones, seems like they will actually give me a maternal instinct!

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Clarissa, I really wasn't maternal until DD came along and, in all honesty, I'm still not hugely arsed about other people's children! It's very different when it's your own child.

I have no idea what VC investment is, but it sounds impressive. I get what you're saying about your client base though. Do you mainly work from home, or do you have to visit clients a lot?

Lucy, have you been employed recently? Look up maternity allowance on the .gov.uk website and it'll explain what you can claim for if you're not working / self employed.

Ok thanks weejo and hungry - no previous employment Ive been a sahm after DS3 and decided to register as cm - just wasnt sure if I had to earn a certain amount of money before I could claim smp? We are ok on DH wages at the moment anyway inc tax credits so I guess if I did get anything they would deduct it off tax credit?!?! oh its very confusing!!!

I will have a look online once the boys are back at school and its a bit quieter