BFP wishes came true - thread 3

[RedRobin1]

A big fat welcome party for twinkle and just another thread for us all to keep in touch

Red .. Practise your sympathetic sad face for when she tells you all about the fun and games of 2am wake ups, which should start for her.... Any day now!

I'm awful at posting these days, sorry girls! But I've just spent a lovely wee hour reading back some of my old posts on the ttc threads and getting all emotional :) You lot gave me such support when I needed it, and were the only ones who truly understood how I felt. There was definitely some heartache for most of us at some point, but some amazing highs too. What a roller coaster! Just wanted to share the love :) and no I haven't been drinking lol.

Awww ?? wee I am always reminiscing and now after reading your post,I can't stop staring at the little person snoring sleeping next to my bed and wondering how long she made me wait and how totally worth it she is

Making me broody for another! Which reminds me it's been awhile since I wrote this sentence but 'AF has arrived'

The first one post childbirth - sigh! Thought she won't as I'm still bf but the witch has come in all it's heavy glory! Weirdly not painful.

Aw red my first af was so so heavy too :(

I'm exceedingly broody just now too lol :)

Is there anyone not on the fb group yet? Twinkle?

Hey girls, is it ok if I don't post on FB as I don't really use it....

My friend is going through a terrible time TTC... 3 mcs in 18 months, horrendous and I feel so bad for her as I understand how she feels.

I'm 30 weeks on Thursday!

I'm not on fb either as not using it much

30weeks :0) twinkle that is amazing...i remember starting to count down the weeks at this point and everything starts getting real

Sorry about your friend... It must be so hard for her. women who go through all these ttc struggles and the horror of miscarriages are made of extremely strong stuff. I cannot begin to imagine what she must be going through

Hello it's a bit quiet on here - how is everyone getting on?

I'm a bit teary today...dd has moved into her room tonight. I miss her she seems to be fine though and sleeping much better. Have an empty space next to my bed where she should be booooooooooooohooooo!

I used to get embarrassed and irritated when my mum got all soppy over me growing up, moving out and getting married and having a baby and now I can see myself doing the same to dd

Aw twinkle I'm sorry about your friend :(
I can't believe you're 30 weeks already!! I'm so excited for you!

Red how was her first night then? Bet you were up and down checking her even though the monitor was fine :) I did with ds :)

I'm busy busy just now! Booking holiday, organising birthday for ds1, doing a course, sorting house extention (with a view to fitting in a dc4 in the next 2 years!) and the day to day madness of 3 children and an offshore husband :)

Oh it didn't go so well wee.

So as I mentioned previously dd is going through her 4 month sleep regression and has gone from waking up once at night to waking up 4/5 times and more recently 6 times a night and she wants comforting / nursing back to sleep.

I am on week 6 of these nightly wake ups and last night she woke up 7 times and burnt all bridges with me! I had to bring her back in at 4am and co-sleep as couldn't do the feed to sleep anymore! She would literally go on the boob and fall asleep in 5mins but it would kill to wake up every hour to 45mins at night-go to her room-get her out-feed-sleep and then get myself back to sleep before she wakes up all over again!

So today for the first time she's had a bit of tough love. She went down at 7pm woke up at 8.20pm and for the first time I didn't get her out of the cot to cuddle her or feed her. I just patted her and left the room (even though she was screaming) and let her cry it out. I felt awful but she has eventually settled after 15-20mins of patting at intervals. Am I bad for doing this at 5 months? I feel rotten!

I didn't want to use CIO but we have really tried to be patient and I need some sleep

Ofcourse your not a bad mum red, we all teach our point/ limit and it's out job to decide what to do, my dd2 had started to get worse then didn't want her morning milk and I thought no I'm stopping this now, it only took a few day and she's brilliant now, the last week she's been sleeping 7-8 or 8:30!!! But when we started when she was around that 5/6 months we got her from 7-6. Consistency is the key though, don't do it one day and revert back the next as it will all be for nothing, make the decision and stick with it, she definatly does not need milk every hour, she just enjoys snuggling obviously which is nice but there's a time and place, she does need to learn to self settle too so don't feel bad, the way I thought is I wouldn't be a good mum in the day with only a few hours sleep every night, grumpy and short tempered so it was worth it, if it makes you feel better it's not easy for anyone and there's no right or wrong but my dd2 is the biggest koala you could ever meet, so loving and cuddly and I'm her favourite it didn't change anything x

Oh red that's rough! I didn't realise you were still bf too and popping her in her own room! Brave woman.

I think co-sleeping is the way to go if it means you get sleep. And fwiw I think what you did with CIO was fine. It's not like you left her to scream, you went back in to reassure her. Which really that's all she wants/needs, not the actual milk.

It'll probably be tough for a few nights but like kitty says, keep going.

Ds2 goes down between 7.30 and 8pm and sleeps til anywhere between 5am and 6am. If its before 5.15 then I bring him in with me and he'll usually doze off for an extra half hour. Ds1 is up between 5.45 and 6am anyway so it's always been an early start for me. It's just sheer bloody luck I think that z sleeps at night, or else I'd be permanently exhausted. Daytime naps however are like goldust :)

Aww you guys made me cry! Just read the last few posts and was thinking back to ttc and how bloody lucky I am.

red we've had S in her own room for a little while, at first I was sad but now really like the fact I can have a lamp on in my room and don't have to creep around as much! S has been sleeping really well lately (by our standards!) - one or two wake ups for short breast feeds usually and otherwise sleeping approx 7-7. There have been some rougher nights and she has been through phases of waking earlier or even having a little lie in like this morning! I try and keep things consistent and I don't let her leave her nursery unless it's 7am, so I won't cosleep or bring her to our room. I'm still trying to only breast feed her a maximum of twice a night as well, like I tried to do in the regression period. It's hard to do that when sleep is bad though.

What's really amazing is she has suddenly got much better as self settling! I never thought that would happen, ever, and suddenly she has managed to get herself off to sleep at night from "chatting"/moaning. It's only happened a handful of times this week but I'm so pleased! It's given me faith so that if things get tough again at night, I just need to be strong and patient and ride it out until she gets better at it again!

So basically I'm managing to get by without leaving her to wail, but if she is doing a mild cry/moan sound, I leave her to see which way it goes!

She's also worryingly close to being on the move and she is just under 6 months - she's managing to work her way across the floor as I speak! Did anyone use a playpen (baby prison!)?

Thank you girls really needed to read that. After I wrote that long post feeling completely awful dd totally surprised me and woke up just once at night but slept through the rest! That was like a miracle in what seems like a long time! So we have decided to persist with the tough love this whole week and set times. So far she's learning to settle herself off to sleep and now I have gotten a little more immune to her moaning cries and can differentiate the 'serious pick me up' cry to the 'i just need to have a whinge' cry.

We are now doing the same as you alex - just two feeds a night. So feed at 6.30am then at 1 or 2am and then at 5 or 6am! The 5am feed guarantees an extra two hour sleepy baby. Which means dd sleeps from 7-7 or 8am.

I would like to drop that 5am feed and switch to just one feed at night at 3am but we will push that one next month once she starts weaning.

Alex baby prison
We are in two minds about it. Everyone we have spoken to has said its good to get one second hand as not worth the money if your dd doesn't like it. A travel cot is also a good substitute for the prison :)

Also wanted to ask if a black out blind will help them sleep better? Dds room gets a lot of light and the curtains are not lined. Should we invest in those baby roller blind things that you can cut to measure? Not sure if it would help?

We have black out blinds although they are cream and dd2 has the sun on hers until quite late, in all honesty they don't make the room that dark but maybe it's be worse without?! It's still quite light when I put her to bed though, with curtains might help though as we just have the blind
We don't have a baby prison but in hindsight might have been worth it given I've caught dd2 splashing in dd1s wee in a potty this week low point I hate having all there crap cluttering the place up though and shed probably just stand and scream at me until I got her out!

Awww kitty I know I shouldn't laugh but that made me giggle. It's something i can easily picture dd doing! She's def got the mischief in her eyes

Hmm may try and invest in some blackout blinds and see how she does.

I use magic blackout blinds from magic whiteboard company online. Costs £30 I think for a roll and you cut to the size of your window and it sticks to the glass. Peels off in the morning and you can use the same piece over and over again. They're fab!

How's everyone doing this week?

Twinkle how's the nesting going ??

MrsBri are you on maternity leave yet? Getting close ooh!

I am the broodiest I have ever been!! Honestly I have it planned to the week I want to start ttc again

At the mo dh has no clue just exactly how broody I am, But he's said he would like another. Since we've had ds2 I think I'm enjoying having 3 more than I thought I would, and can def see how #4 would fit in perfectly. Jeez I never thought I'd want more than 2!!

But first I need to sort an extension on the house or theoretical baby 4 will need to remain as such :)

You are sooo lucky wee, I'm so broody too, I really want another but lots of things tell me the logicality of sticking at two!

Hello everyone

Time is going so fast, I'm 32 weeks tomorrow and go on Mat leave in 3 weeks!!

Baby is so active, I can't see it moving around through my clothes! Feel like it may burst out of my skin!!

Nursery is getting there, slowly but surely!!

Hope you're all ok :)

Kitty dh and I have never been known for doing things by halves :) for baby #4 to fit we'll need to get a 7 seater car, oh and a 2 storey house extension :) and we thought it was extravagant to buy a new pram for ds2!

Twinkle I am so super excited for you! Your posts always make me smile because your joy just shines from the page :)

I just read through my last few posts and am pmsl. I think I may be slightly excited at extending my house lol!! Well the kitchen part is most exciting :) didn't mean to bleat on about it guys :) as you were.

Aww thanks wee! I am very happy :) I've had a good pregnancy really, I can't complain.

My HR Manager says she loves talking to me cause I'm always so positive :)

Hi sorry not been on for ages.

Glad everything is going well apart from sleeping issues

red don't feel guilty doing CIO if you need to do it you need to do it. I'm still co sleeping with ds but the day will come when I need him to settle on his own.
We like dark rooms for sleep and use a blackout blind (light always creeps in round the edges) and fully lined curtains.

wee planning dc no 4 go for it. If I win the lottery maybe I'll give it a go but 2 is the limit at the moment.

twinkle 32 weeks is amazing I've had a good pregnancy really, can't complain
You can complain if you like, being pregnant is amazing but such hard work, I'm so glad it's going well.

The worst thing about being pregnant is the back ache!! Had it for weeks!!

Awww wee that's amazing i can totally understand the broodiness. I love dd so much I think my heart will burst. I want another too and have been planning when to start. But we have a long wait...probably after she's 18 months.

twinkle complain away I had a painful pregnancy towards the end so totally sympathise with any pregnant woman I come across!

32 weeks yay! That is so amazing - gosh! It's just flown by. You will meet little twinkle soon!! Have you narrowed down on the names? We couldn't agree on boy names but I remember starting to get very excited around about now!

I am investing in those blinds for dd as we found she slept better when we stuck an old cloth over her window. She's sleeping really well. Only one feed at night.