April 2014 Thread 4 - We're almost in Trimester 3!

[LeeHandy]

Here's to fantastic 20 week scans, feeling baby move and other exciting milestones and best of all, the end of sickness!

Thanks for the kind words.
my partner also my boss at work is going to reduce my hours and then try and either get me off sick or early maternity

really feel for you smiles I would be massively struggling if I was at work take care of yourself.
32 + 1 weeks

hope you feel better soon smiles! can't imagine feeling so tired with being pregnant and then being sick on top of that as well..
blessed, glad your dd is settling down better as well..
misty have a good holiday.. hope the travel is not too tough on you..
it's been quite a busy week. the baby is really active now and kicking me around a lot. can't believe I have only 4 weeks more of work and baby will arrive any day after that (only after I hope!) it's quite funny to watch my stomach move in different directions with the kicking..

trinpy, I find all the midwives have their pet agenda and skew information accordingly. at our last nct class, the teacher did a 20 min "demo" of how cumbersome and complicated an epidural was and pointed all the risks. and then happily said "have an injection if you like, diamorphine works very well, it's heroin and so you will feel happy and floaty like you are on drugs!"

oh just to update Dr confirmed thrush boo so had treatment. He examined me and said he'd like me to rest more frequently as cervix is apprantly quite soft not dialated but seeing as I get fairly frequent braxton hicks and im only 32 weeks he wants me to rest more which is crazy as ive been very lazy and done little recently as back pain and pelvic pain have been really bad. oh well just under 8 weeks to go.
32 + 2 weeks

Lee I've heard that about nct classes hence we aren't going to any!

Lee I can't believe they said that at your nct class! I think they really need some better training/monitoring of these classes, it's mad some of the stuff they come out with.

Glad you've got the thrush diagnosed Vikki. I hope it clears up quickly and that the Braxton hicks calm down. It's interesting what your doctor said though - how often/strong are you getting the Braxton hicks? I was panicking a bit yesterday because I was getting them every 5 mins over several hours and they were quite painful. Luckily they died down in the end but my cervix is also very soft. I think I have thrush too, I was wondering whether the irritation could cause contractions like a uti can. Seeing mw on Monday so I will have to ask her opinion.

Hope you're all having a nice Valentine's day.

33 weeks today .

lee wow! How dare they? Whatever happened to helping and and lessening the worry of expecting mothers? I have never gone to one of those classes, heck right now i am so fed up with the 'advice' out there that i do not want to see people anymore.

tinpy the braxton hicks. Last night i thought i was definitely giving birth. They were so painful and the baby was in action-mode. He was headbutting my nether regions while at the same time kicking my ribs, i mean seriously it hurts. How can someone so tiny kick so much? I am really excited though because the time is getting closer and closer.
34+5

Gosh, you are all a bit ahead of me so I haven't had any Braxton Hicks (that I've noticed) and pretty sure my LO is still transverse, so luckily the kicks are just in my tummy and not ribs and no grinding into my pelvis yet!

I'm realising I should make the most of this bit of not feeling too sick most of the time and ALSO being able to sleep at night, it may not last that long! Even if my areola do look like somebody pumped them up when I wake up in the morning (joy ... all these little weirdnesses nobody tells you about!)

I'm also at what your NCT teacher said Lee!! I have my first NCT class the week after next, but am hoping it will be a sane one (or failing that at least entertaining) ... we'll see!

LT xx
30+2

Thanks Blessed. Yeah that's exactly how it was for me yesterday. Really felt like early labour. And yy to the painful kicks, though at least not in the ribs, thank god, I really feel for you having all that going on. Still, not too much longer to go now!

Really annoyed today. Feeling rubbish Due to general pregnancy feelings and DH called me selfish this morning. All because I wanted him to make me breakfast in bed as I was tired and it's my first Friday off for maternity leave. (He starts work later on Fridays) I just cried and got out of bed and we haven't spoken since. Fucked off. Feel like I'm being hormonal tho lol

love your Dh was BVUR. Doesn't he know that the perks of being pregnant, at least one of them is getting served breakfast in bed. It is very much ok to feel like crap. We all have our days. You were busy making a leg[by this i mean the baby baking in your tummy],yes while you were busy baking and producing a body part all he did was call you selfish? Not very nice way to start a day. Ignore him and when he comes home try to make up. Do it not for him but so that you will go to bed without wanting to burst. Men will never be able to understand what we have to through for the whole 40-42 weeks of pregnancy.

love your dh does deserve a kick! on Valentine's day even.. I sort of agree with blessed though, there's no point in you making yourself upset at this stage. just tell him your point of view and move on.
at my nct teacher, who says the most outrageous things. to be fair, she must be more than 70 as her eldest is almost 50 years old. the main reason I am going for nct is to meet other mums really! we moved to this area just 6 months ago and I don't know anyone local so am hoping to make some friends with whom I can hang out while on maternity.
my dh surprised me yesterday with a card! made me smile
33+4 only 4 weeks to go at work!

I've not spoken to him all day except to tell him why I'm annoyed. He knows thats a lot for me not to talk lol
See what happens when he comes back.
We're both not big on valentines day so to me it was more about being my first week off lol
Had a lovely bath with dd and feel miles better :)
Due date couldn't come quick enough!!!

trinpy I keep getting very painful bh and really painful twinges esp at night. im really uncomfortable at night so am not sleeping much which is making me very emotional in the day. dr did say if bh are painful or I get any pains in abdomen to ring so I may have to tomorrow just for reassurance really.

Oh vikki that is terrible. Hope they get better. Nothing wrong with my sleeping. I find that this pregnancy has been so good to me, better than with DD and i am grateful. My feet though have decided to start aching another sign that time is running out. Fingers crossed for you Vikki.
lee Dh and i agree that valentines is a waste of money[ but he always ends up getting me a gift]. It was agreed this year too and i did not know it was this friday. He came home with some red roses[cheesy i know] but i was . Then he made the tastiest pizza ever, sent DD to bed and left me to MN. That was lovely. He takes DD to bed more often than me but i think last night he just wanted me to not do anything..that was really sweet.

lee you must have a good job. 4 more weeks till you are on leave? Wow. Hope you are not gonna be too tired. And you need nesting time too.

we don't do anything for Valentine's really either.. I think there's too much commercial stuff attached to it anyway.
blessed I have a desk job and so being at work is better than staying at home for me because I would just laze on the couch! the only potentially difficult part is getting there because I take a train and it's pretty crowded in the evenings. but I also have the flexibility of working from home if I am too tired.
I don't want to jinx anything but I do feel that I am sleeping better the last few days - I still wake up at least 3 times to go to the loo but I have been able to go back to sleep as well. maybe I am more tired or more used to being uncomfortable?
Vikki, hope your bh stays as bh and not real contractions! I didn't realise bh could be painful!

Vikki thats sounds really tough. No wonder you are getting a bit emotional if you're not sleeping.

Blessed your dh sounds lovely. Wish someone would make me pizza while I sat mning!

Lee Glad youre still enjoying being at work. It makes sense to stay as long as you can of you can get more time with the baby.

My maternity pillow arrived yesterday and I was so excited at the prospect of actually getting a decent nights sleep for once. I got about 1-2hrs before I woke up feeling awful and was up sick all night . Good to know I'm not the only one not getting any sleep though!

thanks guys I actually slept a bit better bh have gone back to normal tightening im still uncomfortable at night and changing position painful on pelvic bone and back only sleeping 5 hours a night and an up twice in that time at the moment so lazing on sofa watching Olympics today. am trying to take advantage of being able to nap when I want. I expect I won't have so much flexibility when baby's here.
32 + 3 weeks

Evening all.
vikki sorry to hear about the painful bh. I get loads of them but probably because I don't drink enough water... re the painful turning in bed, I recommend the snoozle which is like a pillowcase with silky material on the inside so you just slide around on it. I use it for bad flare ups of SPD and it definitely helps. As does my v pillow.

Not sleeping great as I prefer to sleep on my back but every time I do it wakes me up and baby protests. I also keep overheating - is anyone else having this problem?

Built ds's first proper big boy bed today and he looks tiny in it :( I can see he's going to seem massive compared to the baby when she's born though. Had final scan yesterday to check placenta. All fine and tbh the screen looked like a weather map to me so not really a bonding experience! Still a girl, apparently...

Knackered and irritable today, poor dh. Next to build is the cot!
32+3

misty this is one of the few times where a woman should feel whatever the heck she feels without being judged. You just can not help it sometimes, being irritable and grumpy. Apparently both my pregnancies love DH. With DD i would phone home, yes , home beong Africa and shout at whomever answered the phone.
This time it is my adorable,happy,full of life DD. Everything she does is wrong. I have been working on it and i am really happy that the rage seems to have passesd.
trinpy,thank you. That man goes beyond and above for me. He is a warm human being being.i am the horrible one. I treat him the same though..

Hello all, just dropping in to say hi and see if you are having nice weekends?

Vikki really sounds like your body is just telling you to rest so listen to it! Especially if you aren't sleeping well at night you need to try and catch up when you can.

weetos grrr to your DH, remind him you are making a baby! It's hard work!

smiles hope you are feeling better? Reducing work hours sounds like a good idea.

light I'm not sure about the balloon. I tried some massage last time but you're not supposed to start til 34 weeks and I found it really awkward to reach! I will try again this time though after tearing so badly last time.

Can't believe how many of you are getting painful BHs! I didn't really get any with DS so not sure what to expect. Sometimes I get a bit of a tight feeling but not painful, just uncomfortable.

Back still bad but went for a massage yesterday and then long warm bath so a bit better. The weekend is good as DH is around to pick up DS and do cleaning and the like so I have a bit of a chance to rest (ha! been working all weekend but sitting at a computer is a lot easier than being a SAHM for my body!) Massage therapist said my ITBs were extremely tight and deep and I'd need a whole load more massages to get them better. Going to enquire about antenatal pilates at the hospital tomorrow as I think that would help.

I've now met 4 trainee doulas so need to decide which we are going with. Feeling guilty about all the money (massages, doula, pilates) as we aren't exactly flush at the moment but DH is being lovely and saying how I won't be pregnant many times in my life and I need to look after myself and not to worry about money.

30+2

Yay for your DH churros!