October 2013: Newborn snuggles and waddles to the finish line

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Stats sheet here

New arrivals here

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT - lost in transition

X post with everyone!

Thanks ladies, there's just so much conflicting advice from mw's, breast feeding team in the community the interest I don't know what to believe.

I just hope things improve and very soon otherwise I may end up going insane.

I hope your little girl is better today pseudo it's so hard when you don't know what they want and they are screaming because they are uncomfortable.

That sounds hard pseudo - this was the first bad night for us in a while, so big sympathies to you if you are dealing with this every night.

It does appear my children are in cahoots however - last night is the first time DS hasn't woken me in the night, and so Emilia decided it was her turn to keep mummy up.

flyer I know, I tied myself in knots with DS listening to everyone, googling etc. There was an article I will try to find taking the piss out of advice for mums - literally for every theory or study there was another one which completely contracdicted it. That is what is significantly differnt for me 2nd time around - I am picking and choosing the bits that suit me and emilia, and ignoring everything else.

Speaking of hind/fore milk - LO had a green poo last night which Dr Google advises that he's not getting enough hind milk.

Anyone else had this?

He does fall asleep when feeding but after at least 15 mins so I assumed that was just the natural finish.

Slightly worried though about the green poo so fed him this morning, he fell asleep, took him off to wake him up and now he's feeding again so we're 30mins+

:/

Flyer I think you are doing great with feeding and A is putting on weight which really is the aim of the game. I stopped bf cause J wasn't putting on weight and was losing at every weigh in. Hope you get some reassurance at bf group today but please stop beating yourself up.

Thanks for c section response Tarlia I measured my scar this morning and it's over 8" so seems like getting baby J out was bigger priority than giving me a neat scar. At least its healing well and my overhang is getting smaller every day

I'm having a sulk, after my sweep yesterday I had dull cramps all day, these got worse at night time and I was convinced I was having irregular small contractions. Also (tmi) I went to the toilet at 11pm and had a very loose poo (isn't this a labour sign) In my head I was waiting to wake dp to go to the hospital. Now.... Nothing :( lovely night of broken sleep and worry.
Was it mrs h who oe

Was it mrs h who kept having false labour symptoms or really slow labour at the start.

sanji it sounds like you are being tormented at the hospital. Really feel for you

Jelly I was wondering if the c section over hang goes down or away eventually. It looks like a spare tyre low down so I'm glad it does.
Also how long does it take for the pregnancy belly to go down? Mines still quite big.

Untitled we had a small green poo on Monday also.

Has LO had yellow poos since then flyer?

Yes 3 while grain mustard ones yesterday x

Whole

Thanks for the support ladies

slippy mine was stop start initially and then very slow to 4cm. I think tucking had more of a false start than I did.

roofio on a previous thread we were discussing making up bottles and I think it was tarlia who mentioned making the bottle up partly with freshly boiled water (to get the benefit of the right temperature) and then topping up with cooled boiled water. Not sure if there is any official guidance on it, but would that work? It seemed quite sensible and something that had occurred to me if I end up ff.

Flyer after a normal vag delivery my tummy went down very quick, back in jeans after 4 or 5 days. Baby J is 3 weeks old now and I been wearing jeans for about a week. Still got flabby belly though and prob will have till I can start exercising again. Physios in hospital advised me to do pelvic tilts and pelvic floor exercise a ASAP which are def helping.

MrsH sounds like we are at similar points in this b feeding saga. Lots of hand holding together we can crack this. You sound pretty determined like me. You have my sympathies

Ditto Flyer. I'm like you, I don't want to switch having spent all that time in hospital getting him to feed but I feel like I can't trust my instincts any more. Last night at one point I would have cheerfully given him up for adoption.

Lol MrsH that made me giggle! Same here too on the adoption front when she was refusing to eat at 430am

Morning Ladies- and thank you for your lovely comments after my mini meltdown last night.
DH came in this morning and said he's okay with Thea- so this is the first official welcome to the world for Thea Lily-Rose Z. (and my Mum can finally stop 'thinking of alternatives for me') We can always review the finer details before we register....(he wants to spell it with an 'i' but I'm not sure about that!) 3Bs no offence meant about Bree- it's just that I've watched too much telly and Bree VanderCamp was springing to mind and I didn't really want to name my baby after her. DH did propose 'Laila' which I love, but have a friend of that name- I'm just not good using names I know on my babies. I reckon naming our babies is almost as hard as delivering them!.... well no, but you know what I mean....

Sanji i'm so sorry to hear that you're still stuck in hosp with no action at 40+11. I hope they get things moving for you today. Can you at least spend some time with DS while you're waiting?
My labour-inducing-wishes go out to all of you still waiting. I know how thoroughly pissed off I was at the world this time last week. I say keep eating

We've got wholegrain mustard here too. All in all Madam is rather whiffy as her umbilical cord is just about ready to drop (it was a thin one- glad we didn't know that when she was in-utro). DS isn't too impressed!

For those worried about bf feeds, it is impossible to feel confident when everyone gives you such different advice. I tend to wait til I hear what I want to and stick with that! I'm presently going with the theory that if I feed on demand, and baby looks pretty happy then she's getting roughly the right amount.

Can I ask anyone on DC2+ has your milk supply been the same as before? I'm on Day 4 today and expected to wake up with massive sore boobs, but this time I feel like the build up of supply has been gradual and they're fuller but not massively so.

Happy Sunny Day to you all xx

Bo offence taken Pink this naming business is a nightmare! My DH also had a bit of a turnaround last night, texts came through at 3am (he was at work) suggesting 3 combo's he liked, although I'm a bit about the combo's of first and middle names he's suggested it's better than no input at all!

My boobs definitely came in slower with DD2, no "Dolly Parton" moment much to DH's disgust!

Hello ladies. I also had a night of constant feeding. C kept shaking his head and not latching on, so when he finally latched on I just went with it although it was painful. Regreting it now as my left nipple is agony especially when feeding. My right side isn't too bad. So sympathy with everyone else who is struggling.

Had some good news today - HV came and C is 8lbs 6oz, he was only 7lbs 9oz last week and was slow getting back up to his birth weight. So really pleased.

I find I'm missing my family much more since having C. Most of them are in the UK, just at the other end. I think it might be the fact that Christmas is coming up and not sure whether they will make the Christening etc. DH's family are close, but somehow that makes me miss mine more... Does anyone else feel like this? It's probably combination of hormones and tiredness as it seems to be worse at night.

Hello. EDD today....12.5 hours to get out baby! Is there any evidence that nigella lawsons chocolate brownies can induce labour?Made massive batch yesterday and feel it would be rude not to indulge excessively.
Moon blues most of my family are at home (old home) in Dublin and I'm here in uk, I suspect that homesickness may well kick in when baby arrives, esp for my brother and sister. OH s family just not the same at all.
Feel rubbish today which is highly annoying as have felt pretty good. maybe psychological , although enjoying this me-time, I did think I'd have baby by now!
Hugs to all those hanging out at the back with me still.
And to all those plodding on admirably with bf. hope to be joining you all soon! I am full of admiration for all of your perseverance. Hopefully all your experiences will have me well prepared for the onslaught. Xx

mw just been. H is now 9lb 5oz. thats a total weight gain of 1lb 4oz since birth!!! I'm not suprised as he wolves down his milk!! She's discharged me now, I'm a bit sad about it as I really like her and liked knowing she was there. I don't feel that way about the hv!
sorry to those still struggling with feeding! and to those sfw and swil x

I really go promise to catch up properly... Tarlia and Rodgio for instance - I gave felt what you have both described at points re older DC (Tarlia) and "not sure I wanted this..." (Roof)... Clapham - hugs. Any news from Nat? Not seen a post since she posted feeling v down... Any FB news on Eliana and MoN?

Flyer - given that Alex is gaining well and poung good bf yellow pops, can I make a suggestion. For, say, 2 or 3 days, how about just going with Alex's lead and taking the pressure off yourself. Of course MWs have lots if knowledge, but personal experience, the not getting hind milk in ten mins thing cannot be entirely right... I promise you the twins feeds for 10 mins max and on one side only and they have both jumped up a centile line! Perhaps there's nothing to lose by ignoring the MW, just for a couple of days, and letting A stop when she appears to have had enough... After all, if she won't take a top up anyway, you've nothing to lose but your stress!!! I think a couple of days "break" might help you trust yours and A's instincts again. I think she sounds like she's doing brilliantly! She is eating! Probably v cleverly and efficiently! If she's not, given she won't take top ups anyway, you can reassess after a couple if days, but I suspect she'll gain just fine.... Just an idea, do take with a pinch of salt if you wish!

Twins are 6 weeks!!!! They're so chubby now!!! Hugo is smiling, still waiting for Vally to... cue irrational worry-.... I actually think she's a few days younger than H having discussed with a friend who is an obstetrician... Will explain on another post... Off to make salt dough fossils with DD as we're doing a little fossil project thing for half term give me strength

Gah, was feeding both... Excuse horrid typos

Managed a 40min feed on my bad boob. With moderate pain. Lol
Right now to transfer to cot and just realised I'm about to eat my breakfast at noon.

Who read the chat a while back on FB about doing it all with a baby?!? I most deff am not eating on time or showering every day or keeping the house clean.

oh first smiles... how lovely legally! a few days younger? can you ovulate twice on different days in one month?

sanji poor you... this wait must be so draining... fx something will finally happen today!

flyer and MrsH lol about your adoption thoughts! I totally understand and I think we've all been there at some point but you would cry your eyes out the moment you saw someone else holding your baby these nights can be soooo long...

pink frankly, as I have a similar kind of male at home... I would just communicate to him that the little one will be Thea. He can then react there and then and object or just accept it. I think it's a lovely name - very feminine, simple and elegant.

40+2 and still here Shit.On.It... even DP is taking pity on me now. It's probably far TMI but it was funny - he tried to give me a sweep last night... started doing something that didn't feel even remotely sexual so I asked "what the hell are you doing". he said "I'm trying to give you a sweep". "do you even know what it is?". "not really"... SIGH... but 10/10 for good intentions!

tarlia no, no plans really and they didn't schedule anything else, told me to call or told me what other symptoms to look out for... they didn't even ask me the most obvious questions about headaches, my vision etc... rubbish isn't it? I know a lot mainly thanks to you and pseudo but how many women out there have no idea? not very impressive... I have a BP machine at home so take it every day myself. it's a bit higher but not alarming - not 140/90 like on Monday. so just keeping an eye on it.