Martians 2014, thread 11. KEGELS!

[LyraSilvertongue]

Shiny new thread, ladies :)

Panto not again?!? This is utterly ridiculous. Your midwife is clearly mental and incompetent.

Just been to GP. Apparently I have round ligament pain, AND a muscle that has gone into spasm. Codeine for the pain and warm baths. She also recommended working from home if I can get comfier there.

pram was the bio oil effective?!

Panto it really is totally out of order the way they are treating you!

Panto you can request to see the supervisor of midwives, I'd be explaining how shite disorganised and unprofessional your care has been and get something better sorted with a different midwife!

Sweet beejesus, how will I ever catch up?! Just tentatively coming back - hard to find time to read all the chatter and don't want to miss anything!

How is everyone? I finally bought myself some maternity trousers, OMG, so comfy... Now off to read all those conversations and will try to stay in touch now... If you still want me! (even if I am not technically a martian...!)

Panto I can't believe how badly you have been treated. Are you going to put in a formal complaint? This is horrendous.

Pram good luck for your scan tomorrow!

I've only just had lunch. I should not leave it so late, I felt horrendous and still feel a bit shaky even though I have eaten. On the plus side Nando is kicking away!

Panto this can't go on. I think you should speak to someone more senior because even if these were just an unlucky coincidence (not suggesting they are), you need reassuring that this won't continue. Can you take someone with you to do the talking if it gets a bit too much?

Dabarai I love my maternity trousers, they are soooo nice.

I am not sure if I will complain or not, they seem to have an excuse for everything. I just don't know what to do. The other half's mum is suggesting I move to a different midwife in the city as there is arguably one closer.

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Panto given the quality of "care", personally I would be changing MW as a minimum and I would be considering changing hospital depending on whether there were viable alternatives available. If you don't want to make a complaint, it's possible to change MW without having to give a reason - when I changed MW last time nobody even asked and it was only when they said I still had to have her at my birth if she happened to be on the rota that I said all the reasons why I didn't want her.

Panto, you've been treated abysmally but may I say not complaining merely leaves other women susceptible to the very same abusive system. Please stick up for yourself.

Becca, I've suffered muscle spasms and they are truly painful. Poor you The BioOil is nowhere near as good as Preseed for the ultimate knob massage. BioOil sinks straight in, of course, and leaves little room for that gorgeous slippperiness between the hands.

Hottie, you make me laugh

Dabarai, where the shit have you been, young lady? Stick around, pliz

Recently realised I won't get much wear out of my beloved maternity skinny jeans because of a lack of suitable footwear. Wear them with canvas pumps at present, but as winter kicks in these will not be suitable & will have to transfer to massive clunky boots, which will make me look like a biker when on display at the end of my skinny legs. Oh dear.

I've had the exact same thought processes, Foxy. Fucking hate these maternity skinnies anyway. They feel obscene whilst pregnant.

But I don't have another pair of jeans that I still fit into. Crap. I didn't think this through.

I like mine. The make me look less fat. It's the giant feet causing the problems.

How about some boyfriend mat jeans? What winter boots would you normally wear?

Supermodels have skinny legs and still wear biker type boots with their skinnies. You need more confidence in your body shape and foot size, not new clothes.

Unfortunately I don't look good in boyfriend jeans. I already have the figure of a boy, so I don't need any help in that department.

I've only just bought my first winter boots (been making do with £3 pumps previously, which is not good considering I already have circulation probs in my feet!) and I must confess, they are not pretty. Infact, they're well butch. Actually, they're men's. I couldn't find anything practical in ladies. Women's shoes are all too small and narrow and pointy. I have long wide man feet! But these are fur lined and big enough to get thick socks underneath. They're These

I'm not unconfident with my body or my feet (I just wish they didn't cause so many problems with getting shoes), but I know when to admit when I look like a twat . I'll have to make do with what I've got clothes-wize one way or the other, can't be forking out for any more mat clothes I don't think.

Sorry to label you as body-dysmorphic FWIW I quite like those boots. Indeed, I might get some. They're just perfect for icy pavements and cold, long walks. Your feet sound like flippers, please tell us the size

Foxy, are you game for the Manchester meet-up on a Saturday afternoon in November? I would like to meet you

Foxy I think they'd look great with skinny jeans. I bet your feet aren't that big

Panto I also think you should complain. It's really unfair the way you're being treated . Have some

@ Bio wanks

That's what I had in mind pram icy pavements, puddles etc and I needed something that would pass at work too. I wear a size 9. I used to be an 8 but after backpackpacking for 18 months and exclusively wearing flip flops they kind of spread...

I might be up for a Manchester meetup. Nor sure. Sounds a bit frightening. Need to get a bit better first too, properly knackered myself for all last week after the previous weekend's Manchester trip.

I need to lay off the birthing videos. I've watched 5 so far today, it's like an addiction!

Foxy I've never, ever noticed the size of another woman's feet. I'd known my SIL for about 3 years when I asked her if she wanted some shoes that I'd bought in a sale that I wasn't keen on. She looked at me like I was an idiot before pointing out that my feet are a size 5 and hers are a size 8

Jolls I hope you have a list of chores/meals/sexual favours that you are going to make your man work his way through over the next few days. Milk his lack of contact for all it's worth!

Panto I echo what everybody has already said. You have been treated appallingly. Don't let them fob you off!

Where's Lyra?