Martians 2014, thread 11. KEGELS!

[LyraSilvertongue]

Shiny new thread, ladies :)

Well said Ice

I agree, Ice. MN can give you a skewed idea of what's normal. For example, reading threads in the relationships topic, you could easily come to the conclusion that most women are abused in some way by their partners, which isn't true. Same with threads about baby problems.

So what's for dinner tonight? I'm making seafood soup for the boys, using my ruined tomato soup as a base and adding calamari, mussels and prawns, conveniently prepared and frozen by Mr Asda. Nice and easy.

The thread is one I've been following for a while as it's an 'early pregnancy after IVF' one. I have found it to be invaluable, actually, and am intrigued reading about those who have recently given birth. Several women have responded to this poor lady by saying they intend to do the exact opposite to her when they give birth. She has just responded: 'Yes, nobody take any advice from me regarding actual baby handling. I just can't leave her to cry and it is now ridiculous how much time she spends being carried around and sleeping on me. My plan is to get her weight back on track somehow and then when I know she's not hungry etc. to move her into her own room at seven months and do controlled crying then.'

No. Thank. You.

Another pregnant lady on there says: 'NCT just gave us this sheet of questions where you had to mark along the scale things like 'i will pick my baby up whenever he cries vs I will let me baby cry sometimes', and 'i will feed on demand vs i will have a set routine'.'

Clearly NCT are trying to impress upon the ladies that there are definite ways of creating problems for yourself and how best to avoid a velcro baby.

I thought it would take ages to get pregnant from too much lurking on the conception boards. It took about 20 minutes in all.

Not sure what's for dinner here, DH is making it as usual!

My sister would spend hours putting her son to bed at night. She would sit on the floor of his room next to his cot rubbing his back until he was asleep. I hope I don't end up like that!

Pram I know the advice given here is to feed on demand. That's by both the midwives and the NCT. But, like everything else, that advice will vary depending on where you are and who you're talking to!

Lyra good point. It's also the same with things like MMC. I was terrified as you read so much about it, but in reality it really is very rare. Your soup sounds amazing.

What mumsnet says about movement at 19 wks pregnant:

Movement You may feel your baby moving now but don't worry if you can't - it can depend where your baby is lying. It can be strange but is usually exciting when you feel your baby's first movements. If you place your partner's or a friend's hands on your stomach to share the moment you can guarantee they won't feel it. The movements need to be stronger for those not carrying your baby to feel them.

Them Indian ladies don't seem to mind having velcro babies. They just strap em on and get to work in the rice paddies!

Them Indian ladies have about four generations looking after their babies.

You're right. I should insist my mother move in next door. And DH's Grandma.

I have a perfectly orchestrated weekend right here...

Bug shop arrives before 6. After that I don't expect to see a real person until Sunday night.

PJs, good food and box set binging on Breaking Bad...which I only started watching last night so have the full thing start to finish to get through.

Very much looking forward to this

BIG shop. Stupid fat fingers.

I really need to source a Breaking Bad box set.

Foxy, why do you think I'm moving to be near my mum?

That sounds good Jol I plan to sleep, sleep, more sleep. When I'm not sleeping I will be lying down watching TV. I wish I had a boxset though. I've requested Homeland from the library but some other selfish bastard has got it out already. Surely I should get some kind of preferential treatment for being knocked up?!

Netflix people, Netflix

Bloody love homeland Fox. Am very excited for Sunday night.

I really need to watch breaking bad. Is it on netflix?

Sounds perfect Jol. What food you got planned?

Whilst I'm pleased my mum is 25 mins away, I'm relieved there is a bit of distance and I'm even more pleased that mil is 6 hours away

And there my dear Joll is the answer to my question

Yep, Netflix. Much cheaper than buying a box set.

I don't have a MIL or FIL, and no stinky useless grandparents either. What a win!

I love box sets though, same as I love books, which is why I don't do Kindle or Netflix.

Worth checking that it's on the English site though...

We have the PS3 programmed to American and the Streamer set to tge English one because we want the choice of both. I've not tried to watch it through the Streamer yet.

Kara, are you okay?

100% with you for books Pram but there's no avoiding the sheer value for money that Netflix gives you...

Aah, but not as cheap as getting the boxset from the library

My broadband is too slow for streaming movies. Stuck out in the sticks as I am.

My parents will be round the corner. MIL is driving distance away but she doesn't drive, lovely.

Maybs so excited for Homeland!