January 2014(Thread 10) - Getting out of breath!Don't forget to squeeze when you sneeze laydeez!

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Diddle-leee-deeeee. Diddle-lid-did-deee! It's the finaaaal countdown!

Oh yeah third trimester!

Hoping we bring space and idris with us....

Haha sultana :o Glad to hear it was good and that the people were nice.
I am very

I will be Billy No Mates stuck at home with this baby and it's all the sodding NCT's fault!

Cheers Blue I'll try and shift the blighter. Probably sensible to get him/her repositioned befoe they get too big and have to stay like that
Glad everyone is enjoying NCT. First antenatal class "parentcraft" today. Am tempted to go along with glitter and some wool as I love craft

Hey Toby I think I'll be Billynomates too - only moved here a few months ago. I like my work colleagues but I'm not sure they'll be up for buggy push and coffee is a few months

puggle, I feel your pain. I vividly remember having to prise DS's feet out from under my ribs about 4 times a day.
And it seems to have begun with this one. It was kicking and wriggling so violently all day on Friday that I felt bruised by the evening.

Good luck moving it!

I timed this all wrong. I had my first 2 DC when I was 22 & 23, and none of my friends were having babies.
Now I'm 36 and they've all got children starting school. Selfish buggers!

Toby it's just such a shame we don't live anywhere near each other! What about looking at local mumsnet groups to see if any are in your area having meetups?

I didn't really join the NCT to make friends, but the ladies were so nice that actually I think I may end up with a few - am more concerned about bubs not having friends his own age that I can meet up with regularly, so this may well be a good start in that respect. It's early days but the other ladies seemed really keen to make friends.....

Similar here - my dd is the oldest child in our group of friends ( although I'm also the youngest mum by 10 years) The others kept having kids and their youngest is now in nursery school. I had an 11 year break ;) Still, one coming to la leche league with me on Friday for social support as I'm so anxious in new established group settings!

I don't know anyone here as we only moved here two years ago, so I am also Billy No Mates - we can always do cake and commiserate together toby :) I'm also doing nct in December, so you can meet the new nct people through me if that helps.
My NHS antenatal classes are in an area where DP and I are likely to be easily old enough to be the parents of the other couples, and I'm seriously thinking about bunking off to save feeling Very Old Indeed.
blue, I'm sorry to hear that you and DP are having a rough time. I hope he bucks his ideas up and you get the outcome that is best for you.

Hi all, sorry to hear your relationship woes blue - you could try calling Relate and getting some sort of professional advice / counselling? Sounds like he just wants his cake and to eat it and you are feeling overwhelmed and in need of being looked after for once (rather than always being the one to be looking after others). I know what that's like! In fact we probably all do, so don't assume your relationship is over...it just needs some TLC right now.

Well, I have a 15 hour work day today - two seperate clients (I freelance) 7 hours each with an event in Edinburgh (over an hour away by car from me) this evening. Yippee doo dah. I cannot bloody wait for the weekend.

The thing about friends is that I always feel like I have enough. I'm really quite anti-social insular, and I like it that way. But I also don't really like small children that much. So I think if I'm stuck in the house with one all day I might just go insane! I'm much better with teenagers.
So I wouldn't have gone to the NCT classes to make friends, as such, but I think it might have been a good side-effect. Everyone I know who's been to NCT classes has kept in touch with loads of people from their classes, Sultana, so you're bound to end up with a whole new group of friends :)

I get you on the 'being nervous in established group situations' thing, Blue. I will force myself to go to the NCT Bumps and Babes thing after it's born, but I'll be petrified! It's walking distance from my house, so I've no excuse really.

I'm always up for cake, Book! That would be lovely :) I wish we could've gone on the December NCT course but when they offered me that one instead of the October one we were originally booked on, it was almost a done deal that I'd be having an ELCS in late December, so it was too late for us.
Ooooh, are you going to the NHS one in the 'lovely end of town'? My MW suggested that (going to the first one on Saturday just gone), but we didn't fancy it for similar reasons to you. DH is only 27 and I think he'd be too old!

Ugh, Mythree, that sounds like a nightmare of a day. Hope it passes quickly and easily for you.

Blue, how are things today? Any answers from your ultimatum? How are you feeling?

Mythree good luck with your day from hell! Hope it's better than you expect it to be....

Toby I too feel as though I have enough friends - have trouble keeping up with them all and constantly feel guilty for not getting in touch with them more often and I also very much like my own space. However, I think if I make some from the NCT class then they can experience all the baby groups with me hopefully, so I don't have to go along like billy no mates - like you and Blue I am a massive wimp when going into "established group" situations! It doesn't get any easier the older you get does it? Part of me thinks in those situations - "just go once Sultana. If it sucks you never have to see those people again" - but most of the time I talk myself out of it!

It was bad enough last year when I joined a few body pump classes to get in shape for my wedding. One of them was soooo unbelievably cliquey! Even the instructor was part of the clique - when I walked in (obviously new and no idea what equipment I needed to get out or where to find it), I couldn't work out which one the instructor was, because they were all stood around chatting. When I walked past some of them I smiled and they just looked straight through me! It was AWFUL! I went to that one a few times and then thankfully found another one where the instructor at least made an effort to check I was OK with everything. My mantra to get me through was "wedding dress, wedding dress, wedding dress"! The fear of walking down the aisle looking like a whale while everyone stared was greater (just about) than the fear of going to that horrible class twice a week! Perhaps you could get a new mantra for going to the bumps and babes class "baby, baby, baby".....?

I'm another billy no mates! We've lived here almost a year and i've made friends with a few couples (one of whom is ttc) but only really see them every few weeks. Not doing the NTC classes but there is a baby group in the army 'hive' literally 100m away, I can see it from my living room, so no excuses!

I hope all the work issues get sorted out! Well done humpty for saying no to extra jobs!

Handy hunt for those having injections soon, think through what arm to have them! I had it in my left automatically as I'm right handed, but I wish I'd had it in my right. I sleep better on my left hand side but it hurt too much to lie on and I woke up a lot last night!

We moved across the country when I was pregnant with dd and it was a great time to move for making friends. I met some nice people on the NCT classes but I wouldn't say they were that similar to me, just in a similar situation. It was nice to have people to go to other groups with though.

I have learnt to be much more outgoing since having dd. It's made me much more comfortable getting involved when everybody else seems to know each other. I think it's important to accept that people will prefer to talk to their existing friends rather than make small talk with someone new so not to be too offended if I'm not immediately included. I've always managed to weasel my way in eventually.
Groups specifically for mum's/dad's of newborns are good because people won't have formed such strong cliques at that stage. Baby and toddler groups tend to be harder.

Ooh good tip mrsgsr! I remember how sore the flu jab makes your arm.

good tips mrsg i hadn't thought about that. Thankfully so far I have never had a sore arm from vacs so I am hoping it continues.

Lots of chatter on here today.

sultana glad the NCT went well. We have ours tonight and I am so nervous. I am a loner really but do enjoy friends (I am just bad at making the effort) Hoping people will be nice and it won't feel too much like a test and there will be some similar people.
I consider myself to be rather strange and geeky so I hope I'm not the loon that no one wants to talk to!

mythree good luck with today. Work is a bitch!
I think they are finally starting to make plans for my leave now which is good but at the moment I am still taking on more and more as they train more people and it has all of a sudden become too much I think.

My eve trying to be happy with dh turned out not so well.
When we went to bed I noticed that there was a large patch on the kitchen ceiling that was a different colour to the rest. I told dh that maybe we should look at it and he did his whole not now as its 10pm, but in his mind I knew he was thinking about not bothering at all (he still hasn't done the rubber bits for the towel hooks we got 2 years ago when we moved in but that we can't use until he finds a way to stop the towels falling off - this was his summer task!)
So anyway like an idiot I climbed up on a chair and prodded the ceiling and low and behold poked a nice hole in it. Its under the bathroom and I know we had some shower leakage problems when we moved in and I just think it had soaked through and I have only just noticed.
So cue my starting to cry and wail as I just think with all this work pressure, not feeling at all organised with baby things, dh out of work and secretly stressing about finances and now having a ceiling hole that we need to fix (not sure if we will have to take down half the kitchen ceiling and get someone in to re-do it - which we obv cant afford!) it just all poured out.
I don't think I realised exactly how stressed I was and how much I had been hiding it.
I cried for about 2 hours and ended up having a bit of a dig at dh as he seems to spend his days painting models instead of fixing things in the house, doing the nursery etc.
I feel beyond drained today and still very stressed and pants. Am going to stuff my face with chocolate accordingly and still need to do a card for dh (maybe a massive apology card for being a bitch to him)

:( Aww frizz I'm sorry things are so stressful at the moment. I hope your NCT class goes really well tonight and takes your mind off it all!

sultana your DHs comment made me check DH knows baby is born head first, he replied "I know, that's why it's called crowning. Feet first can cause problems because the cord can end up around the neck." how the hell does he know this!?

Haven't had chance to catch up but will later. Just needed to vent.

Stupid ebay account has been hacked and a substantial transaction come off my paypal account and credit card. spent 2 hours trying to sort it and am so annoyed. Also just had line manager on thr phone. Stupid cuntpuffin I work with has complained to him that I hadn't sent a congratulations email on the birth of their new baby on a day I was out of the office and out of email contact. Sent one the next day but how rude to complain about me. I hadn't realised it was obligatory! Especially as I had all ready started a collection for the baby in the office. Feel so wound up and just want to go home and cry.

sultana sorry to hear you're having work stress too. Roll on mat leave/holidays, eh?
Glad the NCT class went well though - you lot are starting early! Mine aren't till mid-Nov!

puggle TAKE GLITTER!!!!!!!

puggle and toby we're moving (signed the fecking contract, so we ARE moving) this weekend - I am going to know hardly anyone also. Toby - you're in Kent, right? Puggle, where are you? We could form the post-natal Billy No Mates club?

mythree good luck today - sounds horrendous.

tarka good tip - newborns classes. I shall get investigating. Since I can't do much towards moving, I'm doing all the admin - change of address cards, bank & so on change of addresses, finding new doctors' etc. I'll add that to the list.

frizz sounds like you needed to get it all out love. Do you feel better? Also, with the nicest possible inflection in my tone of voice, your DH does perhaps need to pull his finger out and get some stuff done. You're working hard, he's looking for work, but in the gap between looking and finding work, I wouldn't think it unfair for him to be taking on more of the jobs around the house. Mine has - he's not even looking for work (well, he did see a headhunter the other day, but tbh, he's so much NICER when he's not doing his shitty stressful stupid job, that I secretly hope it comes to nothing), but he has taken over all cooking and most of the housework, and does things like collecting parcels from post office & returning things to shops. Maybe, can you have a calm chat with him and point out that it's just a logical use of time, nothing to do with 'he should, she should' politics?

GTT test for me in the morning - god I am dreading being told I have GD which would not be surprising as I live on sweets. I've decided, in my terribly scientific way that if I have a very healthy day today, I can't 'fail' the GTT tomorrow.

Am working from home today - decided I needed to be well enough to get to the hospital for GTT more than I needed to be in work. Cold seems to have got to the boring snotty stage, which is far better than the night sweats/chills & breathlessness & headache stage I was stuck in before.

blue how are you today?

nature bloody bastards, poor you. You can't help not being in the fecking office, either. Grrrrrrrrr.

Bloody hell frizz you poor thing. I hope it isn't too bad and can be fixed easily.
nature, your colleague complained about WHAT?! What an utter cuntpuffin. I hope your line manager realised how utterly ridiculous that is.
Just back from a growth scan. The baby is resolutely averagely-sized, which is great news. However my amniotic fluid is on the 96th centile so now I have to go back tomorrow morning for a GTT. Bugger. Will commence chain eating now, so that I don't feel so bad tomorrow morning!
toby yes, I live on the South Side . Not in the truly terrifying bit, but not really far enough away from it for my liking either. I'm booked on the NHS day at the start of next month, but as I'm 10 years older than your DH and my DP is even older it isn't looking good for me not being referred to as 'grandma' throughout is it?

Nature, I'm not sure I read that correctly. Your colleague complained about you because you didn't send him a 'congratulations on your new baby' email? WTF?

I'm sorry you had a crappy evening, Frizz :( Yes, your DH needs to pull his finger out while you're at work. I say that from my lofty position of sitting on my arse watching Neighbours and MNing while DH is out earning the big bucks

Yes, Humpty. I'm in Kent. Excellent news on the move :o
Also, I totally get your reasoning with the GTT -- I'm thinking the same about next week's bloods. If I eat plenty of spinach and red meat this week, I won't be anaemic

It's ok, Book. I'm 9 years older than DH so I'd have been a grandma too :o My mum lives on the South Side too. I've just come back from there, as it goes.

Hi all,
MW went fine yesterday (although I have now seen 4 different MWs and not seen the same one more than once, and none of them have been the "regular" midwife!). Turns out they wouldn't give me the whooping cough vaccine, even though the receptionist told me they would, you have to be 28 weeks. I am 28 weeks today, am sure that 1 day makes all the difference .
humpty my NCT doesn't start til mid nov either! I'm wondering if we could be on the same one if yours is in the area your new flat is in?
frizz and blue, lots of love... Hope you're able to take it easy today.
Have we heard from space lately? I remember her saying they had a consultants appointment but don't remember if we heard anything after? However it's more likely that my brain doesn't remember anything very well ATM!
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Oh, and good luck with your GTT, Book!