October 2013 - may our labours move as fast as our threads!

[PseudoBadger]

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Pseudo I guess that's what I'm worried about. If he can stay up while I go to bed early and then do the night shift, that's fine, but it does mean that I need him to actually stick to it and not use the excuse that its work to upset the balance. He's got form for being a real martyr - usually of his own making

Flyer we always did (do) go to bed at the same time, except when he is (or I was) working late, so it's not like we're fundamentally incompatible on that score. He just needs to learn to be more disciplined. He's a shocking procrastinator. He's got away with it before because it's not been a huge issue - other than it making me cross - but he's really going to have to rethink when the baby arrives. We can't have a situation where he pulls the work card constantly leaving me - literally - holding the baby.

I feel my heartburn from the back of my throat down to the middle of my breast level if that makes sense, I guess it could be called the oesophagus region. I know when I first had it in my first pregnancy I had no idea what the hell it was! It ranges from a weird 'hot' feeling in this area which if I catch in time with Gavsicon can be sorted. But like tonight it seems to have set in and if I lie down at all I think I could literally vomit, but again all arising from that area.
I hope it's that for you as at least it's easy to fix!

Flyer if its a lump in your chest that's more uncomfortable than really painful, it sounds like heartburn.

MrsH I think if it was me I'd definitely sound him out to see how he thinks things will work (sorry if you've already attempted this!). I know lots of people on MN are happy to do all night feeds where DH brings baby to you, you feed and he takes baby away and resettles. Then he can get back on with his stuff. Whatever happens he (and you) will either finds it completely suits you both, or it doesn't, there'll be a mini crisis and you'll find a way through that'll work. I know what I'm trying to say, but might not look great written down, sorry!

I think what DP and I did was that I slept early and then got up for a late feed and stayed up until done. I was then on duty during the night and DP's job was to sleep so that he would get up after the early morning feed so that I could sleep a bit more until he left for work. It's all a bit of a blur though! And I have no idea how that will work with toddler DS now.... We'll see!

Ooh you may have just saved me a really embarrassing trip to the hospital....imagine that going to be told it was heartburn

That's it like a hot type pain. I thought hb would feel like when you throw up in your mouth a little (sorry to be so crude) that's why I disregarded it. First stop get the rennies tomorrow. Thanks

MrsH yes you defo need to make sure it's not all down to you to do the night shifts. I guess where we differ is dp and I don't get going until about 10am most days (as its his business) so it doesn't matter too much what time we/he falls asleep, his meetings are arranged later on in the day.

Thanks Pseudo, and I understand where you're coming from. We haven't discussed this, but I think the time has come!

Friends of ours have found that a shift system has worked well when ML is ongoing - she goes to bed early, he stays up until whatever time and then she takes over for the graveyard shift. That seems sensible, but I imagine we'll just have to find something that works for us.

Flyer the throw up bit is reflux (acid reflux). That's what I've been having up til now and I thought might be helped by the bump dropping, but it seems its just been swapped for "ordinary" heartburn. Oh goody...

My friend in Oz was saying the other day she's had to get tough with her dp as she was doing the graveyard shift, then when he woke up in the morning he headed straight to the gym for a few hours she said she had enough as she hasn't had more than 3 hrs sleep in 2 weeks and is mega grouchy!!!

Great flyer, I really hope that sorts it. If not do get checked though x

MrsH absolutely you have to find what works with your situation. The thing that pisses me off is that DP gets ample opportunity to sleep but then refuses to get his weird insomnia type thing sorted/discuss it with the doctor and therefore doesn't always benefit from the sleep he could have. I used to waste energy sympathising with him. I don't anymore!!

Yeah ladies I think I may have a case of good old heartburn!

Oh god flyer, there's a man who wants to have his cake and eat it too!

Hmm. I've already had comments from his mother about the baby sleeping in our room and what is her precious baby boy he going to do when he goes back to work after paternity leave and about making sure he gets rest as down time

Is there anything at all in the house you could take tonight Flyer?

Quite Pseudo. What is it they say about helping those who help themselves...?

I know I'd not be best pleased if dp did that....He may get on my nerves alot but I do think (hope) he will pull his weight with the baby... Fx

Flyer what about some milk or a yoghurt? Might help cool the fire.

At least it's not more serious :)

Lol MrsH she sounds.... useful :o
My DP managed one whole newborn stage without sawing his hand off the next day so I'm sure your DH will also cope!
He did fall down the stairs holding tiny DS but it happens to the best of us perhaps if he turned the bloody light on when holding his precious son on the stairs that wouldn't have happened

I had some milk earlier and it eased it somewhat. Dp finished all my Gaviscon the other day.

Oh grr my DP also swigs from my Gaviscon. Bastards.

I just had weak hot chocolate (I don't like milk on its own) and will go back to bed in a minute and try more Gaviscon.
I had to laugh in hospital last night, they gave me Gaviscon measured into a large syringe that I had to squirt into my mouth. Given our conversations about its texture the other night it felt a bit weird :o

MrsH you have a mother in law who thinks her son is precious?! I feel your pain if that's the case....all my exes mums were the same, their sons could do no wrong, it got right on my wick!

Luckily I seem to have IL's who side with me

She's, umm, special

And he's an only, which does NOT help!

Despite her assuring DH that she isn't going to be one of those MILs too late she has done nothing but proffer unwanted opinions, including why a car seat was a terrible idea and couldn't we just strap junior's Moses basket into the back seat, since babies should spend their time on their backs to how I'd better not dare dress the baby in frills id its a girl. DH had to explain exactly what the car seat would look like and that they wouldn't let us leave hospital without one

She was actually quite good about BF/FF to begin with, but as time has gone on its clear that its more about validating her FF DH and, to be quite frank, her going on about it makes me feel like she's setting me up to fail.

How much actual time is she likely to spend around baby when it comes? I was only able to bf successfully by completely disregarding DP's mums opinions and working to make sure that DP absolutely agreed with me. DS gained weight very poorly at first and I know she judged me; I had to be very very bloody minded.

I can imagine her now especially when dh is an only one it makes them even more precious. My exes mum used to call him approx 5 times a day then when he ignored her calls she used to call my mobile, and I was too polite to reject the call.

Moses basket strapped to the back seat is she mad!! Oh no this will also be the first grandchild for her too you'll need lots of these and these too