Graduated Elderberry Pavlovas - Thread 7

[Cavort]

Newly diffed right through to new Mums. A thread for the over 30's expecting their first baby.

Ohhh just got invited to my leaving lunch

How exciting! My leaving lunch was rubbish and I had to organise it myself so I hope yours is better. Tis a weird feeling though isn't it!

Purple make the most of the slow weight gain - just think of the wear you're getting out of your baby clothes whereas I'm struggling to keep up with mine! A few weeks after filling the wardrobe with 0-3 I was swapping them for 3-6. I think I was an average-sized baby but DH by all accounts was a whopper so I am blaming him for this baby obesity concern.

Elodie is napping again, having gone to sleep in her chair from awake after 2 minutes of head stroking from me. This is proving to be loads easier than anticipated. What's the betting it's not this easy at 3am after last night's 4-hour-to-get-back-to-sleep marathon?

Yeah feels really strange, we are shutting the office so everyone can come and I'v been told I'm being 'taken' to lunch which sounds promising! I hate bwleing the centre of attention though so can see me feeling pretty awkward!

I'm only just realising how much I do too while writing leaving notes, think my boss will discover this the hard way! Shame huh

My OH was a scrawny baby who came early at 5lb something, I was 7lb something but never slept....god I hope he doesnt take after me with the sleeping!!

bwleing = being

I think I'm only just realising how lucky I am Cavort because although she's always woken frequently in the night, once she's eaten I just bung her back in her basket and she goes back to sleep. Unfortunately I can't explain 'how' she self settles because she just does, it's not down to any skill on my part!

Oh brave, we've missed you! I was only asking about you the other day. Sorry you've had a bit of a shit time, but feel free to moan - is what we're here for.

Cavort - Miles can self settle but prefers going to sleep on me - but I generally don't let him mean mum . The only time it doesn't work is when he's over tired - so the key for us is to get him down in time. Bless him even if I put him down too soon he will usually lie there for ten or twenty minutes until he falls asleep...

Purple until last week when it all went to shit Elodie would self-settle after night feeds so she can do it, but we have to rock her to sleep for all 3 of her daytime naps and at bedtime so that's what we're trying to change.

What time do all your babies go to bed for the night? Elodie is generally grumpy and knackered if she isn't in bed by 7 these days. I think that's why I'm assuming her sleeping is worse but it actually isn't, it's just that her initial 'good' stretch used to be midnight-05.00 and now it's 7pm-midnight.

He's in bed by 7pm, but then we wake him at 10pm to give him the expressed bottle, which then means he sleeps until about 4am. It's not a proper dream feed as he won't feed properly half asleep, so we just take him upstairs from his Moses basket at 10pm and make sure we 'accidentally' wake him en route

I'm afraid I let Lucy stay downstairs with us until we go to bed at 12 then i take her upstairs, feed her and put her to bed. She usually sleeps in her bouncy chair or more often in her dad's arms from about 9pm. If I put her to bed upstairs OH would literally never see her as he usually doesn't get home until gone 8pm then we eat then after dinner he plonks on the sofa for cuddles.

Brave how lovely to see you. It would be lovely to have you on our fb group as well. Pm me your name if you're up for it.
I think we all have times when it's best to stay away mn but we are glad to have you back.
Cav I don't know the secret of self settling. It does not happen in my house. Ever

There's nothing wrong with that Purple if Lucy is happy with that. 3 months is still very young for a proper routine. I wish Elodie would stay up a bit later more in line with my schedule but she has decided 7pm or thereabouts is bedtime all by herself, which is surprising as her daytime nap times can still vary quite a bit.

Having said that, DH is orchestrating bedtime tonight (obviously apart from the feeding bit) and I can still hear her whingeing from the other room.

Vic usually falls asleep in the hammock downstairs about 9ish and I take him upstairs when we go to bed 11 to midnight. He usually does not wake up properly, just eats and falls asleep again.

Grrr, feeling so grotty, bad back and poorly tum, think bubs knows as he is moving around heaps which is making my dodgy tum worse. It sounds awful but I am actually too tired to face a bath, even though I think it would help, just can't face drying my hair afterwards.....god I'm such a granny!

Poor you mother!

Went to my first NCT class last night, seem like a really nice group. One thing the teacher/instructor/whatever they're called was saying, was that you need to keep upright posture as often as you can each day and lean forward for periods of time. She said that helps the baby face backwards rather than forwards and get into the right position. Apparently loads more babies are facing the wrong way because we're not as active as we used to be, back in the past we'd still be doing physical work, scrubbing floors etc and she said it's not a guarantee but being upright and leaning forwards more can help with positioning. Well now DH has heard this, bang goes my excuse for him doing everything around the house while I slump on the sofa!

Yes I remember that lecture about not slouching on the sofa. But I reckon as long as you lean forwards on the sofa you're still ok to sit on it all night

Glad they seemed a nice bunch. I'm busily leading some of my group astray by trying to persuade them to come for wine tomorrow lunchtime!

Marking place as you'd fallen off my 'I'm on' list!

Yep we got the same lecture alex

I'm not too worried as at work I lean forward so the bump is under the desk, rather than resting on the desk. Plus I spend a lot of time walking the dog and walking is meant to be good. I've started trying to use my ball in the evening a bit more, mainly because it seems to help my back, but when I do sit on the sofa I try to lay on my side rather than my back. I did notice the other night that when I slept on my back I woke up in the morning and the bump was much much smaller so he must have flipped around.

Ohhhh janey I would be thrilled to be led astray if I was in your group!

Hiya merk am I right in thinking you have a new recruit in the chopper??

I saw that too mother. Get all emotional about other people getting their BFP's these days

Me too janey, soppy sods aren't we

Yep, another grad! At this rate there will be no non grads left pre Xmas!

Oh and exciting, shouldn't your baby stop flipping around very soon mother and be getting ready for action? What's your due date again?

Mind you, they say that they don't really turn after 36 weeks. Miles did! Head down, front to back, at 36 week scan. Transverse breech by 38 week scan!

I've noticed that about my bump in the morning if I wake on my back! Will try lying on my side on the sofa more too or leaning forwards while DH cleans the floors and washes up

Was wondering about getting a ball, wasn't sure if it was worth it, did you just get an exercise ball mother?

There's a thread about people getting bored while on mat leave waiting for the baby. Honestly can't imagine that and think I'll happily fill days lounging around, nesting a bit, watching box sets, hot choc walks. Maybe I'm just lazy! If anything, I'll just feel a bit guilty DH has to work while I'm relaxing!

To be fair I'll probably still be sorting out the building site aftermath actually!