Due in September 2006..... into the third trimester.....on the home run

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Hope no-one minds [smile

The occasional 'ahhhh!' moment is not just a luxury - it's a need - make the most of it

Norms - thanks for the advice. I remember someone I used to work with complaining that she felt awful because she'd only bought her DD a few Christmas presents and other people had bought loads so she felt she'd neglected her DD. I thought at the time she was creating problems for herself as her DD was less than a year old and was probably more interested in the wrapping anyway. I will try very hard to not go mad at Christmas as LO will be 3 months old and totally oblivious. I think I'm more at risk of spending a fortune on 'baby's 1st Christmas' baubles and stuff, purely for my benefit

Liquid - I think you should definitely hold your ground with your DH. You're the one who has to go through the birth etc and if you feel that it'd be too much to have your in-laws around so close to you then it should be your choice. If you expain the reasons why to your in-laws and offer them the choice of staying in your friend's house then they can always say if they're not happy and then you can go from there.
As for me (thank you for asking), things have gone quiet again. The last I heard from my ex, he sent me a photo of myself with a letter saying that it was the last photo he had of me and he was sending it so I'm out of his life. Charming! My divorce goes through on the 10th July and my lovely mate has agreed to go to the seaside and stay in a B&B overnight so I can take my mind off things. I can't wait!

I know I've said this before but I can't believe how fast time is going! I was looking at the little baby grows I've bought and thinking: I can't believe that in aprox 2 months there'll be a little body inside these! I really am getting excited now.

Mandaz, totally agree with Norms re Christmas pressies for little ones! DD will be two in Sep & therefore have her third Christmas as per usual with us & my in-laws (we all get on...). The first year, when she was all of 3 months we got her a bear, I think, gosh can't remember but it was a cuddly toy & just one as the entire world went mad. Last year we got her again just one present because: a) I knew she'd be overwhelmed & she was b) again was spolit by other people. She ended up playing with just one thing all Christmas & was quite content. We plan to not go mad this year either (because we'll have another also!)...maybe we'll stretch to two toys but really I don't think they need anymore than that at such a young age

I need a cleaner!!! The housework is bloody exhusting now...can't even bend over & clean the bath probaly & as for trying to get DD into her cot & do up her Grobag....

Mandaz - your ex sounds horrid!! Hope you manage to get through the 10th July okay although it does sound like you're well rid of him.
Went to see the midwife today. She said I'm officially 29+2 weeks along and am measuring btw 29 and 30 weeks so I can tell people at work that I'm not massive and just right for my dates
Ds will also be 3 this Xmas and for the last 2 we didn't really bother. I think we got him a book maybe. The grandparents always go OTT and there just isn't enough space. I wonder whether this Xmas we'll do the present from ds to baby and vice versa. I have to say I'm getting a lot more excited at the thought of being girl's toys!!

Compo - Yes, he isn't a very nice man really. I got some small revenge recently though as he dumped a load of stuff off at my parents house. He obviously hadn't looked through it properly because there were loads of his DVD's and bits with it, which I promptly sold on Ebay The sad thing is there's a load of my stuff at his house and gifts that we were given when we got married which I've had to write off as he's not being very co-operative when it comes to arranging to get them back. At least I'll have LO though and that's the best gift in the world as far as I'm concerned.

I think I'll probably buy LO a cute outfit for Christmas and maybe a toy but I'll leave the rest for Grandparents etc. I absolutely love Christmas and am really looking forward to it this year.

Mandaz - you're absolutely right about LO. Things are just things, your LO will be a beautiful part of your life forever! I think all of us 'veterans' here can promise you that you'll never have felt somuch love in the whole world as you do when you hold your baby - it puts the rest of life into sharp perspective and nothing else is as important. Gone all gooey, sorry, but it's true

Mandaz - thats awful what your H did with the photo - sounds really nasty and unfeeling.
I have to admit that for DS 1st xmas (he was 3 weeks old) we didn't buy anything! and for his 1st birthday we bought him 1 toy. As everyone else says - you will still end up with a house full of brightly coloured plastic whether you like it or not!
I honestly thought that going on hols this year would be so much easier than last year, when DS was only 6 months, and we'd be able to travel a bit lighter - but have spent 2 hours ironing, gone through my lists, packing several bags, we are only going for a week, he seems to have more clothes than DH and me put together.

Mandaz- it's true once you have that bubba handed to you and you hold them in your arms, nothing matters. Nothing! And where as possessions are just little things we collect and 'love' your bubba is truly something to cherish and no one can take that away from you.
Sounds as if you're better off without him.

just to let you know I have just found my little pram charm off my charm bracelet that fell off last week. In the bottom of my handbag!
That has really cheered me up!

hurrah Mabel!

Liquid, your post about the new baby made me cry!

Mandaz, I'm sorry your ex is so horrible to you -it really does sound like you're so much better off, and without him, there's space for a real knight in white shining armour to appear!

Re. christmas - I know someone who has been known to wrap up an already owned toy for their child on the basis that the unwrapping is the exciting part, and the toy often gets abandoned. We've always been quite stingey too, and leave the big presents to other people. Luckily, my parents are really good and consult me on what they intend to get... For his birthday, they bought a massive tractor with trailer (you might have seen the same on on Tiny Tearaways) - it lives in the garden so that's fine, but I so don't want a dining room full of pretend kitchens....

Liquid - "male midwife" seems an oxymoron - didn't realize they existed!

If DH's parents were to be the kind to give you that type of ultimatum, then IMHO you do not need them around the first few weeks.

Having trouble shaving the far side of the left leg, and v. tired of my thighs rubbing together. Definitely more potbellied than pulchritudinous. But, enjoying this time of before-two-kids!!

Mandaz - Sounds to me like you really got to him. I think he's going to have a harder time of the split than you, by his apparent level of emotional maturity.

Yay, Mabel!

Leaving for Disneyland Sat.! MIL said she'll understand if (in this late pg condition) I choose to spend the whole vacation by the pool instead of at the hot resort with everyone, so I just may ...

wow Marls - hope you have a good time in Disneyland. I too am fed up of the thighs rubbing together - especially in this heat...

Hey ladies...

It's getting hot again- spent the whole day in and out of the car with mindee and DD and fed up of everything in general. Plus it's two nights now that DP has been out at DD's bedtime so feeling knackered and v.teary. Why is it men just can't understand how knackered you feel when you're preg???

Also he asked me to check something on ebay for him and found that he had brought a star wars figure for £58!!! Honestly he isn't some saddo, he is collceting those boxed ones to sell later... Ok, he is sad Not feeling bad about the £90 I spent on crafting at all now... Not one bit. He tells me these figures are less than a £5 each in general...!

Glad you found your pram charm Mandaz.

Enjoy your hol to disney land!!!

And totally sympathise with the thigh rubbing thing... Have stopped wearing my mat skirt when I have far to walk and wearing cropped trousers instead. Got to the point now where I look like a fat hippo no matter what I wear.

Glad it's not just me ... packed today; did find ONE thing I can wear and still look sexy: black top & pg bluejeans, with tall black heels. (Black: the great camoflauger.) Wearing it out tonight; dinner with group calling themselves "the ex-pats" ... really just a group of fellow transplants from large cities. Haven't met any but one; he's hilarious. Will be good for me I think just to get out with the grownups.

Mandaz: Song for you: Sinead O'Connor, "No Man's Woman."

Hello,

I am new to mumsnet and due at the end of September. I've been feeling ok so far but starting to worry about the birth and coping with a baby! This will be my first.

Hey there Myrtle - welcome!!!

I'm even apprehensive and it's my second (DD will be 2 on my due date)... I think i'm more apprehensive because I know whats coming!

But of course the love and the overwhelming happy feelings far out way any bad things.

Welcome to Myrtle
I feel exactly the same as Pol26...

Hi Myrtle, welcome to our Sept due date thread!

Also feeling very apprehensive. DH has been away all week, so totally knackered from looking after DS all on my own for 5 days.. Yawn. He's back tonight, thank god. Also feeling very large. Had to abandon one pair of pg trousers that I've grown out of - how can that be???!

Marls, definitely take advantage of the offer to sit by the pool... I know I would!! Take some good books!

Have a good day all.

Hi Myrtle! Congratulations - everyone feels a bit apprehensive about about the birth - the only thing we can all be sure of is that it will happen! For me the best way I found to deal with it was have 2 birth plans - a)pituresque natural water birth (sadly already out the window for me) b)all the drugs I can lay my hands on and sod the rest -just look forward to holding my darling LO for first time! ie, have an open mind and just keep telling yourself 'I'm having a baby!'

Marls- I had a male midwife just before DS came along and he was just adorable, lovely fella! Much nicer than some of the female ones who just told me that everyone does it so stop making a fuss!!! (wonder if she'd had kids...?)

Mandaz- I had an ex who behaved a bit like yours, when I met DH I couldn't believe I'd put up with him for so long. Hope your seaside trip is lovely for you and you can treat it all as a new beginning, life gets better when you don't have people like that in it anymore.

Pol- know how you feel with DP- why don't they get it!!?? I had a migraine Sat/Sun/Mon and another one Wed pm/Thurs/today (fizzleing out now)and STILL DH expects me to go into town to buy soap, cook, wash... If I hadn't have got so good at keeping going through them I could have just gone to bed... One of the things motherhood teaches you how to do though! Mind you, getting to the point now where I need to eat something but feeling so nauseous I can't - anyone know if there are any safe anti-sickness drugs in late pg?

liquid & clairemow I have also been home alone - big up to the pg home-aloners!! can be such a nightmare sometimes, esp at bedtime, but I am really grateful for the good weather as messy activities / picnics etc can go on outside - less cleaning & entertainment needed the better .....

now I just need to get my Phd finished by the end of term - DS nursery closes in 2 1/2 weeks - heeelp

liquid - 1 v sympathetic mwife told me, re my SPD, that if it gets too bad just to check myself into maternity ward. Worth thinking about for your migraines .... ? Might get the message across to DH!!

Hi all!

what a lovely day!
I have almost finished my packing - just DS's toys to sort out. Neighbour came round with a toy steering wheel for DS to use on the journey - I am tempted already to take the batteries out - don't know if I can cope with 7 hours of brrruumm, beep beep etc etc..
Ds got stung by a bee this morning - 1st time it's happened. Was a bit panicky - but managed to get the sting out and he seems ok - no adverse reaction.
I could have a moan about DH as he diesppeared out to the pub at 10.30pm (!!) last night with a mate who was passing, just as I was going to bed - then woke me up coming in at 11.20pm - however he has redeemed himself as he has surprised me by booking us in to Jamie Olivers new 15 restaurant at Watergate Bay! We never do things like this as we can't really afford it, but it is prob going to be a very long time before we do anything else like this - can't wait!

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mabel what a lovely treat!!

norms poor you but lol re DS's comments. My DS (3) keeps telling me to "put your tummy away mummy it is too big"!!

Hi ladies, not been on here for a while, but keeping up with everyone's news.

I've taken the plunge and started doing my supermarket shopping online as pushing trolley and toddler, and then unpacking trolley onto till area was killing my pelvis.

I've even bought some maternity pads and breast pads that were on offer in mothercare!

Last night we joined in with an antenatal class to get the breastfeeding chat and then tour of the labour ward. It was great for dh and I to do this together as it really made the reality of having another baby hit home. We gave birth to ds in Aberdeen which was a much bigger hospital and I was a bit worried that this one would seem like the "country cousin" IYSWIM, but it was fine. All rooms had uplighters for mellow lighting, CD players and birthing balls so that was all good. They also seemed really up for active birthing which was great. So, all in all, v positive, but scary too. I felt a bit overwhelmed and terrified.

The only seriously rubbish thing is that partners are only allowed in between 2pm and 8pm. Hopefully I'll get a 6 hour discharge, but if not I'll be dying without dh...