MARTIANS 2014 - Thread 7: Are you due next March? Do you have wrecking balls for breasts? Getting moist over iCandys? Then come and talk shyte with us..

[PramQueen1971]

Thread 6

We moved at 37 weeks last time round. I also had 2 big job interviews the same week. While it wasn't fun, it's a lot better than moving with a newborn. My sis moved at 37/38 weeks, then had baby 11 days early. While she was in first stage of labour she was running round house getting DH to put up pictures everywhere as she said they would never get it done otherwise. She was 7cms by the time she made it to hospital.

That said, I hate moving at any time. Hope you get settled soon!

OK, that's cool. Panic over. I will do the bathroom, then the nursery, then I can start filling it with stuff!

Is the thread broken? No ones been in for an hour and a half...

gawj how rotten for you. She sounds like a moron.

I am exhasted having a 15 min break after two hours of tutoring. 1 hr to go!!

Well boob growth is confirmed, I'm now a 36B! The lady in M&S said not to bother with maternity bras as ordinary non-under wired t-shirt bras were just as good, and half the price!

Unfortunately couldn't find any nice maternity clothes anywhere. Would you believe Next, M&S and John Lewis don't stick maternity in store? The only shop I found was Red Herring in Debenhams, but it was such a small range and mostly casual which is no good for work!

Frankel did you look in New Look and H&M?

I still haven't bought anything maternity. I guess I will get my act together soon.

I'm laid on the sofa watching Delias Christmas. I want it to be Christmas now!!!

Frank it's the same round here. Asda did a range I. Store up until about a week ago now the only place iv found is in h&m. They have got quite a good range in there aswel

John Lewis only stock maternity cloths in Peter Jones Indian sq now. It's utterly ridiculous.

Does anyone else ever feel really anxious about coping with a child? This is my first, having wanted to be a mum for years, but now all I can think about are the negative aspects; what if I struggle with bf? What if I really can't deal with the sleeplessness, or can't get my baby into a routine? What if I'm totally ineffectual with discipline, or conversely, far too harsh? I'm genuinely concerned that I will be too shouty, especially in public if my child misbehaves and I feel embarrassed. I'm the kind of person who worries far too much what other people think, and know I would feel utterly mortified at being branded a bad mother, even by total strangers. Stupid I know, but it's not something I can switch off. Dh and I were at a family event yesterday, and his cousin's 4 year old was acting up a bit- not really naughty, but had been required to be good for too long and got a bit hyper. His mum and dad were completely calm with him while dealing with it, and I really don't know that I'd have the patience.

Im supposed to be looking forward to starting a family, but I'm really not feeling that I'm cut out for motherhood. I find myself thinking that at least the kid will have a good father, even if his mother's a useless stresshead.

Sorry to dump this on you all, but I don't want to worry dh with it at the mo.

justmuddling mate sometimes you will shout, sometimes you will feel fed up with it/them, sometimes you will wonder why you have put yourselves through it!! But all of these things are COMPLETELY normal. I have two kids so far and try my best not to be a shouty mummy, but sometimes when I'm exhausted and they are both playing up and I haven't been to the bog on my own all day and not finished a single cup of tea, I snap or shout at one/both of them. And feel awful afterwards, and it reminds me why I don't want to be a shouty mum! I just say sorry for shouting and explain why I'm feeling in a cross mood and then suggest we all have biscuits to cheer ourselves up. I think it's important that kids realise that their parents are human beings too.

The fact that you are worried about these things at this stage simply goes to show how anxious you are to do as good a job as possible at being a parent. I have had to take my 4 year old home early from parties because he has misbehaved, and I have seen countless other parents have to do the same, honestly, once you are a parent, everyone is in the same boat and anyone looking at you if your kid is having a strop will just be thinking, "dude I've been there!" And if they're not then they are just being judgemental dick splats (copyright Pirates).

It can be overwhelming at times, being a parent is the biggest, bravest thing I've ever done and at times I've fantasised wondered what my life would be like without them, but I always come to the same conclusion - it would be worse off xxx

oh and ps sometimes it is just impossible to explain to the other half what it's like, because hormones get in the way. That's where we come in handy here!!
(I had to finish last message abruptly because DH arrived home in a strop about his bad hair cut so I had to talk him down from his self-loathing. So it sometimes works the other way too....)

I tried H&M, nothing, but not New Look. Think I'm going to bite the bullet and get some stuff online and just send it back if it doesn't fit.

justmuddling I think it's totally normal to be freaked out by the prospect of being a parent. I know I have wobbles from time to time. You should all to your DH, you'll probably find he's feeling the same way but doesn't want to worry you!

I've just got some maternity trousers in the H+M sale for £7, bargain! They are very straight-legged, and I normally only wear boot cut, but they will be ok for work and they are very very comfortable (was tempted to wear them round the house but will save them for work as I have other things I can wear at home).

I also found a very nice suit-type shirt for work in the BHF charity shop, it's not a maternity one but a few sizes too big for me and very long so there will not be any gap above my trousers. Also a smart wraparound top in another charity shop, again not specifically maternity but doesn't look ridiculous now and should expand with me I think because of its shape.

I'm planning to leave it at that for now and then buy more bits and pieces as I need them, rather than buying lots now that might not fit me later.

Hiya, Marbie! [waves manically]

Just, don't worry so much. The fact that you care so much about being a good mum means you will be a good mum. We can only do our best and there will be times when you'll beat yourself up for not handling a situation as well as you could have but we're all human and we all make mistakes.
Also, remember you're not going to be chucked in at the deep end with a stropping four-year-old. It will be a gradual learning experience and by the time you are dealing with a stropping four-year-old you will have got to know your child inside out and will have learned strategies to deal with them.
Babies tend to sleep a LOT at first so it's not going to be all-out mayhem from day one. You will have time to learn and to adjust to your new life. I completely understand your wobble though. You're about to step into the unknown with a massively life-changing event and it's perfectly natural to be apprehensive about it. In a year's time you'll wonder what you were worrying about.

Sorry for the essay

Pram, so pleased it was a positive experience. I was just thinking of you

I decided the sex question is really TMI for a public forum so I'll keep schtum.

Would it help if I told you I farted in th'usband's mouth this afternoon whilst he was licking me out?

No? Oh, well...as you were

Did he continue?

Pram I am crying with laughter. You always brighten up my day, no matter how shite I'm feeling . I'm so pleased the counselling went well. I think you just need that impartial person sometimes. We just get so caught up in the day to day living of things that we lose sight of things x

Pirates you speak such sense

Just I think it's totally normal feeling like you do. I don't think it will hit me till the baby is here, then I may fall apart

Hope everyone is ok today. A far I've baked 80 cakes without vomiting on them. Still got the icing and decorations to go

Lyra, he did not carry on, no. This is because I leapt off the sofa, screaming in shame, and fled to the bathroom whilst listening to him bellow with laughter. It didn't help that he kept knocking on the door to inform me that the lounge stank

Lyra ask on the fb group, then its only us lot who can see?

Pram you just made me laugh out loud and scare DS who was drifting off watching In The Night Garden on my lap!! Glad the counselling went so well. Are you glad now you took him back?

Maybe I think we all need to sample some of your cakes!

Mat clothes are officially crap. Got most of mine online last time. So far bought mat jeans in H and M which are great. Other than that just bought dresses that will stretch for work that aren't actually maternity.

Justmuddling it is natural to be worried but you also sound like you're too worried about how others see you and that you can give yourself a hard time. Please learn to give yourself a break when baby comes along. As others have pointed out, the fact that you care says something.

Pram v glad counselling went well today.

Oh and can't remember who had trapped wind - it's painful! When I went into labour with DS wasn't sure whether it was the real thing or trapped wind!

Thanks to all the hellos! Missed catching up! Pram, pleased it all went well!

It's totally natural to worry about coping with a bubba ESP when it's your first, but just go with the flow and you'll be fine! Try not to think about things too much or set yourself unrealistic targets or routines or you are more likely to set yourself up for a fall, or stress tourself out for bot meeting them! Your instincts will just kick in and you'll all be perfect mothers!

How's the poorly dog? I can't remember who it was?

And was delia Christmas on tv?