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February 2014 - the one where we start to find out if we're team pink or blue!

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jazzcat28 · 04/09/2013 20:37

So I used the magic 1000th post in the last thread... ooops Grin

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LovesToBake · 07/09/2013 20:07

Feeling the early night vibes here too. I was supposed to be at the Last Night of the Proms schmoozing in a fancy box for work but had to pull out as I just can't function in the evenings and it would have been a late one. Instead I've just managed omelette & chips, am now lounging on the sofa and plan to head to bed very soon. Night all!

DawnOfTheDee · 07/09/2013 20:25

winter - yes at my work you could 'front load' some of the leave instead (think this will depend company to company) but if you do that you don't benefit from the 'taking full time leave at part time hours' loophole i was describing.
I used a week of my holiday in this way as i needed to go on leave sooner due to arsehole ops manager stressing me out. I just wanted to get out of there!

Somanychanges · 07/09/2013 21:32

Thanks missk we had a lovely day. Managed a bike ride and some fun in the park. Then we tucked into a lovely lamb curry which I had made in the slow cooker yum!

I am so happy am coming out the other side of HG now although I haven't been able to stop my meds completely as did try but was sick. I have gone from taking 9 a day eek! To just 3 a day now. I have had the most horrendous time with it but actually feel lucky as there are so many who have it really bad up until they give birth. I am usually much better and can start weaning off meds altogether from about 5 months.

I hope the rest of you still being/feeling sick will start to feel better soon. Night all Smile

Sassy20 · 07/09/2013 21:43

Feeling really miserable tonight. Just have no energy at all. I'm at my parents this weekend as my dh on late shifts and I managed to go to sainsburys and then felt shattered so spent the rest of the day laid on the settee doing nothing. Feel like I'm wasting my weekends and am in bed by 9.30! Spoke to dh on phone and just burst into tears so he's suggested I go to docs to see if there's anything I can do. I think it's all down to early starts at work and waking up for at least an hour and sometimes hours through the night without fail. Sorry to moan but really feeling fed up today. X

misskatamari · 07/09/2013 22:04

Awww so glad you had a lovely day somany. It's good your sickness is starting to get a bit better too Smile

Sassy, sorry you're feeling so down. I'm the same with the night time waking and it is so frustrating. Spend all day knackered and then wide awake in the middle of the night. I find badger temple balm for sleep helps abit when it comes to relaxing and sleeping - not sure if its something were not supposed to use but I do bung it on and sniff some lavender when I'm feeling particularly crappy. I hope you manage to sleep a bit better tonight. I'm off to bed now I think and fingers crossed I sleep through - although I've been drinking loads of water tonight so will no doubt be up weeing every 20 mins!

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Novascotia33 · 07/09/2013 22:17

Poppy - sorry just saw your message.

Yes you're right it will bring down your gross pay, but on what you earn/how much childcare vouchers you do/and how long you plan to take off, it may or may not be worth it. You have to do the sums I guess.

I work for myself now, so it's all irrelevant as you cannot get them until you become a limited company (which I am not).

Anyway, for me it was worth bringing down my gross salary by the amount taken off by childcare vouchers to have the benefit of having no adjustment to my months of only getting SMP, and a further 3 months off of getting no money at all, but still getting £243 a month in vouchers put in the account. So after 12 months off, I had £243 x 12, in my kiddivouchers account, it was almost 3k I think. However I had only lost out on 6 months worth of adjusted gross salary, which was about £200 a month off my salary (depends what tax bracket you're in I guess), but that was about £1200, so I was £1800 better off doing full vouchers. I actually put my amount up when I realised how much I'd make out of the deal, it's all based on your qualifying week, so you need to be giving that amount already, you cannot put it up after, only what you were sacrificing in your qualifying week will be honoured.

Hope that makes sense, I had the people from the daycare trust email me all the bumf about it, they were super helpful, as the company I worked for (a huge intl corporation) had no idea about it, and weren't too chuffed, however there was not a jot they could do as it's a nonworking benefit, same way as you cannot take somebodies company car off them during mat leave, because it's a non cash benefit.

Can send docs to you if you like, sorry if somebody else has already said this too.

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mrscookie78 · 07/09/2013 23:27

I don't really have anything to add im afraid Sad . I get paid sometimes by child care vouchers which works out well for my bosses.

my tummy stayed a little bit hairy after my lo, did fade but I knew it was there. grrr that was after my brown line disappeared. can't remember the name of it.

sorry your feeling down sassy? tiredness and hormones dont help, hope you feel better and the doctor or mw can help Smile

mrscookie78 · 07/09/2013 23:29

I vaguely remember me time champagne, yes definitely get lots of me time in now. Sorry to hear your still feeling rubbish. have you tried reflexology or anything else like that apart from your medication?

Sassy20 · 08/09/2013 05:57

Thanks for the advice and support. I think it's hit me harder as pregnancy with dd was fine and I slept really well until towards the end when I just couldn't get comfy. I think part of it is also I feel like I'm letting her down as well as she has a grumpy and tired Mummy which isn't at all fair on her. Work def doesn't help and they're just not the most supportive - to an extent until it starts to affect them in some negative way.

Hope everyone else is still asleep and wakes up feeling good today. X

Somanychanges · 08/09/2013 06:52

Aw Sassy sorry you feeling so bad. I am also having moments of incredible tiredness I just go all zombie like, for me I try and ignore it until it gets to about 4pm and I feel like I am going to collapse. I said to my husband just last night "how will I get through another 4/5 months this tired?"

Do you think that maybe you could be low on iron? I know that's why I am so tired. Maybe ask for another blood test to check. Just enjoy the time to rest at your parents house, let them look after you. Don't worry about your little girl either you are giving her the gift of a sibling. It's hard being pregnant, feeling crap and being a mum too. I felt really guilty when I went through the worst of my HG too. It's hard not to, but just remember you are a good mum and all the crap feelings that come with pregnancy are only temporary. I hope you manage to get back to sleep and have a lovey day of rest. Here is a big virtual hug.

Sassy20 · 08/09/2013 07:04

Thanks Somany. I wondered about my iron levels but mw said they're fine but that was going off blood tests I had done at 13 weeks and I guess it can change in 3 1/2 weeks so might go to docs and ask them to check again. Starting to feel like asking doc to sign me off for a week just to try and get myself turned around a bit as at the moment just seem to be piling tiredness on top of tiredness! This is the last time I'm doing this as we've said we're stopping at two children so want to enjoy it and savour the experience of being pregnant not feel like this.

I feel bad enough like this so no idea how you and the others coped with HG as well. You must be tough cookies! Smile X

vix206 · 08/09/2013 07:53

Sassy I can't remember how many weeks you are now. When I was 15-18 weeks I felt horrendous. I was sure my iron levels must be low. I discussed it with the mw and she said my levels were above average and that I was underestimating how tiring it is being pregnant with a child to run after all the time. I also wasn't sleeping well as DS was waking multiple times in the night plus I had insomnia Confused
Anyway, hit the magical 20 weeks and now I do feel fantastic. Aside from sciatica (which has been massively helped by deep tissue massage and reflexology) I feel better than I've done for a long time.

See the MW and hang in there. Your body is under so much pressure with all this change.

barebranches · 08/09/2013 07:53

hi everyone sorry to read some people are having crap times and feel crap.... we are supposed to be blooming!!

ill join you... i keep getting awful back ache in the night. no position is comfortable :( any sleeping tips? eventually last night i stuffed a pillow under my back... miss sleeping on my front Sad

vix206 · 08/09/2013 08:05

Just to add Sassy, I've been in bed straight after DS most nights since falling pregnant. So I'm having no evenings at all as he goes to bed at 7!! I choose to look at it as my version of a luxurious lie in (not had one of those for 3.5 years!!Grin) So you're not alone, and remember it is all so temporary. I know I feel very depressed when tired, so I prioritise sleep and do everything I can to get 7 -8 hours. Even though its very broken now, it makes a massive difference.

vix206 · 08/09/2013 08:08

Barebranches it's the same for me with the back problems at night except mine shows up mostly as hip and leg pains. I just sleep with a pillow between my knees. It helps but doesn't cure it. It's a very common problem unfortunately.

I get some relief by sleeping on my back and I just prop a thin pillow under 1 hip so I'm not flat on my back but slightly tilted.

With DS I ended up sleeping sat up, im dreading that ConfusedConfused

rueyrichardson · 08/09/2013 08:58

Morning all. Can't believe its Sunday already! The days are whizzing by. Sorry to hear of discomfort and stress. Have to say with this pregnancy I'm feeling it more than the last, although I seem to be on a carousel that doesn't stop so I don't get the chance to take stock and reflect, leading to tiredness hitting me hard and just needing to sleep there and then. DH is taking DS to rugby shortly and I will have 2 hours to myself, can't wait. Might even find time to post a bump pic on the FB page! I am huge, must have really terrible muscles Grin

Thingymajigs · 08/09/2013 09:11

oh God I'm exhausted. Pregnancy insomnia and a nasty case of restless leg syndrome mixed with looking after six 9/10 yo's for a sleepover party has finished me. Still two hours left before everyone leaves. Still, it was a great party. Smile
Lots of sympathy for everyone struggling with sleep. You aren't alone, I'm averaging 2-3 hours sleep a night.

Sassy20 · 08/09/2013 09:49

Sorry to hear lots of you are also struggling with sleep and back probs. I really hope we all improve soon.

Thanks Vix for words of encouragement - lets hope 20 weeks is the key to feeling better. I'm 16+5 now so only another 3 and a bit weeks. Smile X

Champagnebubble · 08/09/2013 10:03

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vix206 · 08/09/2013 10:07

Sassy 16-17 weeks was my worst point. Keep your chin up Smile

212VIP · 08/09/2013 10:30

Hi all
Can't believe how much I've missed!
Labyrinthitis wiped me out Gor several weeks but am up and running (as far as being HUGE at 18+3 will allow!) so will have a thorough catch up read shortly.
I'd really like to join the Facebook group but can't figure out how to pm. Can someone advise?
Or post a link? Or message me?
Thanks!

jazzcat28 · 08/09/2013 10:43

212 if you click on my name you should be able to PM me - I need to have your email address you use for FB, then I can add you

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marzipanned · 08/09/2013 11:24

Flowers and Cake (for those who can manage it) to everyone feeling rotten.

vix, I really hope the 20 week mark is magical for all the rest of us too! :)

I had another really bad bout of vomiting last night and this time there was about 15ml of blood in it, unlike the few streaks the last couple of times. DH insisting I go to doctor, though not sure what they can really do.

I haven't been taking my meds except on my really bad days (maybe 3 days a week) so maybe the thing is just to take them every day and thereby try to stop the bad days from happening before they do?!

He's away for a week on business from Tues and I'm really terrified of being alone, pathetic I know.