March 2014 - thread 5 - Dating scans in full swing

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Sorry for the delay all! Scan was great, baby was all wriggly and it took a while to get all the measurements but all looks great and measuring bang on for my dates. All systems go!

Joll, what a time to be going through this. Was he like this pre-pregnancy or has his behaviour become worse recently? My XP was controlling and sulky and it's soul-destroying. So much so that it took me years to gather the strength to leave him. Do you think things might change or are you drifting towards the end?

Rosy, they have on FB. Mixed news.

What do you all think I should do about my due date? I'm sure of when I conceived but my scan has put me a week ahead. This wouldn't be such a problem if it wasn't for the fact that I'm planning to have an elective section, which will be done in week 39 but I'll only actually be in week 38 and I don't want bubs yanked out any earlier than is necessary. Should I insist the hospital uses my dates when deciding when to do cs?

Lyra - he's never been this bad. Always a bit moody but some people just are. It's gotten gradually worse since we found I'm pregnant.

If this continues I just don't see it lasting much longer. I keep hoping he's going to snap out of it so I can start enjoying some of my pregnancy and we can carry on being as happy as we were before.

Frank, such lovely, lovely news. Are you coming over to faceache?

Jolls, are you ready for a 'crisis talk' with him or would he point-blank refuse one?

I wish Rockchick would check in...

Lyra, I would only rely on my own dates if I knew from temping when ovulation was. I wouldn't believe ov pain. Sorry.

The deja vu argument unfortunately IS the crisis talk. Half of why it's so gutting when he hits the reset button and continues to be a shit the next day.

Unbelievably frustrating, Jolls. The bloody million-dollar question: are you in love with him? Is he in love with you?

With his behaviour I don't see how he can be in love with me. I certainly love him but not at my own expense...I can't let things carry on like this.

It's not just the pain though Pram. It's also the change in cm, sore boobs etc. also my ovulation date ties in with my lmp. Their date just doesn't fit at all. I think I'll trust my own body and insist they go with my date.

Joll, has he given any reason, such as nervousness at becoming a dad and the responsibility that comes with it?

I'm given different reasons every 10 minutes...half of them directly conflicting with the others.

Maybe he doesn't know himself why he's feeling and acting the way he is. If you really love him, don't write him off yet but do make sure he knows in no uncertain terms that you find his behaviour unacceptable and won't put up with it forever.

Jolls, can you tell him to leave for the weekend so you can decide if you want to carry him in this relationship any longer?

I'm thinking if he doesn't give his head a wobble by tomorrow evening I'll probably stay with friends myself to get away from things.

Fab news Frankel!

I would insist on your date Lyra - and I say that because I am in the same boat and that's what I will be doing if they
move my due date! DD was hauled out at 40+1 and wasn't ready. I wouldnt want to actively choose a 38 weeker.

Found you!

Marking my place.

My OH is moving out next week when he has the week off work. He hasn't found anywhere yet and has a shite credit rating so there's no way he'll be able to rent through an estate agent

Rockchick I hope you're ok. Please let us know, lovey.

Jolls ugh, men can be crap. I've no advice to offer apart from share away m'dear. Having seen how thoughtful and supportive folks have been to prambo I feel this is a good place. However if you think he's spying on your MN name, perhaps a cheeky nanechange is in order? We'll figure out who you are

Pram, what happens if be can't rent somewhere? Does he have people he can stay with?

He'll have saved the link to the thread so not much point.

Besides, how ever will he snoop for home truths if I name change?

I'm so sorry to hear about all the shit you lovely lot are having to put up with. I agree with Ice, share away.

Prambamthankyoumaam is this all final now? Do you think there can be any coming back from it?

can I be a pain and ask again for info on how to join fb group? I just can't find old link thank you!

Lyra, there is no option but for him to leave. I won't feel oppressed in my own home. I've told him he will have to take a room in a shared house. Maybe, after last night's debacle there is no way I can move forward with him. He would have to do a lot better than that shower of shit and he is currently squirrelled away in his stinking Bat Cave. I'm off to stay at my mate's tomorrow night.

Such a sad situation all round, Pram. I wish this hadn't happened to you Hope you have fun at your friend's. A change of scenery will do you good.