March 2014 - thread 5 - Dating scans in full swing

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apprentice yes i don't get that whole pain relief thing makes me furious, for me it holds as much ground as the 'real woman' weight debate. it's the same with those who get offended that people want to have caesareans and then make them feel like they're not real mothers, those who are bothered whether someone had pain relief or not etc are just obnoxious self righteous insane women clutching at anything they can to get on a high horse and make themselves feel better about themselves by belittling others. pathetic!

Erm not a lot, he's just really annoying and has no common sense. It's hot here so he dresses dd in long pjs? And then gets arsey when I question if its a good idea. He's just really annoying me today!

Aww frankel tell us your names list!

Ha mummypig you sound like me! Although DH has been a diamond for the last few days whilst I've been so sick. He's putting kids to bed now and then going out to buy me chicken supernoodles.

Congrats on your scan apprentice Re nuchal testing etc, personally if I got a high risk result I would have amnio as I would not want the uncertainty hanging over me. To be extremely honest I would perhaps even consider not continuing the pregnancy although in my heart of hearts I know I would! I have 2 other dc to consider so I would want time to prepare myself mentally and look into support for us all. We would also have to look carefully at long term finances as the child would need longer term looking after. I know there could be all sorts of different problems that they don't test for though. I would find a doctor questioning what I would do rather patronising and unhelpful!

Anyhoo, back to books... I find myself online instead of reading as much as I would like. My book club are doing the 100 year old man who climbed out of a window and disappeared and I cannot be arsed to start it! My turn to pick next konth so might choose some Atwood.

Oh and re: pain relief - had epidural for DS and it changed my life; I think I pledged my love to the anaesthetist. It was all I wanted for DD's birth but as we got to hossie with 90 seconds to spare it was off the menu!

Mummy my DH does things like that - just doesn't think at times! He took DS out to the park today and didn't take hat, suncream, juice, nappy, wipes, anything really! His response? "I took his fire engine"!!!!

I think whatever pain relief a woman needs is her own choice - I didn't have any drugs other than g&a when I had DS but would never judge someone else for wanting everything they can have! For me, it was about not wanting the side effects with them, and wanting to remember it all. Hoping for home birth this time!

I wonder if the women who boast about doing it all "naturally" and judge anyone who has pain relief think they get a better baby at the end of it. We all get the same prize and it's what you do with the child after the birth that matters, not how you got him/her out of your body. That's one day out of a lifetime of being a parent.

Fruitpastille, I'm starting the 100 year old man tonight. I'm going to DP's work this evening and will have to sit and watch him cook for at least an hour (God, he looks sexy in his chef clothes )so I'll take that for entertainment if I get bored.

Hello. Just marking my place in the group. 11+4 today, after two miscarriages I'm finally beginning to believe this might be happening . Hope everyone's had a good Bank Holiday.

Well as for pain relief, I actually don't know why people care what another woman chooses. Every woman who gives birth (however that is) is amazing!

I had an epidural after 13 hours with ds, it was pure bliss, my last 3 hours in labour were spent sleeping and a few pushes and ds was born.

With dd, it was all so quick, that by the time I got to delivery I was wanting to push so I just had a few puffs of gas and air which felt like heavenly nectar at the time!!

Evening all.

So much happening so apologies when I forget something

Glad scans are going well and that some are feeling better, pants that some are feeling like poo. I agree about the sugar, makes you realise it is evil stuff - I crave sweets, eat them and feel worse. Fruit and salad are fine though. Clever baby making me eat better!

Glad the menfolk seem to upping their games. Maybe it just took a little reminder of what they have and could lose. Hope it continues and they spoil you rotten.

Watching Game of Thrones at the mo. I haven't read it and was a bit reluctant. Didn't get in to it straight away but really enjoying it now. Books - love them! Agree about chick lit. It makes me angry so definitely not h

ARGH!!! Every bloody time! Sorry peeps.

Holiday reading for me. Reading Mao's Last Dancer, which came highly recommended but so far it's not very uplifting. It w

Seriously.

It wouldn't be, would it.

Read The Hundred Year Old Man....(can't be arsed) and LOVED it. Quirky, funny, interesting. Highly recommend it. Pram loved Stieg and have enjoyed reading several Scandinavian authors since.

Knackered as had a houseful of visitors all weekend so off to clean up/ fold washing/ sew name tapes on uniforms etc. Maybe not clean.

Night

Welcome Bousy

Hi everyone. Just managed to catch up...you've all been busy with book chat today. Wish I had the energy to go back and write some of your suggestions but I'm exhausted and feel truly lousy. And admittedly, I packed at least 15 boxes of books yesterday for the move and have had to have a conversation with DP about why a kindle just isn't the same.

Is it apprentice who had a well resulting scan today? (sorry - I can't even remember what I read 2 minutes ago ). Great news

Pram read Great Apes if you want to try a Will Self. It's brilliant. And fucked up.

Agree with the Adichie praise. Half of a yellow sun is beautiful.

Pain relief. I had five epidurals with DD. none of them worked. They don't tell you that bit

Thanks Jolleigh . Enjoying the book chat. I'm on a massive Georgette Heyer binge at the moment, have decided it counts as a pregnancy craving

My dad's just been an extra in Game of Thrones - he retired at end of May and picked this up as a little job on the side. Did a week's filming at the beginning of August sorry side-tracked by random fact

Slippers, you made me laugh

Welcome Bouse

Ahem... (pokes head round door) - im a bit of a latecomer... due 11 March (TBC) and scan on Thursday.

Can I join you? I've only got the energy to chat online, not much else!

Thanks Lyra I aim to please Was it my amazing wit or the fat fingers?

Really enjoyed Pillars of the Earth until friend asked to borrow it and I kindly/ stupidly agreed. Have no idea how it ends. It would have kept me in toilet paper for a while Pram!

thanks joll twas me with the scan today. I struggle if more than five folk talk at once on here as I'm using my phone most of th time ! rosyryan sorry to hear your crap epidural experience. Five is nuts u poor thing. I know from lumbar puncture experience it's not easy to always get the right bit. ...did u have an incompetent anaesthetist or summit?

Coolhand who??? Will keep an eye open tonight if hubby ever comes in from the garden.

Welcome Bouse and Bigredtractor

That is exactly one of the reasons why I didn't epidurals with any of mine. Absolutely petrified of someone sticking something in my spine - much scarier than labour. I think you gals are much braver!

Welcome, Bouse, I'm sorry you've suffered miscarriages. The very best of luck and health for this pregnancy, love.

Coolhand, did your dad have to get his willy out or owt?

Yeah, Frank, give us a teeny taster of your names, eh?

Ikab, yep, we really do love each other (not me and you; me and th'usband) but tonight he came into the bathroom whilst I was having a bath and kissed my nipples and I just felt...nothing

Thanks for lying being nice about me being a twat, Lyra. As far as I'm concerned people who stink should be shot (unless they are mentally ill and then they should be kept indoors during the summer) My tea and dessert were just scrumptious but the lot came back up after twenty minutes

Coolhand, thanks for the link. I have heard about Half A Yellow Sun; isn't it supposed to be fantastic? I'm sure I spotted it on a '100 best books ever' list.

Ice, love that bike but couldn't stand to be bandy-legged. Or does a child's delight outweigh the discomfort? I'm sure it does.

Do folk really judge other folks about their choice of pain relief during birth? How does that work, then? Surely if you manage to push a 7lb kid out of your fanny without any pain relief it simply means you have a twat like a wizard's sleeve?