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March 2014 - thread 5 - Dating scans in full swing

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faithfulandtruthful · 22/08/2013 09:19

Stats thread Here

Link back to Thread 4 for anyone who misses it

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babybear9 · 26/08/2013 09:09

feeling so miserable this morning. sickness worse than eve. up around 4 chucking up bile. really thought at 12+4, id be over it by now. just hope its all worth it when I have scan tomorrow!

TotalShock · 26/08/2013 09:20

lottie I fell over yesterday, well more dragged over, and freaked a little so can't imagine being in a fender bender. How are you feeling?

april my first scan is on Wednesday and this is my first too. I a little worried I'm going to find something wrong but I know that's mainly because of my mmc but trying to remain calm and positive

Hi running it must be quite nice to have fast forwarded a month in the first trimester!

Hope everyone else is ok x

apprenticemamma · 26/08/2013 09:24

Think I'm the only person today April...not a bank holiday in Tayside. Sorry to hear aboutThanks all for advice 're weeing. And speaking of books shall follow some of these tips...might bring my kindle if we r in for a wait ! Now I'm putting the phone away...must not mn at work!

MummyPig24 · 26/08/2013 09:30

My scan is at 10.25 next Saturday so hopefully they won't be running too late. But it will take us an hour to get from home to the hospital so I guess I will take a bottle of water en route.

Just want to go back to sleep!

ikab · 26/08/2013 09:48

Morning all.
So sorry not everyone has a bank holiday, I seriously needed an extra day away from work. 11 weeks today and having to be 'normal' at work is taking it's toll, I'm exhausted!
This is no. 1 for me and I genuinely have massive respect for those of you that are upduffed while looking after other dc's. Have a heartfelt bloody well done, I'm almost crying at the thought of the extra energy it's going to take to wash my hair this morning. Pathetic individual!

Rockchick1984 · 26/08/2013 09:56

Good luck for your scan today Apprentice!!

Babybear hope you feel better soon.

Feel sick this morning but seem to have found a pattern - if I eat supper before bed, I'm ok in the morning. If I don't have anything then I'm nauseous. any excuse for a brew and chocolate digestives before bed

Think DH is taking DS out somewhere this afternoon so I can tidy the house - it seems to have drifted from its usual lived-in amount of mess to just a pigsty. Virtually impossible to do a proper job of cleaning and tidying it when DS is around though, as fast as I put things away he creates more chaos!

FoxMulder · 26/08/2013 10:03

I've got into a regular pattern of spewing up just before going to bed! It's so predictable it's tedious. Anything I eat after dinner comes back up again at bedtime.

I'm so jealous of people who can eat normally. I would love to go for a pub lunch in the beer garden today. I would love to do bloody anything, it's been about a month since I left the house! (not counting hospital appointments and my attempts at walking which involves dragging myself to the end of the road and back)

Anyone else NOT having the NT test? I didn't really see the point, as I wouldn't do anything with a high risk result other than worry.

Rockchick1984 · 26/08/2013 10:08

Fox I've not had it, and didn't with DS. Whatever odds they gave me, I'd stress that I would be that one in X - if my odds were 1 in a million then someone still has to be that one. I wouldn't want CVS or amneo, because of miscarriage risk. Also to be completely honest, there are so many "worse" disabilities that can't be picked up until baby is born, yet I'd still love them with it, that I can't imagine testing for just one thing. Only my personal opinion, would never judge anyone else for their choices :)

MummyPig24 · 26/08/2013 10:23

fox I'm not having it, I had the test last time, but I just feel its unnecessary this time, I don't know, just feel like I don't need it. It can't change anything by having the test anyway.

ikab I washed, dried and straightened my hair this morning and its damn near killed me! My hair is thick and long so it takes forever.

NoMaybeAboutIt · 26/08/2013 10:26

Good luck today Apprentice Smile

Hope things settle soon Fox. Luckily I have never been sick, but the constant nausea is horrible. Mine has started to get worse at bedtime the last few days. So tedious.

I totally get why you wouldn't want the NT test. I think I will gave it, but I also wouldn't have a termination of downs was detected. So why go though the stress?!

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faithfulandtruthful · 26/08/2013 10:34

Lamb, April, Pirates and Total. I am also wednesday. Its my 1st. I've been told full bladder, its a teaching hospital so I guess they let the beginner's have a go!

Best of luck to everyone with scans this week.

F&T

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working9while5 · 26/08/2013 10:35

I am having it but would not have cvs or amnio. I will also have a fetal echocardiogram privately as I was on antidepressants falling pregnant.

I have pretty much made the decision I would not terminate for medical reasons, even in the case of something like anencephaly. This is not for moral or religious reasons, just that I suppose I feel that you grieve either way and if there was a small chance I could meet and say goodbye to my baby I would want that. I think it would be different if I were on a different pregnancy but I have my two boys and if fate dealt me this hand I probably wouldn't be having another baby so all I could do for it would be carry it. I appreciate this is an unusual point of view especially as I am not religious but I've lived with very serious fear of something happening in all my pregnancies as I get perinatal OCD which basically means I have a lot of waking dreams about horrible things happening to my baby that are distressing and unwanted. So I've had a lot of therapy and time to think about it and in that very sad situation, I think that I would take the five months to come to terms with our loss and to give myself over to it as it unfolded.

Though I have no judgement at all of what anyone would ever decide in these sad situations and perhaps if it came to it I would feel differently.

FoxMulder · 26/08/2013 10:44

Interesting to know. My midwife said that only about 50% of people have it, but it seemed everyone on here was.

working this perinatal OCD sounds bloody awful!! How are you doing with this pregnancy?

NoMaybe I think the constant nausea is worse than actually being sick. At least with being sick there is a bit of relief afterwards.

April13 · 26/08/2013 10:46

Good luck today apprentice Smile.

To be honest, I never really thought about the NT, but the midwife said they do it with the scan ad its not invasive etc, so I will probably say OK, however, I have also been told that I may not be able to have the NT as i haven't passed (sorry!) the 2nd baby, and they wont know until on the day if my body has re-absorbed it. I know I probably wouldn't have the CVS or the amnio due to miscarriage risk and like Rock it wouldn't make a difference to me or DH either way, regardless of the test results.

ikab · 26/08/2013 11:10

Working my heart goes out to you. It sounds incredibly distressing but thank you for sharing. I really feel that all comments on this thread help someone else in the group either directly or by cementing previously held believes or by understanding that this pregnancy lark is as changeable, individual and varied as you can imagine and then some. No right or wrongs.

I am having the NT, not sure about thoughts about results but dh and I made the decision to test after reading in the mn book that one woman's likelihood was v high and indeed she did have a baby with Downs and she felt that knowing before the birth helped her prepare herself and those around her.

PramQueen1971 · 26/08/2013 11:11

Authors like Kinsella, Cole, Picoult, Cornwell et al are chick-lit whores, in my opinion. Any chick-lit makes me feel ashamed to be a woman. The only female authors I respect right now are Hilary Mantel and Lionel Shriver. I find female authors allow their gender to get in the way of their writing so I stick to the blokes. A woman could never write a book like Shantaram (David Gregory Roberts) or Shogun (James Clavell).

I've sent th'usband on a two-mile trek to the neighbouring village to buy me a bag of traffic light lollies.

PramQueen1971 · 26/08/2013 11:23

Good luck today, Apprentice.

ikab · 26/08/2013 11:32

The last book I really enjoyed was Jeanette Winterson Why be happy when you could be normal. Laugh out loud funny, clever, damaged, survivor with crystal clear clarity, its fair to say I love her a little bit. I also really liked The colour of milk by Nell Leyshon.

Yesterday I gave in and bought A cuckoos calling, I need a bit of escapism right now and sorry but really did enjoy Harry Potter hides in the corner awaiting abuse from the high brows stands proud (sort of!)

April13 · 26/08/2013 11:47

ikab i love Harry Potter Smile. I have also recently downloaded The Hobbit to read in preparation for the films..I am a complete Geek though :)

fruitpastille · 26/08/2013 11:54

apprentice if it is not too late, my letter said a moderately full bladder so I drank about half alitre on the way there.

My name I because it is the nearest I had to a craving with dd! I will pretend I didn't hear you re bovril.

Ahhh, books.. I have varied taste. Anyone who enjoyed the Hunger Games I have just finished the very enjoyable Divergent by Veronica Roth, another young adult dystopian future novel with a female main character. The second book is Insurgent and I am awaiting the third in september.

I also loved Room, Gone Girl and Before I go to sleep. Jojo Mayes Me before you and The girl you left behind also really good but fairly easy reading. Sorry, crap capitals, can't be arsed on tablet!

LyraSilvertongue · 26/08/2013 12:00

I loved the Harry Potter books too. And the Twilight books. I'll read anything with a good story, whether low or high brow. Book snobs annoy me. There's one in my book club. She likes poncey books that are hard to read for no other reason than they are considered intellectual. Stupid attitude IMO.

PramQueen1971 · 26/08/2013 12:10

I'm not a book snob, I simply don't like the way women write. JK Rowling is enormously talented but I can't read fantasy or kids' books. Chick-lit authors are just whores like John Grisham; churning out the same old shit under different titles. It infuriates me because I am a voracious reader but haven't been gripped by anything close to an intelligent storyline in about two years. Gone Girl was hugely enjoyable until the last third of the book which became wincingly absurd, stupid author.

fruitpastille · 26/08/2013 12:12

I am guessing you like Phillip Pullman too Lyra! We had that on our name list for dd but weren't brave enough.

PramQueen1971 · 26/08/2013 12:13

..in fact, I believe I am simply still grieving the death of Stieg Larsson Sad

LyraSilvertongue · 26/08/2013 12:21

Pram, I'm not a fan of chick-lit in general either. And I agree about Gone Girl - it was all going so well but then it got a bit preposterous and the ending was awful.

Yes, big fan of His Dark Materials. If this baby is a girl I'm very tempted to call her Lyra, if DP agrees. I know a two-year-old called Lyra and at first I felt like she's stolen my name Grin I've had this name online for years.

I also love the Steig Larsson books. Apparently he'd made plans to write about 10 books in the series but only lived long enough to complete 3 Sad