March 2014 - Thread 4 - awaiting our dating scans

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Ladies, really thinking of you all who are having trouble with partners current or ex. Cant imagine how hard that must be on top of everything else right now. x

Hello and thank you, thank you, thank you for thinking of me. Your generosity of spirit is honestly keeping me going. I am home but th'usband is not (he goes to visit his son on Saturdays. He'll be back at 7pm-ish). Of course I want answers to all my questions but right now I am still reeling from the power of the anger I feel and the sadness of the betrayal. He has risked mine and baby's livelihood and I don't think I can stay with him. I don't think he can change. I can forgive him but that really is not the issue here. I do not believe he will change.

This thought doesn't even make me feel sad right now; I'm too angry to feel sadness. He works eleven hours a day, five days a week, and is out visiting his son every Saturday from 10am-7pm. I don't see him nearly as much as I (and baby) will need to, so this deception I have uncovered is just making me see more clearly how little I need him. Love is not enough...

I will be back when I have more cogent thought patterns but right now I want to kick the living shit out of him. I have no sympathy or respect for him. He is a weakling and a cunt. I'm sorry..

sorry to hear the unhappy news, as always if you need anything we're all here if you need us!

on the bra front I'm not even bothering for a while as it's hard enough to get my size anywhere as it is let alone now.

im guessing we're still on the pram ban?

Oh Lyra and Pram, for you both. Sucky sucky sucks.

grey not sure. But we should lift it at some point as I need to set some eBay notifications up for a decent double pram! And I'm hoping some folks on here will have tips for me. I'm also considering a baby bay/ bed best crib thingy (attaches to the side of your bed) but their soooo expensive

Gah their they're.

Aw Pramala you poor thing

With all the time and energy you put into conceiving this baby I can't even imagine how stressful all that is going on must be for you just now.

We are all here for you to vent and for virtual hugs and

is that a weed leaf on the mug...?!

just realised its the mn logo ignore me

Haha greymoose, I did think that too!

Ice, you can hire a baby bed nest from the NCT for 6 months, ehich comes with a new matress I think. Gives you the co sleeper for a fraction of the price!

Oh pram what a shitty situation. Hope you are ok.

You too lyra.

We've been at soft play, tesco and the in laws today. Dh getting the kids some tea, I'm ravenous so their leftovers will be wending my way. I'm paranoid about getting gestational diabetes or ending up high risk if my bmi gets too high, but eating is the only way to stop myself feeling sick right now.

Bravissimo update.

Score! They have about 5 soft non under wire bras. I thought I might try on a maternity bra but quickly decided to put that off for as long as possible, Urgh!

I tried on the Deco soft cup and the Sophie soft cup.
The latter is pretty especially in pink but it is made of thin material. My nipples are for hubbies eyes only and they are not exactly being shy at the moment so I went for the Deco which is a non under wired T-shirt bra. It feels secure but comfy at the mo.
One downside though, it only comes in nude and black, practical but v yawn...

I'm thinking of you pram (and lyra and anyone else currently dealing with knob-end men). This feels like quite a vulnerable time, but I think it's also a time when a massive female strength develops - like being a lioness or something, when the survival of ourselves and cubs becomes the most important, all-consuming thing. You will get through it, whatever happens. Grrrrr xxx

Pram that is so tough. Thinking of you. You too Lyra - the last thing you need is to be dealing with ex's crap right now.

On bra front, I am not the biggest in the boob dept (somewhere between 32B/C normally). Last pregnancy, I went to a proper bra shop and got measured up - got a Hot Milk bra - expensive but fitted like a glove, very supportive and even sexy when I needed to feel a big better about myself. Hoping I grow into it this time again

Pram and Lyra so sorry you're having to deal with so much crap. Stay strong.

Coolhand thanks for that. I'll look into Hot Milk.

Pram - thinking of you. Hopefully all the support both here and amongst your own, and thoughts of your beautiful wee bean can help buffer the pain. Lioness spirit - good analogy.

Hi ladies, haven't been here for a few days, meanwhile you've filled about 16 pages! I wish I could drop in more than I do, but I'll try to keep up as best I can...

pram and lyra, I am so sorry for what you've both been going through. I can't imagine having to deal with situations like that on top of everything else. You're both clearly exceptionally strong women to be coping as you are. Lots of virtual , and for both of you.

Hope everyone who's feeling bleurgh starts feeling a lot better soon; I've felt a little nauseous and dizzy, and very tired, but really feel like I've managed to escape the worst. Although I'm just coming up to 9 weeks, so it could still hit me...

My boobs are KILLING ME though. They're not a great deal bigger (although new bras will be required), but they feel about twice as heavy and ridiculously tender. Kind of like I've been punched in the tits. Lovely.

Oh Pram and Lyra, sending virtual hugs in your direction. No one deserves to go through that kind of shit.

Hi, is anyone around.

Just been to the loo and am seeing pink discharge with every wipe. Never had anything like this with DD1. Is it normal?

mortified I had this a few weeks ago, only lasted an hour or so and then went away. Try not to worry but just keep your eye on it and listen to your body. If you see any red blood or start with any cramps then A&E. My midwife said I'd likely just irritated my cervix or it was implantation/settling in.

Hi mortified - I didn't want to not answer - but I'm sorry I don't know. This is my first pregnancy.

I think if its bright red then to be concerned.

Hopefully someone will be able to answer quickly.

I'm ten weeks so fingers crossed as it just seems so so close to the scan.

Tmi but it looks like when you do a massive sneeze andtheres pink in it from sneezing too hard,

Have put a pad on, to gauge how bad t is in a few hours.

Thanks for your good wishes ladies. You're all very kind.

Pram, hope your evening has been ok and that you and th'usband have talked things through.

Mortified, I had this a couple of weeks ago, pink cm followed by red streaks in cm later that day. I panicked but it only lasted that day and hasn't happened since. Try not to worry but keep an eye on it.

That sounds really similar to what mine looked like mortified. Just keep an eye and try not to get yourself too worried - easier said than done I know!

mortified how is it today?