October 2013 - Countdown to D-Day!

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I'm going to go against the grain a little bit here Clapham and say let it go. You've said that your industry is very competitive, so I guess it's kind of natural that this guy is keen to make his mark quickly and impress - I'm sure I would be the same if I still cared about my career.

And you know you are not going back - so the 'jumping in your grave' my not be nice, but you don't have to care! Chill out for a few weeks, and start researching your yoga/dietician idea.

I say the same as bowlful, however I'm hardly one to speak as my job isn't really a career just a lifestyle and I've never been very ambitious.....Let this guy who sounds like a total jobs worth do what he feels he needs to do to prove himself, (I find that arse lickers like him always come unstuck eventually) however poor guy under you, I do feel sorry for him.

I no that in your shoes I would be fuming too clapham but seen as I'm not and I'm here offering advice I would say if u r 100% not returning then just let it go xx

I'm still kicking myself over reading that text on dh's phone. I can't believe I've spoilt it for myself! Gah people shouldn't text about these things they should have rung him when he was at work instead of txt when he's home with me!

Nappy wise with dd I usually brought whatever was on offer but if I had a choice I would have gone for huggies however obviously not an option now so I would say go for asda little Angels x

Clapham prepping for mat leave is very hard, I remember when pg with DD1 spreading out my holiday before I left so I was there for longer (did 4 weeks pt time instead of 2 weeks holiday) I ended up having DD 3 days later at 37 weeks! My company were the opposite, hadn't sorted out my cover before I left, not sure what's worse having someone take over your role while still there or worrying that nothing will get done when u go! Try and think in the old management cliché that if you are a good manager then you can go on holiday and everything should run smoothly in your absence.

I returned to work in a lower pt time position after 6 months off, my replacement hadn't been in the role for long (and was crap!) it was difficult as my old team would come to me for advice and think I probably stepped on her toes a lot bit (the nice part of me admits her crappness was slightly down to lack of training)

But anyway back to my point I was trying to make........try and not let the stress get to you, especially if ur not going back, by all means indulge your pg rage a bit and ask to be kept in the loop but the most important thing is to grow and get baby here safe, work, meh who cares!

Oh and rock the heels Clapham, you know there's a bit of Kim Kardashian inside you that's dying to be unleashed

clapham another one with the subtlety of a brick! I decided to put yesterday's episode down to the colleague's own security in the end - my boss has been saying how much they are going to miss me.

I guess there is also a tendency to feel these things a little more keenly in our tired, grumpy hormonal state. Especially as you are not planning to go back, I would let it wash over you and thank your lucky stars you're not the one dealing with it at 1am etc. Can you not so subtly offer your advice and experience to this guy? Along the lines of "when I dealt with [sometiing similar] I found that such such really worked well" just to ram it home that new guy is not all that? Or just cross your fingers and hope his strategy blows up in his face while making it clear it was all his great idea

Can I just say everyone's jobs sound so exciting! If only we could make our thread private lol. My life feels boring!

pink we have a new VP so noone really has a strong relationship with her yet and everyone is desperate to impress her... and I am shocked at how they are managing this poor guy considering he is staying here and he really cares...

bowlfull I think you are right and I should just swallow it, wrong as it is... My replacement guy has been overlooked for promotion a few times over the last two years so he is absolutely desperate to impress and turn the corner. I know him really well, we've worked together for over 6 years and get on really well. Although I've never trusted him fully. I know my team is super competitive but this still shocked me a bit... didn't expect it that early... and not from him. I think I will relax now and spend work time planning my future, take very long lunch breaks for shopping etc...

DP is landing at Heathrow in 10min so this cheers me up a bit. flyer just sent him a lovely landing text :-)

clapham I'd let it go and google baby products all day..that's what I'm basically doing. Esp if you aren't planning to return as it's not worth stressing yourself out. Big firms treat pregnanct women like crap. I'm planning to come back for 3 months (so I don't lose my mat leave payments) and then change jobs. I too am being ignored as if I don't exist. Not worth getting you or baby stressed though. Hugs x

FWIW I don't think this kind of behaviour is just limited to mat leave, I distinctly remember being treated similarly after handing in notices at work; being left out of meetings/emails/decision making, which would be understandable if it were about things happening after you leave, but not on current projects/clients you are working with. I did confront someone once about it, to be told I couldn't possibly care because I was leaving. Erm, not true! Professional pride, care over projects that had been months or years in planning? It's like you become someone of no relevance or importance, with no valid opinions, which is hard.
I hope the day gets better for you, Clapham.

In other news, my sense of meh has changed to waffy-ness and weepiness. Just not myself today. I guess it was my turn. But calling the mw clinic to book in for Monday, only to be told it was full, reduced me to tears. As in floods of. Totally disproportionate.

Any ideas what I should do? I'm already a week late with appointments (this should have been the 31 week check, but I'll be 32 by Monday). The following Monday will be a bank holiday, so no clinic, meaning I'll be 34wks by the time they see me.
I've called the mw central office and left a message (they never answer) but I'm not hopeful of getting a reply...

Nat my current job is as dull as dishwater I will happily swap with you. Handing out leaflets in debenhams (which no one wants) and filling up the brochures when they are running low. Next weekend we have a themed Sea World weekend and I have to go in some sort of fancy dress, my boss is dressing up as a penguin, I can't wait it'll be the highlight of my year (sarcastic tone)

thanks all xxx I'm taking deep breaths and letting it go. I'm lucky that I can just pocket the maternity money and don't have to return at all to keep it.
hope things will work out for you too warlin x

flyer how do u go from being cabin crew and holidaying in exotic locations to handing out leaflets in debenhams just cos your pregnant? Lol.

I know.....I thought opting to be based nearer to home (at virgin holiday shop) would be better than being based at heathrow for my maternity placement. How wrong I was I wish I took the job they offered me working in the uniforms dept at heathrow now! Never been so bored.

Me too, cannot believe what they are getting you to do! Surely there's a better role that makes use of your training and experience! But I'm still fascinated by the sea world theme - what are you going to go as?

Clapham you are lucky - in my previous work place there was a clawback provision on the mat leave if you didn't return. One of the reasons I left.

Am feeling really really tired and 'meh'. Eugh.

Absolutely no idea hotsoup I might go as myself with the 3+ stone weight gain I could pass as shamu the whale haha

Hi everyone, I've read the thread but I'm at work so forgive me for not namechecking you all...

I'm a bit worried as baby has been quiet so far today - I've got a consultant appointment at 3.20 (to discuss increased amniotic fluid levels) so ill mention it then. I just feel a bit uneasy....

Pseudo fingers crossed bubba is just snuggled in a position where u can't feel it, have you tried the usual, cold drink lie quietly etc? xx

I've been busy at work and up since 5 so no time to stop really. But I've felt plenty of movements on similar days recently which is why I'm worried. I'm now sitting in a comfy chair slanted to the left with a can of coke to see what I feel...

I just got 8 movements in 10 minutes which isn't bad. I'm still going to mention it at my appointment :)

that's good pseudo they have some quiet times to scare us... I'm sure it will be ok and your appointment is in a couple of hours so they can double-check. Good luck!

flyer I dressed up every day in Greece as a beached whale

shire unless you have any concerns I think waiting until 34 weeks is ok. My 31 weeks appt is 32 weeks because she told me she was off. But if I couldn't have got booked in I would have left it until 33/34.

However, if there is anything worrying you I would chase up an appt.

So tired today as really not sleeping well. Very restless. Submitting our application for the house tomorrow. Looks like there's a fair bit of competition!

Good luck with the house application Hayle

Pseudo 8 movements in 10 minutes is good so I wouldn't worry. The babies sleep for up to 30 mins at a time so it's normal not to feel them all the time.

I'm seeing the mw next week for my 34 week apt..have only seen her at 16 and 28 weeks and it really seems like very few appointments.

Flyer that seems awful that you are stuck doing those sort of jobs because you are pregnant. It's maddening that employers get away with treating us like this. I never take sick days so really don't want to but I am physically and not mentally here at the minute :( I'm really considering a week early as it's pretty soul destroying to be honest

Good news on the movement, pseudo - hope the consultant app goes ok later.

Thanks, Hayle - I just couldn't (can't) think straight. The crying at least seems to have stopped now. It's just bizarre

I technically have 2 weeks left at work, but my boss has just informed me that as she'll be away she doesn't care if I dont really go in. haha. its all just office stuff I could do, not actual work with kids or teenagers so she said as long as I write up 2 reports that need doing theres no need to do anything else and I can do them from home! !! all the rest of our admin stuff has changed to a new system this week and I haven't been trained on it cos im about to leave so cant do anything else! ! im made up, be the easiest last few weeks ever!!!