Graduated elderberries - 30+ and looking forward to DC1! (Thread 6)

[HazleNutt]

Oh, looks like I wrote the last post! So new thread here where we will see more berry babies and hopefully loads more graduates as well.

Thanks guys, he is just the most frustrating person to live with! He just seems to lack empathy. Fingers crossed purple, he keeps saying all the things he is going to do when baby is here, I hope he follows through on it all! I just wish he had more of an urge to help me now.

Dog is now walked and my friend just dropped off 2 bin bags full of baby clothes so I'm in a better mood now. I don't think we will need to buy baby clothes for ages as we have been given so much stuff.

Hi again girls. Came home today and it all feels surreal. Baby has been feeding well and I am completely overwhelmed! She is so beautiful.
I can go into details about labour Eric if you want to however I will say two things. Whatever you do, hire a tens machine! I don't know how I would have coped without one. And I 100% recommend an epidural!!
I will have a read later. Hope you a re all well

That's lovely to hear Lol, so glad you're enjoying it. Those first few days are so special.

And I absolutely second the TENS and epidural. They made a huge difference for me.

Yay congrats Lol! Well done you :) and another one here for surreality :)

Get well soon Janey and sympathies Mother...

Will return soon with more.... tried to get photo up but failed first time. No name yet!

How lovely lol.

Congrats again to both you and bear.

I feel like crap today, tired, achy and generally ready to hibernate.

Hi lol sounds like you're enjoying having her home yes please to labour details! Interesting about the tens machine, I wasn't going to bother with that but my neighbour said she'll lend me hers and I would need to buy new pads (the bit that goes next to the skin). Also good to know that you recommend epidural. Did you just let the midwife recommend when and how to do it etc?

Sorry you're not feeling great mother, I'm really tired and in zombie mode today. Trying to be positive and enthusiastic at work but it's not easy today! Sorry about your DP too, could you have a really nice chat with him when you're both in good moods with each other about how you're feeling and him helping and try and get him to understand a bit more and get his arse in gear?

Oh and quod welcome back! And lol huge congrats too, I meant to say it to you yesterday but realised I didn't post the message as rushing around

Got a bag of baby clothes from MIL - DHs baby clothes, she has kept them for 36 years, can you imagine? They still look perfect, so it's quite cute to dress Vic in his dad's clothes.

Ahhh hazel that is so cute!! That's so nice of her.

I am overwhelmed by how much we have been given, I honestly don't think we will need to buy clothes for the baby for ages although I'm sure I will. I need to go through it all but we have everything from tiny baby to 2 year old, seems that it should all be about right season wise too. I might treat myself and go through it all this evening and split into ages so I can bag it up ready to go into the chest of drawers when we finally put it together. Plus I need to sort out the older stuff so I can put it away in loft till we need it. We've also been given a baby bath seat, top and tail bowl (had to look up what that was for) gina ford book, toys, blankets, grobags, muslins, more than I could have imagined. Didn't realise people were so so generous. The nursery is actually almost sorted, we just need to get new carpet so we can build the furniture.

Baby hand me downs are so great! My mum has given me some of my baby clothes which will be handy if we have a girl - had no idea she still had them! Baby would have the retro look!

cavort I remember you saying you were driving a sports car at the moment - which pram are you using and does it fit ok in the boot? janey's icandy wouldn't fit in our boot so I'm hoping to find a really small, compact one if poss, and ideally one that can also become a buggy for a toddler later on and is car seat compatible. And rear facing pram if poss. Not asking for much!! Does anyone else have a compact one?

This link may help alex www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1104077-Those-of-you-with-small-cars-which-pram-travel-system-did-you-get/AllOnOnePage

The quinny zapp looks like it folds tiny alex www.quinny.com/gb-en/strollers-pushchair/zapp/#stroller-detail-lightbox

Currently I'm planning on getting the Mothercare Orb not sure how small it folds though.

Ah the baby car dilemma is always a good one.

It's not really a sports car Alex it's just got a big engine and is very impractical for a baby, it's a BMW 335 coupe so the boot is actually quite big, much bigger than in my sensible hatchback company car. We have an Uppababy Vista and I would have to take the wheels off it to fit the pram chassis in my boot but we have a roof box for the pram so we can put the dog in the boot.

Babies are very expensive when you have to factor in a new car to accomodate all their gear! Either me or DH needs to get a baby/dog friendly car but we decided to just get by with what we have until I know what I'm doing about work. DH loves his man toy car and doesn't want to change it so if I have to give my company car back we will get a family car for me.

Thanks will look at the link mother! Also planning trips to mothercare and john lewis on sat morning. cavort ours is a BMW 330d sport cabriolet so not sure how those models compare on boot size - we obviously won't be having the roof down with a baby on board! We were ttc when we bought the car for a good deal last summer so I didn't want to turn down the offer and buy a practical family car when we were giving up hope on ttc - I wouldn't have it all any other way though when it comes to that!

My stepdad swears by one of these nappy bin systems (apparently twists the nappy bags up and locks the smell in really well). Are any of the new mums bothering with that? Or do you just bag them up and put them in the normal bin - or straight into the outdoor bin? (sorry, nice conversation!)

Am def going to get one of those baby body carrier things - a friend recommended Ergo.

Alex if the cabriolet's boot with the roof up is the same as ours then there's tons of room! You could fit 2 prams in there.

I'm not sure how much smaller ours is (it's a funny shape boot because the hard top folds up and goes away transformer-style when you have the roof down) - we def couldn't fit janey's pram in there yesterday but you're giving me hope we'll find one that fits!

I'm not sure how much smaller ours is (it's a funny shape boot because the hard top folds up and goes away transformer-style when you have the roof down) - we def couldn't fit janey's pram in there yesterday but you're giving me hope we'll find one that fits!

alex about nappies - breastfed baby's poop does not smell, so they just go into the normal bin for now.

Straight out to the wheelie bin here, no fancy bin necessary!

Poor little Lucy was at the hospital this morning having her tongue tie snipped. Poor Mummy is having to deal with a wingey baby (though who can blame her, if someone had attacked me with a pair of scissors i'd be in a pissy mood too) two mad dogs I can't walk and two cats all on my own as Daddy has buggered off for two days on a course and booked himself a hotel even though its only an hour away

Purple do you think the tongue tie is the reason Lucy is not a fan of the boob? Elodie is getting hers snipped next week, which I am not looking forward to watching, but I need it for the sake of my poor nipples!

Couldn't you have ordered used your female powers of persuasion on your OH to get him to come home after the course? An hour is nothing, my DH commutes an hour to his office daily.

Well we will see if it makes any difference! (Please god)
It's honestly not that bad to watch although I'm generally quite pragmatic and not overly emotional (when hormones aren't ruining me) so maybe that's why it didn't affect me? they said I was very brave as it usually upsets mums too much and dads have to hold the baby but it wasn't any big deal - one small snip, couple of minutes of crying, no biggie it barely even bled. Am it

Sorry, multi taking again and hit the wrong button! Was trying to say Am I totally heartless?

As for OH I don't understand it at all - he said he would have to get up too early to go from home but the course starts at 9am. It's not even like it's much of a jolly sitting in a hotel room on your own for two nights!