Graduated elderberries - 30+ and looking forward to DC1! (Thread 6)

[HazleNutt]

Oh, looks like I wrote the last post! So new thread here where we will see more berry babies and hopefully loads more graduates as well.

Elodie is on my list and DH says it sounds made up because he is stupid I love it
Alex do you know Janey in RL? Am I missing something or is Janey just a big blabber mouth???

Race to the blue finish line!!

They're all nice but I especially like Sophia, that was on my short list but I didn't like how it sounded with OHs accent when he said it. I think Alexandra is lovely as well.

Sorry that was to quod and made sense a few posts ago! yes I know janey IRL, she told me about all of you lovely berries! She isn't a blabber mouth or anything although we do make fun of her for exaggerating stories but we just want to surprise friends with the name after the birth!

Makes sense now! Janey didn't actually think you were a blabber mouth

Love your girls names Alex, especially Amy as thats my name Our girl name was going to be Savannah Brooke, other ones I liked were Isabella, Carmella, Melissa, Lauren, Felicity (OH hated that one), Alexa and Lois. I spent ages worrying about peoples reaction to Savannah then discovered we are having a boy, so I wouldn't worry too much just yet.
My surname is bloody awful! So quite glad to go with my OHs surname, his isn't great though, it's dutch so people always assume we are German.

Maybe I'll bully talk DH into thinking about girls names again tonight and trying to shortlist a bit more! He does like talking names but don't think he loves it quite as much as me!

Oh and I like yours too mother! I always think about what the names will be shortened too don't you - would you have Bella or Izy for Isabella as I think I prefer Bella? Although I guess it's up to the baby when she grows up!

Oh and I also got your blabbermouth joke a bit late merk!

Merk that's exactly what DH said when I first floated it past him having already decided that I wanted it. He said it sounded made up and reminded him too much of Melody. I had to show him this to prove it is an actual French name. We've had a very positive response to it since naming her, which has been lovely and proves to DH I was right.

Cavort ages ago you posted a link where you could look into baby names and trends but it wasn't this one, it showed how popular the name was and was going to be, I don't suppose you can remember the link?!

DH and I have shortened down to four - progress!

Alex I would have gone for Bella, my friend has an Isobel and she calls her baby bel which I think is cute! I liked Ruby and Megan too by my OH hated them.

Oh and just to throw some boys names out their our shortlist was Harvey, Dexter, Riley, Sebastian, Travis, Harrison and Bryce, the decision so far is sticking as Harvey Sebastian.

I love Isabella!!!!! It was my favourite but DH only likes short names. What about Gabriella or Gabrielle? I love them too. I see Lara on your list. We could have our first berry namesake . I also like Bella or belle as a name or as the short version of a name. Looks like we have similar tastes!
Agree on surname. I would def have mine if we were not married still considered it as DH's surname is ugly and mine is lovely

Reporting in from 20wk scan, all is well and normal on all fronts. It was a bit nerve-wracking as the baby was in a funny position and they spent ages looking at the heart and trying to see valves without success, but after sending me out for a walk and a cold drink it had moved and they could see what they needed, phew. It feels really really odd now though that I won't know the sex until it is born - all of a sudden I am way more curious!

woohoo Quod great news!

This has made my eyes water today!

Great news Quod and well done on holding out on the gender.

Elodie 'allowed' me 4.5 hours kip last night which I feel surprisingly fresh on. Oh how my life has changed.

this made me snort:
www.scarymommy.com/category/labor-delivery/

still pregnant berries - don't be scared, it's not really that bad. The birth plan might have been a tad unrealistic though.

Congrats quod!!!! Full respect to those of you who are not find out out the gender, I couldn't wait to discover if it was a boy or girl!! Your restraint is impressive!

I saw that yesterday cavort, serious gulp. The poor mothers bits must have been shredded Should definitely have been a C section baby!

Hazle that's so funny!

Yes pregnant Berries, don't let it scare you, but also don't be naive enough to think contractions don't hurt. If you're prepared for the pain as a means to meeting your gorgeous little baby then you will manage just fine. I am a wuss and if I can do it anyone can, although I still strongly advocate an epidural.

Mother it looks like she has given birth to a sumo wrestler! It's a disgrace that the baby's size wasn't picked up and the poor mother had to give birth vaginally. As another website put it, "Mother and child are doing well according to the father, who was busy renting out her vagina as storage space to a small Vietnamese family."

So pleased you got some sleep cavort!!! Haha, love the renting her vag out comment, no amount of pelvic floor is going to help her is it!

My general plan for birth is that it is going to hurt like hell, but the pain won't last forever and it is for a purpose, at the end of it I will have my son in my arms. I want to be in a hospital maternity ward/delivery unit with access to any sort of drug and qualified person who I could possibly need, I am ruling nothing out. I don't really want an epidural but if I change my mind when in labour so be it. I generally plan to play it by ear and make informed choices. Oh and if I can not kill my OH in the process then all the better.

That story made me chuckle hazel. I can imagine that being me, I don't expect to maintain any dignity. The world and their wife can stare at my vagina if it hurries up his entrance into the world! I hope I don't tear, but if I do I will deal with it, make the best of it and try to remember that my son was worth all the burning agony each time I pee.

So we tossed a coin on the way in to see the registrar (no really, we did) and my surname won, yay! That way there can be no arguments and recriminations down the line about one of us giving in or letting the other have their own way. Otherwise I could just see it being brought up in arguments for years so the element of chance seemed fairer.

Congrats on your scan Quod, I found I relaxed a LOT once 20 weeks scan was on so I hope you find the same.

Mother, honestly? Peeing with stitches isn't nearly as bad as you might think, I was surprised.

Good news Purple, how has your OH taken it? Is he sulking as men do? Now all you have to do it convince him to take your name on marriage.

Mother I had an episiotomy, which is apparently on a level with a second degree tear, and I haven't had any stinging when peeing. I was all prepared with my jug of warm water to pour over myself to ease the pain but nothing was necessary. I was terrified of the first poo but even that was fine.

Haha, whoop whoop purple!

Yep that is my general plan, is that bad purple? I just figure I can plan for butterfly's and fairies but the reality is it's going to hurt something shocking and I am going to swear and moan A LOT, but it has to end at some point and at that point it will all have been worth it. I want to be open to all the options so I can do what's best for me at the time rather than feeling pressured to adhere to a strict plan. I guess I'm not being very positive am I?

Phew, glad the tear/cut situation isn't as bad as I feared, grateful for small mercies.

Purple at your way of choosing the name, brilliant.

I agree, got some stitches and it was nothing like the stories you can read on MN, didn't sting at all. Actually I've found that most things are not really that bad - I wasn't afraid everything will fall out when I go to toilet; I am not peeing myself; breastfeeding is not agony, hurt a little at first but not at all any more; I'm not a sleep deprived zombie only yelling at DH etc etc. I know I'm very lucky and it is indeed different for many women, but it's not always a total horror, like you might think based on Mumsnet threads.

mother your birth plan sounds very reasonable - trust your instincts and don't be afraid to ask questions if you are told that you should do this or that because it's "best for the baby." If it's not something you're comfortable with and not an emergency, there are usually options.