Graduated elderberries - 30+ and looking forward to DC1! (Thread 6)

[HazleNutt]

Oh, looks like I wrote the last post! So new thread here where we will see more berry babies and hopefully loads more graduates as well.

I love Thailand too, if you don't mind the long flight when preggers (around 14 hours from memory??) but yes I think it's rainy season so I'd be annoyed if I did the flight and it pissed down! Just remembered a friend was pregnant when she went on hols to the west coast of the US and had a good time, in fact I think she went in September - long flight so again if you don't mind that! Let me know if you want me to ask her where/what she did.

Brave I'm with hazel, I'm sure we can dispose of his body if needed, just say the word. men are so frustrating aren't they, why do they have to try and 'solve' everything when all you want is some support and basically someone to whinge with about tiredness etc. I read that 'men are from mars women are from venus' book a few years back and have to say it is spot on at explaining our differences and why we wind each other up.
Stick to your guns/instincts, I feel for you but he is acting like a bit of a tool isn't he.

If you don't want a long flight perhaps somewhere like Lake Garda or Lake Como might suit, I know it's Europe but I've never been somewhere as lovely as Lake Garda, it was simply stunning, plus you can go on trips to Venice, Verona, Milan etc if you want to which makes it a bit more exciting. I seem to be suffering from pregnancy induced restless legs so even the 3 hour flight to Tunisia was a nightmare. Or what about the Cape Verde islands? They look stunning and aren't too far away? Something like a cruise down the Nile or on the Norwegian fjords could be fun, not overly exotic though.

My OH is originally from Africa and I wouldn't trust their hospitals, unless it's SA you go to.

Brave as long as you are willing to persevere with the BF (knowing it will get better) then I would argue your OH doesn't get a vote and he should sinply take himself off to a place where your 'selfishness' won't dusturb him and, more importantly, you won't have the distraction of his moaning while you are working hard to do the best you can for his child. Get rid of him and tell him to come back when he's had a think and is armed with an apology and some support.

I managed 2 x 1hr sleeps between feeds and almost feel human again, almost!

So please for you cavort, hope you can squeeze a few more naps in.

pleased not please......damn fat fingers

Haha it's not that bad, just feels it at 3 in the morning when I'm part nodding off part sobbing lol

He's on paternity leave of a variety- he's had to take holiday as he hadn't been there long enough to be eligible. Think that's part of the problem tbh- he's not getting a 'holiday' really is he?

Oops didn't see last page. Thanks for letting me know where to turn if body disposal becomes necessary :)

Have pointed out that after this week he's refusing declining to help at night so switching to formula now is pretty pointless.

Yay to stolen naps Cavort!

On the pram debate a few pages back, I can recommend the Mothercare Orb. Really nice functionality and folds down easily to fit in a small Yaris boot.

Yes the night can be very long and lonely, I feel your pain. He's had a baby before hasn't he so why does he find this surprising? If you FF your baby would still wake up and cry in the night at this age.

Have you got a short list of names?

Bear, mine is the other way, he simply can't see why I can't just express night and day for the next six months even though it means I can't leave the house for more than a couple of hours at a time.

As for names, the surname debate is still raging in this house with no sign of a amicable solution, we register her birth at 11am tomorrow and I fear it may come down to a coin toss what surname we pick as we can't seem to agree any other way.

Last baby was ff and slept 5-6 hour stretches from early on

We are getting closer to names... there's 2 I really like and one I don't mind. He told his dad and family his favourite yesterday and they reacted very strongly against it - which was useful for us to test the water at least!

I wouldn't worry too much about other people's opinion on names - it's your baby, sod them! My Mum isn't too keen on Lucy but that's just tough luck!

Crikey Purple that's cutting it close! Could you have theoother surname as an extra middle name?

The advice on these boards tends to be give baby yours unless you're married or have a wedding booked. Baby will have DP's surname but I think I might put my foot down snd insist on mine as an additional middle name-eespecially as our relationship is very on the rocks at the mo.

Let us know who wins!

Any naming dramas for the pregnant berries?

Brave poor you with new baby and relationship woes all to contend with at once, that's got to be tough
I'm laughing about it at the moment but it probably won't be funny closer to the time but OH and I have entirely different ideas on nice names!

No surname dramas as we're married and DH has a ridiculously cool surname so we've got the same name, but we do need to shortlist our girls names to a top one or two names. We've got 6 we like at the moment. DH thinks we could just wait and see what suits the baby rather than trying to pick a fave girls name now, but I'm a real planner so finding it hard to do that and worried I'd be even more indecisive when I'm tired post-birth! (Plus I'm not sure I'm sold on this whole thing about the name "suiting" the baby!) At least we have a boy's name sorted!

Oh and agree on not worrying about other people's opinions - turns out MIL didn't like SIL's name for their baby boy but they laugh about it as she's come round now! Personally I'd always act like I loved the name even if I didn't!

Oh tell us! Promise we will only say nice things about the names.

Alexandra I'm imagining your surname must be Bond

It's not merkin, but it is ace. Tell them Alex!! And the name we saved for you

I really want to hazle but I'm meant to be keeping them secret from people IRL and that includes lovely janey! Although that's just when we decide on a name (like the boys name), so because we haven't shortlisted them down yet I can tell you the girls names! We like Chloe, Sophie/Sophia, Isabella, Lara, Amy and then a couple of others too like Sienna, Annalise, Alexandra, Lauren. So more than 6 actually eek!

Alex that could practically be my girls list! They're lovely

No don't expose me merkin!!
What are we going to doooo on the girls names, how do we decide!

Oooh you are lucky having so many on your shortlist, We can hardly find any names that we both like and that won't sound daft with our surnames.
We also have the problem that we know our close friends, who are due the week before us, have our favourite boys name on their shortlist too. Aggh! I keep imagining it might come down to the wire about who pops out a boy first.

Thanks for all the holiday suggestions by the way! I will do some research.

Alex PM us all your favourite except Janey (sorry Janey!) We won't spill the beans! They are all lovely names. We didn't tell anyone in RL our names not that there were many but I bean-spilled on MN as I figured cyber mates don't count and you all knew about my BFP before most people in RL.

Merk we had the same differing opinions on nice names so I picked an early favourite and started working on DH to bring him round to my way of thinking which thankfully worked. When I first gave him a list with Elodie on it he said a definite no but it grew on him over the months. I also suggested he got free reign on the middle name as leverage.