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December 2013 - blue, pink, what do you think?

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NomDeClavier · 18/07/2013 11:19

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musiceverywhere · 05/08/2013 00:07

Well this year was only our FIRST anniversary AND I had surgery 2 days later. Have I seen a single bouquet/pot plant/daisy chain from my DH? No. :(
Movie trip sounds fun, maybe this year is just more 'low-key' for you guys?
Gonna head to bed, hoping sleep a bit easier tonight.

QueenofWhispers · 05/08/2013 00:29

I think that I need to readjust my expectations of what 'romance' means in our relationship. I have a feeling that this is exactly how he envisioned all our anniversaries. I think next year, it may be us at some sporting event with his friends and I'll be sent off to get the snacks.

Featherbag · 05/08/2013 01:20

I am feeling so very sorry for myself, my whole body is so itchy I feel like I'm hosting a fire ant convention, I could just rive my whole skin off. And there's NOTHING anyone can do about it that isn't already being done. This is horrible, I feel wretched Hmm

musiceverywhere · 05/08/2013 01:43

Oh feather, it's so rubbish. Laid awake while everyone sleeping and feeling v lonely. I've been there. What are they doing for you? If the itching is related to your liver, then antihistamines prob wont touch it (am a pharmacist, but obviously tend not to use them in pregnancy anyway).
It isn't much help right now, but when I've had really bad hives in past (awake all night with it) calamine lotion was the only thing that soothed them. I didn't care how messy it was! Could someone bring some in tomorrow? (check with docs first though!) Can you ask nurses to put some E45 in the fridge for you in meantime?
Hope the nurses on the ward are sensitive to your pregnancy. That was really important to me. If you want them to scan/Doppler tomorrow (which would be understandable as you'll be anxious) give them a heads up so they can find a machine. (unlikely to have if not antenatal ward). Unless you're feeling movement which is obviously a good sign!
Try not to watch the clock, do you have something to read (not online) to try and take your mind off it?
I hope it eases off so you can sleep and you get some answers soon. x

Featherbag · 05/08/2013 05:50

Thanks music, I slept on and off for a couple of hours but woken by pain and that damned itching again! Have more IVT up, and just had more painkillers, bloods have just been redone too. Not sure how long results take to come back on ward bloods, pretty sure it won't be the 30-60 minutes of A&E but the bag of fluid they've just started is a 6-hour so not going anywhere anyway!

MildredH · 05/08/2013 06:06

Morning feather,

Just thought I'd say hi so you know you're not the only one awake at silly o clock!

DH just left for work. I bloody told him he'd end up waking me- grrr. My first day off after 7 on. He's in the spare room next time he leaves this early!

Hope your bloods come back soon. Should be c.2 hours max from wards. Expect they've done this them early to have results for morning ward round?

I know they think not preg related but are obs team aware you're in? You should be shared care really.. and unless you're totally reassured by lots of movements I'd ask for a Doppler for reassurance. I think at my Hosp a midwife would pop down and do one if needed..

Have you at least got tea & toast coming? Surely only upside to being an inpatient! Wink

Featherbag · 05/08/2013 07:46

Think I'm going to push the boat out and ask for porridge Mildred! NotGeorge has spent all night dancing so I know he's there x

mumoftwoboysS · 05/08/2013 08:09

Oh feather that itching sounds so awful. And there was me going on about my rash (which I'm sure is nothing) hope they see you soon- I'm surprised they say its not pregnancy related- how can they be so sure?
Queen when I first met DH he brought flowers and champagne when we met every month for the first year- I thought he was so romantic! I married him and have since discovered he's more of a practical type and I'm more likely to get a book for an anniversary present (but to be fair he does take me out for dinner) he tried really hard one year and bought

mumoftwoboysS · 05/08/2013 08:12

Oops- bought underwear and it was awful! So I've accepted he's never going to bring me exactly what I would have wanted (beautiful jewellery, big gestures) but that's ok as I love him anyway! (Though it has been a good few months since I last got flowers Hmm. I think we do kinds of have to adjust our expectations and there's always going to be someone out there (usually some annoying person on FB) who tells the world what her amazing romantic OH has bought her this time!

MollySJ · 05/08/2013 08:40

harry78 in the group I was on with DS1 a few had this added to their notes when no one had said anything to them directly or had any issues getting all the info. The conclusion to it them was that many sonographers put things like this to cover themselves when they see a 'high' BMI incase they miss anything that might be come back to bite them. A bit naughty but I suppose in this litigious age it's becoming more standard :-(

MildredH · 05/08/2013 08:55

See Feather.. Breakfast in bed- cloud! Wink

Seriously though- hoping for good results for you today.

Am sure you know this but make sure the medical team realise you're staff.. It does make a difference to how you're treated..

MildredH · 05/08/2013 08:55

Urgh- EVERY CLOUD!

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Featherbag · 05/08/2013 09:26

They know Mildred, it's already made a difference, that's how I scored a bed on this ward! It's a dialysis ward, so nothing to do with what I'm in for, but the night matron had me moved here as the 'next best thing' when she couldn't get me a side room, as it's known for being quiet and peaceful here, with plenty of staff. Have to say I can't fault anyone here, they've been so attentive and sympathetic and just NICE!

Just spoke to DS via FaceTime, got a big sloppy kiss via screen with full mmmmmmmmmMAH! sound effects!

lisbapalea · 05/08/2013 10:08

Feather you poor thing - hope you get seen to swiftly today and they have the latest results and a plan on what to do with them so you can get out of there and back home with your lovely sounding DS!

I am off for my 20wk scan shortly - can anyone tell me if I need to have a full bladder for this one? It doesn't say so on the letter, but wanted to double check!

froubylou · 05/08/2013 10:12

Oh Feathers, I hope you feel better soon and get some answers. Nothing worse than itching. My nipples and boobies have been horrendous whilst PG so to have your whole body feel like that must drive you mad. Big hugs and look at it as a bit of an enforced rest though I know hospitals arent that restful. Do you have something to read or a kindle to keep you occupied? Are you allowed out of bed for a little walk around the hospital if you tell them where you are and when you will be back? My DP was in hospital for 2 weeks the other year and towards the end he was 'allowed' down to the coffee shop for half an hour if we let the sister know where he was going. Poor bugger looked forwards to those little trips!

Well I had a horrible day yesterday. Sigh. We were supposed to be going to a pony show but sisters 4 x 4 died saturday night (after bathing a filthy white grey pony for an hour) so that was a big disappointment for us all.

Got up sunday and took her for a ride instead so that killed a couple of hours. Got home, tidied round a bit then decided to go to M & S with DP and DD (9) for some picky stuff for tea. We usually have a takeaway on Sundays after a show so had nothing in.

All good. Until DD asked for a subway for lunch. It was 2.30pm by this time, we'd had bacons and eggs at about 12.30ish after her ride so it wasn't as though she was starving and the Subway was right across the other side of the (very busy, very big) shopping centre.

Because I said no she went running to DP and asked him who said 'see what mum says but I think it's too late'. I again said no.

Lots of big fat tears. Cuddling up to DP making me look like I was being mean and nasty. Finished rest of shopping and got halfway home.

Said (jokingly) to DD to try and cheer her up 'Good job we went to M & S and not aldi otherwise daddy would be crying too' DP hates Aldi, likes lots of their stuff but hates walking around it.

DP replied (quite snottily) 'Well I don't work 50 or 60 hours a week to traipse round Aldi on a weekend.'

I took that as him having a go at me over 1) not working F/T which is grossly unfair as I've said loads of times (before PG) I would be happy to go back F/T and 2) that I spend too much money which isn't true. he doesn't understand the cost of things at all (I deal with all the finances) and would fritter away everything we had on shite we don't need.

So then I burst into hysterical tears as well. And couldn't stop crying. And then DD set off again as I was crying.

FFS, hormones are raging in our house lol. DD is approaching puberty I think (I was the same at her age) and I know I spent a good few days a month weeping when I was PG with DD.

So I had a bloody awful day yesterday. Feel drained and headachey and am still angry with DP. He's a star most of the time BUT when he's an arse he's an arse. He was pissed off yesterday because we didn't get to the show. Which is fine I understand that. But it wasn't my fault sisters car broke down. He wants us to have our own 4 x 4 and trailer so we can go on our own next year. Which I would love. But I can't see us being able to commit to affording it until we know what work is like for DP next year (he's a builder) and to be honest I have other priorities just now. But he's adamant thats what we are having.

I think we need to move house first as we only have 2 beds at the min and are hopelessly short on space. But all he talks about is a big fancy 4 x 4 and a posh trailer.

Wouldn't mind but until this year he didn't 'do' ponies at all and viewed them as an expensive waste of time pmsl. Its only because he's been showing instead of me that he's 'got the bug'.

Anyways now I've had a good bloody moan I hope everyone else is OK?

Harry don't worry about that comment. My BMI was about 28 I think at first appt and nothing has been said or noted on my records.

Hope Holly is OK? She's not posted for a while.

weechops · 05/08/2013 10:31

AW frouby what a day you had :( hopefully you and dd are in better moods today.

Lisba you don't need a full bladder for 20 week scan. My sonographer asked if I wanted to go for a pee when she started scanning as mine was so full :)

Featherbag · 05/08/2013 10:49

Good news here! Bloods are looking better, so as long as there's nothing drastic on the scan (in a couple of hours) I should get home later, and the pain and itching should settle within a couple of days. They think I might have had a temporary blockage in the bile duct which has shifted on its own - I've no history of gallstones but weight loss and pregnancy can bring them on apparently. Will know for sure (hopefully) later today.

lisbapalea · 05/08/2013 11:03

Thanks weechops that's a relief as I drank loads of water before heading to the hospital and am now busting! Thank god I can get some relief otherwise don't reckon I'd be able to concentrate on the scan!

Good news feather - fingers crossed you get home soon!

hetsto · 05/08/2013 11:18

Hello all! Sorry to join the party late, but hope noone minds. I'm due on 15th December with my first, and v excited! Anyone else living/working in London? ...The tube is killing me at the moment.

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LadyMedea · 05/08/2013 11:24

Hi music and everyone else.

I'm still off work with anxiety and depression. Started back on a low dose of my old anti depressants just over a week ago. Fingers crossed that will help me cope with going back to work on Friday. Had a totally disappointing CBT session... so vague and no practicall suggestions. the rest ofit is self help but the book ive been reading is far better. Seeing doc on Thursday and will see what she says but I think I have to try.

Went over the finances with DH last night as I need to put in my mat leave forms when I go back. Decided to go even earlier, finishing work at 30 weeks with four weeks leave to start with, then mat leave. As I have more leave than I thought this only actually puts us two weeks worse off than going at 34 so I don't feel guilty. Not sure if I'll make it through 7 weeks at work but if I end up back signed off so be it. My health has been a nightmare since I started this job 18 months ago so feel guilty, but then the job has been a nightmare too so part of me doesn't give a flying f**k.

Been having fun with my blood pressure this week as its been plummeting and my heart racing! I normally have high blood pressure so now experimenting with no meds for a couple of days.... What am I like!

Chilli81 · 05/08/2013 11:30

hello everyone. not posted in a while as been off on hols to Edinburgh for a week. was lovely and the weather was surprisingly ok.
welcome hetsto
feather you poor thing. sounds awful. glad it sounds like you might be going home soon.

Chilli81 · 05/08/2013 11:34

ladymedea sorry to hear you're still feeling crappy. sounds like you're doing all the right things though.
work wise I'd say prioritise yourself and your baby. a job is a job. Thanks Thanks

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