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Graduated elderberries - 30+ and looking forward to DC1! (Thread 5)

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Alexandra6 · 17/06/2013 09:40

Hi everyone, hope you had good wkends, I'm looking forward to my holiday next Saturday (although won't be the usual sunbathing with wine flowing!), still can't wait just to relax especially as I'm feeling a bit rough and sick today! Work are piling on the pressure ahead of my hols but who cares, in one week I will be off for two weeks woop!

Just wondered when the really preggers people started to get lightning crotch/cervix pangs? So I can be prepared and not go into cervix panic!

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Purplemonster · 19/06/2013 09:20

Hazle you really are amazing!

I'm off to wallow in the local pool looking like something from a nature documentary with my friend and her toddler and lunch time. My bump is testing the stretchy properties of Lycra to its very limits on my maternity swimsuit so I'm just hoping the seams don't go ping and I end up naked hulk style - that could make yesterday's naked embarrassment seem tame Grin

Impatiently waiting for mother's news

Alexandra6 · 19/06/2013 09:32

For the fun of taking a bet, I'm going to go for boy mother!

Was so hot, muggy and packed on the tube this morning and I felt quite dizzy, and none of the lazy buggers offered me a seat. I've been lucky lately with people offering. Should have just asked!

Good luck with the Lycra testing purple! DH says he's going to get me a huge inflatable lilo for floating around our pool in Spain. He didn't have to add the 'huge' bit Wink

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HazleNutt · 19/06/2013 09:37

Honestly I'm not a superwoman or otherwise amazing. I simply don't have any of the aches and pains and issues - starting to feel guilty, reading the threads here about late pregnancy and how miserable it is for many women. I've just been lucky - not like I'm suffering and dragging myself to office anyway like some kind of a hero.

Purplemonster · 19/06/2013 10:21

Some if it might be down to luck Hazle but some is also bound to be down to your amazing levels of fitness, healthy diet etc. I'm still impressed! And don't feel guilty, just enjoy it.

Purplemonster · 19/06/2013 10:25

...and don't listen too much to the whiners either, even with the few issues I've got, it's certainly not the out and out misery fest some people make it out to be. Or maybe I'm just lucky too - have to remember some people spend 40 weeks throwing up - it puts the ages and pains into perspective!

BraveLilBear · 19/06/2013 10:28

Morning all - also eagerly awaiting news of Mother's bump.

Meanwhile, in the Brave Bear house, DP and I have had a falling out after I told him how unimpressed I was with his behaviour at the antenatal class last night.

He sat there, for the whole second half, with his phone out, kept checking it (unlocking the screen) and flicking the screen, while also yawning and tapping his foot.

We were sat in a semi-circle, so it was hardly discreet, and it was excruciatingly embarrassing and frankly came across as very arrogant. I told him afterwards that, I don't care how bored he is, that is not socially acceptable behaviour - and he basically said he doesn't care. He was 'bored, annoyed and irritated by it, and didn't care who knew'.

I said that he should have at least had the decency to lie say he was expecting an important call and would anyone mind if he kept an eye on his phone. He said that he didn't need to do that.

I would be appalled if a child of mine acted like that, let alone the father of my child and the supposed love of my life. Am I being hormonal unreasonable?

I'm really really annoyed by this - tho strangely calm. I have asked for an apology, but he says he has nothing to apologise for. In fact, he's making out like I should apologise to him for bringing it up.

What say the jury?

HazleNutt · 19/06/2013 10:30

Brave you are not being unreasonable. That was disrespectful and rude.

Purplemonster · 19/06/2013 10:40

Not at all unreasonable, he was being a childish arse and I'd have hit the roof if mine had been so rude Shock if you need any help with body removal once you've justifiably murdered him, let me know.

Alexandra6 · 19/06/2013 11:00

Ooh my DH would be in trouble for that bear! No you are def not being unreasonable!

hazle you've done so well in the pregnancy symptom lottery! It's so funny how some pregnancies are harder than others and so random, it's a shame there aren't rules to follow!

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HazleNutt · 19/06/2013 11:12

alex I know - am worried that to compensate, I'll have a really horrible labour and/or non-sleeping colicky baby..

HazleNutt · 19/06/2013 11:21

Gossip pages are speculating over Kim Kardashian's baby's name. I quite liked the suggestion Kash Kow Grin

janey1234 · 19/06/2013 11:27

Oh brave, I would have gone nuts too. Having said that, and I promise I'm not making excuses, at one of our NCT classes there was a 'big game' on at the same time (spurs vs arsenal) and I saw every sodding man in the group checking their phones. DP was obv in trouble but annoyingly just pointed out he wasn't on his phone as much as others! Anyway I think the leaders are very used to it. Bloody men.

Purple - also feeling nosey and also weirdly going with boy. No idea why!

Cavort - I've also got an upset stomach. Weirdly I wouldn't mind at all going into labour now and having a go naturally. Can't explain why but feel relaxed about that happening?! Anyway period pains seem to have gone now. They were pretty uncomfortable for a while though.

Hazle - don't feel guilty, it's almost certainly down to you being super fit and healthy unlike me, lazy old pig that I am

BraveLilBear · 19/06/2013 11:32

Lol at Kash Kow Grin

Thanks for backing up my annoyance. I'm still quite shocked by it, but I know I was in the right, and was in the right to say something afterwards, that I'm amazingly calm about it and therefore refusing to back down.

Similarly, DP's continuing petulance is an indicator to me that he knows he was out of line but isn't admitting it. Am now slightly worried that I'll have two babies to look after in less than two months, not just one.

Thing is, he'd been doing so well - ie making an effort at the weekend around my family and friends to be engaging and civil - something must have triggered him, and I have no idea what.

Purplemonster · 19/06/2013 11:59

Anyone know what time mother's scan is so I can stop obsessively checking my phone? Grin (is it stupid to be excited about someone else's scan?)

Brave - maybe he was just having a moody/off day? Who knows what makes them suddenly be an arse. Your DP always seems to have been a bit reluctant about ante natal classes hasn't he? So maybe he just directed his grump at that.

MotherOfCleo · 19/06/2013 14:16

haha, purple, I'm sat waiting now.....want to know so badly....eeeek. Grin

Frogcatcher · 19/06/2013 14:25

Afternoon all. I'm back from being AWOL. I had to change phones due to leaving work & our Internet at home was on the blink plus I've just not been feeling v chatty with the stress of it all I guess. Wow to all the bump pics tho! I could post a pic of my flat tummy in size 8 jeans but you might report me to MN for emotional cruelty Grin. I'm actually a bit jealous esp as PIL seem to have started bump watch & MIL accused me of losing weight!
Has my booking in appt with midwife today & it was all quite dull. I threw the student midwife doing it into a tiz as I don't want either of our local hospitals & she'd not done the forms for the other one before. First question & she has to call the midwife back in! As it wasn't at my drs I have to traipse off to the hospital to get my bloods done tho which is annoying.
I'm dated at 11 wks today (tho i think i'm less than that) so they better send me a scan date sharpish.

janey1234 · 19/06/2013 14:30

Hi frog! Good to see you again. And yes, booking in appts are totally underwhelming!

Urm where is mother? I too can't stop poking my nose into other people's business wondering how she's getting on...

janey1234 · 19/06/2013 14:31

Oh and frog - you can keep your stomach away - think I would cry!!

MotherOfCleo · 19/06/2013 16:06

Sorry, I'm back Grin Its a little boy, currently named Harvey Sebastian Grin the scan was amazing, 10 fingers, 10 toes, eveything where it should be, slightly large head (gulp) and very very long legs, which he said were doing a merry dance on my bladder as he's currently breech.

I agree re booking in appointments, found mine very underwhelming, think I expected a fanfare or something Wink

janey1234 · 19/06/2013 16:20

Hooray mother!!! Alex and I were right!
Gorgeous name as well. Harvey is the middle name we'll use if we have a boy so I might be a teensy bit biased Wink

BraveLilBear · 19/06/2013 16:24

Ooh another boy Mother great stuff! Glad to hear he's got everything where it should be Grin

Hello Frog! Welcome back Grin Hope things are easing up... Don't worry about losing weight - I lost nearly a stone in first 13 weeks or so tho you wouldn't know now to look at me

HazleNutt · 19/06/2013 16:38

Congratulations Mother!

Quodlibet · 19/06/2013 18:49

Congrats Mother! Does anyone else know what they are having?

Brave I am joining the YANBU chorus - your DP was being really rude. Not only in the context of the group, I think it is really unsupportive of what you are going to have to go through (birth) - he should be trying his best to pay attention for your sake, whatever his opinion. I wonder what is causing him to 'switch off' and mentally opt out. Is he worried about the birth at all?

Cavort · 19/06/2013 18:50

Congratulations Mother. Glad it's another member of the blue team to even up the numbers. And love name! Smile

Brave I would have been most unimpressed if DH had done that. Who knows how men's minds actually work? I hope he sees how childish he's being the error of his ways and apologises.

Hi Frog, good to see you! I hope you're feeling less stressed now you've left work? And yes, you can bloody well keep your slim toned abs to yourself! Grin

I have been with some friends and their toddlers to an outdoor paddling pool today. It was only after I had been paddling in it for about 10 minutes trying to get my cankles to go down that I realised I was the only adult in there who wasn't supervising a child. Blush Oh well, I thought, it's too feckin hot and I don't care that the attendant is giving me funny looks.

My mate from work has text me to tell me she's 12 weeks pregnant. Another woman from my department is 20 weeks and then there's obviously me. I would have LOVED to have seen my boss's reaction to news of a third pregnancy! I bet he's secretly thinking to himself that he's never hiring a woman ever again unless she's 50+ Grin

Cavort · 19/06/2013 18:51

I'm having a girl Quod. Smile