Graduated elderberries - 30+ and looking forward to DC1! (Thread 5)

[Alexandra6]

Hi everyone, hope you had good wkends, I'm looking forward to my holiday next Saturday (although won't be the usual sunbathing with wine flowing!), still can't wait just to relax especially as I'm feeling a bit rough and sick today! Work are piling on the pressure ahead of my hols but who cares, in one week I will be off for two weeks woop!

Just wondered when the really preggers people started to get lightning crotch/cervix pangs? So I can be prepared and not go into cervix panic!

cavort she's gorgeous! Love the stern look!

aww a stern looking baby indeed

oh Cavort shes gorgeous.....and perhaps a little angry in that shot

Geez you ladies have made some gorgeous babies!

Baby has been feeding pretty much the whole evening. Ouch, my nipples. And it's exhausting. Whoever claimed that breastfeeding is wayyy easier, no faffing around with bottles and formula, must have been a man.

I hear you, hazle. Ouchie. Miles has done almost two hours on the trot, and has just started rooting again. Hoping this means he might sleep a bit tonight?!

Hm. So he's asleep now. Dogs heard something and started barking so loud they almost gave me a heart attack. Baby doesn't even move. But try to get him off the boob..

Thanks everyone

I think she was possibly stern/angry because I briefly removed my nipple from her mouth, which I have learned is not acceptable.

Janey, Hazle & Purple, when your milk came in, did your baby start feeding less, or at least spacing the feeds further apart? Mine is just coming in today and my boobs are rock hard and on fire and I am hoping for a small reprieve for my nipples... am I in for a disappointment?

Just popping in to say cavort congrats, she is lovely

cavort mine can space out the feeds if he wants to - last night we again had a short feeding session at midnight, another short one at 4 and slept til morning. Judging by the dirty nappies he's producing, he is certainly not starving. He also has some quite long naps during the day. However, when he decides to start cluster feeding then it's still the same, removing nipple not acceptable for hours.

Hey Bunny, lovely to see you. Thank you.

I kind of answered my own question... she slept 1am-5am then 6.15-9.00 and I am now very happy and nowhere near as irritable after the first night's sleep in over a week. I can live with sore nipples in exchange for sleep I also can live with daytime cluster feeding Hazle so FX she gets the idea.

Cavort she is such a cutie... and my vote is for puzzled rather than stern, as in 'where's my dinner gone? '

Day 2 of mat leave and had a lovely lovely long sleep. Of course, now I'm off work and it would be convenient to have a baby, all twinges and niggles have now disappeared. Time for some gym ball action today...

Brave I am glad your twinges have all vanished. Did lying down and icecream cure your ills?

I think it is Alex's 20wk scan this morning - how exciting. I've got mine in three weeks tomorrow.

I am starting to grow over here - still not pregnant looking, just no waist, and had a small period of feeling sorry for myself yesterday evening walking through Soho and noticing people's nice outfits and thinking 'nope, can't wear that, cant wear that, can't wear that oh and also can't sit there drinking wine wearing that'. I am not used to not having a waist. Hopefully by the time I am massive it will be winter and I can get excited about nice knitwear but in the summer it is a bit of a hard one to adjust to.

Morning all. I'm amazed how lovely people are when you've got a baby. I've had flowers and gifts from neighbours we barely know, one of the neighbours Mum who I've never met crochet a blanket for us and yesterday when I went back to my local ice cream parlour (I live in a touristy place) the man remembered me from the previous two weeks and insisted we have our ice creams for free to welcome the baby. How lovely is that?

I'm not sure with the feeding if its different for me because she drinks it from a bottle but at the 4am feed I know I can feed, change her nappy and have her back asleep in her Moses basket in 15 minutes. It's just the half an hour I then have to be hooked up to the milking machine while everyone else snores around me that pisses me off

Lol Quod, am actually welciming the twinges... tho I seem to keep needing number 2s which is a little annoying given that the piles are now ridiculous (tho unpainful), tho I am back down to just 2 stone up so every cloud!

The lack of waist is a tough stage... but once you're obviously concave it's a bit less traumatic!

Purple that is lovely :) I thought I got special treatment yesterday when the lady in mothercare took me to a different till! Free ice cream definitely rocks :)

Ohh how lovely purple! Glad to know there are nice people in the world! It's always nice to be spoilt!

quod I sympathise, I am 23 weeks tomorrow and still don't look pregnant in certain things, I am at the stage now where I want people to realise I am growing a baby and haven't just let myself go.

I'm more used to it now though, a month ago I was really frustrated at looking lardy, but I have some nice maternity clothes and my boss and his wife keep commenting on how nice my various outfits are, which makes me feel a bit better.

I think half of the issue is I thought I would have a nice football-up-the-jumper type bump and I don't, I have a very low down slightly lardy looking bump. (I've put up a 21+5 pic to give you an idea)

I'm still managing to get away with my normal clothes but only dresses which aren't tight waisted! Your bump looks nice mother, I'm liking mine now it's getting to the point where I'm starting to show more but it really depends on what I'm wearing.

Had the 20 week scan this morning quod, it went well and all looked good apart from the head measurements - the head was measuring small. I need to go back at 24 weeks for them to check it again. Desperately trying to avoid google after a quick google just now, I'm having to use all my willpower! The measurement was at the lowest point of the little chart on the print out, but the sonographer didn't seem panicked about it (unless she was being considerate). It was really cute when we were watching the baby drinking loads - it likes a drink already! My plan is to eat lots of protein and start taking vitamin tablets and hope the head measurements are nearer to average next time.

Ah Brave, I'm glad you've mentioned piles - turns out my MW was right annoyingly. I didn't get any while pregnant and then got some from pushing At least I think that's what they are? I have been avoiding the whole area as much as possible as it's still swollen and bruised, but I can definitely feel something in the shower which wasn't there previously, albeit quite small and not painful. We have been for Elodie's newborn check this morning so I asked the Doctor about it and he said they should be gone by the 6 week check, thank goodness. Pregnancy and birth have a bloody lot to answer for!!

Purple you live near an actual ice cream parlour? OMG, I would be obese! No sign of my pg ice cream addiction subsiding so fat, er, I mean far.

Glad it went well Alex but step away from the Google! Everything is fine and they would have said if otherwise.

Ditto what Cavort said Alex! Dr Google is not called 'Dr Reassure Oneself on the T'Interweb' for a reason!

If they were very worried, you'd be back a lot quicker than four weeks I'm sure.

Did you find out the sex or did you hold out?

Piles suck - have been having to work hard to dispose of certain toilet wastes lately so that's why, combined with baby's head pushing down. May take a half teaspoon of lactulose later to lessen the load...

God this lark is sexy, huh!

Ahh Alex, sounds like it was an amazing thing to see. Seconding what the others have said re google. There was a thread with someone worrying about exactly the same on the pregnancy board last week or so and lots of people came forward to reassure that they'd had the same and very normal outcomes. If you think about it, those charts are the range of normal and someone's got to be at the small end! I think if there was a chart of adult head size I would be well down the extreme small end have a tiny pin head which is too small for hats and sunglasses but I am doing a PhD so no adverse affects really apart from DP occasionally taking the piss when I try on hats

Nope held out on the sex - although the midwife said "she" near the beginning and DH was quick to say "you just said she!" and she swore she hadn't looked yet so didn't know. I don't think she'd even had a chance to check properly so it must just be one of those things where she refers to an unborn baby as 'she' usually, I find myself saying 'he' all the time with no preference at all, just a habit and sounds nicer than 'it'!

I was just thinking people's head sizes do vary anyway - I've got a friend with a much smaller head than mine for example. So I am firmly avoiding the terrifying google links I saw pop up and telling myself it will be absolutely fine!

Cross post quod but you'll love yours when it comes round soon I loved seeing the little feet and hands best, and when it turned and faced the camera and we looked right into its little face, was amazing!

Oh and on piles, I'm ashamed to say I'm not entirely sure what they are exactly or what they're like. I would google but again, maybe it's best I don't Glad they go away over time though!

Alex - in the words of Dawn French, 'like a little bunch of grapes coming out your bum'. That has always stuck in my head for some reason.

Ooh so you are team green too! We are staying with 'a surprise' definitely.

alex try not to fret re the head measurement, ours is measuring off of the scale in one of the 3 head measurements it is so damn big....eeek. But I spoke to a friend and she said her daughters measured big huge too and was totally fine at birth. I don't think they can get an exact measurement and I don't actually think their is much between big and small at the size they currently are so even a few mm off would make a big different on the percentile chart.

Ours is a chubba though, HUGE head, long long legs and big chubby abdomen.....ooops, I'm growing a monster.

I still can't believe how detailed the scans are, I was amazed by all the things the sonographer showed us. Wish I could do it all over again.

I am amazed at your teeny tiny bump, Mother! I'm bigger than that now

Lovely news about the scan, Alex.

I really do feel like I'm in limbo here and maybe should join the March antenatal thread. You are all so much further along than me. My 6 wk scan is on Friday.