June 2013 - Thread 7 - Getting closer!

[Sarah2506]

We got full! Hope everyone manages to find their way back here:-)

Don't worry ami we won't!

I'm crap.at fb dont worry ami! got a good deal on a parasol and summer pram liner at mamas and papas, £7 instead of £45!! it's white with pears on, it's cute, got car seat adapters too, may have had a play on the patio with the pram

how is everyone's sunny Saturday?

Saturday just starting but I'm so happy the trade winds are back! It's the difference between sweating every time you move and enjoying the sun with a nice cooling breeze. I felt like I'd been continually hot for two months.

Today is finishing off the garden spruce up, making a mammoth curry (unfortunately for a church event not my freezer) and trying to keep toddler off the wet paint. Should be relaxing

In the interests of doing as I was told by the midwife and keeping active but wanting to spend as much time in the sun as possible I hooked up the extension cable and took my iron and ironing board into the back garden. So hopefully 2 birds one stone - baby turning round and some nice clean clothes to wear.

This was after a lovely big lunch in a fancy bistro with my Mum and Sister. Was meant to be all about me but my sister just found out on Thursday that she's lost her job so we were doing a fair bit of cheering her up. Poor thing.

Oh no sunny sorry to hear about your sister I'm sure it'll be all about you in a few weeks tho and it will definitely cheer her up no doubt

Well done for having the motivation to do the garden aloha

I've done the house clean today and hubby put up babies hammock for her soft toys to get them out of my way (I hate soft toys but people obviously think babies need thousands) so there off the floor now and high up in a hammock also bought two fancy goldfish for our new tank so that made me happy although hobbling around the shop did not!

Now to get busy with dinner and then searching best ways to get back trim
After baby as well as mummy and baby activities to do together while we're off exciting stuff

I have done pretty much nothing today! as well as the silly acid reflux keeping me feeling pretty icky I also have a self dripping nose! not sure if it isn't hay fever. But not sure there is anything I can do if it is.

just cooked a lovely tea - trouble is I still do enough for two, I'll probably just adjust to the right portion size and dp will be Home! but does mean I get some left over for the following day which saves some effort.

I've had a bum sticking out of bump most the day - hasn't been affected by me feeling so rough, which is always reassuring.

Hmm. I have been reading the May thread- yeah I'm bored and have little I can do without feeling shattered! They have ended up in a bit of a tizz with some first timers leaving the forum after getting spooked by bad tales of labour etc.

I personally welcome the details of everyone's experiences on here. I know things go wrong and you can't be certain of anything in this baby game. Even a planned section can go totally to pot with early labour. They seem to have a problem with discussion of things like bleeding post baby which we all have to deal with!

They have compromised with people putting tmi warnings pre post. We don't need to do that do we? Everyone's happy???

I agree Sarah it is nice to know even tho some of it isn't particularly pleasant but at least we know if it happens to us

I don't think we need to bother with a tmi warning lets face it pretty much all of pregnancy is tmi and I'm quite sure although this is my first that a lot of post birth will be that way too so I'm happy

On the subject of tmi hehe I have a sore side of my ladybits just on one side feels like the left lip is just generally achey and hurty (before you say it I know that is not a word hehe)

Def not with the tmi warnings - happy that we continue as we have been.

Not sure I'll join the FB group, nothing personal, just I use FB very much for keeping in touch with people in Oz and so my profile is pretty full, bit too much detail bout my life on there, if that makes sense - hope we can keep this group going during and after we have our babies!

Also, Cripes, might I really be next? Lord....

Really?! Oh dear - isn't the whole point of these to have support and be able to come on, ask questions, not be judged, have a good debate, and not feel alone with issues. And have a good giggle over some things and a good old rant about others.

I certainly feel very lucky as a first timer to be able to gain way more views on things that I perhaps wouldn't or would be more limited with in rl.

I feel even more lucky that with the situation with DP that I can be open with you guys, and get even more support. Which is fantastic, as that really has changed my journey. But you are all lovely and supportive and I don't feel at all judged over it all.

Here's to hearing all about hurty places, wobbles over how we are feeling, all the amazing journeys we are on, good, slightly different to what we were expecting, and the scary moments. And best of all knowing we aren't alone on the path.

Hi all,
I have been lurking for AGES as every time I write something the phone goes/ cat jumps on me/ door knocks etc and it times out. Determined to finish post this time!
Def agree on the not needing a tmi warning, and I am a first timer. I have read enough to realise that labour is not always easy, and I would rather be prepared tbh!

Congrats to all of you ladies with babies, I really want mine now, 3weeks feels like an age away. Dh keeps telling me that we need the time but I am raring to go...

Had my final wax yesterday, had convinced myself it wouldn't be too painful (always have them and had one about 6 weeks ago), but JESUS!!! It was pretty thorough, and some of the more sensitive areas were way more agonising than normal.

Spd has been driving me potty, I am waddling around like nobodies business. Need to keep reminding myself to take it easy, but don't seem to be doing it. Going to a gig tomorrow eve, but it is local so if I am struggling then I can get a cab home. Also got one which is on the 14th (2days before due date), which I suspect I may have to sacrifice, but I know the promoter so I might see if he can get me a barstool to observe from.

Bought a sofa bed today too- don't actually have another bed in the house, and I suspect dh is going to need a retreat when I am breastfeeding through the night and he has to get up for work...

Hi all
Just quickly checking in. Got family staying for a few days and having issues with my broadband too so offline mostly.
Congratulations on new babies!
Will catch up properly when I can. Hope all well

the tmi stuff doesn't fuss me, I think after a room full of people stare at and prod my fanjo than nothing is tmi or off bounds!
dp keeps looking at me like because I find it far too easy to go I can't walk well because my pelvis muscles have relaxed more than they should, he looks really unimpressed with me and shuffles me off.

one of the guys at work messaged asking when im back, not sure how he's gonna take me saying January heh

have fun with the tmi posts, embrace them!
by the way getting a very heavy pressure right at the bottom of my belly/top of my cervix area maybe?

Welcome Mawgatron!

I'm fine with all the TMI stuff as well. It's exactly the type of place you need to not shy away from it. Then again I do watch OBEM while pregnant so I guess I'm not particularly squeamish in the first place.

DH working all day today (I think he got up at 6am, still not back) so I tried to plan my day full of stuff so as not to just sit on the couch watching the clock.

DS slept until 8.30am so that was a good start! Then we went to Green Park on the tube (chosen merely for the practical purpose that it has step free access). Going on the tube with a buggy and chasing after a 2yo in a park for an hour may have been overdoing it a bit at 37w. I think it's my pelvic bones that really hurt now, I feel like an old lady Then I almost cried because I needed to use the toilets and you had to pay 50p for them and I only had notes on me So yes, definite hormonal pregnant woman alert hehe.

Went home, had lunch and thought DS would go down for his nap easily as he'd be almost as exhausted as me... He spent 2 hours in his cot talking to himself. I decided to give up on the sleep and suffer the repercussions so went to get him... and he'd conked out! So then I had a nap too and we both slept till past 5pm! Went out for some churros and to buy a ready meal (no way I was cooking after all that!). Just put DS down now (routine a bit out the window!) and sat down with a nice cup of tea!

Despite some of it sounding a bit crap I actually had a good day and enjoyed myself. Although I will definitely need a day of doing nothing tomorrow to recover!

Can I just say, I'd put good money on the fact that all those may ones who are getting flouncy just because some others have said that they didn't 'breathe the baby out with it being a spiritual experience and then were up and cooking 3 course dinners for all extended family within 5 hours' - will be the ones who end up with the real traumatic births and crash sections after 5 day labours... Personally, I see this as a great place to whinge, and on that note- my hips hurt and I have a cold.

Anyway, fb group, also not sure if I'll join, but def up for a post-natal club on here! Have seen them for other months if someone who's not mning on a phone can set up.

Btw- ds informed me that if the baby is a boy he should be called tractor, or crocodile for a girl, but we don't need that because he 'knows' it's a boy.

Oops, MIL and SIL have come to stay for the weekend. I completely forgot they were coming, and frankly could do without them being here, since they do nothing but drink tea while sat on the sofa, and expect to be hosted for the duration. I'm completely NOT up for hosting them. ARGH.

I'm up for tmi posts :) and if anyone wants to discuss post-birth bleeding, please feel free :o

Hello again Mawg, hope the next 3 weeks pass speedily for you.

Blimey rrreow, put your feet up pronto! And yes, PG lady hormones are a bugger - as are postpartum hormones. I spent lots of yesterday in tears, for no apparent reason, and really confused DH. Fortunately things seem to be better today (fingers crossed).

DS still hasn't gained weight - he's stayed the same within 10g since last Tuesday. We have until Tuesday to fatten him up, if he's not gained by then then the MW said she'd be referring us to paeds. BFing is fairly painful atm too as he's also chewed me to death :( fingers crossed we manage to carry on though.

Tractor is a very manly name, excellent choice. I think you'd be crazy not to call your baby that if it's a boy

Good luck rue hope you both get the hang of it soon. Weight gain is such a worry isn't it. Has he been checked for tongue tie? (If yes, has he been checked by different people?)

Oh my I do remember those postpartum days and my DH also being completely confused (and probably a bit scared that I was losing it). I think I need to talk to him to prep him a bit better this time about the hormones/emotions. At that point when you're feeling so volatile and vulnerable emotionally they should know to just give you a hug and reassure you rather than be all

My first bit of TMI advice for post-labour: if you have given birth vaginally and have some stitches, when you need to go for a poo hold a clean sanitary/maternity pad against them while you're, erm, expelling it. A friend of mine (who thank god isn't afraid of giving TMI advice) gave me this tip last time and it really made a huge difference! Also have lots of fibre so you don't have to strain, that helps too (even if you haven't got stitches I imagine).

Rue any chance its a latch issue? Would explain the slow weight gain and the soreness.

Re the advice on threads I find the most entertaining posts are first timers giving information they heard from their brothers neighbours mother as gospel and being 'reluctant' to think outside the box. Or like dontmind the school of thought that if you have any problems its because you didn't breathe correctly or have enough faith in yourself etc etc, at best those opinions are amusing to those who have already birthed, at worse those opinions can be extremely upsetting and a PND trigger for those whose births have not gone to plan.

Swings in roundabouts. I'm sure I ignored some decent advice last time round somewhere along the nine months where just about everyone had an opinion on just about everything.

My Q this evening is when and how to introduce DD to DC2? I'm hoping I'll be first into theatre, and so all being well reasonably upright by the time DD is collected from nursery. She could come in then, but might not understand why mummy sore, or she could come in before or after nursery the next day. I'm likely to be in for three days and two nights so she will be a bit unsettled.

I wish it was latch, redwelly we could fix that! No, MWs happy, three people have checked for tongue tie and said there isn't one, MW has observed his latch and feeding and said it looks good. It's purely down to him coming early - a good 3 weeks ahead of when I would have gone into labour I reckon - and that I'm diabetic so he was artificially heavy at birth and will be dropping down the centiles to find his own line.

DS1 (age 3) came to visit me (first on theatre list, DS2 born at 0947) after preschool & lunch, so about 2pm ish. I wasn't very mobile and he refused to look at or speak to me and DS2! Then after 30 mins or so he and DH went to get DD from school and came back, that time he was much more comfortable with things and relaxed generally.

I understand, and can appreciate the last thing you need is sofa surfing tea drinking relatives!

So its possible DD could come in to meet her little sibling on the same day, not sure if that won't leave DH with an unsettled toddler overnight though. Maybe the next day if she finishes early, by five pm (end of nursery) all she is good for is a quick meal, possibly bath and then bed! May not be the best time to meet a baby sibling and see mummy in hospital. (DD does not like hospitals)

Hope his weight goes the right way Rue.

We're also watching weight. Babycamper stayed the same last night so we have to gain tonight to go home tomorrow. For some reason they weigh him in the middle of the night. Fingers crossed.

cycle fingers crossed Nye gains weight. We had a failure to thrive label stuck to DD at about 8months old and it was looking back the most stressful period of parenting her to date. Excepting NICU!

Ugh so tired. Finished tidying up the garden with DH today, looks great but it was exhausting, plus scraped old paint off the fence ready to dry. Thankfully we bought a take away in the evening so no cooking required. DH currently making the curry while I sit down, which is just as well as BH are quite full on and the sciatica is bothering me. Still not much more to do now, then we have photos taken of the house near beginning of June, then hopefully we can relax. At least here, offers are currently being made usually within a couple of days so we shouldn't have to keep the house pristine for too long!!

I'm always happy to share tmi, if it's relevant!! Impressed mawg by your waxing. I found it far too painful during pregnancy to persevere. Just sticking to the trimmers now, but need to wait for dh to do that for me - I can't even see how bad it is, and don't fancy trimming blind! He considers it a treat, so everyone is happy!

Hope all your little ones can start gaining weight cycle and rue.

Ready to paint, not dry. Time to sleep.