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September 2013 Babies-the Glowing Trimester

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JammyTummy · 27/04/2013 18:48

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jennimoo · 09/05/2013 14:32

Flobot - are you doing any antenatal classes? If so I think you'd get info there on birth planning. Otherwise I expect there are templates online to help you know what should go in. I didn't write one, just discussed scenarios with DH.

badguider · 09/05/2013 14:37

I've got a page in my notes to fill in with a load of different questions that makes the 'birth plan'.

I'm guessing we'll do it after the first ante-natal classes (the first two are labour and birth, next two are breast feeding and going home).

Creamtea1 · 09/05/2013 15:03

The midwife will fill in the birth plan page in your green notes around 30 weeks, warning - dont expect too much! It's a 5-10 min discussion and a few notes/boxes ticked in the notes. I don't remember anyone much taking note of it at hospital on birth day anyway. Main thing is to get straight in your head what you want, and try and get your other half to remember too!

EmmaDee · 09/05/2013 15:15

Hi all, thanks for the Isabella codes, very tempting!

Today I have been having these weird sensations very low down, almost painful, quite quick and sharp at my lady bits. Could this be kicking?? I havent felt antything yet?

Roll on this time tomorrow I'll be on the way to my scan! Yippee!

flipflump · 09/05/2013 15:57

Emma, I had pains like that a few weeks ago. It has disappeared now, think it must have been muscles and ligaments stretching. It's hard to describe kicks, it's almost like a twitch or muscle spasm. Then gradually they are getting stronger. I call mine the little fish as it feels like a fish wriggling around. The kicks are definitely not painful though. Not sure how it feels for everyone else.

flipflump · 09/05/2013 16:03

How long before the due date is everyone starting mat leave? I was thinking 4 weeks but I'm just really keen to stop. Is that too long? I have an active job, I spend a long time on my feet and I find it quite exhausting. I know I'm going to struggle as the weather get warmer. Not sure if my boss will think I'm mad going off that early!

Readytosettle · 09/05/2013 16:24

I'm finishing the week before my due date...lots of people think that's mad, but I think I'll go mad if I'm twiddling my thumbs at home for weeks on end waiting for the baby! I don't have a physically demanding job, commute by car & am able to work from home etc which means that I should be ok for longer. I'm also using my annual leave a bit creatively to work part time for about a month before I go off, that should help ease me into the whole not working thing!

fl0b0t · 09/05/2013 16:38

flipflump I described kicks as "you know when you're on an escalator with your hand on the moving handrail, and then there's a bump under the surface..."

Ready I'm with you about not wanting to sit about too long twiddling thumbs, but as I travel quite a bit for work, I'm not sure I want to be doing that. Gone for a compromise (being on holiday from 27th Aug, then mat leave starts 9th Sept, due 17th). I still feel it might be too long!

I'm not doing NCT, but hoping to find out more about antenatal classes in general. I guess the ones the hosp offer will be my best bet??

Fozziebearmum2b · 09/05/2013 17:10

I'm planning on having quite a bit of time off :-) not due until 26th Sept, but taking 3 wks holiday before so finishing at end of Aug.

This is first baby and someone said to me that this is the last time you get to spend alone doing your stuff. So I've got the sex in the city box set and ready for a relax!! Smile

Also we will have just moved house so imagine Ill still need to do some baby stuff

jennimoo · 09/05/2013 17:43

I'm finishing 10th July! I am due 26th Aug though... I only work 2 days a week (that is only get paid for that, I have DD the other days...) so don't think I'll find filling 2 days 8-3pm only that difficult. And the childminders away the last 2 weeks of August, when I'd probably have asked for extra days!

I'm taking mat leave from 38 weeks then 4 weeks annual leave before that. DD arrived at 38+5...

Kittenkatzen · 09/05/2013 18:08

Yep I have the page in my notes for a birth plan to go on too. I think I'm going to put some bullet points down and then discuss scenarios with DH in advance as jennimoo said. Bullet points will be along the lines of; water birth if poss/active birth if not, avoid epidural, immediate bf, delayed cord clamping, DH to decide if he wants to cut the cord or not (he's a bit squeamish!). Not sure about the vitamin k injection as I've not researched it yet - anyone know anything about it? I don't even know what it's for! Blush ditto the injection to bring out the placenta...

emma I agree with flips description of kicking - to begin with it felt like I had a goldfish flopping around in there! Now though they are definite pokes and prods. If you open your mouth and poke the inside of your cheek, it's a little bit like that!

My mat leave is booked to start on 12 Aug and includes a couple of weeks leave first. I feel like that's a bit too early tbh (EDD is 12 sept) but my train commute is almost 2hrs each way, and DH is convinced i'll be grateful for it by that point! jenni I am EnvyEnvy at your July finish date!!

On antenatal classes, if you're not already booked on the ones at your hospital then I recommend you check your paperwork - I dug mine out the other day to find I'd missed the registration deadline by nearly 2 weeks ShockSad. Have sent it off anyway, hoping they can squeeze us in! Not doing NCT I don't think.

frogchops · 09/05/2013 18:22

I'm not worrying about finishing too early.... I've previsionally said I'll be going off 6 weeks before Edd at 9th aug. my manager has suggested that I finish 3 weeks prior to Edd just incase baby comes early and I wouldn't want birth to happen in the middle of my holiday cos then I'll lose the holiday that was left. So she added my three weeks holiday on to this which has me finishing 6 weeks before Edd. Works for me! Wink

Readytosettle · 09/05/2013 18:27

I wasn't told about antenatal classes, spotted a notice on the wall at my consultant apt with a number to call to book. Then, when I came out to book my next consultant appointment, there was a couple in front of me (whose baby is due 2months after mine!) booking up all the various classes. At which point I thought I'd better get involved, only to discover that things like the physio led session were already fully booked so I couldn't get onto one until after the 26 wk cut off! I felt like saying 'can't you just bump one of these eager beavers to a month later'

I don't really blame the early birds, was just a bit miffed that no one had informed me about all these things earlier.....and that i only found out by chance! Anyways, they also had breast feeding sessions (which I've decided against as I think this'll be well covered by NCT) and a half-day antenatal which I will do just to see what they have to say.

badguider · 09/05/2013 18:37

I'm self employed and going to ask for Mat Allowance from 1st September (due on 5th). That gives me freedom to work as many days as I can in August - even one day a fortnight would be the same as MA so it's worth me doing a bit.
Right now i've not got a lot booked in and I'll have to be careful about committing to things but i reckon doing a bit right up to end august will keep me sane... i'm not sure i'll be very good at that waiting bit at the end Grin

frogchops · 09/05/2013 18:39

I've booked parentcraft at my hosp today and although I'm not sure what it covers I know there's a tour of the maternity unit so I'm going to just be nosey. Blush
I'm also doing relaxed birth antenatal classes at work, its a colleague that's running it so I'd be silly not to go.
I'm also lucky that nct classes are run at work too so I'm going to do those in July. By then I'll be all classed out!!

RakeABedOfTyneFilth · 09/05/2013 18:40

I just bumped into a twat ex line manager between my office and tube station. He made my life a bit of a misery two years ago when he came and threw his (puny) weight around over the job I had been almost single handedly delivering for the previous two years. Within a couple of months I was looking for a way to leave and so I found a post which turned out to be a brilliant springboard to the promotion I got three weeks ago! When I moved though, he really tried to screw me over with an absolute hack job of an appraisal. I got it mostly overturned but still would never want to be in the same area as him again... I couldn't trust him.

Anyway, he was all smiles just now, I sort of kept walking, all he said was "oh hello... got another bump I see!" and couldn't raise his eyes any higher than said bump! Yep, a social graces free zone... nothing else to say to me other than a physical observation. I wish I'd said "still got a pin head then!" or something. I bloody hope he looks me up on the system and sees I got promoted, the twatbadger.

Midwife appointment for me on Monday! 24 weeks I think, I've lost track. I need to send my Statement of Intention in at work next week so I hope I get my MATB1 from the MW - they haven't exactly been a model of efficiency with forms etc but they are nice and kind and give a good vibe that they know their stuff medically. I will be asking for Mat Leave to start on the 2nd Sept, although my scan-based EDD is 28 Aug, so I will have to ask the MW to use the EDD by LMP. I will be working from home almost all of August anyway, and if baby comes a bit early the Mat Leave just gets adjusted. I just need to hang on for the training course I'm doing at the end of July, then I have a week on hols at my parents' place. It's a brilliant plan, max time making my mark in new job, DH is a house husband from June so I have no domestic responsibilities almost at all, and then max time with baby.

flipflump · 09/05/2013 19:09

Fozziebear, that is so true and I'd never thought of that before. I'll never get this time back again, there will always be someone else to occupy my time. I could spend all day at home, I never get bored and always find the days fly by. On that note, I'll stick to 9th Aug being my last day, due 10th Sept. both my mum and sister had their first 3 weeks early, best be prepared! No doubt I'll go 2 weeks over Grin

frogchops · 09/05/2013 19:24

Rake.... Twatbadger really just made me lol!!
I'm never going to be a non-mommy again so Im certainly not going to feel bad about going off early.

Kittenkatzen · 09/05/2013 19:32

Am definitely stealing twatbadger for future use GrinGrin

frogchops · 09/05/2013 19:46

I've already used it. On the dog. Blush

CharlW1 · 09/05/2013 20:15

I'm taking 5 weeks off before - 4 of those are holiday. I have a ling commute on train and tube into London so will need the time before hand to relax - though OHsaid he would like to see the day I truly relax!

I have been having terrible lower back pain - it's like at the end of my spine - I only get it at work because the chairs are awful - I am going to remind HR yet againthat they need to do my risk assessment.

Creamtea1 · 09/05/2013 20:27

I'm finishing August 15th and am due on 5th/9th sept - cant wait, counting the days Smile last two times I worked right up to 39 weeks and sort of regretted it - even though I went over due. This time am going to enjoy the time. Will also be handing over work at end of July so those last 2 weeks working should be pretty quiet and 'skivey' !

weebarra · 09/05/2013 21:01

Had mw appt today and got my MatB1 so have to get that off to HR.
With DS1 I had pre-eclampsia and was advised to stop work 6 weeks before, which was a bit dull tbh!
With DS2 I stopped 4 weeks before but was only working 3 days a week. Planning to finish just a couple of weeks before with this one -I'm due 7th Sept but imagine it will be the week before as I'm having a section.

frogchops · 09/05/2013 21:13

Thanks for the codes cheese, have just booked my holiday at st minver near padstow ;)

Wincher · 09/05/2013 21:58

I think I'm finishing on 16 august, edd 11 Sep. Should be about right... am planning to use annual leave for as much of that as possible. Next year I want to be able to settle ds1 into reception before starting back at work so I'll need to use holiday that end too.