Thanks Wirra and Arti. DH is a wonderful man and will make a brilliant Dad but he can be a bit of a drama queen sometimes (just like his mother) if he feels crowded or has his space otherwise invaded.
There is a local library he can use and I think I just need to keep gently reminding him that I'm going to need support and that it's not unreasonable for both sets of parents to want to be around over the next few weeks. Am trying also to get him to finish as much work as he can before LO arrives so he's less stressed later.
Also like the idea both of you suggested re making sure we have time together alone. I think if he feels we'll still get that it might help.
Wirra I'd forgotten about the situation with DP's family. That's really tough. Depression is such a difficult illness. Great your mum's so close, bless her, even if she's going to prove trying sometimes (who's mother doesn't??). I suppose it's harder because you know that actually having the baby isn't going to make things any easier. Perhaps it may encourage some kind of contact, though, and could soften things slightly. Presumably DP would let them know the baby's been born and that could lead to at least some kind of conversation?
I sympathise because, although my sister is now pregnant again (she miscarried when I found out about my pregnancy back in August and things have been very difficult since) she still doesn't express any real interest in me or how things are going. Less than two weeks until my due date and we Skyped for half an hour the other night without her asking a single question about my pregnancy (she's moved to New York). It was her husband who finally stepped in. I don't think she's making any plans to come to the UK to meet her niece and that is hurting me more than anything. We're a year apart in age and used to be very close and now...we could be complete strangers. very sad.
Another long post - must be feeling chatty today or just lounging on my sofa waiting for carpets
Time for another biccie x