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October 2013: where we all make it to the 2nd trimester and begin to glow!

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pinksky · 31/03/2013 18:07

Welcome October passengers--all aboard our new thread (is it number four or five?!). Hope everyone is having a lovely Easter and enjoying an egg or three.

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Pannacotta2013 · 02/04/2013 20:17

MoN, four weeks is a long time to wait. I can definitely understand going for the CVS sooner rather than later - I think that would be my choice if I were in your shoes as well, especially if your research indicates limited good outcome. The sooner you have clearer information the sooner you can take action if need be. I hope it isn't too callous again to say that some things just aren't meant to be - in some ways I think we are lucky to have modern science and medicine to prevent extended suffering for ourselves and very very poorly unborn babies. I really hope that isn't offensive or upsetting to anyone Sad.

Pannacotta2013 · 02/04/2013 20:18

Oh and I'm sorry for your sad news too Oli Sad. Good luck and best wishes for next time round x x

Iheartcrunchiebars · 02/04/2013 20:26

So sorry to hear what's happened oli. Love to you x

Natalieand · 02/04/2013 20:27

panacotta I have a similar out look on things like that too. Not that it makes it any easier for those who are in such a position. But I also think if in that situation I would most likely go for the Cvs too.. MoN what kind of abnormalities could the cvs rule out?

If your scanning tomorrow can u shout please I've forgotten who is and I'm excited for us all lol xxx

Natalieand · 02/04/2013 20:28

Sorry for your news oil :-(. Hope to see u back on an early 2014 bus xxxx

JellyCurls · 02/04/2013 20:49

CVs can check for chromosomal problems, some genetic conditions and blood disorders etc

Pannacotta2013 · 02/04/2013 21:00

Natalieand, I'm scanning tomorrow, you are [bugrin], Tarlia is and a few others too...

Natalieand · 02/04/2013 21:16

So me, panacotta, tarlia, orangeblossom and two others. God only knows how I'm gunna sleep tonight lol

Sanjifair · 02/04/2013 21:17

Sorry to hear that you didn't get more positive news today MoN. I think in your shoes I would take the CVS. And sorry to hear your news too Oli.

Good luck to all those scanning tomorrow, will be a busy day on the thread! Mine is the day after so just two sleeps til scan day!

Mind you I use the term 'sleep' loosely as I am still sleeping poorly. Hoping that improves on the second trimester.

ananikifo · 02/04/2013 21:26

I'm so sorry to hear your news oli.

I was feeling increasingly sick in the last week. We visited a friend in Ireland over the weekend and I felt great relative to the previous week, but still not eating my normal amounts. Now I'm back to my normal routine and back to feeling sick at work. People at work have started asking if I'm ok. I just want to tell them all so they know what's going on!

I weighed myself today and I've lost almost a pound in the last week, even though I had another boob growth spurt and my waist seems to be staying the same. DH is deathly worried. He went to asda and bought me pastries and cream-based pasta sauces. He told me he's now trying to fatten me up!

On the bright side I bought some Aran wool in Ireland and new knitting needles today and I've started a tiny little cardigan! I'm making the 3-6mo size and it seems so small and cute!

My scan feels ages away still (the 12th) but I think when the time comes and we tell everyone (thinking positively) I'm not sure I'm prepared for reactions. Telling close friends and family one by one is not the same as having every random Facebook friend know. I try to imagine it and it's a bit overwhelming. Does anyone else feel that way?

Livened · 02/04/2013 21:29

So sorry to hear some people are having a bad time of things. It certainly makes you realise how much family and friends mean, and I hope those on here with uncertain news get answers soon.

I've got my scan on Friday - am I the only one?

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pinkbuttons · 02/04/2013 21:35

So sorry to hear your news Oli sending you lots of love xx

MoN I cant honestly say what I would do in your position but I do understand why you would be thinking of having the CVS, have you been able to talk to Dp about that being a possibility?

Sorry your still feeling rubbish ana Just wanted to say I feel exactly the same re: telling everyone, ie. facebook. Im now 13+3 and still haven't told alot of people, only family really and friends that we have seen. I have started to worry that Im not as excited this time round but I think I am, Im just enjoying telling people and seeing their faces I think. Just not ready to put it out in cyberspace yet I guess.

Good luck to everyone having scans tomorrow! Will be keeping an eye out for you all.

Rockchick1984 · 02/04/2013 21:42

Oli I'm so sorry to hear your news Thanks

MoN will you definitely terminate if its bad news from the amnio/CVS or are you undecided? I hope you and DH are holding up ok, glad you got a nice lunch just the 2 of you.

I'm having a couple of nights away with DS and my mum, so DH can get drunk have some peace and quiet. I've been sleeping so deeply since BFP that if DS disturbs in the night, I've not heard him Blush so DH has had to get up most nights with him despite having work and me being a SAHM so this way he can catch up on some sleep!

legallyblond · 02/04/2013 21:48

Hi all.

So sorry Oli, and MoN, I hope you get a resolution and some more answers soon.

I am also not buying anything... Given it's twins, it much more risky, so there's no guarantee that I'll be having one, two or any healthy babies... Could be terribly prem. Plus I personally think the 20 week scan is a much bigger deal in terms of finding things wrong...

Sorry to be a bit of a downer... Just venting my own fears!

MotherOfNations · 02/04/2013 22:04

Rockchick I'm undecided. I think I would find it really hard but Dp is pretty certain that termination would be for the best. We've talked and talked pinkbuttons but just when we think we've decided for definite what we're going to do one of us becomes uncertain.

Tarlia · 02/04/2013 22:32

oli I'm terribly sorry to hear your news :( I Hope that you get better treatment from now on. Thoughts are with you, take time to heal xx

MoN its such a tough decision and plenty think they know what they would do in the given situation, but once you are actually facing those decisions everything changes. Take time, you have a week to decide about the CVS, perhaps take a day or two not discussing it at home so that you can both process things in your own heads. We are here for you as a sounding board if you need to rant, want support or ask anything.

Yes, I am scanning tomorrow. I remember Tucking said the other day she was too but there was another too... I think it was falcon ?? Show yourself mystery scan buddy..

rockchick you horrible wife, you :P . Just kidding, same happening in my house, however I'm worse, I'm not sleeping through DS, I'm poking OH to get up as jumping out of bed kick starts the MS. It seems the slower I can take getting out of bed the more likely I am to stomach breakfast or not be on the verge of throwing up for the remainder of the night. Enjoy some time being spoiled by mum.

FeministInTraining · 02/04/2013 22:51

Hi all, so sorry to hear you are having to have such difficult conversations MoN it sounds great that you and DP are managing to talk about it, but horrible that it isn't the exciting time that it should be. Take care of each other x

Sorry for your news Oli hope you're on another bus soon Flowers

I am the mystery scan buddy Tarlia Grin and am on the sofa with hot cross buns and strawberry milkshake trying to tire myself out so I don't wake up in the night stressing out. Appt is at 9.20 so I'm probably the first... Eeek! Been trying not to think about it for a while, hence not posting- although I have been keeping up with the thread. Most symptoms have gone now although I had to let DP finish the shopping 20 mins in walking around Sainsburys. I went and sat down by the checkouts, was faint for a while. Thanks to you lovely lot I know losing symptoms is pretty normal... Doesn't stop me worrying though. Roll on tomorrow, hopefully good news for us all it feels like Christmas Eve without the guaranteed pressies and good food Hmm

OrangeBlossom2 · 02/04/2013 22:53

Ananikifo I have taken up knitting too and just finished a very cute little bootie!

I am having my private scan tomorrow too at 11+0 so I am joining you all. Nhs scan in two weeks.

TheFalconsmistress · 02/04/2013 22:54

not me tralia I'm 14+3 I had my scan last week, good luck to all the scanners tomorrow Smile

seems I'm the only one buying stuff but I have little income so need the time to buy bit by bit. I feel very positive and happy and just want to enjoy this time Smile

notsoold · 03/04/2013 02:38

Sanji....my scan was moved to the 12th so I won't be your scan buddy after all....fx for you on Friday xxxx

Because of my private scan on the 22nd the dates have moved and scan and edd have changed as well.
Feeling brave enough to finally add my name to the STATs thread....
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pinksky · 03/04/2013 07:01

Oli I'm really sorry to hear your news. I hope you are being looked after now. Hope you're back on an AN bus soon.

It's a big scan day today so sending very best wishes to all of you, I hope you actually managed some sleep!

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Natalieand · 03/04/2013 07:09

scan buddies today is the day whoop whoop!!!!!

Been awake since 3.33 lol I can't sleep through excitement here's to hoping everything runs smoothly for us all
feminist I think u r scanning first then me and one other r at 10.20 And iml not sure on everyone elses times. Best of luck to u all today xxxx

MotherOfNations · 03/04/2013 07:34

Good luck to all those who are scanning today.

Natalieand · 03/04/2013 07:57

Thank u MoN that means a lot, how r u feeling today? Xxx

Iheartcrunchiebars · 03/04/2013 08:07

Good luck scanners! Looking forward to hearing all about it xx