October 2013: where we all make it to the 2nd trimester and begin to glow!

[pinksky]

Welcome October passengers--all aboard our new thread (is it number four or five?!). Hope everyone is having a lovely Easter and enjoying an egg or three.

Stats thread HERE

I meant to write conceive not 'co cube' lol

After 4 years of trying for Dc 2 we bought conceive plus lube and it worked the first month :D its good stuff!

we decided at new years that we would ttc and so that was my last pill, 4 weeks later I got my bfp so planned but definitely a surprise!! especially after having chemo 2 1/2 years ago and being told I may not be able to conceive!! we count ourselves very lucky!!

I don't think dh and I had a proper convo about TTC. Dd was a surprise as I was on the pill and we hadn't been together very long. I was also only 20 but wouldn't change her for the world. I cme off the injection as dh had read it can take years to get pg after having that and we didn't want to wait too long. I conceived first month of a "normal" length cycle and was quicker than we anticipated (4 months) Unfortunately I mcd. Took
8 months from mc to this one but dh is convinced it's the first month we "properly" tried! The timing for this one is definitely better.

Corkle and chickieI'm not really strong at all. I've just made up my mind not to think too much about the decision I'll be faced with until have to. When that time comes I don't think I'll ever be sure that I'm making the right decision.
I just wish the doctors hadn't told me about it, after all I'd asked not to be screened for Downs.
If I'd only found out after the birth I would have happily taken what I was given but now I'm faced with a choice that I never wanted to have to make.

Even though this is my 5th baby it's the only one that was planned. I got pregnant in the first month of trying after I got so fed up with my Mirena coil that I pulled it out myself.

MoN I didn't realise that you'd not requested the screening, how terrible that it has put you in this position. Sometimes ignorance really is so much easier--or at least, not having to make decisions is, especially when some are so unbearable. How are you doing at the moment?

Re TTC I worked out that the sperm that fertilized the egg was made in November, and DH and I had massively cut our drinking and were on a health & fitness kick then so I think that's probably what did it! We also used conceive plus.

That's a very valid point MoN its equivalent to me asking to me screened and them not doing it and missing something putting me in a position on the baby's birthday that I wouldn't wanna be in. Xxx

Hello, all went well at our scan. Dates put back by 2 days so EDD 13th October now. Nuchal measurement 1.7 mm so all good. A late celebratory lunch now!
We were TTC for 12 months. So pleased when it finally happened!

I'm not feeling too bad pinksky. I'm still considering asking for the CVS test at the scan on Tuesday. I'm already feeling gentle flutters when I lie still and concentrate which I'm trying not to do right now, but those flutters are only going to get stronger and if I wait the 4 weeks for the amnio it will be so much harder if I end up having to make the decision to end the pregnancy.

MoN I think I would feel the same. it must be such a difficult decision to make any time,but as it gets further along it must get harder. I'm sure you'll make the right decisions for you and your whole family. thinking of you x

Would they do it then, do you think? Four weeks feels like a long wait. I hope your lovely family are helping, and you're getting lots of cuddles. Lovely that you are getting flutters X

MoN what is your scan on tue for? What are they hoping to be able to tell you from it? It's horrendous to be faced with such a decision and I agree as the pregnancy progresses it will get harder. Really hoping for good news for you x

We had unexplained infertility and had 8 months of clomid last time. I think it really goes to show that you can try too hard..I was obsessed with dates, timing and healthy eating and it was cracking dh up! Thank goodness we didnt have to go through that this time! There will be 16 months of an age gap which isn't too bad and hopefully they will be good friends. I'm just longing for the day when I will eventually get an undisturbed night's sleep and a lie in!

Yes, do just chat through stuff here if it helps.

Does it help the process to look back at why you didn't want the screening in the first place? Is it because then (although "then" is s different world...) you would have kept it no matter what?

I guess if that still applies (which I'm not sure it would if I were in your shoes - I don't know what I'd do...), then you could still say no to all further tests. Even for those of us with "low risk" results, (a) you could always be the "one"; and (2) there are hundreds and hundreds of severe problems that could be picked up later (like Jelly at the 20 week scan), happen at birth (oxygen starvation for instance) or just appear in a child, like severe autism... So I guess I am saying that every pregnancy could end up with a not 100% "healthy" child...

If however you would terminate (whether you thought that before or not... Things have changed now), then perhaps knowing sooner rather than later might be best for all the reasons you say..

Probably totally unhelpful and all stuff you've considered, but just thinking it through... Thinking of you.

Sorry, that post was to MoN!

MoN such a hard time for you and your family, thinking of you xx

Have you considered posting in the antenatal testing section of MN, many people going through the same decisions?

Not to turn you away from this thread at all and please do keep posting here as well - just wanted you to know there is another board that people also post on about antenatal testing.

We were very lucky, we got married in November, My pill ran out in January and we only DTD 4 times in my first fertile week and one of them must have worked. I think it's a complete fluke as I was told I had PCOS years ago and I might find it hard to concieve. I was in for the long haul to be honest, but glad it happened fast.

MoN I'm not sure if they did the right thing telling you or not. I'd be pretty pissed off if I said that I didn't want the Nuchal Test but they did it anyway, but maybe they are bound to tell you if something is very obvious to them from the first scan. I think I'd rather know though, even if it is very hard.

Re TTC.... (tmi really, but) we've always used condoms. With DD, decided to try, used nothing and dtd every other night or so and fell prey.

With these babies, we (probably a bit drunkenly) git carried away one night and didn't put one on. I knew there was a chance but didn't think it was huge as I know when I ovulate and it was 6 days post ovulation....

Tbh, that month we had for the first time said that we could really imagine having another (had though perhaps just one!) but though we should wait financially. Now we are (hopwfully) having two more!! Perhaps we subconsciously planned...?

Hah!! Fell prey! Fell preg...

I think they have to tell you - it's different to the screening isn't it, because screening gives you a risk factor, whereas if something is wrong health professionals can't ignore that. It may effect how the woman needs to be monitored and looked after, whether cesarean needs to be booked, if baby needs an op straight after birth etc. For all of us that have not had the screening, there is still the very real possibility that a problem will be picked up at the 20 week scan - it's not called the anomaly (sp?) scan for nothing.

MoN forgive me if this is out of line, but I get the impression from your posts that perhaps you are less sure than your DP as to how you will progress when you get results of Amino or indeed the CVS. I can only imagine that having 4 children already to consider means taking into account lots of other people.

afternoon ladies,

I have just booked a private sexing scan as DH is starting a new job and can't come to the NHS one at 20 weeks :( so im all booked for the 20th of april in the evening where i will be 16+6. I managed to get it for £37 quid so not too bad its in glasgow but adding the £20 petrol it still works out cheaper than the standard £80. It also includes a 4d scan not sure how keen on that i will be lol

Hope you are all well

We Had a 4d scan included yesterday falcon. i always thopught they looked a bit weird but she just switched the button onto 4d and it was interesting to see and get a better view of arms, legs and umbilical cord that way. I couldn't figure out how to add two different photos to my profile to show you.

Hi RockChick, not feeling too bad thanks, still nauseous if hungry. How are you Due Date buddy? :o
I fell over today in M&S , slipped heavily on to my side. That's all I needed today....!
I rang the midwife who said to wait for my scan on sat unless I feel something is wrong or have bleeding.