October 2013: where we all make it to the 2nd trimester and begin to glow!

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Welcome October passengers--all aboard our new thread (is it number four or five?!). Hope everyone is having a lovely Easter and enjoying an egg or three.

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Sorry in Southampton lunching n shopping will upload pic this eve and nuchal fold measured 1.8 mm xxxx

I said that we wanted to have the nuchal fold test etc, but they did not say anything about it at our scan at all. Then they took some blood and said I would need some more taken at 16 weeks (should I be booking this do you think?), but did not give me any information regarding the scan a '1 in ...' chance thing. Seems odd that everyone else knows more after their scan than I do!

From what I know they use the blood they took today along with the measurements- we watched her take them and they are written in my notes (1.9 I think) and also take your age into account and you get the chance given to you later on. My notes say low risk is posted out within 10 days but if there is a higher risk they call/txt you to make an appt. it doesn't say when though. But I have a midwife appt. booked for tomorrow anyway, they told me I get one at 12 weeks when I had my booking. I have to take wee but I forgot to get a pot today so will get there early with a full bladder and ask nicely for a pot! Hoping we will hear the heartbeat...

I'm 13+5 today and rang the gp to book 16 week mw app but told to ring back 2 weeks before as they don't release the appointments until then. its probably different everywhere though!!

when I wake up in the morning now I can definitely feel the bottom of my tummy getting bigger and harder every day. very exciting. I bought some maternity jeans in primark yesterday,they have just started rolling out a maternity range!! £11 a pair!!

bowlfull i havent told work yet but am def going to do it on Monday as I'm clearly showing! It's awkward as I'm only back from maternity 3 weeks and have been offered a year's secondment to a post I'd love. I have to formally accept by Monday so was going to tell them before that but the people I need to tell are off for Easter. I'm really nervous as I'm only just back. Plus I have a holiday booked and haven't requested the leave yet (employee of the month award won't be going to me!!)

Wow Primark maternity?! Will be heading there this week me thinks!

All good here from scan today! One baby, all limbs hands legs ok, beating heart. Nuchal test 1.9mm. Will post more later x x

Just phone the local primark and they do maternity jeans yey!! rovox your nt measurement would have been on your scan report did the not take you through it after your scan? Our NT was 1.5mm

Great news, Panacotta

I feel the same as you, bowlful - I'm not sure I want to tell people at all! I don't know where it's come from. I'm seeing my line manager next on the 24th so will tell her then (will be 14 weeks). Aside from that I don't know, I might just let people work it out for themselves! Warlin will you still be able to take up the secondment? Hope so, if it's what you want.

Congratulations on all the scans! looking forward to seeing some pictures!!

Congratulations Pannacotta! That's fantastic.

Thanks feminist, roofio and falcon, I will be scanning my notes later on then to see if I can find anything about the nuchal fold! I guess I assumed that they would have told me the results, but will have a look later to see if I can find the info! Will also give the docs a call tomorrow to check whether I need to book my own appointment for the bloods at 16w or not. I am 14w today, so within the 2 weeks prior should it be the same set of rules here!

I told my employers yesterday (13w 6d) as, to be honest, I am really good friends with most of the people I work with and it was driving me mad having to watch my mouth to make sure I didn't say anything! They are really happy for me (the head of our department said that she was expecting it as we've been married for 1 year this month). We're having a catch up next week when she is down to discuss it all. We don't have an HR department, there is nothing in my contract about maternity leave, and no-one in the company's history has ever gone on maternity leave (I am a web developer and the company consists of at least 95% men), so it should be interesting!

I felt exactly the same as you though bowlful, desperate to tell everyone until it was time to tell everyone and then I wanted to keep it a secret! It feels good now the truth is out though and I can come on mumsnet at work without worrying that someone will see it over my shoulder and be suspicious of why I am on a parenting forum! I notice as well that there are no longer any questions about why I am eating noodles on toast for lunch etc

Hurrah! Just one healthy,long legged,waving baby! Fluid measurement of 1.3. Very relieved. No adjustment to edd. 12+3 today.

Also feeling a bit weird about making an "announcement". I quite fancied taking a photo of DS holding a scan pic but now wonder if it's a bit twee. Especially as he will have no clue what he's holding & being told to smile about! It's just that I so rarely see many of my friends due to work/self-employment,distance & family commitments that I think a Facebook announcement is the way to go for many who we haven't told yet,but just not sure if it seems a bit self-important... Thoughts?

Congratulations to fellow scanners. A good news day :)

Deeply sorry for Oli,horrible news for you,I do hope your husband & son are cheering you up.

And sorry to MoN. I know you're excited for all of us but it can't be easy to read all this & still be in limbo about your options. I'm thinking of you every day & DP has asked me about you several times. People do care.xx

Congrats tuckingfits!

I know what you mean about it being self-important putting it on Facebook, but to be honest I want to shout it from the roof tops! I would rather people heard about it from me (even if via Facebook) than through gossip, but obviously though we made sure to let everyone important to us know prior to posting it on there!

Congrats Pannacotta and tucking - I can't believe how many scans there have been today!

Glad I am not the only one feeling weirdly private about my pregnancy now. Mind you, probably not helped by telling a close work colleague last week who was leaving - and response was 'congratulations - was it planned?'. Why do people think it's ok to ask that? I had the same question last pregnancy from a colleague that I barely knew. I am 30 years old, in a committed 10 year relationship (and now with 2 year old son) - clearly there is something about me to suggest I would only fall pregnant because I'm incapable of using contraception effectively. (Bit of a rant, not sure where that came from .

Warlin, your situation sounds particularly fun! I know that we have nothing to feel guilty about, maternity is a right etc, but I still find the whole thing a bit, well, awkward I suppose. I know my boss won't be thrilled, as I feel the same when my team have gone on mat leave - happy for them obviously, and in no way does it impact negatively on how I see them as an employee - but honestly arranging mat cover is a pain in the arse!

Congratulations Tuckingfits

I haven't put anything on fb but that's just because I don't put much on there anyway- I sent round scan pics via text/whatsapp earlier. If fb is what is easiest for you then go for it! I'm not a fan of weekly updates on other people's pregnancies/babies (that's just me) but announcements are great, you're entitled to be happy and excited and your friend and family will understand that and feel the same! I had some lovely reactions today, feeling quite special. With all the worrying and feeling crappy that goes with pregnancy I think we should be able to embrace the happiness when we feel like it!!

bowlfullofjelly I find that so annoying too!! especially because we've just got engaged people assume the pregnancy wasn't planned. actually we're just doing things in a mixed up order. I also get "oh you're getting married after the baby is born?!!?" as if the only reason we got engaged is cos I'm up the duff!!

Bowlful my dad asked that before saying congratulations. That was the pg that ended in MC. He learnt his lesson after my reaction and was just pleased for me without the silly question this time. People don't think about how that question can come across. I've had a couple ask me of we were trying for long which I prefer but I guess it's essentially the same thing. Now if ppl ask if it was planned ill just relay the story of my MC. Serves 2 purposes- hopefully makes them realise how nosy the question is when they hear something more personal than expected, and brings mcs out in the open as I think they should be talked about more.

Congrats on all your scans, so many today.

I made the mistake of looking up what I would be entitled to for maternity pay yesterday (our company is teeny, so no maternity schemes here). It's less than 1/3 of my current salary after 6 weeks - gulp!

I don't think I'll be taking a full year off somehow. Bugger.

Bowlfull I have to admit to asking that question when my boss, married for 5 years and with 3 kids already, told me his wife was pregnant. As soon as I said it I said 'I didn't mean to ask that, I am so sorry!' - then proceeded to explain that he was the first person to ever tell me first hand that they were expecting and my motor mouth took it from there. He laughed it off and told me not to worry but I have felt guilty ever since.

DH is a manager and he too has informed me how getting maternity cover is a pain in the backside, and the maternity pay that the company offers is incredible so it would be almost encouraging to start a family if you worked for them! Shame they don't have a paternity plan. He doesn't think any less of the employees who choose to start a family though obviously.

I'm not the only one then - that's good! Mind you, have to remind myself that I have 6 months now of people feeling free to comment on my weight, what my preference may be for sex of baby, what they think I should be doing - plus the unwanted advances towards my bump - we are all public property now!

Smitten I know that feeling - I am already fully aware of how little I will be getting, so have been on project 'clear credit card, pay council tax early and then save every penny so bills can be paid and can feed child while on mat leave' since BFP!

I can't wait to tell people but DH is still reluctant. Not really sure why. I can't wait to tell our closest friends. I don't think we will put it on Facebook until later on, maybe 20 weeks, definitely not until we have told all family and close friends, but don't have a problem with doing it. It is always exciting to see other people's scan pictures.

Yey! tuckingfits

Is anyone thinking of going reuseable with nappys for baby i think rockchick said before? I just trying to figure out what we need for baby the now and work through the list as we go but other than going for terrys i have no idea what wraps etc to use lol

Thankyou tuckingfits. I'm not forced to read the thread. If I found it too upsetting I would stop reading but right now I'm enjoying hearing all your happy scan news. Even if the worst happens and I'm forced to get off the bus I'd still like to check in now and again to see how you're all doing.
I'd hate to think people were censoring their posts to save from upsetting me.

Congratulations to all other scanners today.

We've started telling people now and it's quite overwhelming.

FIL asked, "did you need some help?", not that there would be anything wrong with that, he just assumes that because I'm 36 and we've been married for 5 years that there must have been problems. He then reminded us that there was still plenty that could go wrong....

My parents and best friend are over the moon, telling my boss tomorrow. I think she'll have a mixed reaction - on a personal level, she's been encouraging me to have babies for ages but maternity cover will be a real pain and comes at a tricky time.

mon, that's very kind and gracious of you.

falcon, I'm definitely thinking of reusable nappies, now feel I can start researching, have been too scared to do anything practical until now.